Like I said... I don't know much about high maintenance girlfriends. My friend told me that high maintenance means you have to spend alot of money on them to keep them happy. I always thought it meant they were insecure and needed alot of attention.<quoted text>
There are two sides to every story, and we are only hearing yours, with very little detail. Having said that...I hate to say this, but you need to move on. Your GF cares more about herself than she does about her relationship with you. Saying you're sorry means that you've realized your mistake, and won't let it happen again. It doesn't excuse her behavior or give her the green light to keep doing it again and again. She also admits to needing counseling but won't go. Why should she change? She is allowed to get with her behavior now.
Either be the man and lay down the law (she will respect you for it), or move on. Life is too short. If things are so hard now that you are under so much stress and possible health issues, is she really worth it? Someone else may appreciate you. It sounds as if she is only self serving.
Her insecurity causes her to be jealous of my friends... male or female... all of them, my mother, my daughter, my job, my bad back, and even a woman I cannot STAND... my ex-wife.
She engages in alot of attention seeking behaviors... always has a relative that has done something me or ANYONE ELSE has done, like, ME TOO ME TOO... she's passive aggressive, as completes tasks incorrectly if it is something she doesn't like doing, such as cooking, cleaning, social gatherings, etc.
I feel sorry for her and know that she has nowhere else to go, right now. She has never lived on her own, and likely lacks the necessary skill even though she is in her late 40's.
But, if this isn't high maintenance, then there isn't much point for me to follow this thread.