How some mothers never want their sons to have a life

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sick n tired

United States

#1 Nov 5, 2008
Me and my boyfriend has had the hardest time in the world trying to be together because of his mother she just dont want to let her lil boy who is now a man go.. its ridiculous really me and him have seen eachother on and off for two years and its been rough. He has made it clear to her that nothing that she could ever do or say about me is gonna change the way he feels about me and i have lil boys to and i know as a mother that when they find the love of their lives its gonna be hard on me to sure ill be jealous but come on. after they get older and become men who they want is their choice does anyone else have this problem?
Been There

Gilbert, WV

#2 Nov 5, 2008
My husband and I had been married for years before his mom finally realized he wasn't gonna leave me and come back to her. The woman put me thru hell, even trying to convince her son to divorce me and take custody of our kids so she could raise them "the way she wanted". It was easy for her to manipulate things back when I was younger, but with age comes wisdom, and now I stand up for myself and make it clear to her that I am the #1 woman in "her sons" life. She hates it, she hates me......but my husband and I couldn't be happier.

Don't let her bully you. Don't allow her to go to her son when she has a problem with you....make her confront you personally. The evil mother-in-laws are not so ballsy when they have to deal with you face to face! But most of all, be strong and stand your ground. You WILL win in the end.
been there and done that

United States

#3 Nov 6, 2008
it was not my mother-in-law, but my father-in-law who gave me the trouble. i could never do anything right in his eyes. i know he hated my guts, and frankly i did not care. my husband and myself are soul mates and nothing he could do, would come between us, and trust me he tried everything, but we are still together.
Me too

Gilbert, WV

#4 Nov 6, 2008
My problem is not with my mother-in-law either. Mine is with my husband. He won't let me and my boyfriend have any time to ourselves. He thinks, just because we're married, that he owns me. They get off work the same time and that don't give me anytime with my boyfriend. I wish they would put him on the second shift. Husbands, go figure.
me three

United States

#5 Nov 13, 2008
its the other way around for me..mine wont leave her mother along for us to have a life..He mother hated me with a passion.She would get out and talk about me like a dog..aint it funny how no matter how hard u try to get along with someone they still stab u in the back..
mmhmmm

Humble, TX

#6 Nov 14, 2008
Me too wrote:
My problem is not with my mother-in-law either. Mine is with my husband. He won't let me and my boyfriend have any time to ourselves. He thinks, just because we're married, that he owns me. They get off work the same time and that don't give me anytime with my boyfriend. I wish they would put him on the second shift. Husbands, go figure.
don't worry about your boyfriend not being taken care of. i keep him pretty occupied for ya. he's not lonely. if you want, the things you like that he doesn't do....i'll make sure to teach him that for ya....that way when hubby gets put on second shift, he'll already be trained for ya. i can teach hubby the same things too, that is if you want me to.
Me Too

Gilbert, WV

#7 Nov 14, 2008
Have at it honey. I can't keep up with all of them anyway. There are so many men and so little time. If they don't know how already,I don't have time to teach them. Maybe we could double team them. Thanks for your help.
Been There

United States

#8 Nov 17, 2008
Yea my boyfriend I had the same problems.. Everywhere we went mommy had something ot about it or she wanted to go.. Even to themovies with us.. That is the reason why we aren't together now!! I mean my god let go of them... There not mommy baby anymore!
sexless

United States

#9 Nov 17, 2008
I so agree!! When are these ladies going to take their baby off the tit!! At some point you have to start sucking the wifes tit and let mommy go!!!!
thank god

Gilbert, WV

#10 Nov 19, 2008
I'm lucky I guess, my husband can't stand his mom and neither can I,if you can even call her a mom, more like a drunk...lol Oh well I don't have to deal with her.
sick and tired new york

Jamaica, NY

#11 Jan 1, 2009
My boyfriend is a 50 year old man, He and i are having so many problems because of His mother,we being dating for 3 years and were engage alredy one time,and of course broke the engagment because of Hes mother,she is so manipulative! always making him feel guilty that something may happen to her while he is with me. She calls Him all the time just to bother me, we dont know what to do!we love each other very much,but i am sick and tired of the way She wants to run our lives,any advice please help!!
Info

