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seekerofthetruth

Saint Albans, WV

#1 Sep 6, 2013
it has came to the attention of my wife and i that a group of students at hamlin high school, were attempting to honor a student that had passed away,(the method is irrelevant), and they were met with a barrage of resistance. i am taking this matter personally, because on 15 dec 2012, we lost our 21 year old son to suicide. i am certain that the family of this young man is devastated enough, without having to endure this callous and ridiculous act by the principal of this establishment. if these students did refuse to comply with some orders given, that is not anarchy. they are children, their brains are not developed enough to decipher exactly what is happening. we as adults and professionals are trained to intervene, and if we are not my question is did the school board have counselors on hand for these youths? and i don't mean the school counselor! this was a human life, i don't care what kind of life he led, he was loved and is missed. i am sure that a simple ceremony for this young man will not harm this learning institution. there is a stigma attached to suicide, our sons passing was not even mentioned in his old high school news paper. but others that perished in car accidents were there. this is the time for these students to organize ( with the help of a leader ) and do not minimize the impact this has had on their lives. we miss our son every day, a scent can have an effect, i won't watch a race ( we watched them every weekend), i can't eat a bowl of potato soup,(i made it for us every weekend). i ask you jeff midkiff, help these students cope. try to empathize. parents of these children i charge you GET INVOLVED, HELP YOUR CHILDERN !!!!! they miss their friend, allow them to honor this young man. to Blakes family, my heart goes out to you, you are in my prayers. that is the only way i have made it through. Gods love is truly great. message me here if you wish to talk. i am calling this community to action. lets show our children how much we love them. God bless you.
Sorry

Saint Albans, WV

#2 Sep 7, 2013
Sir, I am very sorry about the loss of your son. It is a tragedy and I pray for your healing. However, the facts the public have been given are inaccurate. The school does take the matter very seriously and the administration never said they could not memorialize Blake. This school has suffered a student death every year it has been open. These students and faculty members all know about grief. They grieve all the time. The administration agreed to a memorial. The students typically initiate this sort of thing. At the time of Blake's passing, another administrator was in charge. He is the one that did not immediately put something up. The current administrator agreed to do something, but the kids wanted to make a scene. The rumors spreading like wildfire about this are completely inaccurate and unfair.
seekerofthetruth wrote:
it has came to the attention of my wife and i that a group of students at hamlin high school, were attempting to honor a student that had passed away,(the method is irrelevant), and they were met with a barrage of resistance. i am taking this matter personally, because on 15 dec 2012, we lost our 21 year old son to suicide. i am certain that the family of this young man is devastated enough, without having to endure this callous and ridiculous act by the principal of this establishment. if these students did refuse to comply with some orders given, that is not anarchy. they are children, their brains are not developed enough to decipher exactly what is happening. we as adults and professionals are trained to intervene, and if we are not my question is did the school board have counselors on hand for these youths? and i don't mean the school counselor! this was a human life, i don't care what kind of life he led, he was loved and is missed. i am sure that a simple ceremony for this young man will not harm this learning institution. there is a stigma attached to suicide, our sons passing was not even mentioned in his old high school news paper. but others that perished in car accidents were there. this is the time for these students to organize ( with the help of a leader ) and do not minimize the impact this has had on their lives. we miss our son every day, a scent can have an effect, i won't watch a race ( we watched them every weekend), i can't eat a bowl of potato soup,(i made it for us every weekend). i ask you jeff midkiff, help these students cope. try to empathize. parents of these children i charge you GET INVOLVED, HELP YOUR CHILDERN !!!!! they miss their friend, allow them to honor this young man. to Blakes family, my heart goes out to you, you are in my prayers. that is the only way i have made it through. Gods love is truly great. message me here if you wish to talk. i am calling this community to action. lets show our children how much we love them. God bless you.
Anthony

Alexandria, VA

#3 Sep 7, 2013
This is typical LC. People speaking before they know what the facts are. I am sorry for any loss but the students must comply with the rules. If not they should suffer the consequences.
seekerofthetruth

Belle, WV

#4 Sep 7, 2013
first, to sorry. thank you for your condolences, second the picture posted displayed students in a seated position, not a position of aggression, third, anthony. i am not in or from LC, so leave the typical out. i guess the news failed to report the facts. how is the this helping these students. why don't you check the facts ? we know a student who was involved in this peaceful demonstration. and have you ever been affected by suicide ?
seekerofthetruth

