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N.H. judge says she closes eyes, but doesn't sleep in court

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Melissa Spinner

Dover, NH

#21 Feb 16, 2006
Be aware of the ramifications of the input made to the court. Often times professionals are not aware of the impact that a communication may have on the situation. The effects may include unnecessary foreclosure of family relationships, exacerbation of anxiety and guilt for the child, outrage and despair by the accused perpetrator, false arrest, errant prosecution, and unjustified punitiveness. It appears certain that at some point in the future, professionals are going to have to be held accountable for the allegations that they make, particularly in a public setting.

The professional should recognize how their alignment with the reporting parent's agenda reinforces the false validity in a SAID case. Frequently, the presenting parent will use the "expert's" responses to the situation to reinforce his or her perceptions and feelings of validation and justification.

Common sense and critical necessity mandate that one must take the role of skillful investigator before evolving any other intervention behaviors in the SAID case. This is because child sexual abuse allegations in the divorce situation are initially more a problem of investigation than of treatment. Immediate and absolute protection of the child/children is not always the most desirable nor effective crisis intervention strategy. Traumatic disruption may create irreparable and permanent breaches among family members. The most critical and obvious investigation process involves interviewing and interrogating the reporting parent with regard to the current status of the family as it pertains to the divorce process; past, present, or future. In addition, specific questions pertaining to the alleged sexual abuse itself need to be asked: WHAT exactly happened, WHEN, WHERE, WHY and HOW. The allegation needs to be scrutinized with intensity and the details carefully discussed with all involved parties. Professionals are traditionally apprehensive about proceeding in this manner lest the child be "traumatized." However, the long range ramifications of these allegations, if misdiagnosed, can be more "traumatic" than the stresses of these initial appropriate inquiries. Without these initial inquiries prior to evaluating, assessing or working with the "victim," the intervention specialist is acting unprofessionally, unethically and naively.
Melissa Spinner

Dover, NH

#22 Feb 16, 2006
Children DO lie about sex abuse!

Elaine Lehman

1. Children DO lie about sex abuse, despite the popular myth that they do not. Anybody with common sense knows this is true.

Prosecutors, some mental health professionals, caseworkers and sometimes, law enforcement personnel, like to say that children do not lie about sex abuse because they wouldn't know how. WRONG! Children lie from an early age about many things, including sex abuse. Whether it is lying, fantasizing, imagination, or they were coached, coerced and led to tell untruths by vindictive or unscrupulous adults, makes no difference if it was not true and did not happen. Falsely accused adults may still be charged with the serious crime of child sex abuse, and go to prison.

Parents have to teach their children NOT to lie, from the time they can talk.

Children not only know how to lie from an early age, but they know a lot about sex abuse.

In today's world, with explicit sex on TV all of the time, even little children know a great deal about sex.

Older brothers, sisters and friends talk about sex, and may even start dating at age 9 or so.
Children are taught about sex abuse from pre-schools on up. They are taught the parts of the body that no one can touch, that someone might try to touch them there, and if someone does, they must tell. Take that one more step.

With all of the information that small children have about sex, these days, combined with the fact that children do lie, and can easily be led to tell an untruth, the old thinking that children do not lie about sex abuse is not valid.

2. Adults, such as social workers, mental health professionals, police and prosecutors, have often led, taught, coached and/or coerced children to claim that someone abused them.(This has been proved in many cases.)

3. Vindictive wives and ex-wives have turned a child against their father, and false allegations of child sex abuse have followed.

4. Foster parents believes the caseworkers, and unwittingly add to the problem by believing the lies.

5. The #1 characteristic of antisocial teenagers is "lying," according to the most definitive study ever done on antisocial people, The Criminal Personality,(in 3 volumes) by Samuel J. Yochelson, Ph.D., M.D.(deceased), and Stanton E., Samenow, Ph.D., the nation's leading psychologist/criminologist.

6. Teenagers lie about sex abuse for a variety of reasons.

They want to get out of their own home or a strict foster home, in order to more easily do drugs, commit crimes, and have irresponsible sex.

They want to get back at an adult with whom they are angry.

They want to get rid of an adult with whom they are angry.

