My wife is driving me CRAZY
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WiseGuy

Morristown, TN

#22 Oct 21, 2010
Fleabass wrote:
<quoted text>Yeah right. On paper that looks like a bunch of great ideas! You obviously have never been married.
The bottom line is this: Unless she is 18 or something, you drew a lame bitch and need to get rid of her because she isn't going to change. You should have recognized this BEFORE you got married in the first place. Have a kid and see how the dynamics change...
Lovebug, you're lucky. Most exes aren't like yours. I have to fight for everything I have because mine is a vindictive, self-serving bitch! She will take anything she can get her hands on and looks at her kids as pawns in the game.
Ditch the lazy bitch before she ruins your life.
She will get hers one day for using the kids against her. Just like I told my ex way back in the 1st yr. of our divorce , when he would tell the kids I didn't love him and he had to live by himself and blah blah blah... " Kids are smarter than you think they are and if you talk bad to or about their Mother or Father to them , then they will grow up hating you, if you keep the kids from them they will grow up resenting you, if you make their lives miserable then eventually they will not want to see you be around you or even look at you when they grow up & realize that you caused all of this drama & stress in their innocent little eyes. That they couldn't grow up happy because you are so selfish that you are choosing your misery over their sadness. The decision is up to you and by the time they reach 10 years old , the verdict will be out . It is all up to you ". Its up to you parents, if you want to raise happy, healthy, loving children or sit in misery and ruin everyone elses lives around you. Destroy everyone's faith in you because of YOUR CHOICES AND ACTIONS. You can only be the best person that you can be, you are all that you have of you , and you cannot control the people around you. Make the best of your life, if not for your sake do it for the children of God. You know ? The ones he blessed your with and thought you would take the responsibility with grace and strength, doing everything in your power to raise HIS gift to you.

“Dont ask i wont tell!”

Since: Sep 10

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#23 Oct 21, 2010
Fleabass wrote:
<quoted text>Yeah right. On paper that looks like a bunch of great ideas! You obviously have never been married.
The bottom line is this: Unless she is 18 or something, you drew a lame bitch and need to get rid of her because she isn't going to change. You should have recognized this BEFORE you got married in the first place. Have a kid and see how the dynamics change...
Lovebug, you're lucky. Most exes aren't like yours. I have to fight for everything I have because mine is a vindictive, self-serving bitch! She will take anything she can get her hands on and looks at her kids as pawns in the game.
Ditch the lazy bitch before she ruins your life.
Actually i am married and have been married for years, and my sister was one of those lazy bitches as you put it and this method worked just fine. by all means take whom evers advices you want its not sweat off my back i dont have to live with the girl and neither do you. I am sorry that you are so bitter, but not all relationships end the way that yours did. My parents like lovebug have a great relationship and work well for the kids. its all in the person sorry you have a lame ex
Fleabass

Canton, GA

#24 Oct 21, 2010
Sweet Suprise wrote:
<quoted text>Actually i am married and have been married for years, and my sister was one of those lazy bitches as you put it and this method worked just fine. by all means take whom evers advices you want its not sweat off my back i dont have to live with the girl and neither do you. I am sorry that you are so bitter, but not all relationships end the way that yours did. My parents like lovebug have a great relationship and work well for the kids. its all in the person sorry you have a lame ex
You are correct; not everyone is the same. But I also want to point out that people can't do anything to change others- they have to want to do it for themselves. His wife will never change because that's who she is and wants to be. It's obvious because she is coming up with every excuse in the book to do nothing for their relationship. What he needs to understand is that he can walk away now- later when kids are involved the stakes become much higher! If you knew some of the crap I have had to deal with to fight for my kids, you would probably have a different outlook as well. Not bitter; just tired of the bullshit that some women are allowed to get away with!

“Dont ask i wont tell!”

Since: Sep 10

Location hidden

#25 Oct 21, 2010
Fleabass wrote:
<quoted text>You are correct; not everyone is the same. But I also want to point out that people can't do anything to change others- they have to want to do it for themselves. His wife will never change because that's who she is and wants to be. It's obvious because she is coming up with every excuse in the book to do nothing for their relationship. What he needs to understand is that he can walk away now- later when kids are involved the stakes become much higher! If you knew some of the crap I have had to deal with to fight for my kids, you would probably have a different outlook as well. Not bitter; just tired of the bullshit that some women are allowed to get away with!
I know all about the legal system and we are going through a adoption situation that is just horrific at the moment. If you will read my original message agian you will see that we agree to a point. I dont think any relationship expecially a marriage should be called quits without giving 210% of an effort to try and save it. I also told them PLEASE do not have children. I dont think i would even after having been togther and things being great for the first five years. But if he is not telling her loud and clear then he is not helping her. It is possible this chick is the product of her upbringing. My sister was that was for sure she was so spoiled she never had to work for anything it took almost loosing all she had to realize the way she was living her life was not good for her or for others. if he tries and things dont change then run like hell because it wont ever change but if he doesnt give her a chance to how will he ever know if she would have?
that sucks