Belle, WV

#5 Sep 7, 2013
I want to know why the school administration has so failed to make a public comment on this matter. I want to know where the parents of these children are at. Why do we not have more posts. Remember people we are dealing with children. I will admit to all of you that, for ten years I had a very specific job in the military, I was very good at it, I separated in the mid nineties, and I am now really suffering the effects of what I was praised for being able to do. I am an adult. Every image of the carnage that I witnessed, and created has been replaced by the image of my lifeless son. I don't sleep, I don't really want to eat. Sometimes I just want to give up. But I pray, I pray a lot. I feel so bad for the family of this young man, and his friends. Please help these young people, maybe they did go about things the wrong way, they are children. Help them, show them the right way. Don't punish them and push them aside, they are crying for help, not trying to make trouble. They need us to show them the way. Let's all put Blake first and honor this young man. I am sure if you were to look into his parents eyes, your heart would change. Because my wife and I know her pain, his dad probably tried to be her rock, but you can't do that long, I know, I tried. I have lost my best friend. I wish I would have gotten to meet Blake. And I know our son has met Blake in heaven, our sons name is Timmy.
seekerofthetruth

Belle, WV

#6 Sep 7, 2013
Person who responded as (sorry), I am truly interested in what the truth may be, you failed to expand on it, so please do so. If we are wrong open our eyes.
Mingo Mama

Charleston, WV

#7 Sep 8, 2013
I am not from Lincoln County, so I don't have a dog in this fight but I will say that I am proud of these students for standing up for their deceased friend. We have become a nation of "silent folk", who see something wrong but are too timid to speak up. These kids will never be the ones to witness something like the Sandusky rape that took place at Penn State and do nothing. These students will never be the silent ones like the students at Steubenville High, who witnessed the rape of a young lady, but did nothing to prevent it, only laughing about the cell phone pics, texted around. The students at Lincoln High are doing what they believe is right and I hope that the adults will put aside their agenda of punishment and realize that these students are still grieving. They never had a chance to grieve as a school, so since another student has died, use this time to honor both lives lost.
seekerofthetruth

Saint Albans, WV

#8 Sep 8, 2013
we are organizing a peaceful demonstration near LCHS on Thursday. we will be standing for the students rights to a memorial ceremony for Blake Austin Dunlap, and to address the bullying that still exists at this school. we urge all parents, family and friends of any one who attends this school to show up, and show this county that THIS WILL NOT BE TOLERATED !!!! as this is a new school year, we have had parents tell us that their children are being harassed. this is at all schools. it needs to stop. if we adults will not act, who will? i will tell you. it is the child who has had enough, and will either hurt or kill them self, or not only that but try to take as many others with them as they can. we are not immune to the incidents that have happened else where, it just hasn't gone that far yet. help your child, and while you are at it help your neighbors. i have learned a lot about Blake in three days, i wish i would have gotten to meet him while we were fishing. we don't need this to happen.we are all Gods creations, lets do as he wants us to. John 3:16
waitingtillallfa ctsareout

Charleston, WV

#9 Sep 9, 2013
seekerofthetruth: First of all, I am truley sorry for your loss and as a Father, I can't imagine the pain you have experienced. I am curious if you are not from the area, why you would want to organize a peaceful demonstration at the school. There are facts out there that have not been released. the young man in question passed away his sophomore year and from my understanding, the students are always welcome to organize some type of memorial. Also, the young man will have a chair at graduation and there will be a cap and gown in his honor as they do for all students that have passed. I understand and believe in the right to voice your opinion but Please let the local folks that it is affecting work this out. I do agree with the point that the school administration should have a spokesperson on the matter but again let them work it out.
seekerofthetruth

Saint Albans, WV

#10 Sep 9, 2013
waiting, thank you for your sympathy. and yes the pain is the worst i have ever been through, i was shot in central america, and was in the desert for three years. i had one specific job in the military and i was good. but all of that does not compare to finding our son lifeless, and with all the training i have had i couldn't help. i am from southern wv, not lincoln co. but your facts are wrong. these students were not allowed to honor Blake, the administration admitted that. there are several questions about Blakes death that are unanswered. in speaking with these people, and the fact that i am a certified accident, and crime scene investigator i have questions. i no longer am involved in law enforcement. the stress was too much and i had to leave it. as far as the "local folks" they are the ones wanting help, because they are not getting it locally ! it is their children who made the noise, to attract the attention, to get the help. you seem to me the one that lives in your little bubble, and are content to watch from inside, because it doesn't effect you. then why does the greatest nation in the world AMERICA, stick its nose in other nations business? why am i involved? these children, our schools, America, all need help. and help starts at home. the bullying must stop!
Concerned

