Tired of People making military wives look easy.

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A soldiers wife

Harker Heights, TX

#1 Jun 10, 2007
There are lot of us military wives that aren't sluts and love husband and are just trying to make thru the damn day waiting for them to come home. Yes there are some wives that go and cheat but guess the f**k what there are wives that are civilian that are cheaters but you don't hear people talking lot of shit about them only the military wives. Why not talk she about the damn soldiers that cheat on the wives that are being faithful to them. OH I forgot it ok for them to do it cause there lonely and might die right. It not ok for anyone to cheat Military or non military it wrong either way you look at it.
leave us alone

Harker Heights, TX

#2 Jun 10, 2007
You know what? I agree 100%.

While my husband is away I take care of a special needs kid. I advocate for his medical needs and his educational needs. I teach him at home and drive him to specialist and handle his medications.

I find the time to be involved with the community and with organizations that make a difference for families.

I support friends and neighbors and answer calls at 2 am from upset family members.

When we are so busy the last thing we care about is cheating. I dont have the time to go shopping, get my hair done, or my nails. Who has the time or energy to cheat? I actually love my husband. Im waiting on him. Hes waiting on me. We believe in the sancitity of marriage.

I fill my lonely moments with prayers. I read books, and educate myself. I take care of my kids and meet their needs.

Shame on all of you who write such nasty things. Your going to answer to a higher power than man for what you say.
Misunderstood

Unadilla, NY

#3 Jun 11, 2007
I agree with both you but the fact remains , there are alot of women out there military and civilian that cheat, its just magnified a thousand times on military spouses in this area because of Fort Hood. I wrote a comment on cheating spouses earlier. My intentions wasnt to call all "Army Wives" ho's. NO not at all, I was just calling out the ones who disrespected their spouses in the most extreme way, while they are out there fighting for our country and putting their lives on the line. No disrespect this way, I just call it how i see it. If it walks like a duck, talks like a duck, then guess what it is a duck. Right?? If the glove doesnt fit, you must acquit!!
A soldiers wife

Harker Heights, TX

#4 Jun 11, 2007
Misunderstood wrote:
I agree with both you but the fact remains , there are alot of women out there military and civilian that cheat, its just magnified a thousand times on military spouses in this area because of Fort Hood. I wrote a comment on cheating spouses earlier. My intentions wasnt to call all "Army Wives" ho's. NO not at all, I was just calling out the ones who disrespected their spouses in the most extreme way, while they are out there fighting for our country and putting their lives on the line. No disrespect this way, I just call it how i see it. If it walks like a duck, talks like a duck, then guess what it is a duck. Right?? If the glove doesnt fit, you must acquit!!
I didn't write this just cause of you it is cause of every where.It cause I see when I go out with my girlfriends for a girl night out. I so happen to get lucky get to be kid free for one night. I can go out and eat dinner and have guys come what to buy me drink or something or I go to the club to have a few drinks with a girl guys come up to me I tell them am married. They go and tell I don't see anything wrong with you going looking for a laid while he way. It like who are to tell me am looking for laid am not like that at all I have only been with one man my whole life and that how it going to stay. I don't want sex from anyone else but my husband. I am just tired of every one thinking that we are all cheaters cause we aren't all that way. I don't even have time to shave my legs most days let own to go and find a man to fuck. Most of the time I stay at home to get call from my hubby to say hey baby i can get online now and chat so hop on the net.
Scliana

Westfield, MA

#5 Jul 1, 2007
I agree with you to a certain extent soldiers wife. I lived in Killeen for about a year before my husband deployed again. I've since moved back home until he returns, but to be honest Killeen has to be the most ridiculous place I have ever lived in terms of infidelity and the general misconduct of both the men and women. I know it's not fair that people place all kinds of stereotypes and generalizations on us, but the majority of the wives that I met down there unfortunately did meet the stereotypes. The cheating was rampant on both sides and some of my husbands friends could tell you stories that would make you sick. Military bases especially in the south are whore magnets because these girls want to all marry soldiers for their benefits. Then they wait until he deploys so they can have their fun. The men are just as bad. I've heard countless stories of soldiers telling their wives or girlfriends that they're in the field when they're really across town at some chicks house. Unfortunately the military life just stomps on relationships. I'm certainly not looking forward to returning to Killeen or any base for that matter. I can't wait until he's out, but until then just keep your relationship strong and ignore all the others. Hopefully stuff like this won't last forever....
MRSBAKER