Gilbert, WV

#12 Jan 1, 2009
sick and tired new york wrote:
My boyfriend is a 50 year old man, He and i are having so many problems because of His mother,we being dating for 3 years and were engage alredy one time,and of course broke the engagment because of Hes mother,she is so manipulative! always making him feel guilty that something may happen to her while he is with me. She calls Him all the time just to bother me, we dont know what to do!we love each other very much,but i am sick and tired of the way She wants to run our lives,any advice please help!!
Look here it is plain and simple, and keep in mind I'm not trying to be a bitch or anything but your boyfriend needs to grown a set and put his mother in her place. Even better both of you together talk to her, he needs to explain to her that just because you are in his life doesn't mean that there won't be room for her also, and make it plain to here that he does love her but if she doesn't except you then she doesn't except him, when your marrying someone then you two become as one and the best thing for her to do is realize that if she doesn't take the both of you together then maybe she won't get him alone. If she truly loves him and wants him to be happy and get on with his life and whatever then she'll go along with his decisions in life like them or not, that's what a mother is suppose to do support her children's decisions, guide them but not live life for them and dictate their every move, especially at his age.
mommas babies

United States

#13 Jan 2, 2009
seems like every man I date their mothers are in the way. But the man that I am with now me and his mother went from good friends, before I started dating her son to worse enemies after she realized she had lost her lil boy. After telling her for a year that he was going to be with me she finally slacked up a lil, she still dont like it but she has to live with it. Shes had him arrested and put in jail to keep him from me, shes took his vehicle because it was in her name,so that he couldnt get a job. I mean this women has done everything possible to keep us apart but we love eachother and no one is gonna keep us apart.I also have two lil boys they are young five and two, and yes I dread it when they get older and start dating but, these mothers have taught me alot, I will never do my sons the way they have. Sure I may not like who they fall in love with I may even hate them but I am going to do my best to stay out of their relationships and be the best mother n law I possibly can.

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#14 Jan 2, 2009
In my case, I have seen my son make so many bad decisions. I would love to choose a mate for him. The first wife loved allll the men. The second wife was completely evil and a horrible mother. The third wife to be has so many kids, she don't know what to do.

My son is a handsome, sweet and honest man. He just has no sense at all when it comes to choosing a wife. Sometimes, I wish I were a meddling, manifpulative mother. Maybe, then, I wouldn't have felt obligated to pay lawyers to help him and pay debts of the exes to keep his credit in good standing.

Some men are just plain stupid when it comes to women.
lol

United States

#15 Jan 2, 2009
i think the moms should get out of there sons lives and let them live there lives its the son that has to live with the woman not the mom so moms but out of ur sons bussiness.......my god this is crazy....moms can be crazy theres a time to let go
kysha

San Francisco, CA

#16 Feb 14, 2009
OMG, I thought I was the only one. I know EXACTLY how you feel. My fiance is 30 years old and I an 28 and his mother has been a problem for us for the past 2 1/2 years. He has made it clear to her that I am what he wants to spend the rest of his life with, but she just over looks that entire consept. She will be alright though, because I will be dam if I let her spoil my happiness
HisOnly

United States

#17 Feb 14, 2009
I had a Mother-In-Law who was so jealous of me she would tell lies and make up things about me to tell my Husband so as to start trouble with us..years on down the road he realized this and quit believing anything she ever told him! She was even jealous if I would buy things she didnt have or if he gave me anything nice to wear or even a nice home or car! But he has always been a good Husband to me and has always stood by me spoiling me, someday my Son will take a wife..and I know by her mistakes I will never treat my Daughter-In-Law like she has me!
u dont know me

United States

#18 Feb 16, 2009
Me too wrote:
My problem is not with my mother-in-law either. Mine is with my husband. He won't let me and my boyfriend have any time to ourselves. He thinks, just because we're married, that he owns me. They get off work the same time and that don't give me anytime with my boyfriend. I wish they would put him on the second shift. Husbands, go figure.
Are you actually serious?
husband

United States

#19 Feb 19, 2009
I have a great mother- in -law just wish she had of warned about her son
mommies babies

United States

#20 Mar 3, 2009
Finally after three yrs his mother is now actually being social with me. Shes helped him fix his truck and gave him a nice trailer for us to live in. I really cant believe it, he just kept telling her over and over that he was going to be with me no matter what and after three yrs I guess she got the point. And I have always liked his mother, at times I wanted to just beat her so bad but i didnt. She was trying to fix him up with diff girls and inviting his x to come over and stay with her while he was there it was horrible for along time. But thank God that its all working out I couldnt be any happier about the situation right now..

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