Man, WV

#11 Sep 9, 2013
seekerofthetruth wrote:
waiting, thank you for your sympathy. and yes the pain is the worst i have ever been through, i was shot in central america, and was in the desert for three years. i had one specific job in the military and i was good. but all of that does not compare to finding our son lifeless, and with all the training i have had i couldn't help. i am from southern wv, not lincoln co. but your facts are wrong. these students were not allowed to honor Blake, the administration admitted that. there are several questions about Blakes death that are unanswered. in speaking with these people, and the fact that i am a certified accident, and crime scene investigator i have questions. i no longer am involved in law enforcement. the stress was too much and i had to leave it. as far as the "local folks" they are the ones wanting help, because they are not getting it locally ! it is their children who made the noise, to attract the attention, to get the help. you seem to me the one that lives in your little bubble, and are content to watch from inside, because it doesn't effect you. then why does the greatest nation in the world AMERICA, stick its nose in other nations business? why am i involved? these children, our schools, America, all need help. and help starts at home. the bullying must stop!
I am one to say I think you are right. I have a child close to me in this fight and from what she tells me, the students want and need this.
The school system like the county system takes the easy way out. Especially when the political party may be degraded some way or another.
Politics here mean more than anything and that includes the children.
I spoke with the Lincoln Journal and was told the Board of Education informed him that it wasn't gonna amount to much. I told him otherwise because the children want this.
From my understanding the children are facing from suspension to expulsion and some won't be able to go to Prom or Graduation. Does that sound like a fine support group to you for our children's health?
rights

Hamlin, WV

#12 Sep 9, 2013
MY SON WAS BULLY LAST YEAR AT LCHC.IT WENT ON FOR MONTH'S MY SON TOLD ON THEM IT GOT SO BAD HE REFUSE TO GO TO SCHOOL OVER THIS , I WENT TO THAT SCHOOL AT THAT TIME MR DORSEY WAS THE ONE I HAD TO TALK TO HE PROIMSE ME IT WOULD STOP .BUT IT DIDN'TSTOP IT WENT ON FOR A COUPLE MORE WEEK'S MY SON TOOK ALL HE .CAN HANDLE THAT DAY THAT BOY STARTED ON HIM. A FIGHT BROKE OUT MY SON COME HOME WITH A LETTER THAT WERE GOING TO FILE CHARGES ON HIM .FOR STAND UP TO THAT KID THAT STARTED THIS BULLYING MY SON GOT A BROKEN HAND OVER THIS. AFTER THAT DAY THAT KID NEVER BOTHER HIM AGAIN , THE BULLING MUST STOP U ALL JUST DONT KNOW WHAT THESE KID'S GOES THREW WHEN THEY ARE BEENING BULLING I KNOW I SEEN MY SON GO THREW IT
seekerofthetruth

Saint Albans, WV

#13 Sep 9, 2013
concerned, and rights: i appreciate your input, it is valuable, and you speak from experience. please do not take me out of context, i am not advocating anarchy. i am stating as simply as i can. if we do not stop sitting on our rear ends and do nothing but complain to whom ever we may be speaking with, this problem will never go away! it is going to take action. this means endless messages, letters, phone calls to those in local, state, and federal government. do Americans not realize how much money (our tax money), goes to other countries to develop and build and rebuild their cities and homes? but what happens in this nation? we piss and cry, we complain for a spell and then we forget it. while every day a child some where is contemplating suicide. make our elected officials and the parents of bullies and abusers responsible. put their little butt in baby jail, and let them face an officer like i was, they will think twice next time. come out support these children and Blake.
Mingo Mama

Charleston, WV

#14 Sep 9, 2013
On the evening news tonight, there was video, shot by WCHS-TV of the students standing on the side of the road, with their protest signs. It stated that the school is not going to add a memorial for Blake, and to get around this, the school is going to remove ALL of the memorials for deceased students, from the trophy case. Who in the world are these spineless, cruel people that would even consider doing such a foul thing as to remove a memorial, just because they refuse to include someone that they felt was not deserving? I am just shocked and now I am guess maybe the state needs to take over Lincoln County Schools again, like they did a few years back, because there is ZERO leadership there. My heart goes out to any & every student who has to attend that school, knowing that the administration could care less about their feelings and basic human decency.
waitingtillallfa ctsareout

