Looking for my Grandaughters

Looking for my Grandaughters

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Grandma Melanie

Lowville, NY

#1 May 29, 2008
My Daughter-in-Law and Grandaughters moved and I can not locate them. If anyone might know Lorena Heather and Kayla live I would love to hear from them. I had gifts to send them but they have moved from 300 Wilson Highway to another location. Any information would be greatly appreciated.
Thank-you and God Bless
the terminator

Cleveland, OH

#2 May 30, 2008
if you would of made a whole-hearted effort to be a vital part of your grand-daughters lifes you would know where they are today. How many bday, xmas's, easters, thanksgivings and other special events took place while they were living on 300 wilson hwy that came and went without as much as a phone call from you or their so called FATHER? Im not going to let you know too much but what i can tell you is that they are becoming beautiful young woman and are very happy..their mama has done a wonderful job raising them BY HERSELF. Sorry your thrift store gifts never got to them maybe you can have a yard sell and get your money back. God bless you.
Grandma Melanie

Lowville, NY

#3 May 30, 2008
I can feel your anger and judgment towards me. I once had a decent relationship with Lorena. I raised my children as a single parent also. I would not wish any mom to have to go it alone. I never divorced my daughter-in-law. I can admit to not doing anything when I do not know what to do. I fear making a problem without even trying. I miss so much the connection Lorena and the girls had with me before their biological father left the state. I choose not to speak for him as it would only have me shut out as I was when he moved. I will only say in my defence that I had nothing to do with his and Lorenas lack of communication that caused a rift between me and my daughter-in-law Lorena and the girls connection. I Treasure the emails and communication we once had. I still have the little emails Lorena let the girls send saved in my email inbox.
My garage sale gifts and hand me downs were appreciated when I sent them. My heart was in the right place. I am still single and am not that well off financialy. That was a very long time ago. 2 years ago I had sent new items that cost a lot for both girls and for Lorena also. I care for Lorena and only want good for her. She is the mama of my first born grandbabies. Even though I am 3,000 miles away there IS NOT a day that goes by that I do not think of them and Lorena. As a grandmother I know I can only do so much but I would give up my life for them if it would guarentee Lorena and the girls happiness and a good life. I lost my job not long after I sent the last Christmas box. My Client died of a very long battle with cancer. Soon after my father had a massive stroke and every penny I did not have went into a year of caring for my dad until his death. I then started a new job and was injured with no compensation or insurance. I am presently in physical therapy for a neck and back injury. My mom is now legaly blind with wet macular degeration and is failing in health so I also help her as much as possible.
I am a good and kind woman who can not control what anyone does but myself. I wish I could have done more for Lorena and the girls and beleive me if I had more money I would be spoiling them every chance I could. I have been doing a cardiac workup with test as I also suffered a heart attack not long ago this past year. I can only thank God for bringing me through the past 3 years or so. I am not looking for pity by any means. There is not one material item in the world to replace the love I have in my heart for Heather and Kayla. AND their mama.
Grandma Melanie

Lowville, NY

#4 May 30, 2008
<QUOTE> Im not going to let you know too much but what i can tell you is that they are becoming beautiful young woman and are very happy.

This statement means more to me than you could possibly know. To hear about the girls and Lorena doing well means the world to me. I am SO VERY GREATFUL for your comment. I am assuming you care very much for Lorena and the girls.
I do not blame you for your anger towards me. That tells me you care and I do thank you again for letting me know they are doing well.
AND yes I agree that Heather and Kayla ARE THE MOST BEAUTIFUL GIRLS IN THE WHOLE WORLD....I think of them Pray for them and their mommy and love them so very much.
I have a photo key chain with Heather and Kaylas last pic I got with them facing each other. I carry it on my car keys so that the girls are with me in my thoughts and prayers daily.
I did not mention that......
My last born Grandson who just turned two was also born with Cancer in the middle of everything I have shared with you. He is my other sons child.
His name is Ethan. For the first year of his life he was in Childrens Hospital in Buffalo fighting for his life.( months of chemo and blood transfusions etc etc.) At first we thought he woul;d have his leg removed at childrens hospital in Boston Mass. After a nationwide study pool his diagnosis improved and he only had one third of the muscle in his itty bitty baby leg removed. Praise God he is a healthy little boy who sees his Drs every three months for exams and MRI's. We are hoping it will be every 6 months after this next MRI.
The last time I spoke with Lorena she had a gentleman she was seeing in the service. I hope all is well there also. I beleive he had to go to Iraq.
I guess I should go before I get kicked off topix for trying to write a book.....I do have a myspace I started a couple months ago. I have Heather and Kayla there in my slide show.
Heather and Kayl;a will always be #1 but I have 8 grandchildren all togeather and one great grandaughter that was born in January of this year.
They do not get much from me on holidays either a I just do not have the funds to do so.
Being shut off from the girls is probably the worst heartbreak of all in my life. And I thought my divorce was the worst experience of my life
I have no anger towards Lorena but rather understanding as a Mother will do anything it takes to protect and Love her babies. I just want her and who ever you are to know I am NOT the enemy. If you see Lorena please consider telling her I am sorry for letting her down as far as gifts and phone calls go. I only have local calling on my phone with a long distance block. There were calls made with a phone card that would not be recognized as me on caller ID in the past few months. Then I got a message saying the phone had been disconnected so I assumed she moved.
I also want you to know that NO ONE but me knows I came on this forum.
I guess I better stop writing for now
Take care and thank-you for listening.
Grandma Melanie

