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A-w-w-w-w

Norfolk, VA

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#21
Oct 5, 2008
 
Concerned Reader wrote:
Have you ever thought that comments like yours may cause a person whose constitution is shaky to give up and give in?
Why not help strengthen them? There's an old saying, "if you don't have anything good to say, say nothing".
I do not enable those nor encourage others in their behavior or accept the words of those in whom I do not trust.
I speak from myself and for myself.
If my truth may cause a person whose constitution is shaky to give up and give in, then it is their actions and not my words which are responsible.
Do not use my words as an excuse for their actions.
They need to accept responsibility for their actions and stop blaming others for their situation.
They made the choice, and I will not dictate to them nor be dictated to on how I think they should fix themselves.
BOO HOO....if my truth speak words.

Concerned Reader

Greenwood, IN

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#22
Oct 6, 2008
 
Dear A-w-w-w-w

Thank you for taking the time to explain your position. I understand your perspective and though it's true that MOST people won't fully trust an ex-theif and ex-liar, it's not true for all. Based upon the history that you've shared, did you all of a sudden become independently wealthy? I ask this to say that everyone needs some assistance at some juncture of their lives. Wouldn't it be prudent to provide that assistance to someone who's had negative expereiences (granted through bad choices) and now earnestly desires to become prodcutive members of society? One thing I do agree with you regarding is that sitting on a pity pot will not alleviate the issues/problems and whining while sitting on the pity pot is even more counter-productive. However, it does provide a relief to be able to vent. I, too, grew up on the south side of Chicago and have had gang exposure as well as the drug scene. But some things occurred that allowed me to alter MY perspective. I realize that God must be first and foremost in my life. No "If's, ands, or buts" about it.

Maybe I missed you sharing your experience in this blog (if you did), but I know that if you were to share how you overcame your circumstances, in my humble opinion, I could see it as being more beneficial than being the antagonist. My whole point here is to uplift and not to tear down so I mean you no disrespect.
Doobya

Omaha, NE

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#23
Oct 7, 2008
 
A-w-w-w-w wrote:
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Dear "Concerned Reader"
In response, I was born and raised on the south side of Chicago. I was no angel and at one time I was a gang member.
Members of my family were and some still are alcoholics and drug addicts.
I fought and struggled for myself and for others and today I still struggle.
When you step over the line, you do it by choice and are fully aware of the choices you make. When one chooses to make those choices, they are made freely, with the awareness of the consequences of their actions.
Drug addicts and alcoholics are always recovering alcoholics and drug addicts, one drink or action away from recovery.
A thief and a liar are one in the same and will always be once the trust is violated and broken and will never again be fully trusted again.
I understand the issues and attitudes, there is no lack of understanding. There is empathy, but no sympathy. One needs to get off the "pity pot"
and grow up.
People have been hurt by their actions and will never trust them again.
"LET GO,LET GOD"
Let them be an example for those about to cross the line. BOO HOO!
How many people did you hurt as a gang banger? Did you shoot, stab and kill others? Did you steal from others or sell drugs as a gang member? Why should anyone listen to you or trust in you and take your word as a "former" gang member? Some people would submit that there are no ex gang members. Perhaps part of the reason that you continue to struggle is your pissy attitude.
marc volpe

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#26
Nov 20, 2008
 
hay, norfork your a ignorant person you must be lonely get a life
Pooty Poot Poot

San Francisco, CA

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#27
Mar 28, 2009
 
I am a convicted felon from Texas. I have had a job for the last 15 years and now getting laid off. I am told after 7 years you do not have to disclose your conviction unless it is some like murder, gang banging, pedifile like stuff or sex stuff. Try saying no on the application like I did. I am 60 years old now and it has been 25 years since my conviction but when I got my job it had only been 7 so try that out. And also, congrats on getting off drugs. I was a heroin addict, cocaine addict and loved my weed so congrats to you and me for 25 years clean
goincrzy

Hayward, CA

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#28
Jul 24, 2009
 
Rugged wrote:
Hey mark, i feel your pain brother, its a vicious circle for sure. Almost like they want you to resort to crime to make a living, that way you a kept in a negative bubble your whole life, with no way to escape. I wish i had some advice for you but i am in the same boat, i dont even have any felonies, but for some reason, employers keep mentioning that my misdameanors were dropped from felonies. Its almost like i might as well have felonies, because they judge me as a felon anyway. All i can say is that you are far from alone, man, if that makes you feel any better. This is a major problem in our country and good people and their families are suffering because of it. Good luck, man.
I been through it all basicly high since i was 14 33 now been clean 6 years had to go to prison to finally "get it"but now what it seems ive ruined any chance i had of being a councler heck i cant even be a black jack dealer!every place ive applied they say must pass a background check HELLO HALF OF US CANT seriously they want us to resort bk to our old ways,job security i guess but hey dont give up there has to be something down this way of living to make it worth it dont give up.
jon K

Baldwin, NY

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#29
Sep 4, 2009
 
I'm 22 years old not an addict or recovering addict, college student. Wasnt a gang member, came from a good home, not once i ever was in trouble with the law. Freind of a freind need a ride home from a concert my freind said would be fine. I get pulled over, kid ran away through 10 lanes of traffic, found HIS back pack in my trunk (prosecutor and judge both determined and agreed it wasnt mine) also found out later the guy had a warrent for his arrest for past drug possesion violations. I still have to go through the long expensive legal proscess and get 3 years probation 2 years lose of licness. I moved to florida went to school lived with family. Got off probation a 1 and half early, and liceness to. Moved back home to NJ, found out also since i have been going to school to be a physical thearipst no hospitals or clincs hire convicted felons even when I am done with college and a higher education my so called "record" makes it a wash. who do i have to talk to, to fix this problem in new jersey, and so nobody has to deal with this b.s. If all the people that are in the same situation as we are in get help and get the jobswe deserve the unemployment percentage would be cut in half. I am being treated in the job world as a rapist,or murder. This is not accetable.
jon K

