Bethany Christian Services Featured on MTV's 16 and Pregnant

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Since: Oct 07

Cloud Nine

#1 Jul 14, 2009
http://www.mlive.com/news/grand-rapids/index....

GRAND RAPIDS -- MTV and Bethany Christian Services may seem like unlikely bedfellows.

The local faith-based adoption agency will get a chance to raise its profile among young viewers this week when one of its clients is featured on the season finale of MTV's popular series "16 and Pregnant."

Noting that we "wouldn't always totally agree 100 percent with" perspectives expressed through MTV, a Bethany Christian Services executive called involvement in the MTV documentary a chance to target a key demographic.

It's a match made in marketing.

"MTV obviously reaches a very large audience of females that may be dealing with an unplanned pregnancy, or know people who are," said Marc Andreas, Bethany's vice president of marketing and communications. "They've already begun talking to us about season two."

Andreas said MTV contacted Bethany about finding pregnant teenagers to be featured in the new series, which debuted June 11.

After contacting offices throughout the country, Grand Rapids-based Bethany found a willing client in the Detroit area. The show that premieres at 10 p.m. Thursday will feature a girl named Catelynn, whose baby has been adopted by a couple from North Carolina.

Andreas said Catelynn filmed a video tryout, then was selected by MTV for filming. The girl already had chosen adoptive parents, and news about the show "was a little nerve-wracking for them," he said.

Still, they appear in a preview clip online with Catelynn and Dawn Baker, a pregnancy counselor in Bethany's Madison Heights, Mich. office.

Andreas said the episode also may feature a clip from Bethany's promotional video, "Letting Go."

Bethany has purchased advertising during the show in a few markets, including Grand Rapids, spokesman John VanValkenburg said. A 30-second spot will promote 1-800-BETHANY and impregnant.com .

"We call it our lifeline," he said. "That's where women in an unplanned pregnancy can call and we have staff and volunteers who answer the line 24 hours.

"If they remember something like 1-800-BETHANY, then it's up to us to provide the assistance when they call. In most cases, we're able to put that person in touch with one of our local offices."

Bethany has 80 offices in 33 states.

The first season of "16 and Pregnant" includes six episodes, each following a different teenage mother. Like recent feature films "Juno" and "Bella," the mothers all choose to give birth to their babies.

Rather than making an anti-abortion statement, the show portrays the rising population of unwed mothers who now account for 40 percent of U.S. births, Andreas said.

"I think MTV probably is just reflecting that to some degree," he said.

“Don't touch my junk man!”

Since: Nov 07

Middle of the Mitten, Michigan

#2 Jul 14, 2009
I've watched this show for much of the season, and have to say it's a pretty good show. It does not wrap teen pregnancy up in sunshine and rainbows, and many times shows how some of the girls wish they would have waited.

I think MTV's smart to actually shed some light on the reality behind teen pregnancy. From the boyfriends abandoning them at home with a small infant, to the loss of their friends.

Bethany Christian Services is a good piece to add in as well.
LoveIt

Kalamazoo, MI

#3 Jul 17, 2009
i don't know how many of you caught this episode, but these two teens were very impressive IMHO. They handled the entire process better than a lot of adults - and I've worked in family court for years. I would have adopted the teen parents if I could have. Remarkable young adults. I wish them the best!!!!

“Lost in the middle somewhere..”

Since: Nov 07

Location hidden

#4 Jul 20, 2009
LoveIt wrote:
i don't know how many of you caught this episode, but these two teens were very impressive IMHO. They handled the entire process better than a lot of adults - and I've worked in family court for years. I would have adopted the teen parents if I could have. Remarkable young adults. I wish them the best!!!!
I agree!! I caught this episode this weekend and I could not believe the courage these kids had to make this decision and follow through. Especially considering the fact that they did not have their parents support in their decision. I was appalled at how ignorant the adults in these kids lives were trying to tell them they were wrong to give their baby away. And these kids did this because they KNEW they could not give their child a decent life. They did the most unselfish thing anyone could do. They loved her enough to let her go. Amazing.

“Pig-O-Riffic!”

Since: Nov 08

Byron Center, MI

#5 Jul 20, 2009
While my initial thought is that there is nothing impressive about teenagers who engage in irresponsible, unprotected sex, I appreciate and admire their courage in choosing life over murdering their unborn children.

“Don't touch my junk man!”

Since: Nov 07

Middle of the Mitten, Michigan

#6 Jul 20, 2009
-LMS- wrote:
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I agree!! I caught this episode this weekend and I could not believe the courage these kids had to make this decision and follow through. Especially considering the fact that they did not have their parents support in their decision. I was appalled at how ignorant the adults in these kids lives were trying to tell them they were wrong to give their baby away. And these kids did this because they KNEW they could not give their child a decent life. They did the most unselfish thing anyone could do. They loved her enough to let her go. Amazing.
I finally was able to catch the episode this weekend too and found myself tearing up through the whole thing. The fact that they knew what was better for the child than their own parents did was mind blowing to me.

