Christmas depression
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cheerless

Richlands, VA

#1 Dec 11, 2012
This is suppose to be the most wonderful time of the year, but gosh it can seem so depressing. Anyone else having problems or worries this Christmas?
Job Assistance

Frankfort, KY

#2 Dec 11, 2012
I think many of us do.

However, if you feel blue because of job related issues, I might be able to help. I am looking for someone in the Grundy area who can assist with Empower. It's a social support network.

If interested, send email to [email protected]

Best Wishes!
agrees

Grundy, VA

#3 Dec 11, 2012
cheerless wrote:
This is suppose to be the most wonderful time of the year, but gosh it can seem so depressing. Anyone else having problems or worries this Christmas?
This I agree with. Too many pressures and too much money that has to be spent. Very depressed, too. Could be because we don't have enough sunshine in our lives right now. Can't wait until summer.
cheerless

Richlands, VA

#4 Dec 11, 2012
Too many years to count, I put up the trees for everybody in the family that had a tree. And did their outside decorating.Yet every single year I caught h*ll for so much as hanging a decoration on my own door or putting lights outside. Said I was trying to dress it up like a big shot but that my house was too poor a shape so it looked stupid. Got made fun of for giving out so many Christmas cards every year and only getting 3 or 4 in return. I stopped sending them. I did all the shopping for every family member. I would take their lists and their money and go pick out, pay for, take home, wrap and deliver every single present on their lists for each other. Then the year came that a person liked the gift I got for a relative and asked about it. This relative said right in front of me "You know if she bought it it didn't cost over 4 or 5 dollars". That hurt, but was nothing compared to the Christmas I tried to give a gift to three different people and had them all refuse it! Every single one said "oh you can sell that and get YOU some money". I've not bought a single gift since in about 8 years. I've given money. This year I don't think I can afford to do that so I've been trying online to find gifts but everytime I get started on Walmart, Kmart or any other website..I'm ready to throw up within 5 minutes..this is the worst worst feeling....
All I know is
#5 Dec 11, 2012
If people are that ungratefull then screw em I wont get em shit.
Frosty

Wayland, KY

#6 Dec 11, 2012
cheerless wrote:
Too many years to count, I put up the trees for everybody in the family that had a tree. And did their outside decorating.Yet every single year I caught h*ll for so much as hanging a decoration on my own door or putting lights outside. Said I was trying to dress it up like a big shot but that my house was too poor a shape so it looked stupid. Got made fun of for giving out so many Christmas cards every year and only getting 3 or 4 in return. I stopped sending them. I did all the shopping for every family member. I would take their lists and their money and go pick out, pay for, take home, wrap and deliver every single present on their lists for each other. Then the year came that a person liked the gift I got for a relative and asked about it. This relative said right in front of me "You know if she bought it it didn't cost over 4 or 5 dollars". That hurt, but was nothing compared to the Christmas I tried to give a gift to three different people and had them all refuse it! Every single one said "oh you can sell that and get YOU some money". I've not bought a single gift since in about 8 years. I've given money. This year I don't think I can afford to do that so I've been trying online to find gifts but everytime I get started on Walmart, Kmart or any other website..I'm ready to throw up within 5 minutes..this is the worst worst feeling....
Put up your tree and let everyone else take care of their own if they're able, decorate your house the way YOU like it, buy something nice for yourself, and just wish that bunch of ungrateful people a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year and leave it at that. As Dr. Phil says, "People treat us the way we teach them to treat us." As long as you make a doormat out of yourself for these people, they will continue to wipe their feet on you.
I know what you mean about the Christmas cards. A person gets tired of sending them every year when they never hear from these people in return.
Depressed

Grundy, VA

#7 Dec 11, 2012
I feel so all alone and sad at christmas because so many of my family members have passed on. I go through the motions with sadness because so much of the love and the good times went with them.
Empower

Grundy, VA

#8 Dec 11, 2012
Well it is about high time you get over it. Life goes on. So stop living in the past and start concentrating on the present. Stop crying over spilled milk. Stop making everybody else that is still with you miserable because you refuse to move on. Make the best of what you have and can control and change, and let things go that you have no power over and can't change.
Frosty

Wayland, KY

#9 Dec 11, 2012
Depressed wrote:
I feel so all alone and sad at christmas because so many of my family members have passed on. I go through the motions with sadness because so much of the love and the good times went with them.
Would you have wanted your family members to be sad and depressed and not enjoy Christmas if you were the one who was gone? Of course you wouldn't want that. Cherish the memories you have of your deceased loved ones, but make new happy memories with those you still have in your life.
All I know is
#10 Dec 12, 2012
Well said Frosty !!
cheerless

Richlands, VA

#11 Dec 12, 2012
I condensed about 27 years worth into 16 lines and completely missed the point of my CURRENT problem...

