grandparents raising grandchildren

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jenny

Glasgow, KY

#1 Jul 5, 2008
what would you do if you raised your grandchildren from babies and their parents constantly trying to stir up trouble trying to make you look like an idiot? give me your opinion!
living life

Glasgow, KY

#2 Jul 5, 2008
depending on how old the children are,I would sit them down and explain what was going on and show them what was BEST FOR THEM and no one else! If they are old enough, then they will see the way!

“i'm here where are you?”

Since: Feb 08

glasgow

#3 Jul 5, 2008
it's hard to do when u have a judge like nance worring about drug addict parents getting visitation. he is the biggest problem.
golden lady

Glasgow, KY

#4 Jul 5, 2008
Y did your kids turn out so great, jenny?
vengeince

Glasgow, KY

#5 Jul 8, 2008
you can raise your kids up so far no matter how you do it they are resposible for their own actions they cant blame their parents for their mistakes forever!
annieoakly

Cave City, KY

#6 Jul 8, 2008
sherry-23 wrote:
it's hard to do when u have a judge like nance worring about drug addict parents getting visitation. he is the biggest problem.
Amen!
fill me in

Edmonton, KY

#7 Jul 8, 2008
I have never had any dealings with Nance but am about to. I will be serving as a court appointed advocate soon. Tell me about this judge.
jenny

Glasgow, KY

#8 Jul 9, 2008
its all about biological if your the parent whatever you do is fine blood is blood its not right its whoever loves the kids and gives them a good home anyone can become a parent that doesnt make you one and god bless you if you dont have a lawyer money is whats happening here if not your a piece of shi-.i think when people lose their kids they should never get them back just because you give birth doesnt give you a right to abuse your children some please step in and give all these kids a chance also kids dont have a say in the courtroom about where they want to live .
fill me in

Edmonton, KY

#9 Jul 9, 2008
How old are the kids? I thought kids got a court appointed adlidum(sorry, I am sure it is mispelled)My cousin was trying to get custody of her nephew and the other grandma was trying also and they appointed the child and adlidum. Is that something you have to ask for?
Granny

Cave City, KY

#10 Jul 9, 2008
Grandparents would not and should not have to raise their grandkids unless both parents are dirt bags.So,If your own child turned out to be one of those dirtbags then why would you think you would be qualified to raise another child and it turn out to be just like the one you just raised??Sometimes its better for the kids to get them out of the enviroment all together unless you are willing to give the dirtbag child you had the boot!Are you sure its for the kids or are you wanting a second chance to fix what you screwed up the first time.Please dont take offence but I see this happen all the time.grandparents wanting a second chance to be a better mother to their grandchildren when they failed at raising their own????
Stormy

Campbellsville, KY

#11 Jul 10, 2008
Granny wrote:
Grandparents would not and should not have to raise their grandkids unless both parents are dirt bags.So,If your own child turned out to be one of those dirtbags then why would you think you would be qualified to raise another child and it turn out to be just like the one you just raised??Sometimes its better for the kids to get them out of the enviroment all together unless you are willing to give the dirtbag child you had the boot!Are you sure its for the kids or are you wanting a second chance to fix what you screwed up the first time.Please dont take offence but I see this happen all the time.grandparents wanting a second chance to be a better mother to their grandchildren when they failed at raising their own????
Don't blame anyone for the way their kids turn out. I've raised 2 kids, both completely different. 1 went to college and now has a great career. The other does not know the word "WORK" means. We raised them the same. Some just turn out that way no matter how. We tried to get her to go to college or any kind of trade school, she refused. A week after graduating high school, she left home and about a year later came back pregnant. She's still here. The child is adorable. We've told her she needs to staighten out her life for her child. She seems to think that we are trying to run her life, but she is ruining ours. We have told her she had to get a job within 3 weeks, or she's out. Still it hasn't worked. What do you do when a baby is involved?
I do not think that any parent should be blamed for the way a child turns out. You need to walk for awhile in my shoes.
farmgal

Glasgow, KY

#12 Jul 10, 2008
For grandparents that are raising grandchildren:
I think that every school in the Barren County school district offers a class that would be beneficial to you. Just call the school and ask for the family resource center. Good luck to all of you.
Grandparent

Glasgow, KY

#13 Jul 10, 2008
farmgal wrote:
For grandparents that are raising grandchildren:
I think that every school in the Barren County school district offers a class that would be beneficial to you. Just call the school and ask for the family resource center. Good luck to all of you.
Support group for Grandparents Raising Grandchildren meets each 3rd Friday at 11:00 at TJ Samson Resource Center (down from Big Lots.) It is sponsored by Glasgow & Barren County family resource and youth service centers. I have attended the meetings and they are very good. It gives us chance to share, get information and they always provide a good lunch and door pries. The next meeting will be in August. You can contact any Glasgow or Barren County school for the family resource number.
farmgal

