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Just Wondering

Kyle, TX

#1 Apr 11, 2011
How come military wives let themselves go after marriage? Fat and ugly is not what your husband wants after fighting a war.

Since: Dec 07

San Antonio, TX

#2 Apr 12, 2011
I have a great idea... why don't you go screw your dumb self? Not all military wives are fat. Many are beautiful and fit women. Stop categorizing and stereo-typing. I have seen plenty of non-military wives and single women who are obese. You are a jerk. Learn some respect for people.
Mrs Alm

Paso Robles, CA

#3 Apr 12, 2011
I have never seen a fat or ugly military spouse. They are beautiful. With the soldier deployed so much, it is a hardship on the relationship so maybe a spouse eats comfort food while you are gone because she loves and misses you. It's the lifestyle. Maybe she would lose wight if you got out of the Army and you didn't have to move so much and you were home more. But that would be difficult during this recession - where are the jobs? With Mrs Obama and Mrs Biden coming around to the Texas Army posts this month, if you could get them to wave a magic wand, and magically your lives together could be easier/better, what would you wish for? Love to you.
Just Wondering

Austin, TX

#4 Apr 13, 2011
I am assuming that you are a fat, ugly military wife cjaneh. Sure there aer non-military and single women who are obese, but I am not asking about them. I am asking about the military wives. Dumb self? Very creative.
Just Wondering

Austin, TX

#5 Apr 13, 2011
Mrs Alm, so you are saying that when your spouse is deployed you should be able to eat all you want? So it's the hero spouses fault that the women choose not to care enough about themselves? I am hoping not to see either Mrs. Obama, or Mrs. Biden. What good are they doing? I would wish that military wives would take care of themselves. That would make their husbands happy to be with them.

Since: Dec 07

Dallas, TX

#6 Apr 13, 2011
Just Wondering wrote:
I am assuming that you are a fat, ugly military wife cjaneh. Sure there aer non-military and single women who are obese, but I am not asking about them. I am asking about the military wives. Dumb self? Very creative.
You are incorrect in your assumption. Why are you so concerned about a military wife's weight? Are you a military wife? Do you have a military wife?

Since: Dec 07

Dallas, TX

#7 Apr 13, 2011
Just Wondering wrote:
Mrs Alm, so you are saying that when your spouse is deployed you should be able to eat all you want? So it's the hero spouses fault that the women choose not to care enough about themselves? I am hoping not to see either Mrs. Obama, or Mrs. Biden. What good are they doing? I would wish that military wives would take care of themselves. That would make their husbands happy to be with them.
I know of a lot of non-military men who are not happy with their wives. I say if you are so unhappy with your spouse and you don't think they are good enough for you then get a divorce. The day will come that someone else will NOT be happy with you. If people know that gaining weight will turn off their spouse and they don't try to do something about it, then they too will get what they deserve.
Just Wondering

Austin, TX

#8 Apr 13, 2011
I am a military girlfriend. My boyfriend is currently deployed. It is our 3rd deployment in 8 years. While he is deployed I go to school, work full time and work out. I weigh less now than when we first got together.

I see these women who get married, have kids and stop caring. They gain weight, they stop gettting dressed to go into public and they make their husbands look bad by doing these things. If both men and women keep themselves up after marriage then cheating and divorce are less likely to happen.

Since: Dec 07

San Antonio, TX

#9 Apr 13, 2011
Just Wondering wrote:
I am a military girlfriend. My boyfriend is currently deployed. It is our 3rd deployment in 8 years. While he is deployed I go to school, work full time and work out. I weigh less now than when we first got together.

I see these women who get married, have kids and stop caring. They gain weight, they stop gettting dressed to go into public and they make their husbands look bad by doing these things. If both men and women keep themselves up after marriage then cheating and divorce are less likely to happen.
I think that if you have respect and love for your spouse then you will care about what they think of you, and you will want to make the proud they are with you. I think these fat women do not even respect themselves. I also think many marry military guys for the paycheck. Sorry but that is my opinion.
Also if a person respects you and loves you, and the know the feeling is reciprocated, they won't cheat. Trust is earned.
Just Wondering

Austin, TX

#10 Apr 13, 2011
I agree with all your points. I will say that most men who are not attracted to their wives will go somewhere else, no matter how much they love and respect her.
Rob

Killeen, TX

#11 Apr 15, 2011
First of all, coming from a guys perspective: "grouds" for cheating isn't always based off appearance. If a guy wants to cheat it doesn't matter how good he has it at home or how in shape his woman is.
Many military men have married women that were "fat" from the beginning because that's what they loved/wanted. Ever heard of unconditional love? Reasons for cheating could stem from numerous things.
Maybe she can't cook or isn't good in bed, a supporter or maybe he realized they just aren't compatible. Or, here's one: maybe she's too damn cocky and sits up on her high horse always judging others and think she's too damn fine to be cheated on(hint).
Hell he could've met someone over there. A year is a long time to bond. Men are predatary creatures and like the thrill of the hunt, therefore some men will cheat.
Rob

