Lowering Child Support if your having...
GPR

Atlanta, GA

#205 Oct 11, 2012
Lauren wrote:
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I am really sorry as I do not mean to be rude- but stay out of it. She is NOT taking "us" back to court, she is taking HIM back to court. No matter if she is a bad person or not, dont get involved as it is between he, her, and their kid.
anything that affects the familial unit affects all involved. so shut up and learn common sense.
GPR

Atlanta, GA

#206 Oct 11, 2012
Phil Weber wrote:
<quoted text>nope. But they need to try some contraception. That's too merch babies.
wrong it will be reduced. if you are going to post then learn proper spelling and english
Steve

Bethlehem, GA

#207 Oct 23, 2012
I had just recieved a letter from the Child Support office stating that I am elgible to request my child support to be evaluated once every three yrs. I am currently paying my ex wife $846/ Month for my son. I have remarried and have a daughter in which I take care of myself full time as a single parent. My daughters mother is deceased. Would my child support get lowered a little even though my income hasn't changed but now have another child as a single parent?? I am not by all means trying not to pay . But having it lowered a little can help. Please help.
Kim

Dallas, TX

#208 Oct 24, 2012
My husband and I both have girls from different relationships. She kept his daughter away from him. Got knocked up again with some other dudes child he went and put himself on child support. Dead beat dad right????? No not many out there actually. I allow my child to talk visit her father whenever even though he is behind and has paid maybe 1,000 in the 7 years she's been alive. Does he nope!!! So me and my husband have a son of our own. Very happy with our 3 children. She gets knocked up again. Stalks my Twitter and finds out he's looking for a second job to better our lives as a family. Mind you he is a real man and likes me to stay at home with our son and finish my Masters Degree not focus on work at the moment. A real man[ right I believe so. She's wants a modification now and more money. Some of you say he should have mire kids and take away from his first. Really you cannot move on with your life and be truly happy? Woman have the right to have tons of children and raise the ex child support?? The gold digger lives at her father in laws rent free her and her husband both work she receives food stamps, medicade and that childcare where you only pay 20 bucks. My step daughter comes over dressed in Target and Walmart but mommy is in 150 dollar jeans? My husband paid off all back child support never has missed a payment always on time. He should pay more because he is trying to give his wife daughter son and step daughter a brighter future???? My step daughter is in daycare from 6:30-6:30pm goes home does her he she eats what her step father cooks because mommy can't even do that. Then to bed at 8. My daughter may not get child support but am ok with that she gets her mommy taking and picking her up from school step daddy helping her with her home work we go to the park movies ice cream etc eat homecooked meals pray at night and go to bed happy knowing be are blessed. I give all you fathers/ mothers out there a standing ovation that are doing your jobs as good parents or trying with these other money hungrey parents. It takes two to have a child and both parents should do whatever they have to to support there kid nit rely on someone else to do so. Money doesn't raise a child. Our next step is hiring a lawyer I know its a long shot because he's a male but clearly we offer a better more stable, loving and affordable life style for my step daughter.
Lap

UK

#209 Oct 31, 2012
Alot of retarded posts on here!! Yes it can lower so it becomes equal! Why should one child get more than the other! Being married has nothing to do with it, it depends on the amount of children you have! Well done for paying CSA in the first place
gigi

Gwynn Oak, MD

#210 Nov 14, 2012
child support is regulated first and then by income. I work where it is ordered and regulated in Maryland. You can have a family of ten and that is not considered a child support obligation. I had a divorce and it was ordered and I watched how they keyed it in the system by an arbitrator. NOW i have a baby by someone else and he had kids but was not on child support, he just paid her. Well to all of you who think you know listen to this, he was asked at the child support enforcement agency if he has other CHILD SUPPORT OBLIGATIONS and he told them he has other kids who are minors, the judge said exactly what the law is, that is not an obligation if it is not court ordered, I get 987.00 a month,yes a month and he has 2 other kids. sorry guys..and now he is married, and tried to get it lowered and this now different judge says apples and oranges.so getting married is not an obligation against child support.. sorry charlie...
gigi

Gwynn Oak, MD

#211 Nov 14, 2012
what the hell are you talking about. MASTERS, YOU CANT EVEN SPELL OR WRITE..
gene