Knoxville, TN

#26 Oct 21, 2010
Sweet Surprise is right. He should voice his complaints loud and clear and see what happens before just giving up. The guy obviously loves his wife and doesn't want to leave her. It seems to me like that would be the last option. Like I said earlier and has been stated since, you need to start by cutting off her cell phone and her supply of money and entertainment. She'll find something to do with no tv and no gas to go anywhere. She'll get the point. After all this if she doesn't get the point pack a bag and go stay in a hotel or at your parents for a couple of days and let her see how life is without you, your support, and your love.
James Tazewell

Portland, OR

#27 Feb 19, 2012
My wife and I just argued...I said please honey, I love you, please lets not argue today. After 5 minutes of stuff, I lost it. I do go way overboard when I yell. But yes, today, I told her fine, later. So what, I pay for you and your three children....I am a medical student. Yet when we need cash for when I am not in school....she can't do anything. I love and, and her kids are everything to me. She can't have anymore and regardless of any comments, I will make my decision on what to do. Her dad died, and we came out to where she is from....I failed my national board by a couple points and went back to fix that up. I've taken care of them for 4 years, she can't even get a job for one day to pitch in....so yes, after she told me to get a job I said....I just re took my boards two days ago....what are you doing? She's changed since her dad died and today I told her, oh well....I'm done with it...think of it anyway you wish, either I'm not good enough because I don't want the kids hear us fighting (when it gets overboard), or sure honey, whatever you say....fine....but I'm gone. Gonna have to leave, and somehow get over the feelings I have for the three children, especially the youngest. Her sister stuck her nose in it and I did let her know, sure its okay to care about your sister but keep your nose out of my marriage. If you were so concerned for everyone, where were you last year, or the year before, or the year before that? Testing is a tense time, but if I study 15 hours a day and provide for you for so long and ....enough is enough. I'll find work tomorrow, get to rotations in a month and be fine. I just know what I went through and the love I have for her and the kids. Wish she'd have some initiative. She didn't even go back to school, so I'm like, gee....I can't dicipline the kids, I sure can pay for everything and when I need 5 months to relocate you and the kids across country and to re take an exam (studying like crazy)....I'd appreciate some 50-50 here. But no, so I lost my cool and ended up being the creep again. She eventually trashed the kitchen, which she never does anything like that, and started crying after going off on me, just confusing facts...anything. I hugged her, said I loved her and apologized. Nothing like being a man, you get to do everything, but women on fed support cause their loser ex husbands won't pay child support....I'm sick of it. I promised God, and a vow is a vow. Maybe I'll just pray that I passed and get to rotations where patients are hurting and I can help.
fourK-9

United States

#28 Feb 21, 2012
Once a LAZY woman ALWAYS a lazy woman. If you love her, well you love her now, but she is probably not going to change. You will grow to dispise her if she keeps this up...And yes, kids will make it impossible to get out of the situation. Because the kids are always the one's who suffer. SO! GET OUT NOW WHILE YOU CAN!! ollow your heart. There are plenty of GOOD Fish in the SEA still yet!!! Good Luck!
lol

Fort Campbell, TN

#29 Feb 22, 2012
Ppl don't change. Get a divorce.
Bobby

Medford, OR

#30 Aug 9, 2012
Sick of it wrote:
I work 60-80 hours a week while my wife sits home and does nothing. We don't have kids. She says her back bothers her too much to get job, but she's never had surgery and doesn't take medication or go to the doc for it so. She won't cook unless her family comes over. She only cleans when her family comes over. We've only been married about a year but I can't put up with it much longer. I'm pretty laid back and have overlooked a lot to try and make it work. What do ya'll think I should do?
Lose her fast before you end up with alamoney & child support. She's only gonna get worse. Image working like you do & then having to take care of kids. The bitch needs to go. Go find a woman man do yourself a favor. Loose her now!
theangryguy

Athens, TN

#31 Aug 10, 2012
That's how these young women are noadays. Just want to sit on their a**es and take the man's money! You work a lot of hours and then you come home and have to do a lot more hours just so you and her don't argue, in some cases. They want to run you down and they want to make sure you have nothing. I would not have another woman even if I was told I'd die of loneliness if I didn't get one. Worthless bunch of freeloading money grabbing, men bashing, users on this planet. Kick her piece of worthless shita** out and form a pack never to bring in another young woman ever.

