Daughter & Boyfriend
MHayes

Indianapolis, IN

#1 Dec 16, 2013
My beautiful daughter hooked up with the scum of the earth and her life is shit! The biggest problem is that she doesn't realize the truth. He lies and steals from her, from me and anyone who doesn't have their valuables locked up! She thinks he is just a pothead. No one who smokes pot is that desperate for a joint! He barely works and the what little money he does earn (when he does work)goes to pay his child support arrearage, of course! So she and I basically support him. I know that I have to cut my daughter off, stop giving her money to buy things the baby needs, stop buying her things and can't give her any nice Christmas presents because he will steal it and sell it for drug money. The lowlife even stole my shop vac, how F'd is that! What is wrong with young men these days? Then again, what is wrong with my daughter that she sells herself so short with a man who is clearly beneath her. I know that I raised her better than that. What I need is prayers. I believe in the power of prayer. Prayers not just for her to find her strengths and realize that she is better than this and can have a good life away from and without the loser, but prayers that I can be strong enough to walk away even though I know that my precious daughter and granddaughter will suffer and could even come to harm at his hands. I have to leave them in the hands of an idiot, lazy, good for nothing drug addict and hope for the best. How can I do that, how do people do that! I am in counseling because I just can't deal with it, but I need more. Can someone out there please tell me how you dealt with this kind of situation, tell me how to walk away, how do you stay strong daily?
son of sam

Indianapolis, IN

#2 Dec 16, 2013
MHayes wrote:
My beautiful daughter hooked up with the scum of the earth and her life is shit! The biggest problem is that she doesn't realize the truth. He lies and steals from her, from me and anyone who doesn't have their valuables locked up! She thinks he is just a pothead. No one who smokes pot is that desperate for a joint! He barely works and the what little money he does earn (when he does work)goes to pay his child support arrearage, of course! So she and I basically support him. I know that I have to cut my daughter off, stop giving her money to buy things the baby needs, stop buying her things and can't give her any nice Christmas presents because he will steal it and sell it for drug money. The lowlife even stole my shop vac, how F'd is that! What is wrong with young men these days? Then again, what is wrong with my daughter that she sells herself so short with a man who is clearly beneath her. I know that I raised her better than that. What I need is prayers. I believe in the power of prayer. Prayers not just for her to find her strengths and realize that she is better than this and can have a good life away from and without the loser, but prayers that I can be strong enough to walk away even though I know that my precious daughter and granddaughter will suffer and could even come to harm at his hands. I have to leave them in the hands of an idiot, lazy, good for nothing drug addict and hope for the best. How can I do that, how do people do that! I am in counseling because I just can't deal with it, but I need more. Can someone out there please tell me how you dealt with this kind of situation, tell me how to walk away, how do you stay strong daily?
My parents continue to support my brother who is 40 years old. He hasn't grown up or become responsible due to this. You've raised yours- shouldn't have to raise others. No one says you can't help out every once in a while- that's being a parent, but you can't continue to support those who will not try to support themselves. It's a lost cause until they are ready to grow up. We all go through trials and tribulations in life when a helping hand is needed, but by being a crutch will only cause the other party to become weaker overtime.

Since: Aug 12

Chicago, IL

#3 Dec 16, 2013
I'm sure the situation is painful but it's not complicated. Your daughter is an adult, and she alone will decide who she wants to be with. It sounds like she has made a poor choice. Just reinforce that as a parent the quality of life for her and her kid depend on the decisions that she makes.

Since the guy is known to be a thief let your daughter know that he is banned from your home, and if she cannot respect that then you'll have to ban her too.

Either she will get tired of struggling and move on, or she will have a hard time with life.