New Boston, TX

#6 Jul 2, 2007
That's so true i was married for 11yrs.Still married now but living apart cause my US ARMY(DOG OF AN HUSBAND) cheated on me with an female pvt in his unit while deloyed to iraq. And the female said she pregant for him.SO ALL ARMY WIFE ARE NOT THE BAD ONES ITS BAD FEMALE IN THE ARMY AS WELL ALSO.!!!
MRSBAKER

New Boston, TX

#7 Jul 2, 2007
OK WHAT ABOUT THE ARMY HUSBAND THAT disrespected their spouses in the most extreme WAY !!! LIKE MINE WHO GOT AN FEMALE PVT PREGANT WHILE DEPLOYED IN IRAQ. NO WAS HE TALKED ABOUT.H*** NO HIS CHAIN OF COMMAND TOOK UP FOR HIM AND GAVE ME THE RUN AROUND.SO IN MY CASE MY HUSBAND AND HIS LI PVT GIRLFRIEND WAS THE WHORES AND THE BAD ONE.SO ALL ARMY WIFES ARE NOT BAD,,,,,OK
MRSBAKER

New Boston, TX

#8 Jul 2, 2007
A soldiers wife wrote:
There are lot of us military wives that aren't sluts and love husband and are just trying to make thru the damn day waiting for them to come home. Yes there are some wives that go and cheat but guess the f**k what there are wives that are civilian that are cheaters but you don't hear people talking lot of shit about them only the military wives. Why not talk she about the damn soldiers that cheat on the wives that are being faithful to them. OH I forgot it ok for them to do it cause there lonely and might die right. It not ok for anyone to cheat Military or non military it wrong either way you look at it.
That's so true i was married for 11yrs.Still married now but living apart cause my US ARMY(DOG OF AN HUSBAND) cheated on me with an female pvt in his unit while deloyed to iraq. And the female said she pregant for him.SO ALL ARMY WIFE ARE NOT THE BAD ONES ITS BAD FEMALE IN THE ARMY AS WELL ALSO.!!!

“Arrive. Raise Hell. Leave.”

Since: Jul 07

Newark, New Jersey

#9 Jul 2, 2007
Let's get real here for second ladies. There has got to be some sort of reason why men or women cheat. Think about it. What could have been so bad at home, that would cause the other to go astray? You just can't love someone one minute, then cheat the next. What's the reason? You have to know the answer. I could be wrong, but maybe the Husband or Wife cheats for excitement, for passion, to regain their youth, boredom, tired of being taken for granted, someone new has given them something they are missing at home, someone is listening to them, is nice to them, is giving them attention, etc. It could be for so many things. You tell me ladies. I'm a man. Talk to me. Let's hear what you all think.
SPARKYJK

San Antonio, TX

#10 Jul 2, 2007
There are always sides to every issue, that's why there are always alot of talk about anything that get's somebodies dander up, especially anything remotely related to 'sex' and I think that cheating wives and husbands let others who read these posts are trying compesate for a lack of it in their lives. I've had a wife cheat on me, and I'm not blameless either cause I've cheated on a wife, so I've been on both sides of that issue, it hurt her when I did it and it hurt me when she did it to me, I've learned that talk is cheap, actions speak louder!
Ms-NB

Temple, TX

#11 Jul 3, 2007
I totally agree with Stone Coldxxx Post #9. All those are EXCELLENT reasons for infidelity. Not that it makes cheating right. But it is certainly understandable why when you see that list of reasons. As far as staying busy while the spouse is at war. Well "being busy" doesn't cure loneliness. There are some intelligent, educated, employed wives who do an outstanding job of managing the homefront/caring for kids while the spouse is at war. Marriages are tough enough without adding the constant separations that deployments bring and the strain that distance puts on families. The time difference between Iraq and the U.S. is just one example of that strain. How can one stay up night after night in good ole' Killeen, TX. waiting on a phone call from Iraq when life's duties await the next day. The lack of sleep compounds over time and the same is true for the soldiers there too. And that tension can creep up into phone conversations. Even the strongest marriages that weren't on rocky ground could end up in trouble with the continous deployment cycles. Marriage is about 2 people residing together and helping each other through life. It's one thing to be gone a few weeks here and there for work but I don't think the amount of separation required in military marriages can be conducive to anyone's relationship. Some folks are on their 3rd and 4th year long(now 15 months) deployment and that can strain the strongest union out there.

