Dead Beat Losers (dads)??

Dead Beat Losers (dads)??

Created by Rose on Apr 7, 2009

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Rose

United States

#21 Apr 12, 2009
I HATE U JEREMIE T. ROANE, B****.
I hate every man that lays down and have the fun, and does man up and take care of the children. How dare you, F***** Coward azz n*****. I hate him. Hell, I HATE U. GO TO HELL. ROT IN HELL, U PIECE OF WORTHLESS S***.

Since: Apr 09

Dillon, SC

#22 Apr 14, 2009
Rose wrote:
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So you worry that he will come back and take your child? Me too. I always think that he will show up one day and want to play father, and i will not let him, or even worse try to take custody or something. I wish he would. I too, make calls sometimes and let him know how his baby is doing. it would be nice for him to show some initiative and call as well, he doesnt. No he is not on the birth certificate. Paternity has been proven though.
my sons dad scared the hell out of me when he was little i would worry all the time he was just going to show up and get him. there is a little thing i was unaware of called an abandonment order. after so long of them not contacting you or your child they can order it. if its done right it terminates his right and he still has to pay child support. my sister is in the process of getting one for her daughters dad. even though paternity has been proven it does not give him any right to visitation that has to be established in court. alot of people think that just because they pay child support they should be able to see their kid. not true. my sons biological dad has started to talk to our son. i'm not thrilled about it but at the same time he deserves to know his other family history.
Rose

United States

#23 Apr 15, 2009
Tell me more about this abandonment order.
Who should I talk to? How to get it started? what do i do?
xxx

United States

#24 Apr 15, 2009
The way you are talking it seems like you may be mad for having the baby. Just remeber it's not his fault. My Ex was a dead beat dad and my kids came out just fine. They are both hard workers and have children of their own that they adore. They both know what it was like not to have a dad around and don't want that for their kids. I too wnt through all the red tape for child support with no luck. But I made it and you can too. I was 16 when I had my first child so I know what your feeling. A baby with a baby.

Since: Apr 09

United States

#25 Apr 16, 2009
you would need to talk to an attorney. cost a little but well worth it in the long run.
Rose

Rayville, LA

#26 Apr 16, 2009
xxx wrote:
The way you are talking it seems like you may be mad for having the baby. Just remeber it's not his fault. My Ex was a dead beat dad and my kids came out just fine. They are both hard workers and have children of their own that they adore. They both know what it was like not to have a dad around and don't want that for their kids. I too wnt through all the red tape for child support with no luck. But I made it and you can too. I was 16 when I had my first child so I know what your feeling. A baby with a baby.
Yes, I regret having him sometimes. I think that i should not have had him, often. but i had him and i love him. I never thought I would have to raise him alone, even if the father and I split up. I am now 28, i had my baby at 26. What do you mean you had no luck with child support?
Rose

Rayville, LA

#27 Apr 16, 2009
Sometimes I wish I would have taken that chance at an abortion. My baby would have come later, maybe with a man that would love the child and me and stay in our lives. Maybe that man would help me raise a boy into a man. Ya know?
xxx

United States

#28 Apr 16, 2009
Just what I said I filed complaints against him for nonpayment of child support. Never got any where. He never paid any support. He was suppose to pay 300.00 a month that was alot back then. He never paid a dime. They even had him in jail once and never ran a report on him. If they had they would have seen that he had a court order for child support.
The law in Louisiana says that if a parent goes 1 year and does not see or support a child during that year then you can go to court and file an abandment against that parent. And he looses all rights to that child.
My boys never had their dad around and I did fine raising them alone. They are now 37 & 32.
You just have to face the fact you are going to raise this baby by your self. For get about the dad and go own with your life. A child does not need a father if that father doesn't care about that baby.

