second chance employment for recovering addicts who are convicted felons

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PATRICIA MCDONALD

AOL

#1 Dec 26, 2007
I AM A RECOVERING ADDICT ,ALSO A CONVICTED FELON WHO IS SICK AND TIRED OF BEING PUNISHED FOR THE MISTAKES THAT I MADE.I HAVE PAID MY DUES TO SOCIETY,STRAIGHTEN OUT MY LIFE AND NOW I AM TRYING TO MOVE ON.I WAS REFERRED TO AN EMPLOYER BY THE VIRGINIA EMPLOYMENT COMMMISSION AND THE RESPONSE THAT I RECIEVED FROM THE EMPLOYER WAS I WILL CONTACT YOU AFTER CHRISTMAS,AFTER I CHECK YOUR BACK GROUND.I HAVE EXPERIENCE IN THE JOB THAT I APPLIED FOR BUT INSTEAD THE EMPLOYER WANTS TO HOLD MY PAST OVER MY HEAD.I AM GETTING HELP WITH MY PROBLEM WHICH WILL BE A LIFE LONG PROCESS,BUT WHO IS HELPING THOSE CLOSE MINDED PEOPLE WHO REFUSE TO GIVE US A SECOND CHANCE? I AM NOT GOING TO GIVE UP THIS FIGHT,I AM FREE FROM DRUG ADDICTION AND I AM NOT A BAD PERSON I JUST MADE SOME BAD CHOICES.SO TO ALL EMPLOYERS OUT THERE TAKE A RISK AND HIRE US,WE WANT TO TAKE CARE OF OUR SELVES AND OUR FAMILIES WITHOUT THE HELP OF STATE PROGRAMS.
hearts

AOL

#2 Dec 26, 2007
pat just keep on doing all the right things and rely on the god of your understanding to guide you on your journey,and good luck with your job search
Joe Kellett

San Clemente, CA

#3 Dec 29, 2007
coolkat1@cox.net

I agree, I'm 22 now, but from age 18-21 I've had the bad case of the stupids and did not listen to my parents and love ones. Because of my girlfriend from hell and my so called tolet friends. My life is hell. I'm trying to change my life and to stay straight forever! I do not want to be punish for the rest of my life for being a stupid kid/young adult. I've growned up now and see the light. I'm on probation, and been informed that it most likely be half the time. In the past few years, I learn alot the hard way. Best advice, listen to your parents and love ones. I thought I had all the answers when I was being stupid. Thank you all, for your time.
Jamie

Wausau, WI

#4 Jan 21, 2008
Hey...i feel ya, i just got out of a 4 year bid and am having a hell of a time with trying to regain order in my life, starting with employment so i can support my children, we paid our dues...let us live. Have you ever heard of fidelity bonding? it insures us for employment for so long and is helpful in finding a job becuz it insures up to so much monies. check it out in your state.
Joe Milford MA

Braintree, MA

#5 Feb 2, 2008
Going through the same exact thing, background checks keeping me unemployed. Found someone who really cares for me and helped me see the person I really am and how much better I can be. Unfortunately, no matter what good I do now, will always be punished for the past I think. I feel for ya, keep up the good work.
Depressed Doper Dave

Longmeadow, MA

#6 Mar 16, 2008
I have been battling addiction for the better part of 20yrs and in that time I have had tons of jobs but for some reason or another I had quit or gotten laid off. Now I am off the drug,in a program and trying my damndest to land a job, but my past is keeping me from getting ahead...What's a guy to do?????