Waynesboro, VA

#220 Dec 3, 2012
bssouth2008 wrote:
<quoted text>So you are saying that your obligation to your child should lower because you decided to add another obligation. I don't think it works like that and if it does it shouldn't. What does how much the mother makes have to do with your obligation to the child in the first place??? That logic does not even remotely compute. If that were the case then you could have 300 children and lower your payment to almost nothing.
In all states the amount of cs is determined by incomes of both parents. if you get a raise it gets raised if she gets more income it gets lowered amount of support is derived by combined income. this comment is from an idiot
Alex

Fairfax, VA

#221 Dec 26, 2012
I have a kid my first married and my husband second married and second kid. We fighting a lot. Even thinking about divorce. Want to know if my kid is going to get less child support cause he already paying child support for the first kid.

Since: Aug 12

Bronx, NY

#223 Jan 23, 2013
Alex wrote:
I have a kid my first married and my husband second married and second kid. We fighting a lot. Even thinking about divorce. Want to know if my kid is going to get less child support cause he already paying child support for the first kid.
Sorry hon but YES! I spoke to lawyers and they said the system sucks cause the 1st mom who takes a man to child support gets the MOST money ..
Been there

United States

#224 Jan 28, 2013
bssouth2008 wrote:
<quoted text>So you are saying that your obligation to your child should lower because you decided to add another obligation. I don't think it works like that and if it does it shouldn't. What does how much the mother makes have to do with your obligation to the child in the first place??? That logic does not even remotely compute. If that were the case then you could have 300 children and lower your payment to almost nothing.
You are wrong. It will go down. It is a calculation, not an individuals views or beliefs. Research before you port or respond
Man

Indianapolis, IN

#226 Jan 30, 2013
bssouth2008 wrote:
<quoted text>So you are saying that your obligation to your child should lower because you decided to add another obligation. I don't think it works like that and if it does it shouldn't. What does how much the mother makes have to do with your obligation to the child in the first place??? That logic does not even remotely compute. If that were the case then you could have 300 children and lower your payment to almost nothing.
shockingly it does change things it's a change in circumstance. And u sound like my x. I have decrease in income as a result of increase in dependents. If your logic were followed then if Your x made more money. You wld not be be able to ask for more. U can't have it both ways. If u make more money. Your x can take u back to court an lower his support, he has more dependents u get less $$$. He is equally obligated to all 300 of his kids. Sorry to tell u that guess u will have to get a part time job jst like u expect him to. Don't be bitter. Accept it.
Man

Indianapolis, IN

#227 Jan 30, 2013
Came here looking for advice and found a bunch angry women. Life has changed. Ppl change. Income changes yet cause u had a child with your Ex's first it seems to be general opinion on this site that he for ever owes and is not allowed to have a life after you. If women make more money your ability to provide increase therefore his obligation ($$$$) to u decreases. If the man of said child got a raise you angry women wld be blowing up ur lawyers social workers or whoever to get your cut. Had lots of practice with this. And I have good lawyer. Any of you men out there. DO NOT DO ANYTHING WITHOUT A LAWYER. YOU WILL BE FUCKED without one. It cost up front but you(men) will not be sorry in the long run. The system is set up to screw men over. GET A LAWYER.
esmer

San Antonio, TX

#228 Feb 11, 2013
nunya wrote:
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Typical money hungry women wanting the child support to stay the same. How about the courts provide proof of spending the child support money on the child rather than on manicures and make-up!
i totally agree with u, my husbands ex is always after the child support and doesn't even buy the kid anything.. we bought him new shoes last april and he was still wearing them by the end of the yr. and CLOTHES omg he was seriously growing out of them and we had to pay for that too.. There should be a law that obligates them to prove that money is being spent on the kids!!
Mrsh877

Pittsburgh, PA

#230 Feb 16, 2013
My son is married and has 1 child. His wife was married before and has 2 kids from a previous marriage. My son is self- employed and at this time very little money is coming in. My wonderful daughter-in-law is working 2 jobs she enjoys very much. They are part time. One job is on the weekends and the other is two days a week for 4 months. When she went to her support hearing she explained that she only gets paid from February to May. The hearing officer put it in for 12 months which jumped her salary way up. They only considered her rent. They did not consider her other child, food, or other outstanding bills she has. What is up with that?
wrecks

