Marriage isn't what it used to be. . .

[born and raised_]

WHat happened to til death do us part? Why do people insist on getting divorced and remarried 15 times in life before finding that special someone? I'm still young and I give props too those who've been married 30+ years. Those people got it down. It's not easy but people have to work through it together. That's how it should be. FOREVER!! I have never been married but I am for sure I will only do it once. Just haven't met that special someone. So this is not me trying to find that person it's just something on my mind....so lets hear what you think.

[isecondthat]

i agree with you.
my mother has been married 3 times.
its vile.

[WS Lady Di]

I've been married 4 times (twice to the same man). I'm not proud of it. I wish it had been different. I don't think it's "vile", however. Pretty harsh choice of words for your mother.

[isecondthat]

if you knew her, you'd take that back.

everyone has different circumstances.

[Juan Valdez]

Just something funny.
http://www.theonion.com/content/node/29305

[isecondthat]

that cracked me up.

as i said, everyone has different circumstances.

which is why if you arent old enough to be legally allowed to drink alcohol, you shouldnt be allowed to sign a marriage certificate.

people should enter into marriage after much consideration, and lots of communication. everyone should be on the same page, and therefore have no misunderstandings about what is acceptable and what is not.

[Juan Valdez]

Here's another good one.
http://www.theonion.com/content/node/28589

[mskatie]

Lady Di, Why did you marry the same man twice? Maybe if you have a answer I can figure out why I did..
BTW--this time I got it right--43 years and counting

[WS Lady Di]

mskatie wrote:

Lady Di, Why did you marry the same man twice? Maybe if you have a answer I can figure out why I did..
BTW--this time I got it right--43 years and counting

Hell,if he hadn't moved to Alaska, I'd probably have married him the third time. LOL We couldn't stay away from each other and we couldn't get along together. Up until about 4 years ago, we were still staying in touch and we've been divorced 33 years. Finally got my fill and told his girlfriend. That ended the drunken phone calls from him in the middle of the night. Sadly, it also ended his communication with our daughter.

My mother told me one time that if I didn't want to be married to a drunk, to quit finding my husbands and boyfriends in a bar. My mom was a very smart woman. I should have listened closer many years ago! LOL

[Some people]

I know a couple here in town who loves to cheat on each other. The wife is a big time slut. She went to clubs and sucked some guy off in the parking lot. And that info came from her husband. He is not so innocent as well. He is known for cheating a lot as well. It's sad that people don't take their vows seriously. I knew when I married my husband I didn't want anyone else. But some people I guess weren't brought up with any respect for marriage as a whole.

[Shopaholic]

WS Lady Di wrote:

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My mother told me one time that if I didn't want to be married to a drunk, to quit finding my husbands and boyfriends in a bar. My mom was a very smart woman. I should have listened closer many years ago! LOL

Kinda like, "if you want to catch a trout, don't go fishing in a mud puddle."

[BLue Eyed Girl]

born and raised_ wrote:

WHat happened to til death do us part? Why do people insist on getting divorced and remarried 15 times in life before finding that special someone? I'm still young and I give props too those who've been married 30+ years. Those people got it down. It's not easy but people have to work through it together. That's how it should be. FOREVER!! I have never been married but I am for sure I will only do it once. Just haven't met that special someone. So this is not me trying to find that person it's just something on my mind....so lets hear what you think.

Marriage hasn't changed. The people have.

[WS Lady Di]

Shopaholic wrote:

<quoted text>
Kinda like, "if you want to catch a trout, don't go fishing in a mud puddle."

Yeah.......something like that. LOL

[yeah right]

isecondthat wrote:

that cracked me up.
as i said, everyone has different circumstances.
which is why if you arent old enough to be legally allowed to drink alcohol, you shouldnt be allowed to sign a marriage certificate.
people should enter into marriage after much consideration, and lots of communication. everyone should be on the same page, and therefore have no misunderstandings about what is acceptable and what is not.

excuse me, i am 17 and married, in fact i got married at 16 and my husband and i love eachother. age does not make a marriage. it is the people in the marriage and the stubborness to make it work. if u want a marriage to work then you will fight for it with all you have got. it has nothing to do with the age of the person signing the marriage contract. we have recently bought our 1st home together and we are happy with eachother and do not need to seek love outside of our vows. if u show love and trust to ur spouse then they will be more likely want to keep that love and trust and stay within the marriage and honor it

[Truth Teller]

Sweetie - my spouse and I have been married 49 years. She would agree with me if I said they have not been all good years. Matter of fact, some of them have been downright lousy but we hung in there, raised six kids, opened and closed a couple of businesses, and worked for some good and some not so good bosses. When she was ready to throw in the towell, I was not. When I wanted to call it quits, she dug in her heels and said no way.

A long marriage has more to do with respect, compromise and friendship than love. Sometime stubborness is the best character trait you can have.

We're coming up on 50 years, and if God is willing, the next 25 should be a snap.

[cruisin]

Never been married but have been with the one I love for over ten years now. Maybe some day we will say " I do" . But for some reason neither of us has ever thought about marriage.

[just me]

"A long marriage has more to do with respect, compromise and friendship than love. Sometime stubborness is the best character trait you can have."

Well said. You cannot underestimate the friendship part.

[Yup]

Amen to that!!! I whole heartedly agree!! I know of 11 marriages that have ended this year and thats ppl I know of. Every one of them was due to an affair. Dont ppl realize that if they spent the energy on thier spouse and marriage then on a lustful attraction it would probably not end. Its sickening to see what ppl do to the one's they VOWED to Love!!!

just me wrote:

"A long marriage has more to do with respect, compromise and friendship than love. Sometime stubborness is the best character trait you can have."
Well said. You cannot underestimate the friendship part.

[mskatie]

Truth Teller, I commend you--and as another who has been married 43 years, may I add that I don't think Friendship is the "biggie" here, altho it's very important--I think it's the stubbornness-The refusual of each to give up at the same time.
The heartbreak is Alzheimers--when one spouse can't remember the good years-or as you said-maybe a blessing that they forgot the bad years.

[who]

Some people wrote:

I know a couple here in town who loves to cheat on each other. The wife is a big time slut. She went to clubs and sucked some guy off in the parking lot. And that info came from her husband. He is not so innocent as well. He is known for cheating a lot as well. It's sad that people don't take their vows seriously. I knew when I married my husband I didn't want anyone else. But some people I guess weren't brought up with any respect for marriage as a whole.

who is this couple?