how do I get over him

[Bets]

willywill wrote:

sounds like you want to sit and self-pity yourself.... go after what you want! if you love the guy like you say, you would make every last attempt to be with him. to me... but then again some hearts arent strong enough and for some people (weak) its easier to give up and cry about it then fight for what they want. I agree with what someone said... you call him. you go to his house, etc...everything and anything!! because if the love is there for you like that, then there's no way he can be over you to avoid you... just saying!! but again you can give up. but sometimes all it takes is just getting over a wall either he or you built. find out if its worth it soon enough. everyone builds walls. so make a choice and tear the crap down or turn around walk away and burn everything! either or life goes on. just not as good as it could be sometimes!! my opinion....

I agree. Don't give up. Let him know how you feel. He may have someone else, or not. BUT
Did YOU have a role in the breakup? How?
I know someone now who the guy broke up with a lady after three years. Reason: He took all he could of her hating his children and not wanting them around him. They are all three in their late 20's and married, but she doesn't want them around at all. They are not married and does not live together. He has done everything for her and her 4 kids. There was no reasoning with her. She just spoiled his son's wedding and insults his daughters when they come around about once a year.
But she claims it his fault because he sees the kids mother when he goes to see them.{not romantic }Just can't avoid it.

[beautiful]

i do not want to self pity myself. I wasn't asking anyone to pity me either. I was just inquiring what others have tried with success to get over a broken heart. If a guy will not message you back and has you blocked on all their accounts it is usually a pretty good indication he doesn't want a call or an unannounced visit. I'm all about fighting for what i want, when i have someone who is willing to fight for me too. You don't know how bad it feels to be completely cut off from the one who holds your heart. And by their own choice or preference at that!

[JCR]

beautiful wrote:

i do not want to self pity myself. I wasn't asking anyone to pity me either. I was just inquiring what others have tried with success to get over a broken heart. If a guy will not message you back and has you blocked on all their accounts it is usually a pretty good indication he doesn't want a call or an unannounced visit. I'm all about fighting for what i want, when i have someone who is willing to fight for me too. You don't know how bad it feels to be completely cut off from the one who holds your heart. And by their own choice or preference at that!

I know exactly how you feel,I have been going thru hell for 7 months, he walked away from me just a few weeks shy of losing twins, it has been very hard, it is almost unbearable at times.
I want so much to hate him, but I still love him & pray to god that he would help me forget or realize he wasn't worth it, but everyday there is some reminder.

[i understand all2well]

I know exactly how u feel, we lost a baby, I lost my mind and then I lost him all in a few short weeks. I wanted to marry him and live "happily ever after". But once again no fairy tale ending here. I know the kind of "UNBEARABLE" pain you speak of honey. I will pray for you. Pray for me?

[JCR]

He could never understand when I would get angry, that it was hurt & the fact he wasn't there for me & left me to deal with the emotions & finacial issues of it, I am still paying on the finacial part & every day I worry about having enough to pay it each month & then the reminder of what u are paying just keeps it all going. I just don't get why he says he is still in love with me but can't be with me. Yes I said a prayer for u & will continue to do so as long as I am still around. Thank u.

[willywill]

not message you back??? that's news there.i think all you have to do is add them as a friend under your real name. and they would add you. he don't receive messages unless hes friends with them now (for hacking purposes) I told a certain person to call and out of how many months has he got that? seems the net, which his was hacked was the only way to communicate. seemed to this person he was a string along or a yo-yo. just a toy to play with. I know he called a lot. he wanted to a lot and got excuses of being busy. tho before went over 300 min on his phone twice (two months in a row). just to hear this persons voice. but what for? to be hacked? and they didnt block all sites from them... G+, or year, or microsoft, or a phone call!!!!!!! the only thing this person was cut off from was a way to be hacked through his primary email. if it was you or not. I think he felt you would find a way. and lookeee here you have! but yet for reasons other then what he was hoping! again maybe a wall is what you built but its always been a wall worth the climb! he did climb yours!! so getting over a wall or your love for him is the question u should ask yourself.... he never said things where perfect. just what he felt was! people tell him to walk away but walking away was never a thought. just ways to find out if something is there was. I hope it makes enough since to follow your heart Beautiful! if walking and burning everything is what it is, then do it!!! but to say you tried everything. you would be lying to yourself! He does LOVE you! even enough to let you go!