They have several antisocial characteristics, and crave the power and excitement they get from manipulating the many adults involved.

7. Children and teens learn from each other that they can make false allegations and get away with it.

There is a whole culture of juveniles out there, who knows how to make false allegations, and how to deal with the authorities involved.

Destroying someone's life provides them with what they really crave, which is power and excitement. To a killer, murdering someone is the ultimate power trip. Murderers often say that the feelings of power and excitement that they get from murdering someone are better than sex.
Melissa Spinner

Dover, NH

#23 Feb 16, 2006
8. Making a false allegation of sex abuse can completely destroy a person's life, and send him or her to prison for many years.

Doing this gives many juveniles who have antisocial characteristics and tendencies, the same feelings of power and excitement that murderers get.
The Mondale Act of 1974
CAPTA – The Child Abuse Prevention and Treatment Act
Senate Bill #119, PL 93-274

The Mondale Act was designed in good faith in order to uncover more child neglect and abuse cases.
The Mondale Act called for the states to institute broad, vague child abuse laws. Congress tied federal funding to it for each case and each foster home.
One by one, the states fell in line and changed their laws to broad and vague, and reported cases of child abuse and neglect essentially became fund raisers for the child service agencies.
The Mondale Act called for a new method for reporting child abuse. All teachers, doctors and child care workers, caseworkers and police officers who deal with children, were legally mandated to report any suspected case. If they failed to do so, they were liable for criminal prosecution and/or for losing their professional licenses.
The Mondale Act called for the child service agencies to create anonymous “Hotlines” for reporting suspected child abuse.
The Mondale Act called for national registries to hold an accused person’s records for many years – guilty or not, charged with a crime, or not.
__________The Mondale Act backfired! Why?
Because of the broad, vague child abuse laws, no one knows how to recognize real child abuse, anymore. This includes caseworkers and police.
The broad, vague laws allow the child service agencies almost unlimited powers.
Melissa Spinner

Dover, NH

#24 Feb 16, 2006
Such power corrupts, and the agencies are out of control, everywhere.
Caseworkers must decide what is and is not child abuse, based on their own opinions, since the laws are not clear and specific, and there are no clear definitions of abuse or neglect.(This means that the caseworker’s opinions are the LAW OF THE LAND! And, their opinions vary wildly.)
Since caseworkers have no specific definitions of abuse or neglect to follow, they make decisions based on their own old, stored emotional garbage. With no clear, specific laws to go by, caseworkers often see abuse or neglect where there is none, or fail to recognize real abuse or neglect, when it is there.
They fail to take really abused children out of the home, and these children sometimes die.
They put really abused children back in their homes, too soon, where they sometimes die.
In most cases, no meaningful investigation of the accused adult's side ever takes place.
They devastate families by taking children for reasonable spankings. They arrest parents for a slap or a push, or because of outright false allegations, before investigating anything.
The agencies have a policy that they always believe the child, when a child claims sex abuse. They act as judge and jury of the accused adults, treat them with contempt and hostility, and with no investigation of the allegations, they tell the wife that the husband is guilty. This policy goes so far, that even AFTER the adult is acquitted of all charges in a trial, the agency STILL believes the child.
They place juveniles claiming sex abuse into counseling, and even into "therapy" groups for sexually abused children BEFORE an investigation of the adult's side,(which may never take place) BEFORE a trial, and BEFORE the adult is found guilty. Lying children find out exactly what words to use, when testifying at a trial.
They keep children far too long, often years, on speculation (The children might be in danger of abuse or neglect) without ever charging the parents with anything.
They avoid parents who can afford attorneys, and zero in on parents who cannot. These parents must represent themselves in hearings and trials in juvenile courts, even if they are not educationally equipped to do so, or do not speak or understand English well. These parents almost always lose.
Melissa Spinner