Tired of hearing"we'll call you" or"we'll let you know". I'm totally depressed and don't know what to do...
Mark Baker

United States

#7 Mar 24, 2008
I am 30 years old and a convicted felon. I recently tried to enlist in the army willing to leave my girlfriend behind and enlist for 5 years. With high hopes and my mind set i was excited about clearing my name and risking my life for are government. But then the news came because of a misdermeaner from 1997 was not allowed into the military. Im not sure what to do now. I just tried the marines, still waiting to hear back from them. I really dont know what to do, i am a good person, everyone makes a poor desicions in at one time. Some people more than others but why must we suffer for the rest of are life. If been away from drugs and crime for a decade. Right now im unemployed and barely surviving. I was always one to offer and give rather than to take and accept help. But right now Im at a point in my life were if I cant get a second chance then what? I am willing to do whatever I have to, and any advice can help. Thank you for reading.
Rugged

Concord, NC

#8 Jul 1, 2008
I have a couple misdameanor pot charges on my record from years ago and i am treated like a felon everywhere i go. I have been job searching for over 5 months, and havent even been given a chance. I mean jesus, these people act like im a sex offender or somthin, oh, correction, they would rather give a pedophile a job, than an x pot-head. This system is rediculous. California residents arent even obligated to tell about their prior marijuana charges, but down here in the south, you get crucified for it. Guess i need to move, oh yeah, i dont have any money, go figure.
Rugged

Concord, NC

#9 Jul 1, 2008
Hey mark, i feel your pain brother, its a vicious circle for sure. Almost like they want you to resort to crime to make a living, that way you a kept in a negative bubble your whole life, with no way to escape. I wish i had some advice for you but i am in the same boat, i dont even have any felonies, but for some reason, employers keep mentioning that my misdameanors were dropped from felonies. Its almost like i might as well have felonies, because they judge me as a felon anyway. All i can say is that you are far from alone, man, if that makes you feel any better. This is a major problem in our country and good people and their families are suffering because of it. Good luck, man.
Ex cali convict

Arroyo Grande, CA

#10 Sep 26, 2008
I agree with all of you this is ridiculous Ive been in and out of jail prison and so on but I have finally turned my life around and now because I have a prison prior its next to impossible to get a job all my experience is in fields that wont allow "drug offenses" I dont believe it sex offenders get more chances than drug offenders since when has doing drugs been lower than raping kids thats horrible those people shouldnt even be out in the world whats going on with our politicians?????????
Concerned Reader

Greenwood, IN

#11 Sep 30, 2008
I feel you all!! We have to really come to grips with the fact that because of our decisions, we've reaped the consequences of our actions. Who said that those consequences were going to be a "one time event"? Not only do we have to stop our active addictions, we need to adjust our thinking and realize that God needs to be the center of our lives, whether we incorporate Him into our "world" through the 12 steps or in a more direct manner (church, a spirituality discipline, etc.). With all that said, I want to convey to you a portion of my story. I, too, like 'Depressed Doper Dave' actively used for over 20 years. I've had excellent jobs, made and blew a lot of money and hurt a lot of people, myself foremost. Yet even in the participation of this foolishness, I overlooked the taint that was on my very soul. Eventually this taint became so putrid that I wanted to be thoroughly cleasned. What did that take? It took letting go absolutely, no reservations or hidden desires to want to perpetuate anguish, guilt, shame, remorse, fear and worthlessness. I submitted to God, He washed me 'white as snow' and with confidence, I embarked (once again) on the right path. Because life is comprised of challenges and obstacles, all was not "peachy keen". I searched for jobs, could not find one. I went on interviews only to be told later that another candidate was chosen and all that was left was to try the temp agency circuit. I tested with these people and passed with flying colors only to find that in spite of their advertised need, they had nothing available. During all this, frustration was an option that I CHOSE not to dwell in. Mind you, I did experience it, but I chose not to stay there. Eventually, a three day assisngment came up, then another. Then here comes the next challenge: Even though I performed impecably in the last assignment, the manager complained. Although the agency said it would not be held against me, I have not had another assignment from them since. However, because I stayed prayerful and continued to do the right things for the right reasons, I now have a full time permanent job (with full benefits) in the position that God placed me, Assistant to the Director of Rehabilitation for an agency I will not disclose. My point is what are YOU prepared to do? Are you going to continue to let obstacles and challenges be your excuses or will you submit to God and allow Him to direct your path, so the bottom line is what was asked, What are you prepared to do?
hampton curmudgeon

Hampton, VA

#12 Oct 1, 2008
Your posts are the most open I've read.
It's obviously a tough out there right now, and it could get a bit worse before it improves.
My hope for all of you is that despite those difficulties you are each able to stay away from those things which will bring you down either legally or psychologically.
All I can offer is encouragement, but I offer that from the heart.
A-w-w-w-w

