How to make a marriage work?

How to make a marriage work?

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Divided

United States

#1 Dec 1, 2012
Need some suggestions
ten plus years

Brentwood, TN

#2 Dec 1, 2012
marriage is harder sometimes than a job!!!! but if the trust is there and you love them, its worth every second. what kind of issues are you having? my husband and i have been married almost 11 years and of course we have our rough patches, but every relationship married or not has those.... in the end, i will love him to the day i die and he is the same way with me. respect is a big thing in our marriage, we each show the same amount of respect to the other. i pray that whatever you are going thru, you find peace and hopefully you can save what you worked so hard for
Missy

Bowling Green, KY

#3 Dec 1, 2012
I was married for 18 years. If there is no trust it will not work. I got a divorce & that's about all I can say.
Divided

United States

#4 Dec 1, 2012
At one time my reply to me would have been the same as yours. I love him but we have drifted. There is a trust issue and lack of respect now. I want my relationship back I am just unsure of how to get there. Thank you for your well wishes by the way!
Hmm

Jonesborough, TN

#5 Dec 1, 2012
Wish I could tell you, but I wonder the same thing. I tried it once been divorced 13 years and have no desire to try again. I can agree with respect and trust.
Missy

Bowling Green, KY

#6 Dec 1, 2012
Divided wrote:
At one time my reply to me would have been the same as yours. I love him but we have drifted. There is a trust issue and lack of respect now. I want my relationship back I am just unsure of how to get there. Thank you for your well wishes by the way!
I am sorry, I wish I could help u. It will have to take both of u to make it work, u can't make someone love u remember that. We did the counseling, went to church but honestly when u start to lose that feeling nothing is ever going to make it come back unless it's wha both of u want deep down. My ex was angry for awhile, but then he started coming around & said he was sorry he failed, but honestly I failed him.

“Listen, Think, Speak.”

Since: Aug 12

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#7 Dec 1, 2012
Don't get married...that's the surest way to make it work. (-:
Divided

United States

#8 Dec 1, 2012
He loves me. I know that. We have a long history. I am not ready to give in. But I feel myself building a wall. And the wall is getting higher. I know to make it work- it needs to stop but at the same time I dont want to be hurt.
Divided

United States

#9 Dec 1, 2012
GSP_trpr wrote:
Don't get married...that's the surest way to make it work.(-:
Wont be a SECOND time for sure!
Missy

Bowling Green, KY

#10 Dec 1, 2012
History doesn't save a marriage. I was married for 18 years, with him a total of 21. No of course not no one wants to be hurt. But the longer u put off getting things right is the longer u put off one anothers happiness.
Missy

Bowling Green, KY

#11 Dec 1, 2012
I can say this, just because u can't be together as husband & wife. Not everyone ends up hating the other one like people think. He & I are better friends now, we aren't at each others throats anymore. He always calls to see if i need anything or how i'm doing. I never hated him, i just didn't love him the way a wife should love her husband. It's all about being honest as much as it hurts.
Divided

United States

#12 Dec 1, 2012
You are right! That makes sense Missy.
basically the same

Gallatin, TN

#13 Dec 1, 2012
Missy wrote:
I can say this, just because u can't be together as husband & wife. Not everyone ends up hating the other one like people think. He & I are better friends now, we aren't at each others throats anymore. He always calls to see if i need anything or how i'm doing. I never hated him, i just didn't love him the way a wife should love her husband. It's all about being honest as much as it hurts.
I am convinced that it really doesn't matter who you marry because some of the basic things are true about all men and women. Go ahead and get a divorce chances are that you will just end up with a different man or woman but with the same shortcomings. Men are basically clueless about what women really need and the same with women knowing what men need.
Missy

Bowling Green, KY

#14 Dec 1, 2012
Well I am not with anyone I can say that. If it happens it happens.
shett eater in bloodline

United States

#15 Dec 1, 2012
get a divorce
sad face

Concord, NC

#16 Dec 6, 2012
I love my husband very much and we are both trying to make it work but there are trust issues due to him cheating he did not have sex with this girl but there was kissing and texting. I am still so angry with him.
gary

Herndon, VA

#17 Dec 6, 2012
you cant trust the hos of today
Do You Think

Olathe, KS

#18 Dec 6, 2012
I got divorced after 20 years, and one of the major issues that lead to that was her constant complaining. For everyone negative thing that you say about your partner, mention 3 positive ones; always remember that there are more good things about the person you love than there are bad things.
Jake

Jonesborough, TN

#19 Dec 8, 2012
Divided wrote:
Need some suggestions
YOU dont listen to OTHER people,, follow your heart.. dont listen to friends, even family. People like to break up other people who are HAPPY, if they are NOT... Ive been married 20yrs, yes we went thru our stages,,fighting, throwing things, etc.. people who told us we wouldnt make only stayed Married a few yrs themselves. we are at 20yrs and still going... there is no such thing as a perfect marriage,, youre going to have good and bad times,,, you have to have this or it wont last.. just like you cant have good without evil. you both are two different people., COMPROMISE.

“I've Always Been This Stupid”

Since: May 12

Greeneville TN

#20 Dec 8, 2012
Jake wrote:
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YOU dont listen to OTHER people,, follow your heart.. dont listen to friends, even family. People like to break up other people who are HAPPY, if they are NOT... Ive been married 20yrs, yes we went thru our stages,,fighting, throwing things, etc.. people who told us we wouldnt make only stayed Married a few yrs themselves. we are at 20yrs and still going... there is no such thing as a perfect marriage,, youre going to have good and bad times,,, you have to have this or it wont last.. just like you cant have good without evil. you both are two different people., COMPROMISE.
So weird. I got that same thing in a fortune cookie the other day. It was a large cookie.

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