Dover, NH

#25 Feb 16, 2006
Caseworkers and their superiors make many terrible mistakes. They sometimes commit perjury in court, to cover their mistakes. They sometimes falsify records, and cover for each other, when mistakes surface. This is all mainly because of not having any specific laws and guidelines to follow, combined with almost unlimited power.
They take children from decent homes and put them in poor foster homes, where the children are sometimes really abused.
They take children from decent homes and place them in inappropriate foster homes, even when the parents protest the placement, and have excellent reasons for doing so.
They force wives to take out restraining orders against innocent husbands or boyfriends, and even force wives to divorce their innocent husbands, under threat of losing their children, or to get their children back. This family destruction takes place BEFORE caseworkers or the police have investigated the husband's side, BEFORE he has been charged with a crime, and BEFORE he has been found guilty of anything at all.
Caseworkers are routinely under- trained and under- educated.
Caseworkers are often very young with little life experience or children of their own. These under- trained young caseworkers have no understanding of family dynamics, and routinely make daily life and death decisions about families, with little or nothing to go by, and no idea of the damage they are causing families.
Caseworkers have no clear guidelines about how to screen reports of suspected abuse.
No attempt is made to discover the possible motives of the anonymous callers on the hotlines.
The Mondale Act does, in fact, allow parents and schools to use traditional strict disciplines and reasonable corporal punishment, but no one knows that, any more.
The Mondale Act does not offer any clear definitions of what is “reasonable corporal punishment,” or “reasonable strict disciplines.” So, no one, anywhere, knows what “reasonable” means. As a result, children are taken every day from decent homes for truly reasonable spankings, slaps, or other strict disciplines.
The Mondale Act is a mess, after all of the intervening years! It is a hodge-podge of unreadable, confusing, conflicting texts. Congress has made several changes through the years, but with no attempt at organization or clarity. As a result, no one really knows what is in The Mondale Act, anymore, including child service agencies and the police.
The Mondale Act needs to be repealed, and an entirely new, realistic Act written, that calls for simple, clear, specific laws defining real child abuse and neglect, better training for caseworkers, hotlines that require callers to give names and contact information, and specific guidelines for screening reports.
Child care professionals would then be able to use the clear definitions, too, when deciding whether to report or not, which would cut down on too many unfounded reports of suspected child abuse.
A federal, financial funding plan must be spelled out that will prevent the agencies from empire building by using unfounded cases, or cases involving reasonable corporal punishment, to “keep their numbers up,” in order to obtain funding.
__________ Repeal The Mondale Act!
Create a new Senate Act with specific, clear definitions of child neglect and abuse, and strict, clear laws calling for:

1. Mandatory investigations of the accused adults' side as well as the child's side
prior to further legal action.(Due process must be followed in these cases.)
2. Strict laws governing the treatment of parents by caseworkers
3. Strict laws governing the treatment of parents in juvenile court, to include appointing each parent with legal counsel.
3. And more.
Melissa Spinner

Dover, NH

#26 Feb 16, 2006
Change the laws about evidence in "he said…she said" cases!
Require evidence before charging anyone with allegations
based solely on the world of another person!

One person's word against another's with
no evidence has built-in, automatic, reasonable doubt!
She said…he said…!

When a juvenile makes allegations of sex abuse against an innocent adult, the legal scales are already heavily weighted in favor of the child.

The prosecutor doesn't have to do much, to "prove" guilt. In many of these cases, all he or she has to do is put a child on the stand, to win.

When Defense attorneys fail to recognize that, and treat the case like any other criminal case, they LOSE! The child abuse hysteria in the western world is emotional and irrational; not based in logic, common sense or justice for all. Reasonable doubt is not enough. Defense must present an INNOCENT defendant to the court! In fact, defense must go on the offensive, instead of taking the traditional, defensive stance.
Melissa Spinner

Dover, NH

#27 Feb 16, 2006
The FAST Letter
FAST, False Allegations Support Team
A newsletter about false allegations of child abuse Publishers: Bob and Elaine Lehman
June, 2005
Julie and Jenny lie about sex abuse!
(Antisocial = criminal or potentially criminal)

Bob and Elaine Lehman

Hey, Julie, did ya, ya know, check out the new coach? Like, he¡¦s really cute, and built! He makes me hot!

Julie grinned and waved at some other tenth graders walking by. I sure did, Jenny. Hes a hunk. I wouldnt mind, ya know, bunking with him, sometime.

The two 15-year-old girls laughed wickedly and took long, sophisticated drags on their cigarettes. Both girls were sexually active, and talked about boys and sex almost all of the time. Sex was, like, ya know, so-o-o cool!