I hope and pray those two go far in life. They seem to have reasonable heads on their shoulders.

“Lost in the middle somewhere..”

Since: Nov 07

Location hidden

#7 Jul 20, 2009
Ms Angie wrote:
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I finally was able to catch the episode this weekend too and found myself tearing up through the whole thing. The fact that they knew what was better for the child than their own parents did was mind blowing to me.
I hope and pray those two go far in life. They seem to have reasonable heads on their shoulders.
Oh, I totally cried throughout the episode. You could totally feel their pain. I can't wait to catch the "reunion" show.
feist from the window

Holland, MI

#8 Jul 20, 2009
mtv is garbage, everything they put out is grabage, they sell to young kids and they turn into grabage.,
mtv is a religion.

“Lost in the middle somewhere..”

Since: Nov 07

Location hidden

#9 Jul 20, 2009
feist from the window wrote:
mtv is garbage, everything they put out is grabage, they sell to young kids and they turn into grabage.,
mtv is a religion.
Holy cow, who pissed in your cheerios?

“You're gonna make it after all”

Since: May 09

United States

#10 Jul 20, 2009
I didn't catch this but I am alway supportive of anything that offers an opportunity for people to learn. This particular subject is extremely important and I believe is the only way to truly address the abortion. Fighting over a law to make it illegal IMHO is a waste of time , money & energy that would be better utilized in educating and support services for those whom become pregnant. It's very easy to stand back and say "yes, give your baby up for adoption -it's the right thing to do." yada yada yada.... but I for one, would find it extremely difficult to give up my child, regardless of the circumstances. I am in awe of anybody strong enough to make that choice. I understand the whole concept of a 'better life', but I think in some cases that means it's being measured by materialistic things, rather than love.

I'd love to see the idea of abortion become extinct because we as a society have learned to take care of who needs help and that unplanned pregnancies come with no real life worries. I had a friend with 4 children in the middle of a divorce and barily able to make ends meet. A pregnancy would have put her incapacitated to work because of her health. It's sad she got pregnant, but even more sad the hardships she would have had to have gone thru just to complete the pregnancy. She would have lost her home because she couldn't work. I may not like her choice, but I understand it and won't judge her for it. I leave the judgement to the man upstairs where it belongs.

“friends are forever”

Since: Dec 08

Sparta

#11 Jul 20, 2009
Since a lot of young people do watch MTV, I think it was an excellent idea. If it makes just 1 young person think about the consequences before hand, then it is worth the effort.
It is very interesting when you see such young Moms have more common sense than some adults. Very refreshing. May God bless them for giving the gift of life to their babies. To give the gift of a precious baby to parents, who have waited so long for a child, takes a special person. With open adoption so available, the babies can still know who their birth mom is.(When the time is right)
Somewhere there's a poem about adoption that says it well. If I can find it, I'll post it.
As much as I am against abortion, I have to leave that in God's hands.

Since: Oct 08

United States

#12 Jul 20, 2009
I have not watched this episode yet, but I will be very interested in watching it. We have kicked around the idea of using Bethany's Services in the past.
Baby Jane Howard

Clarksville, MD

#13 Jul 25, 2009
MTV promotes everything Bethany Services is against. Apparently now they've sold their to the devil but they won't let gay couples adopt from them. What a bunch of hypocrites. Thye might as well open an abortion clinic while they're at it. I can't stand that "16 and pregnant" show - those girls are as dumb as a doorknob and probably even less usefull. Unless their Einstein BF's come back to tap them again. The I guess they're good for something.
Bethany Services

Rochester, NY

#14 Jul 27, 2009
Bethany Christian Services makes a huge profit trolling for pregnant women to supply their paying clients with babies. There would be nothing wrong with these lovely young mothers keeping their babies. The psychological harm that comes from tearing mothers and babies apart is enormous. I'm sure in a few years, once they are through the "fog," these women will be blogging about the harm done to them by Bethany.
Babies are not gifts

Rochester, NY

#15 Jul 27, 2009
A handmade scarf is a GIFT. Your own child is not a GIFT you give to some other couple.
the myth of open adoption

Rochester, NY

#16 Jul 27, 2009
Will Bethany Christian Services allow MTV's viewers to see their contracts? Open adoption is not a legal contract. My child's adoptive parents moved during the night when she was two years old. So much for "open adoption."
Heraldo

Byron Center, MI

#17 Jul 27, 2009
Bethany Services wrote:
Bethany Christian Services makes a huge profit trolling for pregnant women to supply their paying clients with babies. There would be nothing wrong with these lovely young mothers keeping their babies. The psychological harm that comes from tearing mothers and babies apart is enormous. I'm sure in a few years, once they are through the "fog," these women will be blogging about the harm done to them by Bethany.
While I am not a big fan of Bethany CS, you malign them falsely when you spout off about huge profits. Bethany, like many adoption agencys is hurting due to the economy and a general slow down in the international adoption community.

