Personally, I strongly believe that a couple needs to resolve the important issue of whether to have children or not long BEFORE marriage is even considered. Why? Simple, because if one partner absolutely wants children and the other partner does NOT want them, this particular couple should NOT get married.Why does it not shock me, for you to think if a man or woman loved another enough to marry them, that they would also want to keep a baby from being aborted, if the woman becomes "with child ",something people would say for years.(WITH CHILD). pregnant couldn't even be said on tv for years.
Yet for a couple to love each other enough to marry, and have kids would be delutionable to you.
There are quite a few married couples out there who have chosen to be childFREE, which simply means "no kids by CHOICE." Just because a couple decides to get married DOESN'T mean that children will be part of the marriage.