Since: Apr 09

United States

#29 Apr 16, 2009
Rose wrote:
Sometimes I wish I would have taken that chance at an abortion. My baby would have come later, maybe with a man that would love the child and me and stay in our lives. Maybe that man would help me raise a boy into a man. Ya know?
why didnt you just put him up for adoption?
xxx

United States

#30 Apr 17, 2009
amazon2009 wrote:
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why didnt you just put him up for adoption?
I have thought the same thing.
Rose

Rayville, LA

#31 Apr 17, 2009
I guess for the same reason i never had that abortion. Dont really know. Influences from family and friends. Every one says dont do it. No one is helping me raise the child though. I do it all by myself. I still think about adoption. I feel it would hard for the child to adjust now. he is almost two now, and he is stuck to me life glue. Trying not to cause more pain and distruction.

Since: Apr 09

Rayville, LA

#32 Apr 17, 2009
Rose wrote:
I guess for the same reason i never had that abortion. Dont really know. Influences from family and friends. Every one says dont do it. No one is helping me raise the child though. I do it all by myself. I still think about adoption. I feel it would hard for the child to adjust now. he is almost two now, and he is stuck to me life glue. Trying not to cause more pain and distruction.
the way i see it things always work out. a true friend isnt going to let you do without. its not their job to raise your kid. helping out every now and then is one thing. guidance and wisdom should come from your friends and parents.

a girl i know is kind of in the same boat as you. the babies dad left her because she was a b*tch to him. now he wont have anything to do with his kid. now she is mad at the world. blames everyone but herself for how her life turned out. she expects everyone to take care of her kid. her mother has had several strokes and she always leaves her kid with her mom. her mom pays the bills. her and her kid never do without. her mom does. alot of times she doesnt have her stroke medicine because she is paying for her daughter and grandson.

you have alot of anger, which is very reasonable. the more you let him make you mad the more miserable you will be. any relationship you pursue is going to suffer because of what he has done. if you ever want to be happy you are going to have to let go and forgive him. it doesnt mean you have to forget what he has done. he is going to have to answer for his actions when his son is grown. my oldest son talked to his dad and made him cry. he said it killed him to have tell him why he hasnt ever done anything for him and why he wasnt a priority. let his personal demons eat at him. he will always have regret on some level that he hasnt included him in his life. you cant get the time back. i would still fight to get child support. just because he pays child support doesnt mean he gets visitation. that is a whole seperate matter. im just not going to waste my time being mad about something i have no control over. f*%@ him. you do bad things bad things happen to you.. KARMA!!!

no ones life is perfect. the ones that seem like they are scare me the most when you actually get to know them. everynight after the kids have tore my house to shreds, done 4 or 5 loads of laundry in a day, cooked for my little army i'm still thankful i have my kids. when everyone else in my life has abandoned me my kids are going to still be here.
xxx

United States

#33 Apr 17, 2009
amazon2009 wrote:
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the way i see it things always work out. a true friend isnt going to let you do without. its not their job to raise your kid. helping out every now and then is one thing. guidance and wisdom should come from your friends and parents.
a girl i know is kind of in the same boat as you. the babies dad left her because she was a b*tch to him. now he wont have anything to do with his kid. now she is mad at the world. blames everyone but herself for how her life turned out. she expects everyone to take care of her kid. her mother has had several strokes and she always leaves her kid with her mom. her mom pays the bills. her and her kid never do without. her mom does. alot of times she doesnt have her stroke medicine because she is paying for her daughter and grandson.
you have alot of anger, which is very reasonable. the more you let him make you mad the more miserable you will be. any relationship you pursue is going to suffer because of what he has done. if you ever want to be happy you are going to have to let go and forgive him. it doesnt mean you have to forget what he has done. he is going to have to answer for his actions when his son is grown. my oldest son talked to his dad and made him cry. he said it killed him to have tell him why he hasnt ever done anything for him and why he wasnt a priority. let his personal demons eat at him. he will always have regret on some level that he hasnt included him in his life. you cant get the time back. i would still fight to get child support. just because he pays child support doesnt mean he gets visitation. that is a whole seperate matter. im just not going to waste my time being mad about something i have no control over. f*%@ him. you do bad things bad things happen to you.. KARMA!!!
no ones life is perfect. the ones that seem like they are scare me the most when you actually get to know them. everynight after the kids have tore my house to shreds, done 4 or 5 loads of laundry in a day, cooked for my little army i'm still thankful i have my kids. when everyone else in my life has abandoned me my kids are going to still be here.
AMEN. There is a Helen Ready song called " Me and You against the World" If you can find it listen to it. It's true when everbody else is gone you will still have that baby. And he loves you no matter what.
Rose