“Arrive. Raise Hell. Leave.”

Since: Jul 07

Newark, New Jersey

#12 Jul 3, 2007
A lady by the name of Ruth Houston wrote a book about this topic. These are some reasons she had written on why men and women cheat. Tell me what ya'll think:

The Top Reasons Men and Women Cheat

The top 3 reasons men cheat all relate to sex. However sex is not usually the motivating factor for cheating wives. The top 3 reasons women cheat relate to unmet emotional needs or a desire for attention. Listed below are the most common reasons cheating husbands and cheating wives use to justify their extramarital affairs:

Why Men Cheat

The most frequently cited reasons for infidelity among men include
• more sex (the desire for a more active sex life)
• sexual variety (a desire for different kinds of sex)
• opportunistic sex ( taking advantage of an opportunity to have sex without the fear of getting caught)
• to satisfy sexual curiosity (about a specific female)
• a feeling of entitlement (the belief that it’s a man’s prerogative to cheat)
• the “thrill of the chase”
• the desire to feel important or special
• sexual addiction

Why Women Cheat

The reasons most frequently cited for female infidelity include
• a desire for emotional closeness and intimacy (someone caring to confide in and bond with on an emotional level)
• a desire for attention (wanting be the center of a man’s attention again)
• to reaffirm her desirability (To feel validated as a woman)
• to re-experience feelings of romance
• a desire to feel “special”
• boredom
• loneliness
• sexual excitement
MRS BAKER WAGRAM NC

New Boston, TX

#13 Jul 3, 2007
Scliana wrote:
I agree with you to a certain extent soldiers wife. I lived in Killeen for about a year before my husband deployed again. I've since moved back home until he returns, but to be honest Killeen has to be the most ridiculous place I have ever lived in terms of infidelity and the general misconduct of both the men and women. I know it's not fair that people place all kinds of stereotypes and generalizations on us, but the majority of the wives that I met down there unfortunately did meet the stereotypes. The cheating was rampant on both sides and some of my husbands friends could tell you stories that would make you sick. Military bases especially in the south are whore magnets because these girls want to all marry soldiers for their benefits. Then they wait until he deploys so they can have their fun. The men are just as bad. I've heard countless stories of soldiers telling their wives or girlfriends that they're in the field when they're really across town at some chicks house. Unfortunately the military life just stomps on relationships. I'm certainly not looking forward to returning to Killeen or any base for that matter. I can't wait until he's out, but until then just keep your relationship strong and ignore all the others. Hopefully stuff like this won't last forever....
I FEEL THE SAME WAY 100% KILLEEN /FORT HOOD TX WAS NOT THE PLACE BOTH MEN AND WOMAN THERE ARE AN HAND FULL MILITARY / CIVILIAN AS WELL. I LEFT MY US ARMY DOG OF AN (HUSBAND) RIGHT THERE.SSG SHAWN BAKER AND TOOK MY KIDS AND MOVED BACK TO NC AFTER HE GOT AN FEMALE PVT PREGANT IN HIS OLD UNIT WHILE DEPLOYED TO IRAQ AND STILL MARRIED TO ME AT THE TIME. SO LADIES LOOKOUT HE'S STILL MARRIED BUT HE WILL LIE.HE'S REALLY GOODS AT LIEING!!!!! OH YEA HIS SEX AINT THAT GREAT SO U WANT GET A GOOD TIME IN BED SO DON'T WASTE YOUR TIME LOL. IT TAKES FOREVER FOR HIM TO GET IT UP AND FINAL WHEN HE DOES GET IT UP. IT WELL BE ALL OVER IN 10 MINS OR LESS IF THAT LONG..SO SO LUCK PV 2 RHONDA HUSRT AND THE REST OF THE FEMALES IN FT HOOD / KILLEN TX

“Way 2 have a friend is B one.”