[beautiful]

i have sent you several messages on yahoo, and get no reply. how could i add you under my real name? you have me blocked! I have no clue how to access any of those accounts (g+, yearbook,) i don't even know what microsoft is. I have never ever hacked you and frankly I wouldn't want to. And this was not me finding a way to contact you, this was me trying to get some solid advice. I have never had my heart broken like this before i know others have been there and I thought maybe someone could help. I never said i tried everything, I don't want to bother you or be your stalker. And i do and always will love you. AND FOR THE LAST TIME you are not a yo yo or a slinky.

[Willywill]

beautiful wrote:

i have sent you several messages on yahoo, and get no reply. how could i add you under my real name? you have me blocked! I have no clue how to access any of those accounts (g+, yearbook,) i don't even know what microsoft is. I have never ever hacked you and frankly I wouldn't want to. And this was not me finding a way to contact you, this was me trying to get some solid advice. I have never had my heart broken like this before i know others have been there and I thought maybe someone could help. I never said i tried everything, I don't want to bother you or be your stalker. And i do and always will love you. AND FOR THE LAST TIME you are not a yo yo or a slinky.

a phone call away!! I never got no message on yahoo! It's why I did delete you. Then I put it to where people couldn't send me messages unless they where on my friends list. To keep from being hacked. I was being hacked. believe u me. I waited for your call! Just one!!!!! I even told you to call me! Stalk me??? You never tried one time to contact me! If I was that important to you wouldn't you try something?

[Willywill]

beautiful wrote:

i have sent you several messages on yahoo, and get no reply. how could i add you under my real name? you have me blocked! I have no clue how to access any of those accounts (g+, yearbook,) i don't even know what microsoft is. I have never ever hacked you and frankly I wouldn't want to. And this was not me finding a way to contact you, this was me trying to get some solid advice. I have never had my heart broken like this before i know others have been there and I thought maybe someone could help. I never said i tried everything, I don't want to bother you or be your stalker. And i do and always will love you. AND FOR THE LAST TIME you are not a yo yo or a slinky.

no one knows our story so how can they help? Best advice always comes from our hearts! And what does it say to you?

[Willywill]

beautiful wrote:

i have sent you several messages on yahoo, and get no reply. how could i add you under my real name? you have me blocked! I have no clue how to access any of those accounts (g+, yearbook,) i don't even know what microsoft is. I have never ever hacked you and frankly I wouldn't want to. And this was not me finding a way to contact you, this was me trying to get some solid advice. I have never had my heart broken like this before i know others have been there and I thought maybe someone could help. I never said i tried everything, I don't want to bother you or be your stalker. And i do and always will love you. AND FOR THE LAST TIME you are not a yo yo or a slinky.

just know this!! I do love you beautiful!! Their isn't a day go by where you are not in it! That's all I can say on here!! I wish but my wishes fall short, u dream but it's not the same as being around you! I miss you!:(

[BeAuTiFuL85]

Why ain't you in bed. Im sick what is your excuse ont you work tommorow? They dont need my story to offer advice. They know the problem is a broken heart and at one time or another i am sure they can relate

[ron]

true love will never die. if thats what it was. there will aways be something to remind you. you'll see their face in a crowd. someone will say something that will bring back a memory. lost my love 40 years ago. still think about her a lot. have nothing from when we were together. last year found someone and fell in love again, she left. in between married have kids and a good friend circle. my advice is if you truely love this person, first see if they are worth having, then fight for them. never give up. i haven't give up on last year. but i did 40 years ago. good luck,,,,,god bless

[JCR]

ron wrote:

true love will never die. if thats what it was. there will aways be something to remind you. you'll see their face in a crowd. someone will say something that will bring back a memory. lost my love 40 years ago. still think about her a lot. have nothing from when we were together. last year found someone and fell in love again, she left. in between married have kids and a good friend circle. my advice is if you truely love this person, first see if they are worth having, then fight for them. never give up. i haven't give up on last year. but i did 40 years ago. good luck,,,,,god bless

I take it u are a man, so in your opinion why won't this man I speak of just tell me he doesn't love me, he isn't with me so why not? I don't get it, why not help me get on with my life even if he has to lie to me, this isn't easy & u know how embarassing it is to go on date after date & start crying because that is not what u want?