Glasgow, KY

#14 Jul 10, 2008
Grandparent wrote:
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Support group for Grandparents Raising Grandchildren meets each 3rd Friday at 11:00 at TJ Samson Resource Center (down from Big Lots.) It is sponsored by Glasgow & Barren County family resource and youth service centers. I have attended the meetings and they are very good. It gives us chance to share, get information and they always provide a good lunch and door pries. The next meeting will be in August. You can contact any Glasgow or Barren County school for the family resource number.
Thanks for posting that, Grandparent. I'm glad that our community is trying to support the grandparents.
alphamale

Berea, KY

#15 Jul 10, 2008
Anyone doing drugs MUST NEVER be let to take care of kids. They are likely to be abused, to say the least.
caligurl

Glasgow, KY

#16 Jul 10, 2008
Granny wrote:
Grandparents would not and should not have to raise their grandkids unless both parents are dirt bags.So,If your own child turned out to be one of those dirtbags then why would you think you would be qualified to raise another child and it turn out to be just like the one you just raised??Sometimes its better for the kids to get them out of the enviroment all together unless you are willing to give the dirtbag child you had the boot!Are you sure its for the kids or are you wanting a second chance to fix what you screwed up the first time.Please dont take offence but I see this happen all the time.grandparents wanting a second chance to be a better mother to their grandchildren when they failed at raising their own????
Its like this..........I have good parents thank GOD! My parents tried their best to make sure my brother and I had a good childhood. Yes, there were a lot of good times as well as bad. My parents tried to teach us the proper skills to become responsible hard working adults. BUT my parents also told my brother and I that from the time we left home till the time we died, life is what WE make of it. Their will be lots of bumps in the road but try and learn from them. I know of people who have great parents but the kids are dirtbags, and I also know of people who are great people but the parents are dirtbags.
Granny

Cave City, KY

#17 Jul 10, 2008
Stormy wrote:
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Don't blame anyone for the way their kids turn out. I've raised 2 kids, both completely different. 1 went to college and now has a great career. The other does not know the word "WORK" means. We raised them the same. Some just turn out that way no matter how. We tried to get her to go to college or any kind of trade school, she refused. A week after graduating high school, she left home and about a year later came back pregnant. She's still here. The child is adorable. We've told her she needs to staighten out her life for her child. She seems to think that we are trying to run her life, but she is ruining ours. We have told her she had to get a job within 3 weeks, or she's out. Still it hasn't worked. What do you do when a baby is involved?
I do not think that any parent should be blamed for the way a child turns out. You need to walk for awhile in my shoes.
No Thanks,Shes your daughter.She cant ruin your life unless you let her.Its your choice.

“I'm Bored”

Since: Sep 08

G-town

#18 Sep 4, 2008
Ok. This is touchy. I am married to a man, who has two children, by a women he was never married too...he went to jail for 6 months for domestic violance..the children were 1 and 3...the mother decided after having them for 2 weeks that she did not want them so she took them to my husbands mothers home and left them....now...dads in jail...mom is gone...dad has hands tied and grandma says...state will take em...got to get custody...tells her son...as soon as he is out of jail...he can have them back....well guess what...that did not happen...he rebeled..being the young dumby he was...and then we met...the children were then 3 and 5...I was not ready to battle his mother for them..so he did not force it..needless to say..he grew up 100%..have been a wonderful provider and step father to my children for the past 7 years....the children now 13 and 11..are getting to the age of needing daddy more..and believe me...he yearns for them to be with him 24/7. He so desires to be a full time daddy. They live 150 miles away. Its hard to visit regulary..she will not meet halfway..he pays child support to his mother weekly and has all there lives...Im sorry...but there is no part of me that believes they should be with her...they are his children...and yes..it is true..she actually did not raise my husband..his granny did...so now, I think she is trying to do the right thing with his children...but a part of him is so sad because of it all..
sometimes

Glasgow, KY

#19 Sep 5, 2008
He should have gone back to court ten years ago and got his kids back. Probably would have cost him about four months of the child support he's been paying his mom for the past ten years so don't say he couldn't afford a lawyer.
its sad

Glasgow, KY

#20 Sep 5, 2008
It's sad for the children, because no matter what their parents do they still love them. Someday they might resent you if you keep them away. However, I understand the spot you must be in feeling they are in danger around them. the kids are always the ones that lose and it makes me sick. No wonder kids these days act so out of control. Alot of them have no role model. Your Grandkids are lucky to have you.

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