Cycle of criticism can kill a marriage

May 23, 2010 Full story: Detroit Free Press 8

If you want to kill your marriage quickly, cheat. If you want to bludgeon it to death slowly, criticize.

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Seymour

New Zealand

#1 May 23, 2010
"If you want to kill your marriage quickly, cheat."

ME. Everybody knows this is how men kill their marriages.

"If you want to bludgeon it to death slowly, criticize."

This is not not obvious to everyone, mainly because it is usually wives who do this.
Julie

Upplands-väsby, Sweden

#2 May 24, 2010
Seymour wrote:
"If you want to kill your marriage quickly, cheat."
ME. Everybody knows this is how men kill their marriages.
"If you want to bludgeon it to death slowly, criticize."
This is not not obvious to everyone, mainly because it is usually wives who do this.
Seym, get your butt in here NOW and dry these dishes.

“Rudeness is the weak man's”

Since: Nov 08

imitation of strength.

#3 May 24, 2010
People are more rude these days and their family is no exception.

We need to get back to basic manners and treating others with kindness.

If you are criticized all the time you aren't going to feel amorous no matter your gender.
Seymour

New Zealand

#4 May 25, 2010
"Bludgeon" is not the word that comes to my mind. "Pouring acid over" is a lot better!
Seymour

New Zealand

#5 May 25, 2010
Julie wrote:
<quoted text>
Seym, get your butt in here NOW and dry these dishes.
Been there, done that, dear...

“Rudeness is the weak man's”

Since: Nov 08

imitation of strength.

#6 May 25, 2010
Seymour wrote:
"Bludgeon" is not the word that comes to my mind. "Pouring acid over" is a lot better!
Ouch!

How are you doing, Seymour? I haven't seen you here as much lately. I hope things are better at home.
Hugh Mann

United States

#7 May 25, 2010
criticism can be really subtle. often the criticiser just thinks he/she is making a helpful suggestion. and if the criticisee says they are hurt, they might get criticised for being over-sensitive. i think marriages die because spouses start by hurting each other in subtle ways. and then it escalates.
anonymous

Cincinnati, OH

#8 May 25, 2010
they nag... you always this, and never that...

and nobody is NEVER ALWAYS this or NEVER that...
so your mind can think up exceptions to this and therefore says invalid inputs, and so it gets discarded along with resst of the noise....

Then THEY wonder why you aren't listening to them...

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