Newport News, VA

#13 Oct 1, 2008
Depressed Doper Dave wrote:
I have been battling addiction for the better part of 20yrs and in that time I have had tons of jobs but for some reason or another I had quit or gotten laid off. Now I am off the drug,in a program and trying my damndest to land a job, but my past is keeping me from getting ahead...What's a guy to do?????
Tired of hearing"we'll call you" or"we'll let you know". I'm totally depressed and don't know what to do...
BOO HOO!
A-w-w-w-w

Newport News, VA

#14 Oct 1, 2008
Rugged wrote:
I have a couple misdameanor pot charges on my record from years ago and i am treated like a felon everywhere i go. I have been job searching for over 5 months, and havent even been given a chance. I mean jesus, these people act like im a sex offender or somthin, oh, correction, they would rather give a pedophile a job, than an x pot-head. This system is rediculous. California residents arent even obligated to tell about their prior marijuana charges, but down here in the south, you get crucified for it. Guess i need to move, oh yeah, i dont have any money, go figure.
BOO HOO!
A-w-w-w-w

Newport News, VA

#15 Oct 1, 2008
Ex cali convict wrote:
I agree with all of you this is ridiculous Ive been in and out of jail prison and so on but I have finally turned my life around and now because I have a prison prior its next to impossible to get a job all my experience is in fields that wont allow "drug offenses" I dont believe it sex offenders get more chances than drug offenders since when has doing drugs been lower than raping kids thats horrible those people shouldnt even be out in the world whats going on with our politicians?????????
BOO HOO!
A-w-w-w-w

Newport News, VA

#16 Oct 1, 2008
Mark Baker wrote:
I am 30 years old and a convicted felon. I recently tried to enlist in the army willing to leave my girlfriend behind and enlist for 5 years. With high hopes and my mind set i was excited about clearing my name and risking my life for are government. But then the news came because of a misdermeaner from 1997 was not allowed into the military. Im not sure what to do now. I just tried the marines, still waiting to hear back from them. I really dont know what to do, i am a good person, everyone makes a poor desicions in at one time. Some people more than others but why must we suffer for the rest of are life. If been away from drugs and crime for a decade. Right now im unemployed and barely surviving. I was always one to offer and give rather than to take and accept help. But right now Im at a point in my life were if I cant get a second chance then what? I am willing to do whatever I have to, and any advice can help. Thank you for reading.
BOO HOO HOO!
A-w-w-w-w

Newport News, VA

#17 Oct 1, 2008
Joe Milford MA wrote:
Going through the same exact thing, background checks keeping me unemployed. Found someone who really cares for me and helped me see the person I really am and how much better I can be. Unfortunately, no matter what good I do now, will always be punished for the past I think. I feel for ya, keep up the good work.


BOO HOO!
A-w-w-w-w

Newport News, VA

#18 Oct 1, 2008
PATRICIA MCDONALD wrote:
I AM A RECOVERING ADDICT ,ALSO A CONVICTED FELON WHO IS SICK AND TIRED OF BEING PUNISHED FOR THE MISTAKES THAT I MADE.I HAVE PAID MY DUES TO SOCIETY,STRAIGHTEN OUT MY LIFE AND NOW I AM TRYING TO MOVE ON.I WAS REFERRED TO AN EMPLOYER BY THE VIRGINIA EMPLOYMENT COMMMISSION AND THE RESPONSE THAT I RECIEVED FROM THE EMPLOYER WAS I WILL CONTACT YOU AFTER CHRISTMAS,AFTER I CHECK YOUR BACK GROUND.I HAVE EXPERIENCE IN THE JOB THAT I APPLIED FOR BUT INSTEAD THE EMPLOYER WANTS TO HOLD MY PAST OVER MY HEAD.I AM GETTING HELP WITH MY PROBLEM WHICH WILL BE A LIFE LONG PROCESS,BUT WHO IS HELPING THOSE CLOSE MINDED PEOPLE WHO REFUSE TO GIVE US A SECOND CHANCE? I AM NOT GOING TO GIVE UP THIS FIGHT,I AM FREE FROM DRUG ADDICTION AND I AM NOT A BAD PERSON I JUST MADE SOME BAD CHOICES.SO TO ALL EMPLOYERS OUT THERE TAKE A RISK AND HIRE US,WE WANT TO TAKE CARE OF OUR SELVES AND OUR FAMILIES WITHOUT THE HELP OF STATE PROGRAMS.
A-w-w-w-w Poor baby. You made the choices, now deal with them. Maybe in your next life, you will think..........BOO HOO!
Concerned Reader