[willywill]

BeAuTiFuL85 wrote:

Why ain't you in bed. Im sick what is your excuse ont you work tommorow? They dont need my story to offer advice. They know the problem is a broken heart and at one time or another i am sure they can relate

im off for the 4th. call me!!

[ron]

JCR wrote:

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I take it u are a man, so in your opinion why won't this man I speak of just tell me he doesn't love me, he isn't with me so why not? I don't get it, why not help me get on with my life even if he has to lie to me, this isn't easy & u know how embarassing it is to go on date after date & start crying because that is not what u want?

wish i had the answers for you. been threw the same thing for 10 months. but was told she still loves me, from her. have ask her to tell me she doesn't love me but won't. but as time moves on so am i. but i'm not happy.

[Sierra]

Just remember this....You have to close one door before you can open another.

[JCR]

I would really like it if this man would tell me he don't love me, I really need for him to, I had to go through 5 weeks of chemo & radiation back in january & part of feb this year, I beat the tumor I had, but I have good & bad days, those treatments drain u even after u are done for the longest time & I fear of it coming back, he was not with me during any of that, I didn't even really tell anyone but my bestfriend,but he does know. I am sometimes wonder if there is something mentally wrong with him & I don't mean that in a rude way, it wouldn't matter I would still love him the same, just seems like there is something he doesn't want me to know, he demands I not speak with his father about him or us, but his father does know about us, I got up the nerve to call the other day & ask him if he would meet with me I would like to know some things, he agreed & said he would call me monday & never has. So I don't know what to think, I really want to move on but I feel I am just wasting my time with anything anymore.

[Willywill]

JCR wrote:

I would really like it if this man would tell me he don't love me, I really need for him to, I had to go through 5 weeks of chemo & radiation back in january & part of feb this year, I beat the tumor I had, but I have good & bad days, those treatments drain u even after u are done for the longest time & I fear of it coming back, he was not with me during any of that, I didn't even really tell anyone but my bestfriend,but he does know. I am sometimes wonder if there is something mentally wrong with him & I don't mean that in a rude way, it wouldn't matter I would still love him the same, just seems like there is something he doesn't want me to know, he demands I not speak with his father about him or us, but his father does know about us, I got up the nerve to call the other day & ask him if he would meet with me I would like to know some things, he agreed & said he would call me monday & never has. So I don't know what to think, I really want to move on but I feel I am just wasting my time with anything anymore.

I hate to say this. But if he knew you was going through that with just the treatment and didn't show you a bit of sympathy or even a care enough to call you. Then blow him off like a dream! We have all been hurt before. And we all know what we want out of life! We don't have long to live as it is. So don't waist another breath on him. Because its obvious he don't love you. If you love someone nothing can keep you from talking to them! Especially if they have went through what you have. The best thing you can do is quit begging him for the attention he should be giving u. If he cares enough he will find a way to show you or talk to you soon enough on his own. Keep your head up and who knows you might get more then what you ever dreamed of! With him or with someone else.

[JCR]

Willywill wrote:

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I hate to say this. But if he knew you was going through that with just the treatment and didn't show you a bit of sympathy or even a care enough to call you. Then blow him off like a dream! We have all been hurt before. And we all know what we want out of life! We don't have long to live as it is. So don't waist another breath on him. Because its obvious he don't love you. If you love someone nothing can keep you from talking to them! Especially if they have went through what you have. The best thing you can do is quit begging him for the attention he should be giving u. If he cares enough he will find a way to show you or talk to you soon enough on his own. Keep your head up and who knows you might get more then what you ever dreamed of! With him or with someone else.

I wanted u to know after reading your post last night & finding out some other information, has really helped me more than u know, I can finally let go, after looking back at all the things that were so inconsiderate I know now none of what was told to me was ever true, I am glad I came on here because now I can start living, thank u from the bottom of my heart.

[been there]

Hell call me am going through a breakup myself