Killeen, TX

#12 Apr 15, 2011
Just wanted to add, one of my buddies had the perfect wife, three meals a day, 7 days a week. There was never a spect of dust in the house, in fact it was a model home. She went to school, worked and took care of things when he had to work late. She was beautiful and the finest thing you'd ever seen.
Many of us guys were jealous because she was everything rolled in one and this made the wives jealous also because the guys started compairing them to her.
Seven years of marriage and he cheated the whole time. I constantly critisized him about it. His reason for cheating was he wanted a trophy wife, said he loved her but she was flawed: she was too damn perfect. You could tell she didn't go out of her way to be that, it was just her.
So for you women that think appearance is the way to keep your man (helps) but there are always underlying factors. Some men just use that as an excuse to leave when he wanted to leave all along. And sometimes we get tired of routine.
yeppers

Scranton, PA

#13 Apr 15, 2011
yo, them military wives are super fat and super easy!!!!! can't wait for the next deployment to get laid!!!

Since: Dec 07

Dallas, TX

#14 Apr 15, 2011
yeppers wrote:
yo, them military wives are super fat and super easy!!!!! can't wait for the next deployment to get laid!!!
That's so silly

Since: Dec 07

Dallas, TX

#15 Apr 15, 2011
Rob wrote:
First of all, coming from a guys perspective: "grouds" for cheating isn't always based off appearance. If a guy wants to cheat it doesn't matter how good he has it at home or how in shape his woman is.
Many military men have married women that were "fat" from the beginning because that's what they loved/wanted. Ever heard of unconditional love? Reasons for cheating could stem from numerous things.
Maybe she can't cook or isn't good in bed, a supporter or maybe he realized they just aren't compatible. Or, here's one: maybe she's too damn cocky and sits up on her high horse always judging others and think she's too damn fine to be cheated on(hint).
Hell he could've met someone over there. A year is a long time to bond. Men are predatary creatures and like the thrill of the hunt, therefore some men will cheat.
I do not believe "all" men cheat. All men are not the same just like all women are not the same. Maybe some of both sexes cheat and lie, but not all.
Rob

Killeen, TX

#16 Apr 18, 2011
@ cjaneh, I agree, not all individuals cheat, but I think unless you hear reasons coming from a cheater's mouth that it's wrong to speculate it's all due to appearance. There are plenty of obese civilan spouses and many of those may have never been cheated on.
I'm not a fat guy nor am I shallow but at the same time I wouldn't limit my preference to smaller framed women. Call me a different breed, but it's all about how that person is to me, with me.
And a little fact you may not know is that many guys I've known in the military that have the petite wives had cheated on them with larger women and a few have left their wives for these women. It's all opinion but sometimes knowing what you speak of helps.
Rob

Killeen, TX

#17 Apr 18, 2011
I'm a Psychologist who enjoys helping people and hey I love women, regardless and it just upsets me a little bit that people can be so shallow because they feel they are better than others because of they way they look.
I work out all the time, watch my intake and my weight but it doesn't matter if I fall in love with a skinny woman or a big one. Sure I would care about her health but wouldn't make her feel bad about herself.
Who cares if they are "fat" let those men deal with it and not all military wives are. Stop being so hung up on looks, that's why our children grow up so confused with eating disorders and hung up on image and weight.
Its one thing to speak of it to help someone realize risks but another when you just disapprove because they're different.
Just Wondering

Austin, TX

#18 Apr 19, 2011
Yeah, I was bored with this topic on Wednesday.
Armyvet35

Killeen, TX

#19 Apr 21, 2011
Just Wondering wrote:
I am a military girlfriend. My boyfriend is currently deployed. It is our 3rd deployment in 8 years. While he is deployed I go to school, work full time and work out. I weigh less now than when we first got together.
I see these women who get married, have kids and stop caring. They gain weight, they stop gettting dressed to go into public and they make their husbands look bad by doing these things. If both men and women keep themselves up after marriage then cheating and divorce are less likely to happen.
Cheating and divorce happen.

I am not too impressed with your situation at all. You workout, go to a job and go to school full time? No kids? Then you are indeed a slacker. Not to mention in 8 years you have yet to seal the marrriage contract.

I am a wife, military vet of 15 years, with 4 kids ranging from age 4-19, full time college student, and I work full time as a resturant manager. I am married to a military man I happen to have known since kindergarden. We will celebrate 24 years of marriage in 2 days.

Sure some are fat, just like in any population. Doesnt mean they do not care. Stress, anxiety, pressure, and other things may effect that. Maybe they just do not have the energy to do more than what they are doing now.

You come on here pointing fingers, talk about your 8 year non-committed relationship, and bash people you have never even got a chance to know. You also insult these wives and you do not even have a child.

I work out every day and at age 43 I still weigh 138 lbs at 5'7 after having 4, 12-13lb babies. And I am a military spouse.

Maybe one day you will grow out of the immaturity and utterly clueless phase.

many of us wives are independent and cope well, some of the younger ones did not know what they were getting into and cannot handle everything on their own.

People like you? Selfish, judgemental, and immature.
earth

Waxahachie, TX

#20 Apr 21, 2011
yoga is great for the body.

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