Lalaina

Iselin, NJ

#1 Oct 27, 2013
Abuse Dosent only come in physical form . It comes in psychological . Its a terrible thing . I know someone who is involved with someone & she jumps and does for him everything while he is demeaning and says she is not pretty.nor smart she did not graduate but is far from being a uneducated person . She's just lost herself . I wonder how many others live this way ?
Yes

United States

#2 Oct 28, 2013
Yes. Very sad. They turn into robots, living their life solely through and for someone else. Then if they end up alone, they have no sense of self. It can take a long long time to get self back and learn to take care and love self. Been there. Done that.
Lalaina

United States

#3 Oct 28, 2013
Yes wrote:
Yes. Very sad. They turn into robots, living their life solely through and for someone else. Then if they end up alone, they have no sense of self. It can take a long long time to get self back and learn to take care and love self. Been there. Done that.
its very sad . He threatens her with making her leave yet she takes him to All appts , grocery shops . There are no kids involved but she's almost like a boat in the water with no where to really go to . She's not a young girl anymore . She has back problems , no real friends to speak of . No church either . She finds it hard to ask for help . What a shame .
Whose

United States

#4 Oct 30, 2013
my dad beat up mom when we were little ( 3 kids ] and it was hell . He had her trapped hid the keys or kept them in his pocket . He was jealous . She was so pretty and we kids loved mom but he ruined everything . She tried to leave but he would sweetalk her back home . Ill never forget it.. Wish I could .
woman

United States

#5 Nov 4, 2013
no woman should have to live that way . Its even worse when kids are there . Its always or in most cases the woman has to lie , tell the kids everything is ok when its not . It use to be legal many years back for a man to beat a woman . Just like they would a mule .
cousin Daisy

United States

#6 Nov 4, 2013
There is help!!! Domestic violence shelters are I start. women with or without children are accepted.
Lucky One

Harrodsburg, KY

#7 Nov 4, 2013
The abuser often manipulates the victim.. that is how they work.. it begins with mental abuse and the victim will succumb to believing what they are told after a while.. The abuser will make them feel unworthy of anyone else by taking away their self esteem.. Many times it will escalate into physical abuse and it is a cycle...the abuse, the make up, the loving (if that is what you call it) and back to the physical abuse or mental whichever may be the case... Nobody male or female should ever endure any abuse. I was an abused woman myself for many years ... I got out and I consider myself one of the lucky ones...
Woman

United States

#8 Nov 11, 2013
Lucky One wrote:
The abuser often manipulates the victim.. that is how they work.. it begins with mental abuse and the victim will succumb to believing what they are told after a while.. The abuser will make them feel unworthy of anyone else by taking away their self esteem.. Many times it will escalate into physical abuse and it is a cycle...the abuse, the make up, the loving (if that is what you call it) and back to the physical abuse or mental whichever may be the case... Nobody male or female should ever endure any abuse. I was an abused woman myself for many years ... I got out and I consider myself one of the lucky ones...
abuse is awful in any way !! I remember someone from several Thaksgivings a long time ago as matter of fact and the woman's husband got so drunk that night that he wrapped the phone cord around her and couldve killed her plus she had black eyes . He was crazy and thank god her sisters got her out of the town . He died later on and I never blinked an eye . He was big and threw his waight around . I think his heart gave out . It was such awful stuff and affected the little boy bad . He is grown now . I wonder how a court would look at such a thing like self defence ?
Been thru it

United States

#9 Nov 11, 2013
Lalaina wrote:
Abuse Dosent only come in physical form . It comes in psychological . Its a terrible thing . I know someone who is involved with someone & she jumps and does for him everything while he is demeaning and says she is not pretty.nor smart she did not graduate but is far from being a uneducated person . She's just lost herself . I wonder how many others live this way ?
maybe she could stay at shelter and file for disability and get medical help for her back, her mind,etc. I will pray for her. She needs to take care of HERSELF.
Lucky One

Harrodsburg, KY

#10 Nov 14, 2013
I was severely abused it wasn't just mental abuse.. it was very physical. Once I was beaten so bad I was barely recognizable.. I had multiple contusions in my head . I lived a life of low self esteem and fear but it came to a point where one of us was going to end up dead and it probably would have been me. I have had a knife at my throat and guns pointed at my head. No person should have to ever endure that type of violence and if children are involved it is even worse. I wish I could help everyone that is going through abuse but I am but one person.. all I can do is tell my story and pray that someone else doesn't suffer through something so senseless ..
Goodness

United States

#11 Nov 14, 2013
you Ladies are strong But no body should ever have to live that way ! Its not even really living . I also hope and pray that the days get easier though I know its something that a person just does not get over . I wonder too how the law looks at such horrors . Take care of yourselves .

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