“Just be you. ”

Since: May 08

Muskegon,MI

#18 Jul 27, 2009
Bethany Services wrote:
Bethany Christian Services makes a huge profit trolling for pregnant women to supply their paying clients with babies. There would be nothing wrong with these lovely young mothers keeping their babies. The psychological harm that comes from tearing mothers and babies apart is enormous. I'm sure in a few years, once they are through the "fog," these women will be blogging about the harm done to them by Bethany.
Did you watch the show?

This couple chose adoption...this service did not find them.

Who are you to chose what is right for any couple or women in this situation?

They did not make this choice lightly. They thought long and hard about what they should do and they did what they thought was best for their child. They were not selfish.....they were quite the opposite.
Informed

Macomb, MI

#19 Jan 25, 2012
the myth of open adoption wrote:
Will Bethany Christian Services allow MTV's viewers to see their contracts? Open adoption is not a legal contract. My child's adoptive parents moved during the night when she was two years old. So much for "open adoption."
Let's refocus the discussion here, because adoption is not about the birth parent. Adoption is about the child. The issue here with open adoption is not whether the birth mom feels the adoption is fair to her or whether it was open enough, because it's not about her. The issue is whether the degree of openness in the adoption is best for the child. And the responsibility for that determination (and the right to make that decision) is 100% with the adoptive parents, because they are the legal guardians of that child.

Birth parents who place their child into an adoptive family cannot do so without terminating their own legal parental rights in court. The birth mom is essentially making a decision that says, "I no longer will be the one with decision authority in my child's life. I am giving that authority to someone else." Such a decision must not be taken lightly, because the adoptive parents are the legal guardians from that point on. They have the legal right to do what THEY think is best for the child, just as does a birth parent who decides to KEEP her children. Bottom line, even though an open adoption might be best for a child in many instances, the adoptive parents as the legal guardians have the right to choose that it might be in the child's best interest to limit or terminate contact with the birth parent(s). There are a thousand valid reasons why adoptive parents might do so. Do you really expect that adoptive parents should give up their right to move somewhere else? Come on now. Adoptive parents are expected to become slaves to their current home for the rest of their lives? That's ludicrous.

Any birth parent is mistaken if they retain any expectation for interaction with their child after they have terminated their parental rights. If they have interaction with that child, it should be considered a privilege, not a right, because they have willingly terminated all their parental rights.

As a note of support to Bethany Christian Services, I have firsthand heard them state that they ask birth parents some very tough, hard questions to make them think extremely seriously about the lifelong implications of terminating their parental rights. They want to resolve any doubts that a birth mom might have about giving her child up for adoption. They help birth mothers know what to expect, and what it means to terminate their parental rights. The birth mom knows exactly what she is getting into, and is forced to consider the life-long ramifications. This is not a flippant decision like getting a tattoo where you can claim later, "I made a dumb decision - I wasn't thinking about what I was doing." It's a complex decision that affects many people - the birth parents, the child, the adoptive parents, and all their extended families and friends. For a birth mother to make that decision without considering the possible outcomes (such as a less-than-open adoption) would be irresponsible.

So the commenter above is a bit out of line in making their comment, "so much for open adoption." You can't one one hand deny your rights and on the other hand expect to possess those same rights.
Michelle

Stuart, FL

#20 Jan 25, 2013
Sadly, MTV did not do their homework or they would not have allowed the free publicity for the unethical BETHANY CHRISTIAN SERVICES who have been VOTED as the "DEMON ADOPTION AGENCY" among their peers and those who have experienced their "christian services".

They have long been unethical and not only collect funding from people serving as a "nonprofit to he;p" pregnant girls but they then turn around & pressure the girls to give up their child (versus offer the financial option that they claim to do with the fundraising). High pressure &, in some states, the loss of their baby with no ability to win them back. Then they make a profit of $30,000-$40,000 of the baby in a private adoption. Ugly group that is certainly not pro family.
Ms Angie wrote:
I've watched this show for much of the season, and have to say it's a pretty good show. It does not wrap teen pregnancy up in sunshine and rainbows, and many times shows how some of the girls wish they would have waited.
I think MTV's smart to actually shed some light on the reality behind teen pregnancy. From the boyfriends abandoning them at home with a small infant, to the loss of their friends.
Bethany Christian Services is a good piece to add in as well.

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