<quoted text>Common to the gay lifestyle! Most never find the love they long for.
<quoted text>I so agree! Despite periods of self-acceptance, most of the time I am sad. Sad and aware I'm different and abhored by the straight community. I love queer sex, but found very few emotional connections. Mostly it's temporary. Lots of fantasy keeps the connection alive briefly but not long term. I can't live on fantasy for long, I need a solid emotional foundation that is extremely hard to find as a lesbian.
Texas has much greater prejudice than other states. Its no wonder that Jan Whitacre is feeling isolated. You too Kat. You need to settle for less fantasy and recognize that most lesbians have different body types than straights. While true that some lesbians are very fem and pretty, they are the exception. Many of us , fem or butch, aren't as attractive as fantasy makes us imagine. We do it to ourselves by the way we dress, talk, act, use or not use make-up and hairstyles. We make ourselves targets rather than just blending in. I've changed and found that blending in gives me much more acceptance. Especially with family members.