Male doctor and your wife

[countrygirl]

suggestion wrote:

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Express yourself in a more dignified way.

nah, its a waste of time to try and be dignified on this site!! lol I will save that for the rest of the things in life!! just putting it bluntly, you have to for most on here, they don't understand ENGLISH!! lol You have to speak in dumb for alot of them to comprehend!!

[I are]

Twang wrote:

It doesn't matter what you think. Your wife needs to go to an OBGYN that they feel comfortable with. If they feel more comfortable with a female so be it.

Doesn't matter what I think? Glad my wife does care about how I feel. Otherwise might as well get a divorce. I just don't see how you think it isn't wrong. Someone said they seen them all so has Hugh Hefner but that doesn't qualify him people have been brainwashed into thinking this is normal, but it is clearly wrong why does it have to be justified and defended if nothing wrong with it?

[Mandy]

They are doctor's, not Hugh Hefner. Very different situations. So would you never see a woman doctor then? What if it was an emergency & a man was the only person available? You really need to get your priorities straight. The care the doctor gives is what is important, not the gender of the doctor.

[Yess]

I are wrote:

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Doesn't matter what I think? Glad my wife does care about how I feel. Otherwise might as well get a divorce. I just don't see how you think it isn't wrong. Someone said they seen them all so has Hugh Hefner but that doesn't qualify him people have been brainwashed into thinking this is normal, but it is clearly wrong why does it have to be justified and defended if nothing wrong with it?

I Agree with you 100%! And I think it would be wrong for a women to not take her husbands feelings about it in account when choosing a doctor! If your husband doesn't care then go for whoever you want. But if your husband feels uncomfortable with it why would you ignore his feelings?! Find the best woman obgyn and goto her!

[Just info]

I think your wife needs to be where she is comfortable. If being comfortable for her means taking into consideration your feelings about her choice in MD so be it. But you both should know that there is always the possibility that she will be seen by a male MD if she has to go into the hospital (for labor or emergency). All physicians have other physicians that cover days for them if they are on vacation or whatever.

[Mandy]

I would never marry a man who felt uncomfortable with me seeing a male doctor in the first place. Obviously there are some issues that any man who thinks like that needs to have worked out. They do not look at you like someone they meet on the street or someplace. You are a patient. That is how they see you are are they to either treat a problem or do a check up. Grow up.

[countrygirl]

Mandy wrote:

I would never marry a man who felt uncomfortable with me seeing a male doctor in the first place. Obviously there are some issues that any man who thinks like that needs to have worked out. They do not look at you like someone they meet on the street or someplace. You are a patient. That is how they see you are are they to either treat a problem or do a check up. Grow up.

Yeah big issues, its either called deranged or messed up or a little off in the head, maybe jealousy issues? wow this guy is whacked. If i was married to him I would wait till the day comes for him to have his first colonoscopy and cut a fit cause the dr will look at his azz. LOL what a weirdo.

[Butterfly]

For legal reasons.. Any male doctor doing that type of exam HAS to have a female nurse or assistant in the room too.. Unfortunately idiots thinking doctors are screwing around have caused such unnecessary ruckus and frivolous lawsuits.. Doctors have to protect themselves too....

[yeah right]

Mandy wrote:

I would never marry a man who felt uncomfortable with me seeing a male doctor in the first place. Obviously there are some issues that any man who thinks like that needs to have worked out. They do not look at you like someone they meet on the street or someplace. You are a patient. That is how they see you are are they to either treat a problem or do a check up. Grow up.

i would never marry a woman that was not willing to lose the doctor rather than myself either, i suppose those male docs never have any lustful thoughts, and i suppose the females never do either, and that they dont come home to their spouse and picture what went on that day?

[great point]

Butterfly wrote:

For legal reasons.. Any male doctor doing that type of exam HAS to have a female nurse or assistant in the room too.. Unfortunately idiots thinking doctors are screwing around have caused such unnecessary ruckus and frivolous lawsuits.. Doctors have to protect themselves too....

Yes, the nurse always over my husband standing there-- I don't know if my doctor would have ever allowed that. I can't imagine even thinking of the possibility. Abnormal. Someone who has these ideas must be a sicko sex fein. YUK.

[james4-17]

Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth it not, to him it is sin.