Since: Jul 07

Killeen (right now)

#14 Jul 3, 2007
Can't speak for the male viewpoint but the reasons for why females cheat seem right on target to me.
Stone Coldxxx wrote:
A lady by the name of Ruth Houston wrote a book about this topic. These are some reasons she had written on why men and women cheat. Tell me what ya'll think:
The Top Reasons Men and Women Cheat
The top 3 reasons men cheat all relate to sex. However sex is not usually the motivating factor for cheating wives. The top 3 reasons women cheat relate to unmet emotional needs or a desire for attention. Listed below are the most common reasons cheating husbands and cheating wives use to justify their extramarital affairs:
Why Men Cheat
The most frequently cited reasons for infidelity among men include
• more sex (the desire for a more active sex life)
• sexual variety (a desire for different kinds of sex)
• opportunistic sex ( taking advantage of an opportunity to have sex without the fear of getting caught)
• to satisfy sexual curiosity (about a specific female)
• a feeling of entitlement (the belief that it’s a man’s prerogative to cheat)
• the “thrill of the chase”
• the desire to feel important or special
• sexual addiction
Why Women Cheat
The reasons most frequently cited for female infidelity include
• a desire for emotional closeness and intimacy (someone caring to confide in and bond with on an emotional level)
• a desire for attention (wanting be the center of a man’s attention again)
• to reaffirm her desirability (To feel validated as a woman)
• to re-experience feelings of romance
• a desire to feel “special”
• boredom
• loneliness
• sexual excitement
The otherside

United States

#15 Jul 3, 2007
Well ladies, I disagree with all of you that think there is a tag put on our local military wives. I'm a great looking, financially stable, 40 year old single guy in Copperas Cove and when I am in hot pursuit mode I don't even consider a great looking lady who I suspect is a military wife. I'm a realist and believe me if there was a common knowledge or an acceptable disresprect that military wives were easy then I'd be all over it. To me, they are off limits because that is the last thing I would want to do to a soldier fighting/representing our wonderful country.
I Like Your Style

Killeen, TX

#16 Jul 4, 2007
MRS BAKER WAGRAM NC wrote:
<quoted text> I FEEL THE SAME WAY 100% KILLEEN /FORT HOOD TX WAS NOT THE PLACE BOTH MEN AND WOMAN THERE ARE AN HAND FULL MILITARY / CIVILIAN AS WELL. I LEFT MY US ARMY DOG OF AN (HUSBAND) RIGHT THERE.SSG SHAWN BAKER AND TOOK MY KIDS AND MOVED BACK TO NC AFTER HE GOT AN FEMALE PVT PREGANT IN HIS OLD UNIT WHILE DEPLOYED TO IRAQ AND STILL MARRIED TO ME AT THE TIME. SO LADIES LOOKOUT HE'S STILL MARRIED BUT HE WILL LIE.HE'S REALLY GOODS AT LIEING!!!!! OH YEA HIS SEX AINT THAT GREAT SO U WANT GET A GOOD TIME IN BED SO DON'T WASTE YOUR TIME LOL. IT TAKES FOREVER FOR HIM TO GET IT UP AND FINAL WHEN HE DOES GET IT UP. IT WELL BE ALL OVER IN 10 MINS OR LESS IF THAT LONG..SO SO LUCK PV 2 RHONDA HUSRT AND THE REST OF THE FEMALES IN FT HOOD / KILLEN TX
I like your style madam. You need to "OUT" that louse and loser for his evil deeds. There ought to be a website where one can post ALL the CHEATERS, CADS, LOUSES, ETC....(Male & Female & Homosexual) so that others would not fall victim to perverted scum like your ex.

Cheers to you......
just found out

United States

#17 Jul 5, 2007
Ha, guy I met in December & had a great time with till he was deployed..

I have been patiently waiting near computer (just like an army wife) for im's or emails.. only to find out he is still married.. he was only in for training & yeah, it was down south were all of us gals are desperate for military men. Get a gripe.. this guy was just a totally awesome looking guy w/a great personallity. I own my own home etc so I don't need or want guy for that.

He geniunely acted caring & such.. so right now I am totally pissed..
just found out

United States

#18 Jul 5, 2007
oh meaning he was in my area for additional training & then he was deployed "supposedly".. why are men such cads?? & it causes like this.. should the wife be made aware or do you think she just puts up with it?? he told me that she didn't want/like sex w/him but he divorced her because she had an affair while he was away.. hah! what is the real story.. MEN!
The otherside

United States

#19 Jul 5, 2007
Well I'm thinking you should leave well enough alone. If you retaliate then he is controlling you even more. Just let it go and be more alert for the signs before you lay your heart out on your sleeve.
summerc

Laredo, TX

#20 Jul 5, 2007
ill agree with most i am a proud army wife of 4 years, never cheated. neither has my husband, people cheat no matter military or not, its the facts of life. i do however hate how we get the light shinned upon us all for certain things wives and husbands alike do inside the military world such as cheat.

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