Greenwood, IN

#19 Oct 4, 2008
It's amazing the lack of understanding that's apparent with A-w-w-w-w. This "tough love" approach may be good for those who aren't earnestly trying and possibly provide the reality shock that may be needed, but how can you perpetuate the already stigmatized perception of these individuals? Maybe you haven't experienced the things some of these people have, maybe you have and have overcome them. In either case, wouldn't it be more beneficial to encourage rather than mock? Okay, bad choices were made-that's a given, thus the nature of this blog. However, why be like the people that cause these individuals to write in this blog. It's unfortunate that we (mankind, the human race) can't be more supportive, encouraging, uplifting and, to some degree, benevolent with one another. Have you ever thought that comments like yours may cause a person whose constitution is shakey to give up and give in? Everyone is not as strong as you project yourself to be. Why not help strengthen them? There's an old saying, "if you don't have anything good to say, say nothing".
For all who have seen A-w-w-w-w's posts, if you're angry, use it to continue to propel your efforts towards your goals. Keep in mind that just as there are people out there like this person, there are people like me - people who genuinely want to see the best occur for everyone. Stay encouraged and prayerful. "Lean not to your own understanding, but acknowlege God in all your ways and He will direct your path".

Peace and Love to you all.
A-w-w-w-w

United States

#20 Oct 5, 2008
Concerned Reader wrote:
It's amazing the lack of understanding that's apparent with A-w-w-w-w. This "tough love" approach may be good for those who aren't earnestly trying and possibly provide the reality shock that may be needed, but how can you perpetuate the already stigmatized perception of these individuals? Maybe you haven't experienced the things some of these people have, maybe you have and have overcome them. In either case, wouldn't it be more beneficial to encourage rather than mock?
Okay, bad choices were made-that's a given, thus the nature of this blog. However, why be like the people that cause these individuals to write in this blog. It's unfortunate that we (mankind, the human race) can't be more supportive, encouraging, uplifting and, to some degree, benevolent with one another. Have you ever thought that comments like yours may cause a person whose constitution is shakey to give up and give in? Everyone is not as strong as you project yourself to be. Why not help strengthen them? There's an old saying, "if you don't have anything good to say, say nothing".
For all who have seen A-w-w-w-w's posts, if you're angry, use it to continue to propel your efforts towards your goals. Keep in mind that just as there are people out there like this person, there are people like me - people who genuinely want to see the best occur for everyone. Stay encouraged and prayerful. "Lean not to your own understanding, but acknowledge God in all your ways and He will direct your path".
Peace and Love to you all.
Dear "Concerned Reader"
In response, I was born and raised on the south side of Chicago. I was no angel and at one time I was a gang member.
Members of my family were and some still are alcoholics and drug addicts.
I fought and struggled for myself and for others and today I still struggle.
When you step over the line, you do it by choice and are fully aware of the choices you make. When one chooses to make those choices, they are made freely, with the awareness of the consequences of their actions.
Drug addicts and alcoholics are always recovering alcoholics and drug addicts, one drink or action away from recovery.
A thief and a liar are one in the same and will always be once the trust is violated and broken and will never again be fully trusted again.
I understand the issues and attitudes, there is no lack of understanding. There is empathy, but no sympathy. One needs to get off the "pity pot"
and grow up.
People have been hurt by their actions and will never trust them again.
"LET GO,LET GOD"
Let them be an example for those about to cross the line. BOO HOO!

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