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GOOD MAN

Elizabethtown, KY

#1 Feb 18, 2013
Why is it so hard to try to do the right things in life, the best of your ability, but yet your still not good enough for them!! think you have great sexual connections and treat them like a queen and still want another man????
wife

Elizabethtown, KY

#2 Feb 19, 2013
I am sorry that you are having to deal with lying and possible infidelity from your wife. I could never do that to my husband! I feel that if you don' t want to give everything to the relationship that you have then you need to get going on. There is no need to hurt someone.
kuntrygirl

Elizabethtown, KY

#3 Feb 19, 2013
GOOD MAN wrote:
Why is it so hard to try to do the right things in life, the best of your ability, but yet your still not good enough for them!! think you have great sexual connections and treat them like a queen and still want another man????
You can't base a marriage on great sex alone! she probably got bored that happens to the best of us.
Banker

Brandenburg, KY

#5 Feb 19, 2013
GOOD MAN wrote:
Why is it so hard to try to do the right things in life, the best of your ability, but yet your still not good enough for them!! think you have great sexual connections and treat them like a queen and still want another man????
You have a lien on your Wive? Just pay it off.
Fett

Glasgow, KY

#6 Feb 19, 2013
When mine lied to me I had to look really hard at why. It was me not that she should have done what she done but I hurt her. We are past it all now and stronger for it but in my case the problem was me, I had to change somethings about myself admit to my own faults and weaknesses she did the same in turn. Not saying your situation is the same but it never hurts to look at yourself objectively. In some cases its just the person lyings personality you can't change it in which case its not your fault at all and you deserve better. Good luck

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#7 Feb 19, 2013
Fett wrote:
When mine lied to me I had to look really hard at why. It was me not that she should have done what she done but I hurt her. We are past it all now and stronger for it but in my case the problem was me, I had to change somethings about myself admit to my own faults and weaknesses she did the same in turn. Not saying your situation is the same but it never hurts to look at yourself objectively. In some cases its just the person lyings personality you can't change it in which case its not your fault at all and you deserve better. Good luck
It is never ok to cheat, and you should never feel like its your fault regardless. That's just an excuse, she should have been trying to talk with you to let you know how she was feeling. If your having problems, that doesn't give your spouse the right to step out. I just don't understand how some people think cheating is alright if it's for the "right" reason. There is never a right reason. If you're unhappy in a marriage, and you have tried and tried to fix it, LEAVE. I'm glad you could forgive her, but I bet a day don't go by, where you wonder who that is calling, where is she really going, is she really happy, did I do something wrong....
KingOfQueens

United States

#8 Feb 24, 2013
Why do men always say they do everything right sex was great it was never enough.... It was obviously good enough when you met her. Relationships are work and hard work that takes 2 people who wants the relationship as much as the other. And often one stops trying. They dont communicate anymore and they end up seeking it in the first person that gives them what they are lacking at home. To noones fault this happens. If your spouse asks you to see their side them maybe take step back and think about it. If you decide to blow them off and turn your head you really cant expect them to keep seeking something thats not mutual. Great sex chemistry is always a plus in a relationship but its not what women think as important as men. Women sometimes tend to need more. Affection, someone to talk, or be there when they need them. Men think its atleast in the top 4 ranking of a relationship. Cheating is never acceptable! But make sure your spouse was actually cheating dont assume cause later on you may find out you were wrong and missed out on a great life companion. If its fixable fix it! If they were cheating move on! Only the heart knows what the heart wants. But there are good women out there!!
Brian

Scottsdale, AZ

#9 Feb 24, 2013
Stay away from Kentucky women, they are all sluts
Lady Hawk

Leitchfield, KY

#10 Feb 24, 2013
You all "assume" this person who posted is married.Or that they they have a committed relationship. This poster did NOT state those facts. Don't assume..!!

And to "Good Man" you'll discover, if you haven't yet, relationships that last are about oh so much more than sexual connections. It is not about the great sex only that makes a relationship good or bad. Although thats a plus. It IS about whether or not that other person has "compassion" or not.

Compassion means you can't stand to see that your loved one feels bad. There is a failure of compassion when you or they become resentful, angry, or abusive. You have to remove the focus from her & put it squarely on you.

