What are men really looking for?

What are men really looking for?

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Since: Mar 13

Hodgenville, KY

#1 Mar 11, 2013
I always thought that most men had no problem with casual relationships, with no expectation of commitment. So why do they seem to have a problem when it is the woman who is only looking for a casual relationship? I'm not interested in a commitment but do enjoy meeting people and going out but men nowadays seem to want more and get their feelings hurt when I don't. Very confusing.
aaa

Cleveland, GA

#2 Mar 11, 2013
It is really confusing. Now I am actually looking for a relationship, so I don't know exactly how it feels for you. But, even if I make it very clear that I am looking for the real thing and I don't sleep around or have sex on the first date or anything like that (not saying there's anything wrong with that, its just not for me), the guys I talk to keep pushing for that and it's so rude and degrading. Its like they don't listen to anything I say! And I think its a double standard. They want to slept around and do whatever but still be with the "good", cute innocent girls that are either virgins IR have only slept with 1 or 2 guys. And that's dumb because those aren't the girls who usually want a casual relationship. Its more experienced girls that want that. But oh no, those girls are sluts. Its so freaking stupid.

Since: Mar 13

United States

#3 Mar 12, 2013
LOL, you're finding the men I want and I'm finding the men you want
kuntrygirl

Elizabethtown, KY

#4 Mar 12, 2013
Realistic48 wrote:
I always thought that most men had no problem with casual relationships, with no expectation of commitment. So why do they seem to have a problem when it is the woman who is only looking for a casual relationship? I'm not interested in a commitment but do enjoy meeting people and going out but men nowadays seem to want more and get their feelings hurt when I don't. Very confusing.
SOme tend to be very confused about what they want, I don't think most of them even know. I knkow they all want the great sex they crave but alot of them want more than that and I think they are just afraid of opening themselves up for more in fear of being hurt or mistreated as they have been in the past. If your honest with what you want up fron then they shouldn't have any further questions. they may try to change your mind on what you want but hey who isn't up for more sometimes?? Just be honest, im sure they will respect you for that much, most women lie too much!! Ive found being honest up front is the best policy! Good luck ladies.
JustLooking

United States

#5 Mar 12, 2013
I'm a male, been single for 3 years. The women I've dated are either bitter women who do nothing but talk about how they've been wronged or they are a bit too easy and sleep around and have been labeled sluts. Today's world has changed. It's not like our parents. People will do whatever they THINK the other person wants them to do. Unless they're younger. And younger folks don't rep sect Alex nowadays at all. They will sleep with damned near anyone. That's a big issue.
If you want a FWB, do one of those Internet sites, adultfriendfinder. I've heard of people using it. Don't know if they were being honest but have told me they've gotten partners from the site.
Good luck and be careful.
fyi

Elizabethtown, KY

#6 Mar 12, 2013
Men have three settings: horny, hungry, or tired. That's it. If they tell you they want anything else it's just a ruse to fat into your panties or a sandwich.
fyi

Elizabethtown, KY

#7 Mar 12, 2013
Fat = get. I really hate this phone.
JustLookin

United States

#8 Mar 12, 2013
fyi wrote:
Men have three settings: horny, hungry, or tired. That's it. If they tell you they want anything else it's just a ruse to fat into your panties or a sandwich.
This is pretty much fact. And there are those nice guys that are just left behind and never get fuckedorfed. Lol it's a fact!!
kuntrygirl

Elizabethtown, KY

#9 Mar 12, 2013
fyi wrote:
Men have three settings: horny, hungry, or tired. That's it. If they tell you they want anything else it's just a ruse to fat into your panties or a sandwich.
LOL OH SO TRUE!! you forgot the sports or tv watching mode too. lmao
aaa

Cleveland, GA

#10 Mar 12, 2013
kuntrygirl wrote:
<quoted text> SOme tend to be very confused about what they want, I don't think most of them even know. I knkow they all want the great sex they crave but alot of them want more than that and I think they are just afraid of opening themselves up for more in fear of being hurt or mistreated as they have been in the past. If your honest with what you want up fron then they shouldn't have any further questions. they may try to change your mind on what you want but hey who isn't up for more sometimes?? Just be honest, im sure they will respect you for that much, most women lie too much!! Ive found being honest up front is the best policy! Good luck ladies.
I appreciate what you have to say! I am an extremely honest person and I'm always up front about what I want and what I will and will not do. I still get really disrespected by the guide that I have met. Its frustrating. I get tires of guys who lie about wanting a relationship or love or whatever just to get sex. Why waste the time when there are women out there who want that stuff like the original posts?
tank full

Trinity, TX

#12 Mar 12, 2013
kuntrygirl wrote:
<quoted text> SOme tend to be very confused about what they want, I don't think most of them even know. I knkow they all want the great sex they crave but alot of them want more than that and I think they are just afraid of opening themselves up for more in fear of being hurt or mistreated as they have been in the past. If your honest with what you want up fron then they shouldn't have any further questions. they may try to change your mind on what you want but hey who isn't up for more sometimes?? Just be honest, im sure they will respect you for that much, most women lie too much!! Ive found being honest up front is the best policy! Good luck ladies.
I like you Kuntrygirl. You are a realist. You dont live in the fantasy world like most women do and expect men to give you a fantasy world relationship. I have read some of your things you have replied to in the past and youre always the same. Keep it up girl theres a man out there that will really appreciate a woman like you.

