watching child abuse?

watching child abuse?

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wants to know

Florence, MA

#1 Jan 9, 2011
While in Walmart, I witnessed a mid twenties mother, pinch one of her childs ears so badly, the ear turned red. While doing this she yelled "ask me again!" I was stumped. I almost said something, but did nothing. Her husband was with her, and saw the shocked expression on my face. Then he smiled at his wife. The entire incident took less than 10 seconds. How would you have handled it?
chbpod

North Kingstown, RI

#2 Jan 9, 2011
wants to know wrote:
While in Walmart, I witnessed a mid twenties mother, pinch one of her childs ears so badly, the ear turned red. While doing this she yelled "ask me again!" I was stumped. I almost said something, but did nothing. Her husband was with her, and saw the shocked expression on my face. Then he smiled at his wife. The entire incident took less than 10 seconds. How would you have handled it?
Minded my own business-- what you apparently witnessed was discipline not child abuse--for example you didn't note whether the child cried==and yes when you get pinched on the ear-- or most any place else--guess what??? that spot turns red----you must be a Democrat---chbpod
sher

United States

#3 Jan 9, 2011
I have witnessed worse. obviously you do not own any children. sometimes as a young mom, the children can be taxing on one's nerves.
Wondering

Springfield, MA

#4 Jan 9, 2011
Any pain intentionally inflicted is abusive. If she pinched YOUR ear, what would you call it?
wants to know

Florence, MA

#5 Jan 9, 2011
chbpod, I voted for you. I'm an indepenent.

Sher, I do not "own" any children, though I have several. I remember how taxing youngsters can be. Yet I don't recall pinching them into submissiveness.
sher

United States

#6 Jan 9, 2011
I was playing with words. I raised 2 sons (21 months apart) and what one didn't think of...the other one did! I wish my mom had just pinched me in public. She was very strict...but she got the job done.
scyler

Margaret, AL

#7 Jan 10, 2011
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cil

Clockville, NY

#8 Jan 10, 2011
raising kids now is different then even 10 yrs. ago you could slap your kid now make a mark abuse/ while i did give my kids slaps while growing up i don't with my little one still at home. my 4 adult kids always telling me he needs a good spanking just like they had. they say hes spoiled and runs my life and should have the fear of mom in him....cil
by the way

Florence, MA

#9 Jan 10, 2011
sher wrote:
I was playing with words. I raised 2 sons (21 months apart) and what one didn't think of...the other one did! I wish my mom had just pinched me in public. She was very strict...but she got the job done.
Why would you want your Mom to pinch you in public? You sound crazy. Maybe she could back hand you in private too.
blackbird

Springfield, MA

#10 Jan 10, 2011
by the way wrote:
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Why would you want your Mom to pinch you in public? You sound crazy. Maybe she could back hand you in private too.
you missed a word, JUST pinch is a whole lot different. sher and I grew up in a time when a parent would do a whole lot more in public, nevermind private. I got ahead of my mom walking to a movie. she pulled a switch off a privet hedge on the side of the street and whipped the back of my bare legs (shorts) all the way home. no one in any of the houses we went by were concerned. no one called the police. no dss workers showed up on the doorstep. and I never let my excitement get the better of me on the street again.
I don't agree with what was done, for sure. but if you put her comment in context it is a bit different from what you are describing I think
sher

United States

#11 Jan 10, 2011
by the way wrote:
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Why would you want your Mom to pinch you in public? You sound crazy. Maybe she could back hand you in private too.
I am not going to be as nice as Blackbird. As she said...we were raised in the 50s/60s. my mother would hit us with everything and anything when we acted up in public and private. You must be young. Today mom is dying from alzheimers...such a strong woman to have this happen.
by the way

Florence, MA

#12 Jan 11, 2011
Sorry, I grew up very differently. My parents didn't hit me,
or whip me with anything, or even pinch me, or my siblings. According to pasts posts, we are about the same age. So, I don't think it was the times. That didn't happen to any of my friends or neighbors either.
by the way

Florence, MA

#13 Jan 11, 2011
Did you or do you treat your children the way your parents treated you when you misbehaved? If not, I'm glad you broke the cycle.
wondering

AOL

#14 Jan 11, 2011
I think it's a false assumption that hitting children was "OK" years ago. Parents who hit children then were as wrong as those who hit children today.
blackbird

Springfield, MA

#15 Jan 11, 2011
by the way wrote:
Did you or do you treat your children the way your parents treated you when you misbehaved? If not, I'm glad you broke the cycle.
the cycle is broken, and I don't condone beating chidren, but I can tell you that sher and I were not the only ones who got spankings back then. I remember my dad's "board of education" and several friends had them at home too. it wasn't uncommon for a child to get a spanking in a store when I was young. saw it many times. perhaps the changes came soon after but believe me, it wasn't uncommon when I was a child.
shildren weren't quite "seen and not heard" and it wasn't quite the "spare the rod, spoil the child" era, but not far from it either.
in fact, I said NO to my mom 2 times in my life. the first time I was 7. the second time I was 23, married, divorced, remarried, and a mother....and I said it as I was headed out the door of her house, lol. I could say I don't want to, or do I have to, but given a direct instruction no was never acceptable and I sure knew it!
blackbird

Springfield, MA

#16 Jan 11, 2011
by the way, just thought of something. it indicates the level of acceptance for hitting when I was a child.
one of my favorite shows was "Lassie" with June Lockhart. they were considered an exemplary family. but I distinctly remember a show where timmy had done something and was to be punished. he was instructed to go to the foot of his bed and bend over it, which he did without protest, although his face showed the struggle. his father took a belt to him, hitting him 3 or 4 times. it is something that was shown as a normal consequence for something bad that a generally good kid had done.
just one example of how it WAS acceptable to hit children then....even with what I would call a "weapon".
cil

Clockville, NY

#17 Jan 11, 2011
sher wrote:
<quoted text>I am not going to be as nice as Blackbird. As she said...we were raised in the 50s/60s. my mother would hit us with everything and anything when we acted up in public and private. You must be young. Today mom is dying from alzheimers...such a strong woman to have this happen.
you think you had it tough. be glad you were not att shriners in the 60s. i remember one time i said I CANT in PT I got beaten till i succeed. back in the day spakings where used everywhere you bet I WALKED...cil
Obummer

Gansevoort, NY

#18 Jan 11, 2011
Our parents used to beat us smart,and thats the way we liked it.
by the way

Easthampton, MA

#19 Jan 12, 2011
blackbird, I always enjoy our conversations, next time I see you, I'll tell you who I am. My question in post# 13 is for Sher.
sher

United States

#20 Jan 12, 2011
I have 2 sons who are 21 months apart. They were disciplined as I saw fit. Today they are both gentlemen and respectful, unlike a lot of men their age.

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