is this bad or what?you decide

[thats bad]

just wondering! i know a guy who is blackmailing his ex wife,has been for like 4 years,to get his way in everything that comes up that he dont like,they have a kid together, and everytime she dont agree with him he threatens her,she made mistakes years ago,she had an affair,well the perv videotaped them in action, and threatens to show everyone,isnt this a sicko?he diddent bring it up at their divorce,he just kept it for what he calls his leverage,i feel sorry for this poor woman,he also took their baby away from her because of this!this is a really horrible thing for them to do to her, and on top of that,he is a youth leader at a very large church in germantown,this is not a very christian attitude,he is also trying to become a minister!what does everyone think about this? would you want him teaching your kids?should i pull mine out of the class?this is very disturbing!

[let it be known]

first i would tell the woman to get a lawyer and let the lawyer know what the ex has been doing,second i would tell all the other parents at the church what he has done(unless he has you on tape to)i would pull my kid out and let it be known as to why i'm doing it.he is not a true christian,they love one another,they don't do the things he is doing.and if you stand by and let him continue to do whats he is doing and watch him become a minister your just has bad.i hope you do the right thing,that women is hurting and i wonder what he does and says to his child.you will be in my prayers.

[So true]

thats bad wrote:

just wondering! i know a guy who is blackmailing his ex wife,has been for like 4 years,to get his way in everything that comes up that he dont like,they have a kid together, and everytime she dont agree with him he threatens her,she made mistakes years ago,she had an affair,well the perv videotaped them in action, and threatens to show everyone,isnt this a sicko?he diddent bring it up at their divorce,he just kept it for what he calls his leverage,i feel sorry for this poor woman,he also took their baby away from her because of this!this is a really horrible thing for them to do to her, and on top of that,he is a youth leader at a very large church in germantown,this is not a very christian attitude,he is also trying to become a minister!what does everyone think about this? would you want him teaching your kids?should i pull mine out of the class?this is very disturbing!

I know who you are talking about, Edward is a guy who will not cut his mamma's apron strings, she is behind all of it, because she makes the decisions for him. I have known this family for many years and I will be the first to say it, they remind me of a cult, as far as pulling your child out of the class? Maybe a good idea, I would keep a close eye on this.

[Roy]

Hum.... Let me see if I got this right..
She spreads her leg's, for some other guy probably more than one.And obviously she's been lying,cheating,and very likley sperading her disease around the whole area,hummm...
I don't see anything wrong, that the husband did at all...If he had brought the tape into court then she would've been caught red handed,lying and cheating!!!
Now you guy's twist it and spin it, so that the poor man is the one who's done somthing wrong!!!
Is he the one whom committed adultry against the marriage??? Is he the one who broke the holy covnant of marriage between them and God? Did he make her do it? Is he the Devil?
IM sorry but not every woman is good,and every man evil...Now she's scorned because she got caught ,and cant lie about it, because it's on the tape!!! God will forgive, but not when you shift the blame and try to manipulate people to your cause, by lying more and more!!!
Roy yippy-ki-A!!

[yawhatever]

i agree she should not have cheated in the first place,but,no one deserves to be blackmailed for the rest of their life,he was not the devil in the beginnng,but when he desides NOT to use this in court,just so he can hold it over her head,for his personal gain forever,that IS wrong,i feel sorry for that poor woman,but think about this,he is the perv that stood there holding the camera the whole time,how sick!then keeps the film for years,what a sicko!has pervert written all over that one!and he teaches kids!how sad

[let it be known]

i agree,she did what she did,now it's time to move on,and he needs to grow up.

[Roy]

This same sort of thing just happend to a good friend of mine, Brian...He and his wife had been together for close to 10 years.They have a daughter and everything was great...
Then Brian started to notice that his wife was spending less and less time at home,with him and their daughter...She always had excuses. After a lot of lame excuses,Brian finally confronts her. Telling her,that the daughter misses her and so does he,and wanting to know whats the matter? she spills the beans and confesses having a boy friend and wanting a divorce...
Then Brian starts coming home from work smelling cigarretts and stuff like that and confronts her again,and asks her, are you haveing your boy friend over here in our bed, when im at work on 3rd shift?
She denys saying, "what do you think Iam"? "I would never do something like that to you"...