Since: Jun 12

United States

#32 Aug 10, 2012
This is a very difficult situation. I am a housewife. I have 2 small kids. My husband is finally working steadily after years of moving and getting/losing jobs. I get absolutely burnt out sometimes with the housework and kids and just the day to day stuff that never ends. I wish I had a job that I could go to and leave. Unfortunately I'm a fulltime 24 hour 365 days a year parent/homemaker. My earning potential is higher than my husbands, I just would rather raise my children than daycare workers. She is probably depressed. She may just need some counseling or a therapist. She must not have been that way when you met and fell in love, right? Her father died, she has 3 kids, the move, yeah sounds like depression to me. Please, don't give up on your marriage. Remember through sickness and in health. She may need more emotional support right now.
Frank

Corona, CA

#33 Jan 19, 2014
This will be kinda long,But i'm telling you i have forgotten more than I Remember,I met my wife in high school and fell in love with her and thought I met my "soul mate"We started dating and went on from that.In school she cheated on me and got pregnant.We all make mistakes at that age right?? so when her babes daddy didn't want anything to do with her I stepped up and did what I thought was right and stayed with her and said a dad is not a sperm donor.After her lying and cheating for twenty years i am now A 40 year old that left a very good paying job,80,000+ a year and am home schooling our 10 year old till he can go to college and I can start over,I was taught by my dad to always work hard ,be honest,and do what ever it takes to make sure your family was taken care of,and all would be OK.she would always appreciate it and love you for it.I put her threw Nursing school and worked 12-18 hours a day just to get cheated on and constantly have to put up with an attitude.I Have left her 3 times but I just couldn't be a weekend father, I always will be wrong if you ask her but at this point there is nothing I can do about it,Maybe a few years from now I will find A good wife <woman ,or mother But I doubt it.and I will just be labeled as having a mid life crisis but we as man know better.But shit we can only deal with what all these new all knowing woman tell us and just shut up and die quietly right, So figure it out and I hope you have more BALLS than I do and don't just lay down and die.But hay they were taught when that happens some how they win.
to know

Johnson City, TN

#34 Jan 21, 2014
If you talked to her and things hasn't changed then tell her you can't put up with it anymore. Relationships of any kind are give and take and it sounds like all she does is take take take. My dads wife is like that and it kills me. I would never disrespect someone like that. She needs to get off her lazy ass and work. I have problems too but I work thru them because that's how it is supposed to be. Goodluck
Sick of it wrote:
I work 60-80 hours a week while my wife sits home and does nothing. We don't have kids. She says her back bothers her too much to get job, but she's never had surgery and doesn't take medication or go to the doc for it so. She won't cook unless her family comes over. She only cleans when her family comes over. We've only been married about a year but I can't put up with it much longer. I'm pretty laid back and have overlooked a lot to try and make it work. What do ya'll think I should do?
mig

Belgrade, Serbia

#35 May 2, 2014
I read all of this and cant belive that there is so many of us with a same problems. Thank God I live in Serbia so if I divorce I will be paying 20 euro or 25 dolars monthly. hahahah reason more to love my country.
But that is not the point we all must think about family and years ahed of us. It is better to be lonley in 40 than suicided in 41
LOL

Since: Feb 14

Location hidden

#36 May 2, 2014
to know wrote:
If you talked to her and things hasn't changed then tell her you can't put up with it anymore. Relationships of any kind are give and take and it sounds like all she does is take take take. My dads wife is like that and it kills me. I would never disrespect someone like that. She needs to get off her lazy ass and work. I have problems too but I work thru them because that's how it is supposed to be. Goodluck
<quoted text>
It would be interesting after a 4 yr. old thread was created to get an update on their relationship and if they survived the first year together. I believe once you enter into a marriage contract you sign on for the long haul and have to constantly work on abiding by the contractual agreement you set forth at the beginning. Very easy to get married and quit when the going gets rough these days. Been there, done that...

“Feed The Pigs”

Since: Nov 13

Pigville

#37 May 2, 2014
Why by the heefer when the milk is free. Sookie Soo
carman

Nashville, TN

#38 May 2, 2014
Same boat wrote:
I had a wife like that would not take a job in a pie factory test tasting pies and when she did get a job she would get hurt and quit so now i pay child support
better than a dumb lazy bit$h!!!
Fort Wayne

United States

#39 Jan 24, 2016
Sick of it wrote:
I work 60-80 hours a week while my wife sits home and does nothing. We don't have kids. She says her back bothers her too much to get job, but she's never had surgery and doesn't take medication or go to the doc for it so. She won't cook unless her family comes over. She only cleans when her family comes over. We've only been married about a year but I can't put up with it much longer. I'm pretty laid back and have overlooked a lot to try and make it work. What do ya'll think I should do?
.... MY WIFE SAME THING no kids I work I pay the bills she complains about everything and calls me a lier non stop. For example I did a return online to Wal-Mart it did not go through so now I am a liar . She complains non stop I mean non stop about me about her.about the house ,about money. never anymore is there anything positive nothing at all we have been together now for 6 years .And I am at the point of leaving we are both in our 40's and I am ready to be alone I love her but I can't take this anymore
You Home Dear

United States

#40 Jan 24, 2016
Sick of it wrote:
I work 60-80 hours a week while my wife sits home and does nothing. We don't have kids. She says her back bothers her too much to get job, but she's never had surgery and doesn't take medication or go to the doc for it so. She won't cook unless her family comes over. She only cleans when her family comes over. We've only been married about a year but I can't put up with it much longer. I'm pretty laid back and have overlooked a lot to try and make it work. What do ya'll think I should do?
I would say while you working them 80 hrs she's on her back getting the rod thrown to her daily.She told me her back hurt to but didn't affect her riding the root.

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