Should grandparents have rights to gr...

Should grandparents have rights to grand kids when their son has passed away??

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Hmmm

Hixson, TN

#1 Aug 12, 2013
Mother using grand kids to be spiteful? Opinions please!
Well

Pell City, AL

#2 Aug 13, 2013
YES they should....they should have rights even if he's still alive. No one should punish the grandparents of any child over something their parent does! When they do that, they hurt the child as much as the grandparent! Taking precious time away from them that they could have spent together. Grandparents don't live forever, those years are precious to a grandparent and the grandchild. I can tell you one thing, if either of my parents kept me away from any of my grandparents and I grew up without being able to see them and spend time with them, there would be hell to pay. The parent responsible for that would do without anymore time with ME!!! Let them see how it feels and how bad it hurts!
Hmmm

Hixson, TN

#3 Aug 13, 2013
I have a family member who has kept the door open after her sons death and the mother loved her to death while she needed a sitter now she trying to use the children to get her way with things! I diddnt think she was this bad but now I see! It's not right and their is not a thing we can do!

Since: Jul 13

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#4 Aug 13, 2013
That would depend on the nature of the relationship between the family. If these grandparents had been "spoiling" the child to the point of it interfering with the parenting that goes on at home, then I could see this happening. I hate to put it this way, but I must. If you, as a grandparent, haven't tried to fulfill the wishes on discipline, nutrients, and all around granPARENTING, then you have nothing to offer the child but negativity. I see this many many times and it could not be the case, I am not saying that is so. At the very least, even if this is the case, a grandparent should be allowed to visit in the home with the parent. But, even with that issues could arise. You have to take account for the past and how willing each adult is to make it happen. For the parent, they need to think about how much it means to children to be able to say they have family.
TBD

Troy, NC

#5 Aug 13, 2013
By law in the great state on TN Grandparent have no legal rights to their grandchildren. It's up to the parents if they want to let them be apart of the chil(rens) lives.
ThinkAgain

United States

#6 Aug 13, 2013
TBD wrote:
By law in the great state on TN Grandparent have no legal rights to their grandchildren. It's up to the parents if they want to let them be apart of the chil(rens) lives.
Not to argue, but Grandparents DO have right to visitation and custody depending on the relationship the child has with GrandParent whenever parents or whoever is just not wanting to for their own selfish reasons.. Of course this would not include if the child had been abused in some way.
TN Law requires proof to establish a case for visitation or custody. In other words, have to proof being separated from GrandParent would be emotionally harmful to the child.
How do I know? Been there, done that and had custody for several years then visitation after that.
Don't give up seeing your GrandChildren is my advice. They are the ones that suffer even more than you do.

_Word Woman_

“See you in the funny papers...”

Since: Mar 13

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#7 Aug 13, 2013
I think it depends on the situation...however, I do not believe in using children as pawns & I think it happens far too often & only hurts them. Parents are supposed to be selfless, not selfish...
122456789

Greeneville, TN

#8 Aug 13, 2013
Ohhh I could write you a book on this - CPS, drugs, lies, money-

Since: Jul 13

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#9 Aug 13, 2013
122456789 wrote:
Ohhh I could write you a book on this - CPS, drugs, lies, money-
I bet.
With as many older grandparents and reckless 30ish-40ish parents... yea. I cannot comment on my own generation, they seem to follow the same path though.
Hmmm

United States

#10 Aug 13, 2013
The situation is none of which has been mentioned. Every petty argument she is using the kids to try and get what she wants and the grandparent thinks that it's better to let her go with the grandchildren rather than causing more heartache in the end! This girl is trying to use the kids to make the grandparents pay for the funeral bill in which they have already paid more than half and she claims she can't raise the kids and pay the bill but yet the grandparents was left with the rest of his debt not to mention she gets a nice check from the deceased for her children
over it completely

Altamonte Springs, FL

#11 Aug 24, 2013
TBD wrote:
By law in the great state on TN Grandparent have no legal rights to their grandchildren. It's up to the parents if they want to let them be apart of the chil(rens) lives.
Uh you might want to re read your laws. The laws have changed alot in 5 years.
over it completely

Altamonte Springs, FL

#12 Aug 24, 2013
ThinkAgain wrote:
<quoted text>
Not to argue, but Grandparents DO have right to visitation and custody depending on the relationship the child has with GrandParent whenever parents or whoever is just not wanting to for their own selfish reasons.. Of course this would not include if the child had been abused in some way.
TN Law requires proof to establish a case for visitation or custody. In other words, have to proof being separated from GrandParent would be emotionally harmful to the child.
How do I know? Been there, done that and had custody for several years then visitation after that.
Don't give up seeing your GrandChildren is my advice. They are the ones that suffer even more than you do.
In the middle of this process now@

Since: Jul 12

Location hidden

#13 Aug 24, 2013
TBD wrote:
By law in the great state on TN Grandparent have no legal rights to their grandchildren. It's up to the parents if they want to let them be apart of the chil(rens) lives.
You need to read up again dear. In TN grandparents have a few things they can proof to see the kids. One being if they have been in the childs life in the past 12 months. A judge will NOT remove the grandparent from the childs life unless there is abuse or neglect. If it would hurt the child to take the grandparents away, the judge won't allow that either.

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