Smoking marijuana and doing cocaine and other drugs was cool, too. So was skipping school and shoplifting. Julie and Jenny had several antisocial traits, and they liked it that way. Being bad was so-o-o sweet, so-o-o exciting.

The next afternoon, Jenny and Julie skipped their last two classes in order to meet up with Felipe, age 17, and Andy, age 18, under the bleachers at 1:30. The boys would bring the pot, and the girls would bring the beer. So, before Julie and Jenny went to the bleachers, they each shoplifted a six-pack from the Safeway around the corner. Backpacks were sure handy.

The girls arrived at the bleachers at 1:15, and the boys were nowhere to be seen.Should we, like, wait? Jenny asked.

Hell, no! Im thirsty! Julie laughed, twisted a beer free from the plastic, and popped it open.

The girls had taken only a few sips of their beer, when they suddenly heard a mans voice coming from behind them, What are you two doing here? Cutting classes? And drinking beer, too! OK, come on, girls. You have a lot of explaining to do.

It was the new coach, and he had caught them in the act, beer cans in their hands! The girls knew they were in trouble, but they also figured they could probably lie their way out of it.

Lying is the #1 trait of antisocial children and teens.
Whatever else they do or dont do, antisocial children and teens also lie. Lying is a way of life for them, and they can fabricate stories as easily as they breathe.They're often quite good at it, and they can appear in every way to be telling the truth. We are not talking about normal children who might try a white lie now and then, but who give it up after being questioned or disciplined. We are talking about the child who lies constantly about everything, anything and nothing.

The antisocial child or teen lies for the power and excitement of it.
Melissa Spinner

Dover, NH

#28 Feb 16, 2006
To the antisocial person of any age, lying is a power trip, and they live for power, control, and being able to manipulate others, starting in early childhood.

Antisocial people of all ages crave excitement, and are probably addicted to their own adrenaline.

The antisocial child lies to protect his secret, negative lifestyle.

Antisocial people hold onto their lies, even when it would be to their benefit to tell the truth, and even in the face of irrefutable proof that they are lying. This convinces many people that they must be telling the truth, in spite of everything to the contrary.

It's not that their loving, caring parents don't talk or listen to them. It's that these youngsters won't talk or listen to their parents.If you were a teenager who spent the afternoon skipping school, shoplifting, drinking alcohol, doing drugs and having irresponsible sex, would you have a heart to heart with your parents and tell them the truth?

Antisocial characteristics:

If only a few of the following antisocial traits are present and on-going in a child's lifestyle, they are red flags that the child is antisocial, and is therefore, a liar.(Note: boys and girls are antisocial. We use he for easier writing.) The red flags have a handy acronym to remember them by:

LEPR: Lying, Excitement, Power, Rage
He steals
He cheats
He craves more and more EXCITEMENT and may be addicted to his own adrenaline.
He was probably born different.(Antisocial personality tendencies are probably genetic.)
As an infant, he takes the longest to sleep through the night
He has more night fears and bad dreams.
He is into POWER, control and manipulation from an early age, starting with his parents.
He steals from Mommy's purse at an early age.
He is over active or hyperactive.
He is aggressive at home and school.
As a toddler, he hits other youngsters in nursery school.
As an older child and teen, he picks fights on the playground.
He has a strong interest in sex at an early age and often has early sexual contacts.
He has an early attraction to weapons
He is filled with more RAGE from birth, than normal children.
He tortures or kills small animals.
He does not feel or give much love. He does not feel compassion for others, and he cannot put himself in the place of others.
He has a selective conscience, and does not feel guilt.
He has the ability to cut off fear in the greater fear of being put down.
He feels little or no remorse. When caught, he may pretend to be sorry, but is really just sorry he got caught.
He knows right from wrong, and chooses to do wrong because he enjoys it.
He uses and/or abuses drugs or alcohol, and/or deals drugs.
He does not respect authority.
He is easily angered.
He blames others for his own misdeeds.
Boys see girls as objects to conquer and possess. Girls see boys as a means for obtaining alcohol, drugs, gifts and money.
He hangs out with and prefers to spend time with other antisocial youngsters.
Melissa Spinner

Dover, NH

#29 Feb 16, 2006
He skips school, drops out of school.
Some keep their grades up as a cover for criminal activities.
He wants to feel unique.
He craves to be #1, but to him, that means being the worst.
He does not handle money well.
He abuses and/or uses drugs and alcohol
He can choose to change!