Then, comes the night that brian gets sent home early, from his nightshift....And a strange car is in the driveway. He goes in and checks the daughter, shes in bed. So he goes aroung to the bedroom window, to look in and see his wife and some dude doing the deed!!!
Now are you gonna try to tell me that Brian is the sicko for what happend???
Not!!! If that happend to me,then that dude would be still be limping around years and years later, from what I wouldve done to him!!!
But you can try an spin it and weave it however you want, it still wont make it true... My buddy wanted to beleive that lying bitch! Then seeingthat she put theyre daughter to bed and was having some scum bag in the bed that they both shared!!
Shes the biggest scum of all really... Yea, they went to court too,and nothing was mentioned.Wonder why?
Ill bet this is real similar to what happend to the people that youre talking about...Its sad... Oh well. yippy- ki- a

[yawhatever]

Roy wrote:

This same sort of thing just happend to a good friend of mine, Brian...He and his wife had been together for close to 10 years.They have a daughter and everything was great...
Then Brian started to notice that his wife was spending less and less time at home,with him and their daughter...She always had excuses. After a lot of lame excuses,Brian finally confronts her. Telling her,that the daughter misses her and so does he,and wanting to know whats the matter? she spills the beans and confesses having a boy friend and wanting a divorce...
Then Brian starts coming home from work smelling cigarretts and stuff like that and confronts her again,and asks her, are you haveing your boy friend over here in our bed, when im at work on 3rd shift?
She denys saying, "what do you think Iam"? "I would never do something like that to you"...
Then, comes the night that brian gets sent home early, from his nightshift....And a strange car is in the driveway. He goes in and checks the daughter, shes in bed. So he goes aroung to the bedroom window, to look in and see his wife and some dude doing the deed!!!
Now are you gonna try to tell me that Brian is the sicko for what happend???
Not!!! If that happend to me,then that dude would be still be limping around years and years later, from what I wouldve done to him!!!
But you can try an spin it and weave it however you want, it still wont make it true... My buddy wanted to beleive that lying bitch! Then seeingthat she put theyre daughter to bed and was having some scum bag in the bed that they both shared!!
Shes the biggest scum of all really... Yea, they went to court too,and nothing was mentioned.Wonder why?
Ill bet this is real similar to what happend to the people that youre talking about...Its sad... Oh well. yippy- ki- a

well -ROY- this has nothing to do with your friend,and was your friend standing in the window with a video camera?if so then yes he was a sicko too,did he keep the video for like 4-5 years just as leverage,to blackmail the woman for the rest of her life?if not then the situation is not the same at all,yes of course it IS wrong to cheat,im not defending that-AT ALL-,it is totally against what i believe,but the point is that it was in the past,they are divorced,get on with your life, and stop blackmailing the woman already,that is childish and wrong,and it is wrong to use this stuff to get your way,yes some christian attitude this is!and its really sick that he keeps this around,what if the child gets older and sees it? its time for the man to move on!

[Roy]

Well "Whatever"-Maybe this guy is a sicko,for all I know... It sounds to me like theyre made for each other! They shoud stay together...I dont understand how you keep on blackmailing someone after the divorce...
I mean, is he threatning to show the tape to the pope,or what? She's the one who cheated, whats the tape gonna do, ruin her reputation? Maybe this poor schmo thought he needed it for evidence of marrital infidelity, or "adultry" You know,me personally woluldnt keep no tape...
And yes, my bud Brian's story does have to do with this...his is the "poster child" for this sort of thing...Didnt see it coming... untill it was to late, like a deer in the headlights...

He called the sherriff instead of the video cam he!! hee!!!
He got the answers that he needed to know, all the same...Thats cool
You just keep on takin up for yer girl...
We all know how bad she got done...

LATER,YIPPY-KI-A...