Baldwin, NY

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#30
Sep 4, 2009
 
Concerned Reader wrote:
I feel you all!! We have to really come to grips with the fact that because of our decisions, we've reaped the consequences of our actions. Who said that those consequences were going to be a "one time event"? Not only do we have to stop our active addictions, we need to adjust our thinking and realize that God needs to be the center of our lives, whether we incorporate Him into our "world" through the 12 steps or in a more direct manner (church, a spirituality discipline, etc.). With all that said, I want to convey to you a portion of my story. I, too, like 'Depressed Doper Dave' actively used for over 20 years. I've had excellent jobs, made and blew a lot of money and hurt a lot of people, myself foremost. Yet even in the participation of this foolishness, I overlooked the taint that was on my very soul. Eventually this taint became so putrid that I wanted to be thoroughly cleasned. What did that take? It took letting go absolutely, no reservations or hidden desires to want to perpetuate anguish, guilt, shame, remorse, fear and worthlessness. I submitted to God, He washed me 'white as snow' and with confidence, I embarked (once again) on the right path. Because life is comprised of challenges and obstacles, all was not "peachy keen". I searched for jobs, could not find one. I went on interviews only to be told later that another candidate was chosen and all that was left was to try the temp agency circuit. I tested with these people and passed with flying colors only to find that in spite of their advertised need, they had nothing available. During all this, frustration was an option that I CHOSE not to dwell in. Mind you, I did experience it, but I chose not to stay there. Eventually, a three day assisngment came up, then another. Then here comes the next challenge: Even though I performed impecably in the last assignment, the manager complained. Although the agency said it would not be held against me, I have not had another assignment from them since. However, because I stayed prayerful and continued to do the right things for the right reasons, I now have a full time permanent job (with full benefits) in the position that God placed me, Assistant to the Director of Rehabilitation for an agency I will not disclose. My point is what are YOU prepared to do? Are you going to continue to let obstacles and challenges be your excuses or will you submit to God and allow Him to direct your path, so the bottom line is what was asked, What are you prepared to do?


What the hell does God have to do with any of this. Stop bible thumbing and actually do something useful.
frank fn white

Murray, KY

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#31
Aug 10, 2010
 
A-w-w-w-w wrote:
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BOO HOO!
A W orld W ide W eb W oosie, grow up u fn 14yr old, or at least acts like it, wanna be internetgangsta, these peoples problems are real. when kharma comes speeding down the street in the form of a city bus and flattens you you'll have no one to blame but yourself. you im sure make fun of mentally challenged people too, which im happy to say that i am not, but would rather be than a creep like you. go on witcha baad selve, friggn loser.
Melanie

Salt Lake City, UT

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#32
Sep 14, 2011
 
A-w-w-w-w or what ever your idiotic name is... Karma is a bitch and I hope you never go through what we do. GOD will punish you for your insensitivity in a way that an idiot lke you can understand I am sure you will soon face hard times for your comments.... Think before you comment and don't post if you have nothing inteligent to say. How do you know that something tragic did not happen to someone and that turned them to drugs which led to criminal charges you don't know so don't speak!
a-w-w-w-w-w u suck

Perth Amboy, NJ

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#33
Feb 17, 2012
 
a-w-w-w-w-w fortunatly the whole world thinks you and your comments suck. we don't care where your from or that your parents didn't want you so just get a life and stop mocking people about there struggles in life. we're soooo happy that you were soooo smart not make those destrustive decisions but, some of us did and that is life, get over it. You are not "holier than thou". Why even waste your precious self righteous time on commenting on others "pity pot"
tai gaines

Garner, NC

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#34
Oct 11, 2012
 
I am a recovering addict seeking employment. I'm currently in a residential treatment program for women and children. I feel like giving up because it seems like nobody will hire me because of my criminal background. I created this and it was only because I wanted "One More".
lived and learned

Warrenton, MO

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#35
Oct 27, 2012
 
A-w-w-w-w wrote:
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Dear "Concerned Reader"
In response, I was born and raised on the south side of Chicago. I was no angel and at one time I was a gang member.
Members of my family were and some still are alcoholics and drug addicts.
I fought and struggled for myself and for others and today I still struggle.
When you step over the line, you do it by choice and are fully aware of the choices you make. When one chooses to make those choices, they are made freely, with the awareness of the consequences of their actions.
Drug addicts and alcoholics are always recovering alcoholics and drug addicts, one drink or action away from recovery.
A thief and a liar are one in the same and will always be once the trust is violated and broken and will never again be fully trusted again.
I understand the issues and attitudes, there is no lack of understanding. There is empathy, but no sympathy. One needs to get off the "pity pot"
and grow up.
People have been hurt by their actions and will never trust them again.
"LET GO,LET GOD"
Let them be an example for those about to cross the line. BOO HOO!
I can see and agree with some of the things you have to say. I have been sober and clean 8 years and yes I made bad choices and have gone through very bad times but we are still people and not perfect we have made mistakes. I do not for one second think one person on here is asking for pity. Only understanding from other people who have been there and are going trough the same thing not more ridicule & shame.When is enough enough?The sad thing is most of the people that sit on their high horses and judge have skeletons in their closets as well.the only difference is theirs is not out there for public display.Yes we have been punished and I think for most of us it has made us better people than we ever were and we have a lot to offer if given the chance.So "AWWWW" have YOU ever been discriminated against? We sure wouldn't put you down.We'd be here for you
Carlton

Huntington, NY

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Nov 30, 2012
 
Thank You!!!

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