Campbell, MO

#231 Feb 16, 2013
Laura Hernandez stole my boyfriend
tas21

Parkersburg, WV

#232 Feb 16, 2013
yea am paying 300 a month in child support and have 2 other kids that live with me.i struggle to pay my bills and the 2 kids that live with me go without..it has been 2 months since i have seen my baby i have filed 10 contets in court against her and still have not got back to court..how can i get payment lowered
Linda7

United States

#233 Feb 25, 2013
My husband pays 460 a month for his daughter from a previous relationship; we had her 196 days last year and continue to have her more than her mother does however, we can't put her in daycare because we never know when she needs us to keep her (it's court ordered we get her every Wednesday and every other weekend)even though we see her way more. So I'm left taking off work to take care of my step daughter which means less income for our household. She is now married also and She recently put in to revise the child support. The lawyer told him he would now be paying anywhere from 600-900 dollars a month. When my husband told him how many days we had her in the previous year and that he should be paying less if not $0 for having his daughter more than the mother and his daughter isnt at our house on the weekend she is at her maternal grandmothers house. The lawyer told him his days may or may not hold up in front of a judge. So we arent sure if we should fork out the extra money we dont really have to go to court or suck it up and pay her child support for their daughter who she rarely keeps. We already paid to see a lawyer who is either brushing us off or knows the system wont be in out favor. It would be ideal to have her every other week so she could be on a schedule and see both parents equally til she starts school in 3 years and then have visitation revised again.
earnie

United States

#234 Mar 2, 2013
Mark wrote:
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You are WRONG. I was ALREADY paying my older son's mother by check, instead of asking for more, she took me to domestics (PA), and since she only works part time (which isnt true) for $8 an hr. gets free daycare and insurance, also lives at home, I STILL had/have to pay $150 a WEEK for my ONE son (I am paying taxes on this as well). I said I ALSO have a one year old to another mom, I am giving her money also - the lady asked me how much, I said $200 a month, she said "that won't matter at all". So BS! I think that is MESSED UP. I am not saying I shouldn't have to pay her support, but $150 a freaking WEEK!?!? Over $600 a month, and I make under $20 an hr. so HOW the hell am I supposed to pay for my other son (luckily the mom is nice enough to accept what I can pay her)??? I also have car insurance, a mortgage, food, bills ETC. I am LOOSING money - its not like I can go out an buy anything! How can I get this remedied? I was thinking of marrying the girl who has my younger son - will that help/hurt thie situation for lowering support for my other son?
Secondly, all of you stupid idotic moms who want to call me a deadbeat dad - don't go there. I have ALWAYS paid for my sons, and ALWAYS will. I think $150 is WAY excessive for one son when I have 2, and all these other expenses. I agree it is not the kids fault. But if I had some extra money, I could actually buy my own kids stuff!!! I challenge anyone who thinks I am "greedy" by trying to get to pay a little less to the one son so I can have more for the BOTH of them, to try being on the other end... ANY advice would be GREATLY appreciated!!!
I hear where your coming from. I make &$11 an hour and i pay $650 a month for one child. They told me after i lost my $18 an hour job that i made it before, i can so it again. On 40 hours a week, i bring in a little more than $200. They don't drop it and i have no clue what to do. The economy sucks and no judge recognizes it. I feel your pain brother. Good luck.
Kristin

Conroe, TX

#235 Mar 14, 2013
jiffner wrote:
i think we should give some of these guys a break. i am currently going thru a situation were my husbands ex is trying to take him back to court. they were never married, she cheated on him, and is now married to this man. my husband and i have a dghtr together and he is adopting my son. he was ordered to pay 170 but is in construction and hasnt been able to pay but around 80 a week so she is now taking us back to court. he is a great dad who gets her twice a week and every other weekend so he is helping raise her i dont know what the outcome will be but we have to live too and its not like he isnt doing his fatherly duties.
Are you kidding he only pays 80 dollars a week???? that is CRAZY I use more in gas to take my kids to and from school and activities. Your husband needs to find a new job and actually support his kid.

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