Lowering Child Support if your having...
Idoit

Haysville, KS

#259 May 7, 2013
EXCUSE ME wrote:
Apparently you don't have kids or you would know that you can NOT raise a child on 500 per month--that's barely enough to cover groceries for a month--much less a roof, clothes, heat ect. And as far as him being financially strapped--OH WELL--get over it b/c how do you think Momma feels being a single parent--try raising a child on your own and see how far finances go!! And if he is a smart man he wouldn't have another child--b/c if that relationship doesn't work out--well....there he goes paying more!!!!
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So what your saying is that he should not start a family with someone else in fear of that bitch running off just like the last did... If you choose to leave and take your kids with you then you should have to RAISE them alone $500 is not enough to feed a child, are you shitting me?!?!? That's more then enough STFU and get over your self and quit being butt hurt
Anonymous

Des Moines, IA

#260 May 8, 2013
Yes you can get child support lowered because of another child. My husband and myself are currently going through a modification. What our lawyer said courts look at
* Another child is a dependent on him although we new the situation before having our child it's still fair that she has the same opportunities as his other two.
*His ex wife now has a job making just as much if not more than him lawyers can subpoena her bank statements and paycheck stubs.
*They do add in her live in boyfriends income she's not the only one paying bills he doesn't live there for free, he also provides for the children.
* Does she receive state benefits in our case yes her government apartment is rent free, daycare is half paid for, and she receives food stamps
So Im curious why should my husband have to pay 811$ a month out of his 2,888$ a month paycheck on two kids she refuses to let him see even though they have joint custody while she lives on over 5,000$ a month including her pay, her bf pay, and child support. She has no rent, no need to buy food, we have them on our insurance, and half of her daycare has been paid and only one child goes. Why should she live "high on the hog" while we struggle to fees ourselves. I feel that the child support office is extremely unfair to the payer and its so easy now for the exes to lie about income. Thats why we've taken every precautionary step to make sure she can't. I suggest anybody else going through the process do the same.
Ugh

United States

#261 May 13, 2013
I laugh at all the bickering between people. This just goes to show why marriages don't work anymore and why a lot kids come of the situations screwed up.
Scorned

Blytheville, AR

#262 May 13, 2013
Men always trying to cheat women

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#263 May 14, 2013
Ugh wrote:
I laugh at all the bickering between people. This just goes to show why marriages don't work anymore and why a lot kids come of the situations screwed up.
I laugh at you for laughing. >.<
Get your facts

Jaffrey, NH

#264 May 17, 2013
bssouth2008 wrote:
<quoted text>So you are saying that your obligation to your child should lower because you decided to add another obligation. I don't think it works like that and if it does it shouldn't. What does how much the mother makes have to do with your obligation to the child in the first place??? That logic does not even remotely compute. If that were the case then you could have 300 children and lower your payment to almost nothing.
For one your being rude and two you should get your facts correct, if the mothers income goes up it DOES change because they expect the parents to EQUALLY care for the child financially. Your basically saying "we'll because you had one kid you can't have another because the first is more important, you must pay out the ass for one and struggle with the second" NOPE child support isn't a punishment it's supporting your child. There for if you are established and have another child it SHOULD get lowered so you can better support BOTH children equally. No matter if its the same mother or diff mothers.
Get your facts

Jaffrey, NH

#265 May 17, 2013
Idoit wrote:
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So what your saying is that he should not start a family with someone else in fear of that bitch running off just like the last did... If you choose to leave and take your kids with you then you should have to RAISE them alone $500 is not enough to feed a child, are you shitting me?!?!? That's more then enough STFU and get over your self and quit being butt hurt
Actually depending the age 500 may not be enough infant formula is 30 a can and that can last a week and a half if your lucky not to mention the other food you need to keep your child healthy. So yes 500 MAY be enough for food but that leaves you close to nothing for everything else, ESP if its an infant child. Don't be rude or don't say anything
Get your facts

Jaffrey, NH

#266 May 17, 2013
Blah wrote:
I said something about his mothers wages because the amount paid is based on both parents income. If she made a million dollars and I made $100 a week, they take that into consideration. I want to support my children, but I also have to be able to eat and drive to work to be able to do so. I am in no way trying to get out of paying for any of my children. I was just told that if you have more dependants it lowers it.
You would still pay alot, but having 2 children wouldn't double to amount you pay it would only increase it some- making the amount I pay less. I'm just trying to find a way to make ends meet.