[reason]

JoshuaM wrote:

My wife is seen by Dr. Hamilton at Etown physicians for women... I have gone with her for every appointment during her pregnancies.. He has never done or said anything out of way or even the least bit unprofessional, so it doesnt bother me at all...according to my wife she prefers him over his female associates because he is more "gentle".. Lol

why more gentle - the sexual nature of the exam

[reason]

Mandy wrote:

This has to be the stupidest thread I have ever seen! My husband could care less if my doctor is a man. He cares that I am getting the best treatment & that I am comfortable with who I am seeing. I'm sure to most of them, all the private areas start to look alike after a while. They are not there for a thrill. Every doctor whether they are a man or a woman will always have a nurse right there to watch what they are doing anyway. I have never taken my husband with me for just a regular Pap test, but he has went with me for my preganancy visits. I don't see how anyone could say that its not right to bring your husband to your doctor visit.

not stupid to me
why doesnt he care?
look alike? men are visual driven creatures!
if no thrill then why are they doing it? its not as though they were forced into the profession.
having someone else in the room is not the issue.
bet he wasnt allowed to go in on the first visit was he?
agreed, husband should see what is happening to his wife and be there for her.

what if the tables were turned and your husband performed the same 'exam' on another woman, would you be comfortable with that? should sexual contact be exclusive between a couple or are you ok with him performing explicit 'exams' on another woman? im not to sure you ladies understand what we men see when we see the exam and what it looks like to us.
also i would like to point out that i didnt have to resort to name calling in order to make my points, and to call someone 'stupid', or tell them they need to grow up because their opinion is not the same as yours is the real childishness. you would not lay the same condemnation on someone with a fear of heights, rollercoasters, water, whatever the case maybe unless you were as unempathetic to them as you have been with me.

[JoshuaM]

reason wrote:

<quoted text>why more gentle - the sexual nature of the exam

there is no sexual nature... Wtf? I was referring to just the overall gentleness that is involved in the checking of the uterus/cervix, and that according to my wife, male doctors aren't as "rough" as female doctors...

[Chilled]

I are wrote:

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Doesn't matter what I think? Glad my wife does care about how I feel. Otherwise might as well get a divorce. I just don't see how you think it isn't wrong. Someone said they seen them all so has Hugh Hefner but that doesn't qualify him people have been brainwashed into thinking this is normal, but it is clearly wrong why does it have to be justified and defended if nothing wrong with it?

.

So you'd rather you're wife go to a female that she's uncomfortable with than a male that she's very comfortable with?

[meaning]

Chilled wrote:

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So you'd rather you're wife go to a female that she's uncomfortable with than a male that she's very comfortable with?

what makes you automatically assume she would be more comfortable with a male? i ran across this blog with interesting insight:

http://patientprivacyreview.blogspot.com/2010...

please check it out, this is not an isolated issue or case.

[meaning]

JoshuaM wrote:

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there is no sexual nature... Wtf? I was referring to just the overall gentleness that is involved in the checking of the uterus/cervix, and that according to my wife, male doctors aren't as "rough" as female doctors...

how did this information help you and what adjustments in your life did you make as a result of it?

[STUNNED]

hey 'DON'T BUY IT' You should just examine her and make sure she is ok. If she dies of cancer or ever has a tubal pregnancy, I'm sure you will have taken all precautions. If she goes into menopause and gets real pissed off because she isn't controlling her estrogene and blows your ass off...I gues you will have done a thorough exam! An exam shouldn't bother you, the DR (male or female) is not LUSTING for your wife, they are caring for your wife. There is a difference. It may be uncomfortable for you to watch, but think how uncomfortable it is for your wife...she doens't like being poked and proded at but she is doing this so she can be healthy to care for her family....sorry you feel that way. My husband never cared a rats ass about me going to the dr or what they did to me but when I mentioned there was a concern of cancer...he went with me and didn't care what they did to me, just that I could come home and be with him and the family. He knew there was a medical need to be handled. I really hope you view this differently. Mrs. Cancer 2011:(

[JoshuaM]

meaning wrote:

<quoted text>how did this information help you and what adjustments in your life did you make as a result of it?

I don't think I'm following you here... I've gone to all of these appointments with her( per her request) and have seen first hand what the doctor does in these examinations... There is nothing sexual to it... Just health

[Idiot Sighting]

I are wrote:

Just wondering if it bothers you to have your wife seen by a male obgyn doctor, and if it does not bother you, are you familiar with what kind of examination they do, or have you ever gone with her and seen it?

Well, I'm gonna jump in here and reply that if you're worried about that little old hole thing that much, then you would freak out over a birth of a child. You better be wearing protection is all I'm gonna say. Seriously, are you all that uptight about an examination and that possessive over her "thang"? You're a little warped if no one ever bothered to tell you. You just ain't quite right.