Family swimming in baby gifts should invest in child's future

Full story: Chicago Tribune

DEAR ABBY: I would like to offer a suggestion to "Tired Mom in the City" , whose baby's eight grandparents have overloaded the family with unneeded and redundant gifts.
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“Illegitimi non carborundum”

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Mar 26, 2009
 
All great ideas.
Daria

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Mar 26, 2009
 
My grandparents' bond gifts paid for a top-of-the-line camera for a college class. I still use it today. Many years later, I cashed the rest to help pay my rent when I was on medical leave.
Ivory Dove

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Mar 26, 2009
 
But where are the real problems?

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Mar 26, 2009
 
Ivory Dove wrote:
But where are the real problems?
{pulling up a chair..........
Here, sit down and take a load off. I can tell you some of mine..........
too old

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Mar 26, 2009
 
Love this column today... hopefully many people (grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, and friends) will take these suggestions.

My brother set up an account for my daughter and throws $10-20 a week into it for her. He'll give it to her when she turns 18 (or 21 if she's not mature enough at 18). She'll use it for education, and I know she'll appreciate it.:) I know I do!
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Mar 26, 2009
 
Kinder and Gentler Phil wrote:
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{pulling up a chair..........
Here, sit down and take a load off. I can tell you some of mine..........
Pick a category: debts and expenses, misunderstandings, demanding people and pets,
math, environment, time management or
overlapping category of more than one of the listings.
Bondsman

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Mar 26, 2009
 
I want to encourage folks to be sure they know what they're investing in before they actually put funds into it. We all have heard about the scams going on and sometimes it takes a long, long time for bonds to mature.

“Joy is the shadow cast by pain”

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Mar 26, 2009
 
These are good letters. Kids don't need "stuff" -- they need time and love.

“Joy is the shadow cast by pain”

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Mar 26, 2009
 
too old wrote:
My brother set up an account for my daughter and throws $10-20 a week into it for her. He'll give it to her when she turns 18 (or 21 if she's not mature enough at 18). She'll use it for education, and I know she'll appreciate it.:) I know I do!
Cool! I am not an aunt, but I save all my change for my friend's little boy. I haven't told her about it yet -- I'm saving it up. I also have named her and her husband as beneficiaries of my life insurance policy at work, with the intent of paying for their kid's (or, kids', if they have another child) college education.(As an aside,$10K of that money goes to the exboyfriend who agreed to take my cats if something were to happen to me.)

I haven't told them this, but it made me very happy when I decided that's what I wanted to do.

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Mar 26, 2009
 
How very modern - and ill mannered. Turn gift giving into a fund raiser...

“Nakedness reveals itself”

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Mar 26, 2009
 
KSyrahSyrah wrote:
How very modern - and ill mannered. Turn gift giving into a fund raiser...
A fund raiser?

I'm not sure a college fund plan should be categorized with the typical "fund raiser."

“An Apple a day”

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Mar 26, 2009
 
Such lovely rehashes.

“I'm in with the IN crowd”

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Mar 26, 2009
 
KSyrahSyrah wrote:
How very modern - and ill mannered. Turn gift giving into a fund raiser...
I'll keep in mind that you'd like 25 Tonka trucks for your next birthday.

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Mar 26, 2009
 
Kinder and Gentler Phil wrote:
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I'm listening....?

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A long way from here...

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Mar 26, 2009
 
Ugh.

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A long way from here...

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Mar 26, 2009
 
AngelaMN wrote:
These are good letters. Kids don't need "stuff" -- they need time and love.
True. I, however, am not a kid, and would LOVE "stuff." I will also accept cash.
too old

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Mar 26, 2009
 
AngelaMN wrote:
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Cool! I am not an aunt, but I save all my change for my friend's little boy. I haven't told her about it yet -- I'm saving it up. I also have named her and her husband as beneficiaries of my life insurance policy at work, with the intent of paying for their kid's (or, kids', if they have another child) college education.(As an aside,$10K of that money goes to the exboyfriend who agreed to take my cats if something were to happen to me.)
I haven't told them this, but it made me very happy when I decided that's what I wanted to do.
How wonderful of you! I'm sure they will appreciate the loose change, it's amazing how quickly that adds up. I collect it too, but plan to use it on a family vacation someday (my dad saved enough change to take our family of 4 to Disney for a week... surely not as noble as your intentions with the change, but still a similar goal!)

Of course, no one wants anything bad to happen to you, but it will be such a great reminder of your love for them should the worst come to be.

You have a big heart!

“Joy is the shadow cast by pain”

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Mar 26, 2009
 
too old wrote:
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How wonderful of you! I'm sure they will appreciate the loose change, it's amazing how quickly that adds up. I collect it too, but plan to use it on a family vacation someday (my dad saved enough change to take our family of 4 to Disney for a week... surely not as noble as your intentions with the change, but still a similar goal!)
Of course, no one wants anything bad to happen to you, but it will be such a great reminder of your love for them should the worst come to be.
You have a big heart!
Aw, thanks for your kind words!:) I don't have kids, and if I do have kids, things would change as far as taking care of someone else's child that way, but I'm 41, so my eggs are breathing a sigh of relief. ;)

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Mar 26, 2009
 
Misplaced Texan wrote:
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True. I, however, am not a kid, and would LOVE "stuff." I will also accept cash.
Hey! Right now it's MY turn to get stuff and cash.

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#21
Mar 26, 2009
 
IF ONLY my parents were receptive to my kids!! WAY too many times my kids approach my parents with questions about their childhoods, work, or leisure activities and all my kids get in reply is "Not now, I am busy with _____". I envy those families where grandparents embrace their grandkids with warm hugs and kisses! Countless times too, we have invited my parents to dinner early in the afternoon, only to be declined, because my mom "just took something out of the freezer". I say "save it for tomorrow and come join us tonight". "No, I don't think so" would be the reply. So much for my parents making THE effort to get to know my kids!

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