If you go and file a modification with the court and the new child's with a diff mother yes your support will lower!
Morgan

Republic, MO

#267 May 22, 2013
Everyone is taking this the wrong way. Just because he is in hope of lowering his child support because he is having another child does not mean he is lowering his obligations to his first child. You people don't understand that he has to be able to live comfortably too and be able to support this other child on the way. If he is already paying alot for the first child it is not fair to the one on the way if he does not have enough money to support it as well. Just because he wants to pay less child support doesn't mean he loves his child less. The amount you pay for support is determined by your income.
Morgan

Saint Louis, MO

#268 May 22, 2013
Everyone is complaining about how much formula is. Haven't you ever heard of breast feeding? I'm a single mother too and I do just fine. My baby's father is not in charge of paying my rent, my electricity, or my other bills. Those are my responsibility. I would have to pay those wether I had our child or not. To all you bitches who are complaining about not having enough child support for that, get a clue. It's not grown up support, it's child support... For your child, not YOUR personal use. Get a job yourself and grow up. I cook for 3 and spend about $100 a week on groceries. Only one of those people eating are his responsibility and he should not have to pay for my food too. I respect my baby daddy even though things didn't work. All you guys need to grow up and learn to do the same
guest

United States

#269 May 22, 2013
Morgan wrote:
Everyone is complaining about how much formula is. Haven't you ever heard of breast feeding? I'm a single mother too and I do just fine. My baby's father is not in charge of paying my rent, my electricity, or my other bills. Those are my responsibility. I would have to pay those wether I had our child or not. To all you bitches who are complaining about not having enough child support for that, get a clue. It's not grown up support, it's child support... For your child, not YOUR personal use. Get a job yourself and grow up. I cook for 3 and spend about $100 a week on groceries. Only one of those people eating are his responsibility and he should not have to pay for my food too. I respect my baby daddy even though things didn't work. All you guys need to grow up and learn to do the same
The court system/child support enforcement uses a formula to determine the amount of child support your ex is entitled to..it is based on the amount of money the parents make then going by their incomes the formula determines what percent each parent is responsible for..this is done because if your ex makes 100000 a year and the child had both parents in the home it's lifestyle would be richer..this is why Tom may pay $85 a week on his kid but Harry pays $325 a week for one kid..and just because a woman wants more child support does not mean she gets it...if you are not going through the system and letting your ex just pay 50 bucks whenever you are doing nothing but hurting your child and yourself
LarryfromCalifor nia

Menifee, CA

#270 May 27, 2013
The key to child support payments are getting as much custody as possible. I received 40% custody of my son. The second key is your income. The more you make affects the payments.
LarryfromCalifor nia

Menifee, CA

#271 May 27, 2013
Get a lawyer and Go to child custody court and enforce visitations at the police station. Then get a lawyer and take her back to child support court.
Anonymous wrote:
Yes you can get child support lowered because of another child. My husband and myself are currently going through a modification. What our lawyer said courts look at
* Another child is a dependent on him although we new the situation before having our child it's still fair that she has the same opportunities as his other two.
*His ex wife now has a job making just as much if not more than him lawyers can subpoena her bank statements and paycheck stubs.
*They do add in her live in boyfriends income she's not the only one paying bills he doesn't live there for free, he also provides for the children.
* Does she receive state benefits in our case yes her government apartment is rent free, daycare is half paid for, and she receives food stamps
So Im curious why should my husband have to pay 811$ a month out of his 2,888$ a month paycheck on two kids she refuses to let him see even though they have joint custody while she lives on over 5,000$ a month including her pay, her bf pay, and child support. She has no rent, no need to buy food, we have them on our insurance, and half of her daycare has been paid and only one child goes. Why should she live "high on the hog" while we struggle to fees ourselves. I feel that the child support office is extremely unfair to the payer and its so easy now for the exes to lie about income. Thats why we've taken every precautionary step to make sure she can't. I suggest anybody else going through the process do the same.
Seriously

Dyersburg, TN

#272 May 29, 2013
The judicial system here is screwed up anyway. A joke. If one case is based on Form 14 then ALL should be based on it UNLESS there is an agreement made. PERIOD.
Julie

Arvada, CO

#273 Jun 3, 2013
This is insanity. I came on here looking for answers myself. I'm the current g/f of a man who is divorced and has a child from a previous marriage. He is an amazing father - always pays child support on time - will even starve if he has to to make those payments. His ex wife makes a substantial amount more money than he does and definitely can afford her life on her own. She also only allows my boyfriend to see his daughter every other weekend for 48 hours. Yet they have joint custody.

I am searching for an answer on payments being lowered because my bf and I have been together for two years now - we have been best friends for 15 years - and want to start a family. I have MAJOR concerns on how this will effect our child. He can barely make ends meet as it is - barely left with 50 dollars to survive on every two weeks after bills... I pay for a lot of things in our lives to supplement the child support and I have a huge amount of fear that he will not be able to provide for his second child. I even help to pay for things for his daughter when she is here and help put a roof over her head and she is not my daughter and the mother makes more than both of us.

I fully support his first child and her needs and I do so every day but I think it's insanely unfair that there are woman on here who don't think another child should change anything. My bf and I are truly committed and his previous marriage and child was the result of a one night stand and he never loved the mother. I'm not saying that means the child shouldn't be cared for but I'm trying to convey the difference between his relationship now and the one with the mother of his child.

My boyfriend deserves to be happy and move on with his life. He was miserable for six years but stayed in the marriage for his child and now bends over backwards financially and emotionally for his child and the ex wife. And I get to sit on the sidelines and feel like I have sloppy seconds. Our child deserves financial support from BOTH parents too and I think that should be factored into those support payments. Making sure of course the first child is cared of. But I would lose my mind something fierce if I had to support our kid on my own because he never had money because it all goes to the first kid the ex wife won't even let him see that often.