Lowville, NY

#5 May 30, 2008
Sorry your thrift store gifts never got to them maybe you can have a yard sell and get your money back.
Many items ARE NEW with tags. I do the best that I can.
I just needed you to know that.
Grandma Melanie

Lowville, NY

#6 Jun 8, 2008
Grandpa Ed wants to see the girls also when he comes to Prosser on business.
Could someone let Lorena know and ask if she would email or call me. Please
Grandma Melanie

Lowville, NY

#7 Jun 22, 2008
Great Grandma Brown is in the hospital for a week now. This week I am bringing her home for hospice care. The Dr says she might have 6 to 8 weeks to live.
I pray she can at least see a picture of her grandaughters before she passes on to heaven. I am sure my mama did her best to try to send cards.
I pray Lorena will call or email for mama's sake at least
Grandma Melanie

Lowville, NY

#8 Jun 27, 2008
We have been home for a week now and doing OK so far Mom has actually improved some having my care 24/7
Hope all is well with my loved ones in Washington.
You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Always,
Gramma

Since: Sep 08

Kennewick, WA

#9 Sep 27, 2008
You all need to mend up this situation. Nobody is perfect and Grandma's make mistakes too. Don't wait till its too late. Good luck!
The Truth

Yakima, WA

#10 Oct 1, 2008
you raised your kids as a single mother...hahaha....thats probably y Marshel is a fat sack of crap...nice one....you raied him perfectly. i bet you didnt even give him a slap on the rist growing up. I hope he reads this too. he gave up the world. for someones best friend.....not worth it. Those poor girls would always ask about there dad when they were growing up....it made us all sad. but you know what...they dont ask that anymore...lorena found a man that would put Marshel to shame...."if by some wierd chance he wasnt already" and he so far makes a better father than Marshel could ever be. your son should have got the crap beaten out of him.....and you, cannot raise a child.
Grandma Melanie wrote:
I can feel your anger and judgment towards me. I once had a decent relationship with Lorena. I raised my children as a single parent also. I would not wish any mom to have to go it alone. I never divorced my daughter-in-law. I can admit to not doing anything when I do not know what to do. I fear making a problem without even trying. I miss so much the connection Lorena and the girls had with me before their biological father left the state. I choose not to speak for him as it would only have me shut out as I was when he moved. I will only say in my defence that I had nothing to do with his and Lorenas lack of communication that caused a rift between me and my daughter-in-law Lorena and the girls connection. I Treasure the emails and communication we once had. I still have the little emails Lorena let the girls send saved in my email inbox.
My garage sale gifts and hand me downs were appreciated when I sent them. My heart was in the right place. I am still single and am not that well off financialy. That was a very long time ago. 2 years ago I had sent new items that cost a lot for both girls and for Lorena also. I care for Lorena and only want good for her. She is the mama of my first born grandbabies. Even though I am 3,000 miles away there IS NOT a day that goes by that I do not think of them and Lorena. As a grandmother I know I can only do so much but I would give up my life for them if it would guarentee Lorena and the girls happiness and a good life. I lost my job not long after I sent the last Christmas box. My Client died of a very long battle with cancer. Soon after my father had a massive stroke and every penny I did not have went into a year of caring for my dad until his death. I then started a new job and was injured with no compensation or insurance. I am presently in physical therapy for a neck and back injury. My mom is now legaly blind with wet macular degeration and is failing in health so I also help her as much as possible.
I am a good and kind woman who can not control what anyone does but myself. I wish I could have done more for Lorena and the girls and beleive me if I had more money I would be spoiling them every chance I could. I have been doing a cardiac workup with test as I also suffered a heart attack not long ago this past year. I can only thank God for bringing me through the past 3 years or so. I am not looking for pity by any means. There is not one material item in the world to replace the love I have in my heart for Heather and Kayla. AND their mama.
the terminator

Cleveland, OH

#11 Oct 1, 2008
I think you should mind your own business. You shouldnt judge if you dont know what your talking about..the girls still love their Dad and its not fair to put the blame on the grandma. She did the best she could raising her two boys....alone. What ever her son did once he was a man was his responsibility dont put the blame on the grandma!!!
Hard Headed Woman