With the economy a mess and money more scarce than ever..Would it be acceptable to go back to buying gifts for these difficult people(in an effort to cut down the Christmas expense) or should I continue giving cash as I have for the last 8 years even if it bankrupts me?

Any of you ever switched from Cash to Gift? and Did it go well?
Empower

Grundy, VA

#12 Dec 12, 2012
You people don't seem to know that you do have an on and off switch that you need to learn how to turn off and on. Learn how to cope and use the switch. Control your emotions. Have mercy on South West Va. You all have never even heard of learning coping mechanisms to deal with rejection, and constructive criticism, grief and anger.
seriously

Richlands, VA

#13 Dec 12, 2012
Empower wrote:
You people don't seem to know that you do have an on and off switch that you need to learn how to turn off and on. Learn how to cope and use the switch. Control your emotions. Have mercy on South West Va. You all have never even heard of learning coping mechanisms to deal with rejection, and constructive criticism, grief and anger.
Maybe you've never heard that one good way to cope with problems is to talk them out. Looks like they're doing just that. Get over yourself.
Empower

Grundy, VA

#14 Dec 12, 2012
I am not here to get over myself. I am on here to try and help you ignorant SW Virginias. I am about to hang it up as a hopeless cause. You should be able to get over this garbage yourself without dwelling on it for years . Have you all actually been taking about this for years? You all say it has been making you depressed for years or either you have been angry for years. Shut your mouth and be quiet and put ypur thinking cap on. Get over it. Evidently talking hasn't helped any of you a bit.
seriously

Richlands, VA

#15 Dec 12, 2012
Empower wrote:
I am not here to get over myself. I am on here to try and help you ignorant SW Virginias. I am about to hang it up as a hopeless cause. You should be able to get over this garbage yourself without dwelling on it for years . Have you all actually been taking about this for years? You all say it has been making you depressed for years or either you have been angry for years. Shut your mouth and be quiet and put ypur thinking cap on. Get over it. Evidently talking hasn't helped any of you a bit.
Do you not realize where you are? This is a public forum. People don't come on these forums to shut up, you nitwit. They come here to express their thoughts and opinions. Unless you own this website, you have no right to tell others what they can and cannot discuss here.
Empower

Grundy, VA

#16 Dec 12, 2012
I was trying to help you illiterates who are making youselves miserable over nothing. You all have been talking about this thing for years. It is time to start practicing up on how to listen, try learning how to do a lot of positive thinking , forget and forgive, and start living a full happy productive life. Rather then becoming angry, why don't you try to think of something that would be positive and productive that you could do, to help somebody in need today?
seriously

Richlands, VA

#17 Dec 12, 2012
Empower wrote:
I was trying to help you illiterates who are making youselves miserable over nothing. You all have been talking about this thing for years. It is time to start practicing up on how to listen, try learning how to do a lot of positive thinking , forget and forgive, and start living a full happy productive life. Rather then becoming angry, why don't you try to think of something that would be positive and productive that you could do, to help somebody in need today?
If you checked the time of the 1st message on this thread you'd realize we haven't been talking about this thing for years. The thread was just started yesterday.
seriously

Richlands, VA

#18 Dec 12, 2012
Empower wrote:
I was trying to help you illiterates who are making youselves miserable over nothing. You all have been talking about this thing for years. It is time to start practicing up on how to listen, try learning how to do a lot of positive thinking , forget and forgive, and start living a full happy productive life. Rather then becoming angry, why don't you try to think of something that would be positive and productive that you could do, to help somebody in need today?
What positive and productive thing are you doing to help somebody in need today? other than complaining about what others are discussing on public forums.
uhhh

Pikeville, KY

#19 Dec 12, 2012
@ job assistance that wrote the second post talking about some type of program called Empower, if that is you also posting under the name Empower I don't think that your social support network is going to be very successful. This "tough love" approach for lack of a better word that this person is using is doing nothing but making people more upset.

Empower, if you were really trying to help people you wouldn't be calling them ignorant and illiterates. I don't think that anyone here in SWVA asked for your assistance. I think that you are in more need of help than the people that are talking in this forum. Try practicing what you preach, and unless you are going to be the next Doctor Phil, you need to get over yourself.
Negative People

Grundy, VA

#20 Dec 12, 2012
I read this post and then I read some of the other post on here. I do believe that you all are the most negative bunch of people that I have ever come across. No one has a descent or good thing to say about anybody or anything. Everybody is trying to tear somebody else down to their level. There are nothing but negative and argumentive post on here.Com e on people, Stop this . Cheer up. Don't you all ever have a good thought about anybody or anything? Have you all been taught to look for something bad in everybody and in everything they do? You never see the good in anything or anybody. You thrive to argue that a black sheep is white no matter what?

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