I did a search on Google "Ask a Lesbian". I came across a Topix forum that was trying to get to the bottom of your question.<quoted text>
They're just questions, no disrespect intended. Its a simple "why'. Why does the one woman of the lesbian couple wear a tuxedo on their wedding day? Do gay men wear wedding dresses? Maybe just Dennis Rodman.:)
One response stood out:
"'m a femme lesbian with a butch girlfriend.
like many here have already said, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. and it takes all kinds of people to make this world go around.
my "butch" girlfriend is attractive to me because she has confidence, a sense of humor, and compassion for others. no matter what her personal style, her personality would be the same. in fact, not that long ago she was a 'girly' lesbian.
and with clothes of any style, or completely naked, she is a beautiful woman that i love, honor, and respect.
i won't check this board again, so please send any feedback to email@example.com and i'd be happy to elaborate.:)
thanks, and i hope i helped!"
Since she included her email, you should drop her a line.
The discussion took place in 2007, so she may not have the same email. But, there were responses as recently as March 2013
The Topix forum that discusses this issue can be found here http://www.topix.com/forum/news/sex/T8C109POF...
Go have a look and see what you find.