Before I begin listing the negatives of a man I have met, I have to say he is a gentleman and treats me well (by that I mean-invests time in me, compliments me often, opens doors, etc). That should be enough and I am trying to turn a blind eye, but don't want to keep dating someone who may turn out to be a bad fit.
We have dated for 3 weeks, talked for a total of 5 weeks.
He pursued me initially-met me at a store then chased after me as I was leaving to get me number. Texted, asked me out, etc. One day he made the comment that it seemed like I never want to talk to him (I guess because I never texted him first and I had so little to say to him when he did try talking to me) so after that I started inititating contact with him. Since then, it feels like I ALWAYS have to be the first to text. I don't get the same frequency of texts nor do I get the "good morning beautiful texts anymore. Regardless, he asks to see me often (every weekend and atleast once a week).
What has me somewhat worried:
He is 31 and lives with 2 rooommates in an apt. Which is fine. But the apt is a disgusting mess-all mismatched furniture, messy counters, gritty shower. His room? The decor is wrestling figurines (still in their boxes) and framed movie posters. I have never dated a man who had wrestling figures so maybe I am just overreacting.
His dog. I tolerate the dog, I know how much he loves him and babies him. He kisses the dog on the head, that I can overlook. BUT I mentioned taking a trip in May and he said he'd like to go with me. I said ok. Then he asked if the dog could go too.. NO.
I make twice what he does. I know for a fact because he told me his salary. No big deal. However, on our first date, I offered to pay my part. He let me. Since then I have treated him to an expensive dinner and again paid my part at last nights dinner. He will pay the full bill if I don't offer (which has only happened twice). IDK, I guess I am just so used to men arguing back with me when I offer to pay.
Has told me twice now that I am dramatic. Once when I said I was scared to drive on icy roads and a second time over being bitten by an animal. Hurt my feelings that he said it.
Was on a date with him and as we were driving back home, 45 minute drive, he SnapChatted with his friend about 30 minutes of the way. I was very annoyed at being ignored. I told him as much and he has not done it since then in my prescence.