cheating- please read and give me your input

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Feb 18, 2013
 
So I find that my husband is messing around on me with a married woman. First I say something to him about it but of corse he lies about it. So I went and got myself a P.I. I have all kinds of proof now and I have ask my husband for a divorce. Then when I start to read some of the stuff that my husband and his married miss dress was talking about, I read where she tells him that she is going to kick my butt. To me this is crazy. I have not done anything to her. I have not said or even look at her.
When I talk to my P.I. about this married miss dress he tells me we should send her husband a copy of everything. But I don't want to break the husband's heart like mine has been broken by my cheating spouse. So I just leave it be.
A a few days later my soon to be x-husband's (because of the miss dresses drama) x- best friend shows up at my front door telling me that the married missdresses husband has texted him wanting to know the truth and wanted to talk to me. At first I said no. I just did not want to get in the drama of this woman. But then she went and once again started cussing me in a text that she sent to my soon to be x-husbands cell phone. So I called the husband and told him what I knew and told him because of my P.I. I had proof of it all. But before I could offer to send it to him she found out who he was talking to and starting acting like some pre-teen girl.
So what I am looking for by telling you all this is what should I do? Should I find away to seed the husband a copy of everything my P.I. Got for me or should I just let him believe the lies she had told him. And by the way from what the husband did have to tell me, this is how he got her. She was married when they started talking and she left her husband and went and got married to the guy she is cheating on my husband with.
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Feb 19, 2013
 
Just worry about your own situation first. If he asks you what evidence you have, then offer to provide it, but don't go seeking him out to give him the proof.

You are rightly getting yourself out of the marriage. Even though he knows his wife is cheating, he may still want to stay married to her. Your proof might be something he simply doesn't want. So don't go offering it to him because his wife will be angry at you for creating trouble.
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Feb 19, 2013
 
I am very sorry & I have to say I agree with "Dr. Phil". This woman sounds like a piece of work & I would want nothing to do with her. Her husband took her from a married man so chances are he might stay & not care, who knows & who cares. Go on with your life, pick yourself up & DIVORCE him soon! Take him for everything you can considering what he has done to you. And if you have proof all the better!
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Feb 19, 2013
 
Would this home wreckers name happen to be joy Reynolds? This is her lifes story. Having affairs with married men then acting like an innocent victim.
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As a husband who has been cheated on, I'd want to know. If he doesn't know that his wife was cheating with your ex, he should. If he chooses to stay with her after that, then so be it as it is his choice.

I know for me, someone I thought was a good friend knew of what my wife was up to and they did not come tell me. I will never forgive my "friend" for that. I would want to know.

So I say TELL HIM!!
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Feb 19, 2013
 
Sweetheart420 wrote:
So I find that my husband is messing around on me with a married woman. First I say something to him about it but of corse he lies about it. So I went and got myself a P.I. I have all kinds of proof now and I have ask my husband for a divorce. Then when I start to read some of the stuff that my husband and his married miss dress was talking about, I read where she tells him that she is going to kick my butt. To me this is crazy. I have not done anything to her. I have not said or even look at her.
When I talk to my P.I. about this married miss dress he tells me we should send her husband a copy of everything. But I don't want to break the husband's heart like mine has been broken by my cheating spouse. So I just leave it be.
A a few days later my soon to be x-husband's (because of the miss dresses drama) x- best friend shows up at my front door telling me that the married missdresses husband has texted him wanting to know the truth and wanted to talk to me. At first I said no. I just did not want to get in the drama of this woman. But then she went and once again started cussing me in a text that she sent to my soon to be x-husbands cell phone. So I called the husband and told him what I knew and told him because of my P.I. I had proof of it all. But before I could offer to send it to him she found out who he was talking to and starting acting like some pre-teen girl.
So what I am looking for by telling you all this is what should I do? Should I find away to seed the husband a copy of everything my P.I. Got for me or should I just let him believe the lies she had told him. And by the way from what the husband did have to tell me, this is how he got her. She was married when they started talking and she left her husband and went and got married to the guy she is cheating on my husband with.
You get him the pictures, he deserves to know, whats good for the goose is good for the gander then he can deal with it how he chooses, I would't let her by with it so she can keep busting up peoples homes and marriages. There are words and other things for women like that. They disgust me to say the least!
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Feb 19, 2013
 

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You best be telling him everything..
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I'd tell the husband, I am sure it's not her first time having an affair.
Does her name start with a D?
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I wouldn't send him anything. You have been through so much hurt and betrayal that you need to focus on yourself and your marriage if u can forgive him. People tell you to go tell the guy but why put any more stress upon yourself. She the mistress needs to deal with her husband and her actions. Your home and security was taken from you. Like I said focus on what goes on in your house behind closed doors from here on out and f her. Divorce is sad and everyone makes mistakes. Maybe you can possibly forgive him. God bless sweetheart.
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oh my wrote:
Would this home wreckers name happen to be joy Reynolds? This is her lifes story. Having affairs with married men then acting like an innocent victim.
Lmao! As I was reading this I also wondered if Joy was at it again! Karma has to catch up eventually to all the Joy's of the world.

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Sweetheart sorry this happen to you! If the other guy wants to pay half of PI bill give him copy. Take your trash (ex-husband) to street and enjoy your life with out that baggage. He was intimated by you and that's why he found a lower life person to make her feel intimated by him. Girl put your smile on and from this moment on, do not allow that trash to consume one second of your time. Good Luck and have fun! XO
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How do u know he was intimidated. One mistake doesn't make somebody a bad person
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Just follow your own heart and do what u think is best for you.

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jsjsjsj wrote:
How do u know he was intimidated. One mistake doesn't make somebody a bad person
were in my statement did I call him a bad person?

intimidate implies inducing fear or a sense of inferiority into another
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Feb 19, 2013
 
I know what it means. I was asking how do you know she was inferior over him. It doesn't matter she is the only one who knows what her next step is.

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Feb 19, 2013
 
jsjsjsj wrote:
I know what it means. I was asking how do you know she was inferior over him. It doesn't matter she is the only one who knows what her next step is.
Are you the cheating husband?
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Lol no. Promise. I just hate for divorce to happen if there may be a chance to reconcile. Temptations r hard and sometimes we fall to them and don't realize what we had until its gone. I wish her the best and wanted her to do what makes her happy.

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In the know wrote:
As a husband who has been cheated on, I'd want to know. If he doesn't know that his wife was cheating with your ex, he should. If he chooses to stay with her after that, then so be it as it is his choice.
I know for me, someone I thought was a good friend knew of what my wife was up to and they did not come tell me. I will never forgive my "friend" for that. I would want to know.
So I say TELL HIM!!
Well hell I to am the odd man out in this same senario reversed. it's been 7-8 yrs since I tolerated the untolerable longer than I should've ever allowed. Reading this was like...move over Bill Murray there's no lock on Ground Hog Day! Throw him 2 those he's choosen, bcuz every choice 4 them was against you. Let any & every1 know he & she for the LYING CHEATING SKANKS AS they have proven themselves. Provide the proof 2 him, her, his family, her family. Then NEVER LOOK BACK. Trust you can never go back...it's gone. What was will never be. Reveal in the better days to come.
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jsjsjsj wrote:
How do u know he was intimidated. One mistake doesn't make somebody a bad person
It's not Chinese Arithmetic....One mistake my ass. Each & every time they lie...put another ahead of family, lie...choose to shacked up vs be with family, lie...looking you str8 in the eye that reveals a heart breaking and denying everything, lie...after lie, after lie...!!!

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