[yawhatever]

hello- i am not sticking up for what she done,like i said, that was wrong,and if he had called the sheriff it would at least of gotten took care of back then and be over with,and it is not about how bad she got done,the point is he is STILL holding this over her head,still has the sick tape,and is still doing wrong by blackmailing the lady,i know lots of people in the world that can relate to the situation,being cheated on i mean,but i dont know any others that are sick enough to video tape it,then keep the tape for years,what a creep,would not want him to be a minister to kids,but he is,

[Roy]

How does he hold it over her head? because she lets him... I mean ,how? Whats he gonna do? what does he threaten her with? Sounds to me like he s got the kid and the divorce, then what else does he want? Her head on a stick??? I mean look, like I said before, Idont know this guy from Atom. And he might be some pos that kept a tape of his ex doin the nasty. And he might even have used it as a "wedge" or "blackmail" in the divorce ...But, its over... Im just not getting it, how he's able to blackmail her? Is it because shes stupid enough to somehow beleive that a tape of her and another man makes any difference at this point in time? So what!!! Grow up get over It... If he has threats, tell him go right ahead, cause you aint got nothing on me...Now, the one thing that you said that made any sense was "What if the child grows up and sees it" and "He needs to grow up" I Agree, he does need to grow up and think about destroying the tape. what if theyre child or someone else finds it someday, that might hurt the kid. So, on that one we agree... and also the parents should try an get along and show respect for one another, even if they dont want to.And that goes both ways.Because it can and will eventually effect everyone, IF they hate each other and are always running each other down! You also keep on mentioning that he's a minister. You cant just put all of youre trust in someone who claims to be,or who calls themselves christian....So We protect our children from harm ... It aint just the catholics anymore,thats for sure! But I also see a lot of good people being persecuted just for beleiving in God too. So,when every one is calling this minister a "perv" and everything like that.It seems to me, like it's an attack on religeous people,Or maybe to get revenge... I dont want to put this man on pedophile status bases solely on what his ex says... She might accedentally tell a few fibs about the husband to try an settle the score or maybe she might be bi-polar or something like that and seeks attention... I mean, it aint like the "preachers" showin the tape to the kids or anything. IM gonna be honest here,I think that you all are a little naive...It may be more sound doctrine to say that she hates him and is trying to ruin his life and make him miserable ...I know that no woman has ever been accused of that. But she already aint got a great track record of honesty... Its just my opinion,though...YIPPY-KI-A... .

[Ooh you scare me]

I think it's funny. She must be a dumb bitch.

LMAO!

[LMAO]

lol,well in a way i kinda agree,if it were me i would have put an end to it a long time ago,but it does not change the fact that he is a low life pervert! she needs to get her head on straight and hang him out to dry,she needs to know that she doesnt have to put up with that crap,she needs to get an lawyer,and stop this stuff! but he still is a pervert,surely she realizes that what he is doing is against the law!

[Roy]

Thanks Richmond! Sombody needed to say it! And Im not sure if what he did, is against the law... Even though, keeping it to watch might be weird...Didnt he tape Her having sex with some man,in his & her own bed? Or did He just follow her, and tape them doing it in some public place ,like a nature trail or beach? Well then thats not against the law... And as far as the blackmail. It' not blackmail or extortion to get in an argument with youre EX and say things when youre in the heat of the argument...For it to be blackmail youve got to prove that he kept on makeing threats. and also that he wanted something in return, like money,or sex... Now "morally", it might be wrong...But not against the law...Running this preacher down and saying his name on this forum. Calling him a perv and everything like you some of you guys are doin, is definately slander though...YIPPY-KI-A LATER!

[meagain]

it came from HIS mouth,not hers,i used to be friends with this person,untill he started to creep me out with all this,he brags about it,thinks its funny,i dont personaly know his ex wife but i heard it from him,and he uses it to get his way with there kid,such as,he wants to homeschool her,she does not want him to,so he uses the tape threatning to use it in court,i dont think the judge would let him,but thats just my opinion,but he has this woman believe that he can use it to take there daughter away from her for good,thats from his own mouth,ya really something for a preacher to be bragging and laughing about,and your right it is morally wrong,but i also agree that she needs some help to realize that he cant hold this over her head anymore,its past history!i hope she does so she can get away from his crap,

[well maybe]

meagain wrote:

it came from HIS mouth,not hers...

What comes from her mouth? Fellatio?

[well maybe]

lol, well maybe!