This needs to be fixed. I deserve happiness with the man I love. Someone I'm in a long term, committed, loving , not a one night stand relationship. My bf also deserves happiness and to be free of his controlling ex who tries to be vindictive in so many ways and move on. He will never stop supporting his first child or stop trying to see her and I would never let that happen anyway - but I have a valid concern in my own life financially. Another child in the mix should be taken into account. And I am appalled by some of the nasty responses on here from mothers who don't give a crap about any other children involved. I'm sorry but the world doesn't revolve around you and just your kid. I'm sorry your relationship with the father didnt work out but don't punish the innocent. It's childish. I understand the validity of some
Concerns though... If a mother doesn't make good money and does everything herself... Makes total sense. But not in my situation. There needs to be equal consideration.

I'm not in a flighty relationship that is meaningless. We are planning on children and discussing it like the adults we are - financially and emotionally - and logically these insane emotional responses from the single mothers are ridiculous.

Again- my child deserves the fathers support as well. End of story. Just because you're unhappy doesn't give you or the courts a right to financially demolish a man. Especially when he already is a model dad as it is - always pays - pays extra for medical bills - and fights a reluctant mother to see his daughter more.

Stop being insane. Thanks.
wmun

Manchester, GA

#275 Jul 13, 2013
I am currently receiving childsupport. I want to know if the amount I am receiving go down? If I have another child from the same man, will the amount I am getting decrease?
NSS

Tijuana, Mexico

#276 Jul 31, 2013
KLT wrote:
I have been thru this. I have 2 children with someone who is already paying child support. First, the baby has to have been born by the next modification. Then u will get a credit for your new baby. Depending if your pay has changed the mother to the other child's child support will be lowered. If you need to know anything else just ask me.
HEY KLT im going through it right now i married someone thats paying child support fot two kids and we just had a bby and he's trying to lower his child support payment. So u think they'll lower it?? One bby momma is a medical assistant and she's been working in tht field for like 10yrs and the other one is a manager at some fast food plce...u think that'll help??
NSS

Tijuana, Mexico

#278 Jul 31, 2013
Thanx that's what i needed to hear cuz we're being left out with $200 every two weeks and its not fair...i have a month old and we're officially married and we need to live...they both bby mommas work and have a man living with them.
Anonymous wrote:
Yes you can get child support lowered because of another child. My husband and myself are currently going through a modification. What our lawyer said courts look at
* Another child is a dependent on him although we new the situation before having our child it's still fair that she has the same opportunities as his other two.
*His ex wife now has a job making just as much if not more than him lawyers can subpoena her bank statements and paycheck stubs.
*They do add in her live in boyfriends income she's not the only one paying bills he doesn't live there for free, he also provides for the children.
* Does she receive state benefits in our case yes her government apartment is rent free, daycare is half paid for, and she receives food stamps
So Im curious why should my husband have to pay 811$ a month out of his 2,888$ a month paycheck on two kids she refuses to let him see even though they have joint custody while she lives on over 5,000$ a month including her pay, her bf pay, and child support. She has no rent, no need to buy food, we have them on our insurance, and half of her daycare has been paid and only one child goes. Why should she live "high on the hog" while we struggle to fees ourselves. I feel that the child support office is extremely unfair to the payer and its so easy now for the exes to lie about income. Thats why we've taken every precautionary step to make sure she can't. I suggest anybody else going through the process do the same.
you tell me

Chicago, IL

#279 Aug 7, 2013
I met my boyfriend a year ago. We fell in love. We bought a house. We talked about starting a family. I am a month pregnant. Out of nowhere this girl calls him and says he is the father of her two year old. He got a DNA test done and is the father. This girl was a one night stand (he wore a condom that did not break) << baby momma shared that info. He tried to work out a payment plan with her that gave her $450 a month plus anything else the kid needed(clothes,medical co-pays, diapers, etc.) She said no. It wasn't fair. Because she has to pay for her phone bill and her car payment and $450 wouldn't cover it. She took him to court and got $800. But right before court she quit her job and informed my boyfriend that he was responsible for making sure that she gets to be a stay at home mom. She is on every government program. Free housing. Food stamps. Day care 100% covered only if she works or goes to school. My boyfriend leaves town 4 days a week to work out of town and is off for 4 days. Now in order to provide for our family he is forced to get a second (cash) job (so it doesn't raise current child support) which takes three days away from our time together and the final day is spent at the other girls house to visit with his 2 year old. I am a student and work. Which already put a strain on our time together. Is it fair to our kid that his/her dad won't have any time with him/her because of a freak accident? we get weekly calls that say he is a dead beat dad who doesn't want to spend any time with his kid. That he STILL isn't paying enough and it's not fair that i am having a child with him because it will take away from his current child. I am at a loss and don't know what to do.
kay

Hudson, OH

#280 Aug 8, 2013
I don't understand how the first born child is considered a priority over any children born after. They should receive less financially just because they weren't born first? I would be ethical to lower the original payment so the second child can receive equal financial support.

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