You have to re-connect with "your" core values. IF you re-connect with your own core values, you will naturally,forcefully, and "compassionately" demand value & respect from from your partner. Your compassionate demand for change is likely to be the "only thing' that will will once again motivate her to be the person you committed to. But whether or not she changes, YOU must connect with your enormous inner value, resources, and personal power so you can stop walking on eggshells (trying to please her) & so you can emerge as the richly creative, beautiful whole person you truly are.

The true issue at stake i is YOUR core value (the most important things about you as a person), not her behavior or reaction to it. The focus should not be you as a "victim" or the bad things that have happened to you.The most important thing is your own core values, your inherent strength, talents, skills, and power as a unique ever growing, competent, & compassionate person.

You want to "outgrow" this sort of walking on eggshells (to please someone else existence) not simply survive it, and you do that by.....realizing your fullest value as a person.
whatnew

United States

#11 Mar 18, 2013
My just lev me to go have fun for some time thin calls wanting me back
kuntrygirl

Elizabethtown, KY

#12 Mar 19, 2013
Brian wrote:
Stay away from Kentucky women, they are all sluts
says YOU? all of us arent, you must have gotten stuck by a ky girl. lol
geez

United States

#13 Mar 19, 2013
THere she is again, you say the word slut and Kuntrygirl appears, it's like slut magic.
kuntrygirl

Elizabethtown, KY

#14 Mar 19, 2013
geez wrote:
THere she is again, you say the word slut and Kuntrygirl appears, it's like slut magic.
YOUR MEAN!! hateful and nobody likes you, leave!! i was just merely commenting on a bitter screwed over person, stop insulting ky women , we are no different than your tennessee ho's. You just upset cause you probably got used like i said, if you don't like ky stay the hel- in tennessee redneck!!
kuntrygirl

Elizabethtown, KY

#15 Mar 19, 2013
Brian wrote:
Stay away from Kentucky women, they are all sluts
THIS GOES FOR YOU TOO!!
YOUR MEAN!! hateful and nobody likes you, leave!! i was just merely commenting on a bitter screwed over person, stop insulting ky women , we are no different than your tennessee ho's. You just upset cause you probably got used like i said, if you don't like ky stay the hel- in tennessee redneck!!
kuntrygirl

Elizabethtown, KY

#16 Mar 19, 2013
or stay in arizona if thats where you from!!
Geez

United States

#17 Mar 19, 2013
OMG..Oh I'm sorry. Only YOU are allowed to comment on each and every post like a little tramp. Do your parents know you are on here? Since you didn't pay attention in school it's "You're".
kuntrygirl

Elizabethtown, KY

#18 Mar 19, 2013
Geez wrote:
OMG..Oh I'm sorry. Only YOU are allowed to comment on each and every post like a little tramp. Do your parents know you are on here? Since you didn't pay attention in school it's "You're".
I know how to spell it nerd. I graduated college unlike you. My parents, good grief dude im 40 years old, I think if i wanna play here I can!! we just dont need rude ass remarks from people like you!! your momma is really proud huh? I don't stoop to levels as hateful people and I will not repsond to anymore of it! people like you bring others down. have a nice day!!
Geez

United States

#19 Mar 19, 2013
I love how it's ok for you to be rude. One..went to college. Two...not a dude. Yes, my mom is proud because I don't get on topix and talk the way you do. Stop and read through your comments some time. You degrade yourself by talking cheap. I'm sorry you don't value yourself. Go show your comments to your mother, I hope she would be horrified. Act like a lady.
kuntrygirl

Elizabethtown, KY

#20 Mar 19, 2013
Geez wrote:
I love how it's ok for you to be rude. One..went to college. Two...not a dude. Yes, my mom is proud because I don't get on topix and talk the way you do. Stop and read through your comments some time. You degrade yourself by talking cheap. I'm sorry you don't value yourself. Go show your comments to your mother, I hope she would be horrified. Act like a lady.
am more lady than you will ever have!!! trust me!!
Hello

United States

#21 Mar 19, 2013
Nope, I've seen your posts. I feel sad for you and your pretend life, do something better then teasing men on topix. It's gross.

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