Can a man go to jail for not paying h...
LIS

Lansing, MI

#42 Jun 26, 2012
DEADBEATS NEEDS TO B N JAIL!!TO ALL THE MOTHERS WHO PLAYED MOM AN DAD GOD BLESS YOU !!!
LIS

Lansing, MI

#43 Jun 26, 2012
Ronda wrote:
If he isn't supporting his kid...send his ass to jail, it's not like he is helping you anyway. At least then you know he isn't out starting new families and leaving them with out help too. Plus...you know where to find the loser if your kid wants to see him. Hahaha!
I AGREE !
come on

United States

#44 Jul 2, 2012
Bottom line is boys be a MAN grow up and support your kids if it didn't work out with your lady to bad so sad grow a pair and be there for your kids I'm so sick of these litte boys who cry I don't have money boo hoo put the beer down work 3 jobs if u have too burger king wendy taco bell allways hiring dont cry you can't find work cause u wanna sleep in on a Monday punch of babys I'm a growna man I pay my way in life if my kid needs something it gets done period kids come first they didn't ask to be born so stop tossing them away like the beer cans around your house un real what this country has become no wonder were the joke of the world....
Unpopular Opinion

United States

#45 Jul 3, 2012
I'm over forty & used to mow yards as a little girl when I was under the age of fifteen to have money. I've done yard work, worked fast food (where I also had to mop floors & clean restrooms!), worked retail & ultimately put myself through college & graduate/professional school. I was selective with whom I jumped into bed with. If the guy didn't seem like he would be good daddy or husband material, guess what, I didn't get involved with him!

The problem with many men & women is that they have had such poor role models that they probably just don't think they can do better or might not even know better! Just because someone isn't educated doesn't mean they are inferior. When you get involved with someone look at the total package, do they take pride in their appearance? Do they have a job? If they don't have a job, why not? Do they aspire to do anything with their lives beyond laying around having someone else keep them up? Look closely at their goals in life. Do they help others or is it all about them?

Red flags which should make you run like "H" in the opposite direction: they are living off their mom/grandma/daddy, they have no job & aren't looking or trying to get training for a job, not physically clean, no car, watches a lot of tv/plays video games, not a lot of respect for others, often whines about being down and out rather than taking INITIATIVE to fix their problems!

To avoid unwanted pregnancy, try to use self-control! Wait to get to know someone a little before you do the nasty. If any of the red flags are there then RUN! If you decide to have sex, use contraception, maybe even 2 types just to be sure!!! This will help save you from either paying child support or taking care of your child on your own cause you picked a dead beat to screw & make a baby! Harsh words, but what part is bad advice?
makes no sense

Springfield, NJ

#46 Aug 28, 2012
I have two children by two different fathers. My oldest daughter's dad refuses to contribute financially because he knows his daughter is in a two income household. Basically saying its ok for another man to be financially responsible for his child. For those that think nothing will happen get real, he has no license, cannot get a tax refund, it is reported on his credit monthly and he will be going to jail shortly. All because he won't fulfill his legal responsibility of supporting his only child.
Carajo

Hoboken, NJ

#47 Sep 18, 2012
My ex old me 34,400 and he only send me $55. A week . I always took care my daughter n I still doing it. He said to everything he will put it n his family or wife name like that I don't take it all way or Childsupport.
hmmmmmmmmmmmmm

Brentwood, TN

#48 Sep 18, 2012
looking for info wrote:
Will child support services send a man to jail for not paying his child support?
my nephew went to prison for 2 years for not paying his and now is a convicted felon and cant find a job
4YourInfo

Brentwood, TN

#49 Oct 1, 2012
How about "fathers" who have a job (2nd after being fired) & will not pay for his daughter because he has to keep up all the drug abusing.ex-inmates that he has encountered.
This is the kind of TRASH that goes on.
We cannot do a DAMN thing about it until a child is HURT or KILLED!
(JUDGEMENT DAY!..if my G-Daughter!)
Why don't the COURTS & SO CALLED "JUSTICE SYSTEM"
do a PREVENTION instead of a LAST MINUTE INTERVENTION!!
I think the there should be NO TOLERENCE for children to be among a CONVICTED FELON and/or a DEAD BEAT PARENT!
Whatever

Jonesborough, TN

#50 Oct 1, 2012
They'll probably go to jail and hell.
girlWitAKid

Nebo, NC

#51 Oct 2, 2012
They all need to be locked up
this is stupid

United States

#52 Oct 3, 2012
Yes
frances fulke

Kingsport, TN

#53 Oct 19, 2012
i know a lady that has 3 child ,has a boy friend that lives with her and works , she gets help from family first, she has her sisters kids 2 and gets a check for them she has 4 childen ages 10,4,2,1, and 2of her sisters, gets food stamps, so she is living high on the hog , she gets all the above will the boy friend works and sits around , she tells everyone she don;t know were he lives and hes right there, it my taxs dollars taking care of her 6 kids. how can he get by with now paying child support? he needs to do turned it , so does she she gets over1100 dollars in food stamps. some people can get a way not working and living will his kids while our taxs dollar supports hes sorry ass. if i know who to call and turn her in i would , there more going on in that house that needs to be report.
Hmm