Since: Feb 13

Location hidden

#4 Dec 16, 2013
May God bless you. And give you the peace only he can provide. He will watch over you and guide you. Stay strong. Stay in counseling.
I remove Deadbeats

Indianapolis, IN

#5 Dec 17, 2013
I can remove him for a fee.I can tell you he won't come back around anymore.More than likely they are both doing Heroin also. It is rampant in Indianapolis now. If you don't act soon, He will more than likely have your daughter out prostituting herself in motels for his fix. Don't buy her any Christmas gifts this season.You do have to cut her off completely, Then she might say he isn't worth losing you.At the same time, You have to protect yourself, Drug addicts and the ones who can control young ladies, They can get them to do anything and even commit murder.You tell him and her, If he doesn't have a job coming the new year, Then all the freebies are cur off.She can apply for wic and food stamps if need be and even get a subsidized apt working a part time job. No reason for them to mooch off of you anymore.
MHayes

Indianapolis, IN

#6 Dec 17, 2013
Guy is a BIG MOOCH
sounds

Indianapolis, IN

#7 Dec 17, 2013
Sounds like Kim
God

Pittsburgh, PA

#8 Dec 17, 2013
MHayes wrote:
My beautiful daughter hooked up with the scum of the earth and her life is shit! The biggest problem is that she doesn't realize the truth. He lies and steals from her, from me and anyone who doesn't have their valuables locked up! She thinks he is just a pothead. No one who smokes pot is that desperate for a joint! He barely works and the what little money he does earn (when he does work)goes to pay his child support arrearage, of course! So she and I basically support him. I know that I have to cut my daughter off, stop giving her money to buy things the baby needs, stop buying her things and can't give her any nice Christmas presents because he will steal it and sell it for drug money. The lowlife even stole my shop vac, how F'd is that! What is wrong with young men these days? Then again, what is wrong with my daughter that she sells herself so short with a man who is clearly beneath her. I know that I raised her better than that. What I need is prayers. I believe in the power of prayer. Prayers not just for her to find her strengths and realize that she is better than this and can have a good life away from and without the loser, but prayers that I can be strong enough to walk away even though I know that my precious daughter and granddaughter will suffer and could even come to harm at his hands. I have to leave them in the hands of an idiot, lazy, good for nothing drug addict and hope for the best. How can I do that, how do people do that! I am in counseling because I just can't deal with it, but I need more. Can someone out there please tell me how you dealt with this kind of situation, tell me how to walk away, how do you stay strong daily?
You're correct. Prayer does work. In fact,it was I that answered your daughter's prayers. She prayed to me for months to meet a man hung like a horse. I obliged.
Just Asking

Pittsburgh, PA

#9 Dec 17, 2013
MHayes wrote:
My beautiful daughter hooked up with the scum of the earth and her life is shit! The biggest problem is that she doesn't realize the truth. He lies and steals from her, from me and anyone who doesn't have their valuables locked up! She thinks he is just a pothead. No one who smokes pot is that desperate for a joint! He barely works and the what little money he does earn (when he does work)goes to pay his child support arrearage, of course! So she and I basically support him. I know that I have to cut my daughter off, stop giving her money to buy things the baby needs, stop buying her things and can't give her any nice Christmas presents because he will steal it and sell it for drug money. The lowlife even stole my shop vac, how F'd is that! What is wrong with young men these days? Then again, what is wrong with my daughter that she sells herself so short with a man who is clearly beneath her. I know that I raised her better than that. What I need is prayers. I believe in the power of prayer. Prayers not just for her to find her strengths and realize that she is better than this and can have a good life away from and without the loser, but prayers that I can be strong enough to walk away even though I know that my precious daughter and granddaughter will suffer and could even come to harm at his hands. I have to leave them in the hands of an idiot, lazy, good for nothing drug addict and hope for the best. How can I do that, how do people do that! I am in counseling because I just can't deal with it, but I need more. Can someone out there please tell me how you dealt with this kind of situation, tell me how to walk away, how do you stay strong daily?
Does your daughter's BF own an NFL franchise? Does he try to play guitar?
Public Subsidies

Pittsburgh, PA

#10 Dec 17, 2013
MHayes wrote:
Guy is a BIG MOOCH


Definitely an NFL franchise owner.
Moe

Delaware, OH

#11 Dec 17, 2013
Duchess 29631 wrote:
May God bless you. And give you the peace only he can provide. He will watch over you and guide you. Stay strong. Stay in counseling.
good advice
Sad

Covington, VA

#12 Dec 18, 2013
Sad situation..God bless

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