Rayville, LA

#34 Apr 17, 2009
Why is every body acting like they are on the Barney show. "I love you...." This is not a happy affair. Hell, i am mad, disgusted, pissed, and i regret a whole bunch of stuff, and i am not happy. Period point blank.

Since: Apr 09

Rayville, LA

#35 Apr 17, 2009
Rose wrote:
Why is every body acting like they are on the Barney show. "I love you...." This is not a happy affair. Hell, i am mad, disgusted, pissed, and i regret a whole bunch of stuff, and i am not happy. Period point blank.
why be mad about something you have no control over. you are mad because he left. you are mad because he didnt stand up and be a man. be mad at his mother for not instilling it in him that he needed to be responsible for his actions and his father for not teaching him about the laws of life. i realize you need to vent. sounds to me like you might wanna make some new friends.

laws of life...

hate something it hates you back

plant a seed it grows

what goes up must come down

if you dont add water..it dies

feed it and it will love you

always help someone out if you can you never know when you may need help

if you are having sex you are trying to get pregnant..even when using protection!!!

the most important ....if you slap sh*t it splatters....
Rose

United States

#36 Apr 18, 2009
I need new friends. Do you consider yourself my friend? Like your laws of life. Seems as if they only apply to some people. Venting is the least of it. I need to yell and scream and hit something. I havent done it yet, been over two years, been holding it all in. Tired of that too. I cant help but to think, "Is this the life I was meant to live?"
Rose

United States

#37 Apr 18, 2009
I am close to a break down. Honestly. . .

Since: Apr 09

Abilene, TX

#38 Apr 18, 2009
Rose,
For some reason your posts are making an impact on me...maybe it's because I've watched my daughter with some similar life choices.
Anger is absolutely understandable, but try to channel it properly. Is this urge to yell and scream and hit something a new thing?
Here's where I'm going...if you're truly close to a break down, get some help. It's especially critical since you've got your kiddo depending on you.
If you're strapped for cash, there's a free family counseling service over in Shreveport, two two one four four five five. I don't know anything about it, but maybe it's a start.
Good luck...

Since: Apr 09

United States

#39 Apr 19, 2009
Rose wrote:
I need new friends. Do you consider yourself my friend? Like your laws of life. Seems as if they only apply to some people. Venting is the least of it. I need to yell and scream and hit something. I havent done it yet, been over two years, been holding it all in. Tired of that too. I cant help but to think, "Is this the life I was meant to live?"
i consider everyone a friend until they have hit the unfriendly mode. i wouldnt tell you anything i wouldnt tell my sister when it deals with being a single parent.
Rose

United States

#40 Apr 19, 2009
Chinquapin wrote:
Rose,
For some reason your posts are making an impact on me...maybe it's because I've watched my daughter with some similar life choices.
Anger is absolutely understandable, but try to channel it properly. Is this urge to yell and scream and hit something a new thing?
Here's where I'm going...if you're truly close to a break down, get some help. It's especially critical since you've got your kiddo depending on you.
If you're strapped for cash, there's a free family counseling service over in Shreveport, two two one four four five five. I don't know anything about it, but maybe it's a start.
Good luck...
Yeah its new. I have never been so mad in my life. Most things i have gotten over but i cant seem to shake this.I just want to find an outlet for my anger. Cant. Work all day, then i am too tired after that. Thanks for the advice. I remind you of your daughter huh? Is that a good thing?

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