Jonesborough, TN

#54 Oct 19, 2012
hmmmmmmmmmmmmm wrote:
<quoted text>my nephew went to prison for 2 years for not paying his and now is a convicted felon and cant find a job
Doesn't sound like he needs one. He's not to responsible.
John

Crosby, ND

#55 Oct 21, 2012
Geez wrote:
<quoted text>
If they are not paying child support ot helping the kids out why not put them in jail. If the custodial parent doesnt buy groceries they could get charged with neglect, so my question is why dont they charge the dead-beat with neglect? They are doing the child NO good anyway. While I agree that if the non-custodial parent hits a rough spot considerations should be made, but those who show no effort constantly should have all rights such as driving yanked!


Anyone that does not pay child support should sit in jail there is jobs people that do not pay child support for there children are just LOOSERS
well

United States

#56 Oct 21, 2012
Yes. Man or woman, both. Even if it isn't ordered, u still owe!
Vulcan1333

Kingston, TN

#57 Oct 26, 2012
motherof2 wrote:
The child support division is alot better now. They have found my ex who owes me 37,000 dollars. Both of my kids r grown. My youngest almost 20. They told me if he quits his job they will put him in jail. I believe it I have seen ppl in busted for nonpayment of child support. My ex has to pay me 50 dollars a week for 14yrs. If he would of been a man when my girls were growing up child support would already b paid!!! Karma is a bitch!!!
see exactly! its women like u that put loving fathers such as myself in jail because our economy is shit and we have been laid off and put in jail. It is in no way shape or form your money so he doesnt owe'YOU"a damn thing. He is supposed to pay for the care and wellbeing of his children, not there mother and her "Habits".
Vulcan1333

Kingston, TN

#58 Oct 26, 2012
There re plenty of mothers out there who has ran off and left there children as well..Where is all the recognition and "GoodLucks" for them? Not placing all mothers in this post but merely the worthless, drug headed,neglective mothers that claim" He owes "ME". The father does not owe u a damn thing. He is only required to pay for the care an well being of his children. Not your next bottle of cheap vodka or non prescription drug of choice. Just because a man is behind on his child support does not mean he isnt trying. The way our economy has been, it may not be his fault there is no jobs out there. I love my on very much and his mother ran off from our very happy home a few mounths ago to be with a cocaine selling child rapist. DCS has told me i can not do a damn thing about it until something happenes(gets caught selling or rapes my son). They have clearly told me this word for word. What kind of child help is that? But just trying to get more people to realize that just because a father is not around or he is behind on support does not mean he is scum. The mother chose to leave yet im labeled bad guy. I was 4,000 behind and caught it up and had been paying it regularly up until August 2012. My son is 5 and has lved with me since he has been born until Aug 2012. I have been aying CS every since he has been born. Yes even though i lived in the same house as him and his mother. And i know i will never get the $ back from the CS i'd payed while my son was living under my roof. But alot of "Mothers" are so worried about gettin there CS. Again it is in no way the mothers $. But anyways sorry for my rant im just wanting people to see we are not all worthless,lazy men who do not care. Some(most) of us have just been handed a crappy hand. May not be able to find a job or the mother not lettin us see our children. Just everyone please think of this before u just assume we are all bad men. Thanks Guys :)
U-Said-It

Brentwood, TN

#59 Oct 27, 2012
Vulcan1333 wrote:
There re plenty of mothers out there who has ran off and left there children as well..Where is all the recognition and "GoodLucks" for them? Not placing all mothers in this post but merely the worthless, drug headed,neglective mothers that claim" He owes "ME". The father does not owe u a damn thing. He is only required to pay for the care an well being of his children. Not your next bottle of cheap vodka or non prescription drug of choice. Just because a man is behind on his child support does not mean he isnt trying. The way our economy has been, it may not be his fault there is no jobs out there. I love my on very much and his mother ran off from our very happy home a few mounths ago to be with a cocaine selling child rapist. DCS has told me i can not do a damn thing about it until something happenes(gets caught selling or rapes my son). They have clearly told me this word for word. What kind of child help is that? But just trying to get more people to realize that just because a father is not around or he is behind on support does not mean he is scum. The mother chose to leave yet im labeled bad guy. I was 4,000 behind and caught it up and had been paying it regularly up until August 2012. My son is 5 and has lved with me since he has been born until Aug 2012. I have been aying CS every since he has been born. Yes even though i lived in the same house as him and his mother. And i know i will never get the $ back from the CS i'd payed while my son was living under my roof. But alot of "Mothers" are so worried about gettin there CS. Again it is in no way the mothers $. But anyways sorry for my rant im just wanting people to see we are not all worthless,lazy men who do not care. Some(most) of us have just been handed a crappy hand. May not be able to find a job or the mother not lettin us see our children. Just everyone please think of this before u just assume we are all bad men. Thanks Guys :)
I agree 100%!!
I am a woman & I have to say there are some sorry so called "mothers" out there!
I believe that anyone whom is a failure as a parent
(be it male/female)should pay the price.
Children do not ask to come into this sorry world but when the ignorant, self-loving people bring them into it; they should step up & take charge of the responsibility!
(children are innocent & can't).
I personally know that all men are not bad; I found a GREAT one but it took 15yrs. after being a door mat for my first husband.
If you are a good father (sounds lke you are), don't stop trying for your children.
Fight the DEVIL if you have to.