Lying is the lowest common denominator of antisocial behavior.

Antisocial behavior is on a continuum of severity from the most antisocial to the least. Every antisocial youngster does not necessarily exhibit every antisocial trait, but they all lie. No matter what else they do or do not do, they also lie. They are excellent liars, and sound very believable. They know how to include what appear to be corroborating details, which makes the lies seem true. They are often attractive youngsters, but behind that innocent-looking face is a nasty mind with terrible, destructive thoughts.

So, if a child has any other antisocial behaviors, you must follow the rule of thumb that you simply cannot believe anything he says. That includes allegations of sex abuse.

If these youngsters have a history of making previous false allegations, they know how to play that game, and must NEVER be believed, unless there is irrefutable proof such as DNA.(Twice makes a pattern or game.)

Back to the story about Jenny and Julie: The motive

The coach took Jenny and Julie to his office, where he made them empty their backpacks and found the rest of the beer. However, Jenny and Julie seemed like nice, intelligent girls, and they insisted it was the first time they had ever skipped school or tried beer. They said they had brought the beer from home.

So, the coach decided to give them another chance. He scolded them and told them he’d better not ever catch them under his bleachers, again. The girls looked as tearful as they could, and promised solemnly never to do it again.

The next day was Friday, and Jenny arranged with her parents to spend the night at Julie’s house. For the first part of the evening, the girls popped popcorn and watched an old movie on TV. Then they said their good-nights to Julie’s parents, and went up to Julie’s room.

Jenny slowly got undressed down to her bra and panties and began practicing some yoga. Julie picked up her guitar, and plucked a few chords. For nearly 15 minutes neither girl said anything. Finally, Jenny broke the silence, and said,“That dumb coach makes me so mad! Nobody talks to me that way, ya know, and gets away with it. We’ve gotta, like, get back at him!”

Julie answered,“Yeah, and I know how we can get back, too! My girlfriend at summer camp turned a counselor in to the police for raping her. He won’t be around for another twenty-five years.”

Jenny, who had been standing on her head, plopped her feet down and sat up.“WOW! Cool! Did he DO it?”

“No. She was mad at him because he scolded her for talking after lights out.” Julie plucked a few chords and went on,“You don’t even have to have evidence or witnesses. They’ll believe anything, if you’re a minor.”

The antisocial child is quick to take offense, and easily angered.
He may hold his anger in at first, but he’ll eventually explode in some way. To the antisocial child, any little trivial incident that interferes with his game plan of the moment is an unacceptable affront to his sense of his own power.
Melissa Spinner

Dover, NH

#30 Feb 16, 2006
Almost anything can trigger violence in some youngsters, and might also lead to false allegations of sex abuse.
Girls often use the false allegations of child sex abuse method of revenge to get rid of or get back at teachers, step-fathers, fathers, the mother’s boyfriends, their own young adult boyfriends, and others. Boys are using this method more and more.

The antisocial child or teen lies about sex abuse as revenge for some imagined or real offense or slight.
The adult who angered the youngster may have done something that is considered perfectly normal, like scolding the child for lying, coming in late or catching him or her with a cigarette. Both boys and girls may be jealous of mother’s time spent with a new boyfriend or husband and/or resent a step-parent coming into the family and trying to help the mother with discipline.

The antisocial juvenile and his parents often lie about sex abuse for the purpose of gaining money from lawsuits, after the accused person is convicted or takes a plea bargain.

Back to the story about Julie and Jenny:
Making the false allegations

On Monday afternoon, Jenny and Julie went to the police station where they explained to the officer at the desk that the new high school coach made them have sex with him in his office.

Jenny spoke first,“He said he wanted to talk to me in his office. I thought he, ya know, wanted a student aide or something. Then, the first thing I knew, I said,“Yes,” and we were, like, having sex. I’m only fifteen. Isn’t that, like, against the law?”