Since: Mar 13

United States

#13 Mar 13, 2013
I am up front with what I want and the guy usually says that's what he wants too but then changes midstream.
kuntrygirl

Elizabethtown, KY

#14 Mar 13, 2013
tank full wrote:
<quoted text>
I like you Kuntrygirl. You are a realist. You dont live in the fantasy world like most women do and expect men to give you a fantasy world relationship. I have read some of your things you have replied to in the past and youre always the same. Keep it up girl theres a man out there that will really appreciate a woman like you.
You have no idea, I guess im about as real as they come. People who live in fantasy worlds are often let down easily and ready to give up on what they consider the perfect mate or relationship. you have to be real, otherwise you just set yourself up for failure! these women who think they will find a PERFECT man are sadly mistaken, we all have downfalls and we are all human we all make mistakes! there is no perfect man, perfect woman, or perfect relationship, its mostly trial and error and alot of forgivness!!
believe a cracker

Grapeland, TX

#15 Mar 13, 2013
kuntrygirl wrote:
<quoted text> LOL OH SO TRUE!! you forgot the sports or tv watching mode too. lmao
thats not true, i dont feel like im like that?
nevermind, i just asked the wife. she said you girls forgot two.....drunk and grumpy.
kuntrygirl

Elizabethtown, KY

#16 Mar 13, 2013
believe a cracker wrote:
<quoted text>thats not true, i dont feel like im like that?
nevermind, i just asked the wife. she said you girls forgot two.....drunk and grumpy.
LOL the grumpy falls in line with the tired!! she is correct though!!
believe a cracker

Grapeland, TX

#17 Mar 13, 2013
Realistic48 wrote:
LOL, you're finding the men I want and I'm finding the men you want
not true. you both are finding the same man that wants to "conquer" every female he comes in contact with. its just a piece of tail,no matter how you flip it. if you settle in with the next guy that "falls in love" with you because of your awesome vagina,you will quickly realize that you will be replaced once conquered completely ( he wants you,because he cant have you). you know that....thats why you are scared to commit. thats realistic.
all of this younger generation is fascinated about what they cant have! when you cant have it,it drives most of you insane! do yourselves a favor.....when a guy sweats you too much because you threw your "golden vagina" on him, dont read too much into it.....he has personal issues,and has little too do with anything you did.
been there done that

Elizabethtown, KY

#18 Mar 13, 2013
Men want what isn't available. If they have a no strings attached relationship they want commitment. If they have commitment they want a no strings attached ordeal. Now adays they want both. Sadly this is women too. That's y it's so confusing. It's hard to get on the same page.
believe a cracker

Grapeland, TX

#19 Mar 13, 2013
been there done that wrote:
Men want what isn't available. If they have a no strings attached relationship they want commitment. If they have commitment they want a no strings attached ordeal. Now adays they want both. Sadly this is women too. That's y it's so confusing. It's hard to get on the same page.
i agree. it reminds me of when my kids were babies,and they cried for the pacifier,but quickly spit it out again once they had it. id give it back, then they would throw it onto the floor and cry again!:)
if i had it to do over, id would throw that damn thing out the car window.
do you understand my logic?
kuntrygirl

Elizabethtown, KY

#20 Mar 13, 2013
believe a cracker wrote:
<quoted text>i agree. it reminds me of when my kids were babies,and they cried for the pacifier,but quickly spit it out again once they had it. id give it back, then they would throw it onto the floor and cry again!:)
if i had it to do over, id would throw that damn thing out the car window.
do you understand my logic?
really boils down to never knowing what real love is.... if you really love someone you don't get bored with them or you don't want another relationship! today its just bouncing around seeing if you can get what you already know you shouldn't have!!
HA HA

Lena, IL

#21 Mar 13, 2013
Truth.. Guys in there 20's have no clue what they want-- so you are screwed there. Guys in there 30's SHOULD have a clear vision of what they want-- it just depends on there character if they can stay faithful to that. But when we hit 40 we just want to get laid twice a week, good cheese with our sammichs, a 12 pack in the fridge. A cool ol lady who only offers there love and friendship. And ABSOLUTELY NO drama to come through our doors after working all day and all week. When we hit 40 we either want to be single OR have our best friend be our significant other.

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