p.s. I know what you mean about...We can't do anything until something TRAGIC happens..It's SICK!
The law & DHS should be charged with NEGLECT as well as a SORRY PARENT!
in the same boat

Brentwood, TN

#60 Oct 27, 2012
I've been reading this post for a few days now and it's time to tell my story. My husband and I married young and had a child. It wasn't until our child was 5 when other women started coming out of the woodwork claiming he fathered their kids too. Same situation for both "baby mommas". They were sleeping around with multiple guys at the same time and were unsure of who the father was. So they pinned it on, the one they wanted and got married. lied to the guys about them being the father. Few years later, after the divorce, they went after the father, whose name IS on the birth certificate for child support. After DNA test proved the father wasn't the father, they started going down the list. I'm not saying anything bad about anyone on welfare, but both moms were receiving it all to the max. After a couple of months, DHS cracked down on them to find the father and make him pay. long story short, my husband started receiving letters to have a DNA test on not one, but 2 children that were now almost teenagers that he had no clue could possibly even be his. yes, my husband wasn't perfect, he had one night stands, but was unaware either girl was pregnant or he would've stepped up long ago. So, of course, DNA said he was the father of both.(personally, I believe DHS pulls some strings on DNA tests just so they can get some one to pay because these kids look absolutely nothing like my husband, I mean not even close) so here we are years later. These women have several more kids by several different men and just sit around collecting child support. No joke, one has 6 by 6 different men and lives with a guy who is not the father of any and they have his income and child support income for 6 kids. They drive brand new cars and live in a 200,000 house. But mom still collects support and food stamps. Did I mention that my husband doesn't see the kids? Moms say that if he hadn't been there from the beginning, she doesn't need him now, just his money. So here we are, married, a child of our own and finding out about children we never knew existed. Not only is he paying current support, but back support FROM THE TIME THEY WERE BORN! yes, that's right, the state wants repaid because mothers have been on welfare since kids were born. Even if he wasn't aware they were his and other men have supported them and signed birth certificate. So here we are unable to make ends meet because half his check is garnished. Even after they turn 18, the back support is still there and in the tens of thousands. He will never get out from underneath it. I think we calculated he will pay for another 15 years AFTER they turn 18. Ridiculous. And we cannot get food stamps or any assistance to help our child. They consider gross pay, not take home pay, so we qualify for nothing. They won't take into consideration that he pays almost $1000 a month on child support. Our child does without to make sure that baby mommas car payment and cell phone bill is paid. I believe in child support, don't get me wrong. But when does it become justified to take from one child to give to another?
in the same boat

Brentwood, TN

#61 Oct 27, 2012
ok..i re-read my post and I sound like the bitter, jealous, "new-wife", which I am not. I am not against child support and believe that the father is resonsible for the child he fathered. If my life were different, and I was in a sitation where I was a single mom, damn straight I file for support. But only if the support is used in the way it is intended. Not when I see the baby momma driving a brand new Lincoln Navigator and carrying Coach bags while I can't afford school lunch for my kid. Not when the baby momma lives with her boyfriend, whom she won't marry because then they would have to include his income. He supports all her kids and her and pays all bills. She uses the child support as her play money. She uses her moms address at DHS (which is low-income housing) so she can still collect families first, food stamps, and TennCare. She won't work because it will take away from the amount that she gets. I have talked to several people who were in the situation, finding out about a child years later, and they only had to pay back support from when they were served with papers. Why does my husband have to pay from time of birth? One child was 10 before he took DNA test. And during those 10 years, the child was supported by the man who was told he was the father. I am in no way saying not to pay child support and there are several dead beat dads who won't even try. But I wouldn't even call my husband a "dad" to these kids. He has seen them one time, and one time only. When the DNA test was done. All he is to them is a check every week. And this was not his choice. The moms have the power. So well, yes, I suppose I am angry. I am angry that because we both work and are MARRIED we cannot get any assistance because in the eyes of DHS, we have it all under control. I am angry that our child we have together suffers because of it. He does what he is supposed to do. He pays each and every week and hasn't missed a payment in 8 years. So if he is doing the right thing, why can't child support step up and realize that these moms are working the system and aren't using the support for what it is intended?

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