The cop said,“It sure is. If you agreed to have sex with him, it’s called “statutory rape.”

At that point, Julie chimed in,“And, ya know, he did the same thing to me, last week. I was, like, afraid to say anything, until Jenny told me yesterday that he did it to her.”

Antisocial children will sometimes gang up, and back each other in false allegations of sex abuse.
There is a whole subculture of older children and teens who understand all about making false allegations of child sex abuse.
Sometimes, juveniles who do not have a known history of antisocial behavior will make false allegations with one who does, to be accepted. The “good” juvenile will sometimes recant.
Teens with any antisocial traits cannot be considered credible witnesses for each other.
The antisocial child lies about sex abuse because he wants to feel unique, and it is unique and exciting to be the accuser in a sex abuse case.
The antisocial child lies about sex abuse because he craves to be #1, and ruining someone’s life is like murder, the #1 crime.
To the antisocial child, the legal proceedings that follow false allegations of sex abuse are exciting and fun. He enjoys manipulating all of the adults involved.
The antisocial child loves the feeling of power this gives him or her.
The antisocial child takes pride in testifying believably in court.
After the accused is convicted, the child may even celebrate.
Lawsuits are often filed shortly after the person is convicted or takes a plea bargain.
Melissa Spinner

Dover, NH

#31 Feb 16, 2006
In every state there are innocent people sitting in jails and prisons because of lying, antisocial children who falsely claimed sex abuse.
Many people were released from death row and prison in the last few years, because DNA tests proved them innocent. That brings up the logical question of how many other innocent people are on death row and in the general population of jails and prisons, but there was no DNA involved?

The Innocence Project, which is the organization responsible for freeing the above prisoners, gives a conservative estimate: 10% of all people in prison are innocent. That means that10% of all people in prison on child sex abuse charges are innocent people who were falsely accused of child sex abuse.
These days, many innocent people accept plea bargains, and no one knows how many of them there are.
Many innocent people cannot afford a private attorney, and public defenders and court appointed attorneys almost always lose.

There must be DNA proof, credible witnesses, or a confession, before anyone should be charged with the crime of child sex abuse.
If a person who is accused of child sex abuse says he is innocent, and there is neither DNA evidence nor credible witnesses, the justice system and all other interested professionals simply MUST listen.

Back to the story about Jenny and Julie: The real victim

After Julie and Jenny made their allegations, one legal step followed another, and the coach was indicted for two counts of statutory rape. The story hit the news, and the coach was put on leave of absence. Thirteen terrifying months later, he was convicted and sent to prison for twenty-five years. Afterwards, Julie's and Jenny's parents sued the school system, and the school board settled with each of the families for $250,000. The coach's wife divorced him and left town with their two children.

Our justice system used to be based on:

An accused person is innocent until proven guilty.
It is better to let ten guilty people go, than to incarcerate one innocent person.

The child abuse hysteria of the last twenty-five years has turned that around. When you combine the hysteria with wide-spread ignorance about the lying behaviors of antisocial children, you're not looking at justice, any more. It's all about prosecutors winning easy cases.
Caseworkers, police, prosecutors, judges, juries, and gullible mental health professionals who believe lying children against responsible adults are the real child abusers.
When all these people believe a lying antisocial child's false allegations, they are rewarding irresponsible behavior and making his antisocial traits worse. This can be irreparably damaging to the child, psychologically and emotionally.

It's time to understand that antisocial
children and teens lie about sex abuse!
Melissa Spinner

Dover, NH

#32 Feb 16, 2006
The professionals involved:

The child service agencies policy is: Always believe the child! They carry this false premise to extremes, and often hold onto the belief even after someone has been acquitted, or a case is dismissed! This policy is terrible for the lying children! It reinforces every antisocial characteristic they ever had, and may cause more to develop. The child service agencies often place juveniles who make false allegations of child sex abuse into a sex abuse victim's therapy group BEFORE a trial has even taken place. These therapy groups teach the juvenile the appropriate language to use in court, and make them comfortable, using it in public. The groups support the juveniles lies.