Charleston, WV

#15 Sep 10, 2013
seekerofthetruth: I do appreciate your service and we probably have similar backgrounds as I currently have over 17 years LE experience. I have the certifications you speak of but I'm not sure what that has to do with this situation. As your LE experience should have taught you, you look at both sides and figure the truth is somewhere in the middle. You have approximately 20 students that protested while the other 700 + are choosing not to. they remember the banners that were created for this student and all students and staff had opportunity to sign and leave messages. this is what the students wanted. As far as the memorial that got removed, it is a county policy that no long term memorial is allowed for any student. The memorial that was removed was from a student that passed away a few years ago and his football jersey was put in by fellow students in the football case. The high school staff left it up but were forced to remove because of current situation. Don't blame the Principle or staff at LCHS. These are good people who have a job of educating our kids. If you are truley a seeker of the truth, then wait for all info to come out or better yet, go to a school board meeting and ask questions instead of asking kids to once again miss school. Our kids should know to stand up for thier beliefs but we as parents should also value the classroom time they need and they have other avenues to voice thier opinions. if you actually believe what you stated in your first post, that these kids brains are not fully developed and they shouldnt have to deal with these types of issues, then send a message to them about staying in school and you as the adults should take up this cause for them. I assure you I don't live in a bubble. My career, like yours, has given me plenty of life experience that i hope and pray these kids dont have to see so lets keep them in school and hopefully they can better themselves and will be equipped to stand up for thier kids when they are in school. Lastly, I will speak my mind and always have since i have that right as an American. Don't make this more than it is. When we are talking about kids and schools, please dont start mixing in world issues. I for one agree with you that our country sticks in nose where it doesnt belong and we have to many issues here, but don't turn this issue into a forum about all of our personal issues with how things are going overseas. We need to stick to the subject.
seekerofthetruth

Saint Albans, WV

#16 Sep 10, 2013
waiting, thank you for your LE service. LE as well as any other public service are not appreciated until situations are at their worst. we all are suffering the effects of our "chosen" careers far after we leave them. and i can only speak for my self, my service was a personal hope to make a difference. i try to speak with and thank every LE officer i contact, and i pray for them all. because you as well as i know what they are experiencing. i do not want in any way to turn this memorial into a social media battle. that does nothing but stain the memory of Blake. i did call for parents to support their children, children to follow the rules, and be peaceful. and yes it is a biological fact that the human brain is not fully developed until our mid 20s. and you are correct, the parents are the ones who will make the change. we all know that political corruption is rampant, and very hard to fight. the family of Blake have asked some very valid questions, and why some circumstances are fishy. i do want to see everyone get the justice they deserve, however until people provide answers a lot of grey area remains. we also still have the harshest of facts, there are children every where whose parents just don't care. we didn't seek this cause out, someone contacted us. and we are keeping an open mind. lastly i will still maintain my stand that help starts at home. that means americans for americans.
Mingo Mama

Charleston, WV

#17 Sep 10, 2013
Since there are people on this forum that knew Blake, what is the REAL reason, for not honoring him with a memorial? I have been told it was because his death was a suicide. I was also told that there was an issue about the fact that he was gay and his death was the result of bullying. Is that the reason that the school does not want a memorial to him?
The truth

Charleston, WV

#18 Sep 10, 2013
Ok,Blake was loved by many. But saying he wasn't treated the same as the other children at the school that has passed isn't true.They let the kids put pictures and poster boards up of Blake . They even let them sale braclets and T-shirts In his memory . They also had a moment of silence for him . And also the school did not say they wasn't having him a chair for graduation . They will have him and the other kids that has passed a chair . Ppl talk before they know the truth and that's how all this got started its very sad .
Let this Drop

Brooklyn, NY

#19 Sep 10, 2013
These kids are stirring up drama for the family of Blake. I wish they would have let them grieve without kicking a hornets nest. The people causing this drama are doing it for selfish reasons. This is disrespectful to take a young man's passing, and make it all about themselves. They were overheard saying they wanted to get in trouble. They thrive on drama. Other kids in the community are saying the only reason these students started this was to start drama and get attention. That's sad when most of the teenagers feel that the teens responsible have ulterior motives.
seekerofthetruth

Saint Albans, WV

#20 Sep 10, 2013
thank you every one of for your input. as someone who has lost a child to suicide, i know what feelings this is stirring for them. i hope this isn't all a ruse perpetrated by some kids who have an agenda or vendetta against this school. as i stated earlier we were contacted because we have recently lost a son to suicide, we have researched and contacted agencies to assist loved ones with their grief, not for legal reasons. the reason for this will come to light, and if it is because of a bunch of kids creating controversy, then i will be the first one to demand their expulsion. yes they think as kids and do not consider the end result, but wisdom comes through learning. i fully support Blakes family in their quest, it is second to the school issue. so do not put this family through any more grief. be a supporter not an agitator.

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