Lowville, NY

#12 Oct 9, 2008
peaceingrandview wrote:
You all need to mend up this situation. Nobody is perfect and Grandma's make mistakes too. Don't wait till its too late. Good luck!
Thank-you peace. I never dreamed I would get another comment on here and when I continue to read the news in Grandview, I have been reading the news there since last November when I tried to call "L" to let her know I would be sending Christmas.
The gang problems scared me so much I was afraid to talk again on this forum...
I just PRAYED VERY HARD TO KEEP LORENA AND THE GIRLS SAFE. and cried a lot!!......I find my self thanking God for that I do not know where the girls and their mom are ......due to the fact that I had and do pray for the girls and their mom DAILY.....that will never change. Sometimes the lord prompts me to say a blessing more often of course.
I could understand somewhat if my son was a deadbeat dad.....but I know how much child support he pays. This is not the problem at all.
I have had to accept that Lorena has shut me out with no way to contact the girls......she has her own reasons, I can not force her nor would I care to make any problems for her. If my Grandaughters are away from Grandview I can have peace of mind as I know their mama loves and cares for them properly. I have NO ISSUES with her. I kinda understand in a way as I am sure she wants to provide a good life with a family atmosphere. I desire the same for her and the girls. I could not be happier to knoww she has found true love and a future.
My mother is still alive ...but failing each day.
She always tried to send B-Day cards etc. Mom is a good woman and will be one of the girls angels one day.
Hard Headed Woman

Lowville, NY

#13 Oct 9, 2008
quote from above>>..I find my self thanking God for that I do not know where the girls and their mom are.

This statement needs explaination.
I only say that as my sacrafice .....answered prayer has brought Lorena happiness and the girls safety.
Does this make sense to you .......why....I must be thankful..........We do not always get what we might want but if it means someone else does.....that is GOOD especially if it enhances anothers life
Hard Headed Woman

Lowville, NY

#14 Oct 9, 2008
peaceingrandview wrote:
You all need to mend up this situation. Nobody is perfect and Grandma's make mistakes too. Don't wait till its too late. Good luck!
Yes I made a BIG MISTAKE when I did not tell "L" that my son was trying to contact her about the move. I chose to stay out of what was not my business......Grandparents lost any rights in the US a few years ago. I beleive it had to do with the little boy from Cuba and their custody issues in that family.
I seriously do not know if it would have made a difference. Honestly it may have made things worse somehow.....I just do not know.....nor will I ever know for that matter.
The girls step sisters and two half brothers talk about their sisters in Wa. It is difficult for their Dad to talk about as he DOES love his daughters and ALWAYS will. I am very careful about when and where I mention them as I have see him hide the tears.
I must say i am so happy to know the girls have a step-daddy in their lifes.
I had a father and a step-father. I loved them both. Back then it was not such a common practice to divorce. Now days it is not out of the norm. AND more exceptable.
Their dad's house has several old photos framed and on the wall!
They are not forgotton.
Besides how could anyone in their right mind forget such beautiful girls!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks for reading and commenting.
BLESS EACH OF YOU!
Hard Headed Woman

Lowville, NY

#15 Oct 9, 2008
the terminator wrote:
I think you should mind your own business. You shouldnt judge if you dont know what your talking about..the girls still love their Dad and its not fair to put the blame on the grandma. She did the best she could raising her two boys....alone. What ever her son did once he was a man was his responsibility dont put the blame on the grandma!!!
Thank-you hope all is well with you.
Take Care
Hard Headed Woman

Lowville, NY

#16 Oct 9, 2008
I should have added that their Dad is happy to contribute ....I never hear one complain but rather he would not have it anyother way!! that is what love does when the relationship can not be worked out any other way.
QUOTE from above entry.....
I could understand somewhat if my son was a deadbeat dad.....but I know how much child support he pays. This is not the problem at all.

Guess I will get back to my chores waiting for me to do......with a BIG SMILE on my face knowing the girls and their mom have a good man in their lives and knowing Lorena is HAPPY!!!!!!!!
Amen to that one </:^)))))
Hard Headed Woman

Lowville, NY

#17 Oct 9, 2008
Hi all!
I just wanted to share a beautiful video that I sent to both of my sons several years ago. They grew up without their Dad......but now have an adult relationship that I am glad for them that they have.
Many times in the past he was not there for them to guide protect etc.....
Funny how I found this particular film ....as I was doing a search for a gift of sorts to let my daughter- in -law know how much I cared for her.

God does work in strange ways sometimes....I ended up finding this as a gift to all who might view. Both of them at the time just did not hear from Dad enogh at the time.

This is well worth the time it takes to view if anyone is interisted in viewing.
Hard Headed Woman

Lowville, NY

#18 Oct 9, 2008
click on the link to view....
The Fathers Love Letter

Our Heavenly Father that is
http://www.fathersloveletter.com/fllpreviewla...
Hard Headed Woman

Lowville, NY

#19 Oct 9, 2008
LOL....woops..........I just noticed that my user name came up as my normal name on the forums in topix in my area

This is still Grandma Melanie!
Grandma Melanie

Lowville, NY

#20 Oct 14, 2008
Should anyone wish to contact me>>>>>>> >>
My email is the same as always
[email protected]
communications would go directly to junk mail....so if you write to me..........put the girls names in the subject box please.
I forgot to mention that my heart condition is under control with meds for tachacardia arythemia.
Sorry for any typo or spelling errors.
It has been around 7 years or more since I saw the girls when I was in WA. Mama sent me pictures after that......but they have got to have grown up so much.
My picture of the girls is on my desk right here in front of me. The frame has an angel to the side with one of her wings wrapped around the top of frame. On the other side of the frame is an angel statue sitting on a mount that has Matthew 19:26!

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