Police and prosecutors used to investigate both sides of a case very carefully, in a real effort to find the truth. Now, prosecutors just want to win, and so, the police often never investigate the innocent, falsely accused person's side, or do only a cursory investigation, at best. People falsely accused of child sex abuse are treated very poorly by many police, as if they were guilty. The facts that (a) there are no exculpatory evidence or credible witnesses,(b) there are flaws in the child's story,(c) the accused person vigorously insists that he is innocent, and (d) the accusers have a history of lying, are disregarded.

Many criminal defense attorneys do not usually know how to handle false allegations of child sex abuse cases, and often lose, as a result. They treat these cases the same way that they treat criminal cases, and the approach is very different for defending innocent people. It is more in-depth and more pro-active, with more work required of the defense attorney.

Mental health professionals like to say that these lying youngsters have antisocial characteristics because they were sexually abused, but they were usually exhibiting at least some of the characteristics, and were liars, before they were supposedly abused and made the false allegations. So, when mental health professionals counsel these lying juveniles, they are, in fact, playing the game, reinforcing every antisocial characteristic the child had, which can cause more to develop.
Melissa Spinner

Dover, NH

#33 Feb 16, 2006
Elaine Lehman is a former teacher from Baltimore, Maryland, with nearly 20 years of teaching experience with all ages, including adults.

Bob is a former rocket engine engineer, who worked for 21 years on the Delta Satellite Program at Cape Canaveral before he and Elaine started their two schools for antisocial teens, in 1977. After the schools closed in 1983, Bob became an airplane mechanic, and did that work from 1983 until 9/11, which cut jobs for airplane mechanics, dramatically.

1977–1983, Elaine and her husband, Bob Lehman, co-founded and directed two schools for antisocial teens. Elaine and Bob developed their own successful courses of study.

The Lehman's two schools ended up with a documented 100% success rate of the graduates, and an 80% success rate of those who did not complete the program.(See “Baltimore Sun” and Carroll County Times, MD, feature articles on our website.)

1989 -1992, Bob and Elaine Lehman co-founded a state-wide organization in Oregon, aimed at getting the broad, vague child abuse laws changed to clear, specific laws. BUST also exposed the many dreadful problems of the child service division.

“BUST, Break Up System’s Troubles,” ended up with 500 members, state-wide. As a result of BUST, the Oregon state legislature had a $200,000 study done, and the study group wrote a scathing report that said all of the same things the Lehmans had said. The legislature changed some of the laws, but not the right ones, due to federal funding problems, if they did.(See “Stayton Mail” article on website.)

1997, Bob and Elaine co-founded a similar national organization,“SOC, Save Our Children,” which quickly led to their radio show.

1997 - 1999, Bob and Elaine co-hosted their own radio show,“The Save Our Children Show,” which was simulcast on two 50,000 watt stations in Providence, RI, and Phoenix, AZ. The show was all about antisocial children and teens, and included many shows about false allegations of child sex abuse.

1999, Bob and Elaine Lehman were professional “expert” guests on two national TV talk shows,“The LEEZA Show” and “The QUEEN LATIFAH Show.” Both shows were about discipline and antisocial children. Elaine has also appeared on several local radio shows and TV shows, and she and Bob have given lectures to community groups about antisocial behavior in juveniles.

1995 - 1996 - The couple co-authored two published books, Petey, the Peacock Breaks a Leg, Winston-Derek Pub. Co., Nashville, TN, 1995, and “BIG K, the Kundalini Story.” Hara Publishing Group, Seattle, Washington, 1996.

1978 – Present - The couple co-published a newsprint periodical in Oregon, and several international newsletters. These publications were all about antisocial juveniles and false allegations of child abuse.(See “Newsletters” on our website.)

2001 – Present, Bob Lehman’s son, Craig Lehman, created and maintains a website, www.beanswers.com There are several categories about antisocial juveniles, the FAST, False Allegations Solutions Team, false allegations of sex abuse, and more.

2004 - Present: Bob and Elaine Lehman co-founded, and Elaine directs, the “FAST, False Allegations Solutions Team,” an international, email support group for people who have been falsely accused of child sex abuse. FAST is also working toward getting some laws changed that are exacerbating the situation.

NOTE: Elaine and Bob used the educational approach toward antisocial juveniles that Dr. Stanton E. Samenow developed from his landmark study,“The Criminal Personality”(In 3 volumes), Jason Aronson, New York, Vol I – 1976, Volume II – 1977, Volume III - 1986.

Dr. Samenow is the nation's leading criminologist, has been a professional friend of the Lehmans since 1982, and has contributed several articles to their newsletters.(See “Newsletters” on our website.)
Melissa Spinner

Dover, NH

#34 Feb 16, 2006
Lest we forget...
Taken from the web site of Eric Harris,
one of the Columbine High School killers:

“I am the law. If you don’t like it, you die. God, I can’t wait until I can kill some of you people. I’ll just go to some downtown area in some big city and blow up and shoot everything I can. Feel no remorse, no sense of shame. I live in Denver, and I would love to kill almost all of its residents. You all better hide in your houses, because I’m coming for everyone soon, and I will be armed to the teeth and I will shoot to kill and I will kill everything. I will rig up explosives all over town and detonate every one of them at will...all I want to do is kill and injure as many of you as I can!”
Melissa Spinner

Dover, NH

#35 Feb 16, 2006
Dealing with the real victim's old, stored negative emotions.

The real victim in a false allegation case,

is the falsely accused, innocent adult!

By Elaine Lehman

ELAINE: My best advice to all falsely accused, innocent people is to get LOUD about what happened to you. Join FAST! Be open and up front about your case. Be willing to tell your story to the media, using your real names. Stand up for what you believe in, and help get the laws and attitudes changed that allow so many of these false allegation cases.

Thank God we live in a country in which we can legally
fight within the law, to get laws changed!

Nothing will change until YOU, the victims of false allegations, stand up and fight back!

Notice that the parents of really abused and/or murdered children often DO fight back,
and they successfully get laws changed!

Megan's Law is the result of the work of an angry parent of a raped and murdered child.

There is a better solution for protecting the public from real sexual predators
than the sex offender registry.(See article on our website.)

Laws are changed by the people with the most passion about them.
People are MORE likely to believe that someone is innocent, if he lets the world know what happened to him, than if he did nothing and continued to try to put it behind him. Innocent people are angry at the terrible injustice done to them, and they express their anger constructively, in some way, instead of taking it out on the people around them.

Even the law enforcement people, prosecutors and judges begin to believe someone is innocent who is expressing, verbally or in writing, his feelings about what was done to him.

My Husband and I are not going to give up! We will continue to scream his story and his Innocence until he is a free man.
Melissa Spinner

Dover, NH

#36 Feb 16, 2006
Hey Victim,
Will you take a lie detecter test? I will pay for it.
Melissa Spinner

Dover, NH

#37 Feb 16, 2006
This new lie, the one about the 6 year old bla bla bla and the bath and bla bla bla.. well, that is not what the paperwork I have says. Nope it clearly states that you Cathy claimed your first husband did the same things you now claim your second husband did, also in the middle of a divorce and in fact you filed an ex-parte motion to stop your first husbands visitation immediatly, yup I have it right here and just double checked because I wanted to be sure and its right there in black and white,your handwriting. I compared it to the false police report you wrote in Feb of 2005, you know the one when you lied yet again and had Don thrown in Jail for calling and threatening you the day your divorce became final, Remember? We proved you lied yet again and it all got thrown out.
New Idea

Farmington, ME

#38 Feb 26, 2006

Somedays you win and some days you lose. Learn to accept the things that you can't change. You are not smarter than the collective jury. Get over yourself.
Another juror

Roslindale, MA

#39 Mar 2, 2006
I just want to make it clear that under no circumstances did the jury ever feel as if Judge Coffey was asleep during this trial. She did close her eyes from time to time, however, never missed a beat as to what was going on in the courtroom.
I would also like to address the victim in this case. I pray for you from time to time hoping that you can put this all behind you and that you can go on with your life. Your story was from your heart and we felt that you were being honest. Justice was served. God Bless.
Melissa Spinner

Dover, NH

#40 Mar 3, 2006
The Jury in our case
1)Did not have all the facts before
2)Are a bunch of idiots

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