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Bullies and the coaches that support them

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Still picking up my jaw

Park Forest, IL

#1 Sep 15, 2009
I'm still in shock. Recently a young kid in Galva was tramatized and bullied by some students who were driving around with their football coach in a van. These kids chased down this student, shot him with frozen paint balls, shoved him forcebly into the vehicle and did other tramatizing things that will scar him for a long time to come. With all the media attention regarding bullies, hazing, etc., you would think that this would be considered deplorable. No, not in this town. I hear that the parents of the boys involved considered it a little harmless game. They made statements that the players " do this every year" and that the victim needs to "get over it." I'm sorry but, what the heck was this coach thinking? How can we even get angry with the students when they had an adult with them who was driving the vehicle, advocating this type of behavior and considered it a homecoming ritual! If my son had found himself in a situation where he had harmed, embarressed, belittled, hazed or bullied another student, I would have been very upset and disappointed with him. But to know that another adult who the young students trusted and looked up to as their coach, would lead them into and go along with this type of behavior would infuriate me to no limit. He (the coach) made a huge mistake and got these boys into a huge embarressing mess that has hurt and devastated one of their peers. How horrible to have this happen in such a small wholesome community. Lets not forget, the parents of the bullies are not mad at this coach for getting their sons into this... they are actually supporting this guy. It would be too embarressing I guess for them to make their sons be accountable for what they have done, learn from the mistakes that have been made, and finally make things right for all that are involved. As for this coach who provoked, mislead and took advantage of young students who trusted him... he needs to quit coaching and stay away from children. How embarressing for the town of Galva.
Furious Parents

Des Moines, IA

#2 Sep 15, 2009
This whole situation makes us sick. That poor child has to be just horribly tramatized. And to think of the other children that had to watch this poor child go through this, and the trama they went through and are still going through also just makes us sick also. We think them parents should be ashamed of themselves for saying those things. It is one thing to go around and the throw toilet paper on trees and spray shaving cream, but to shoot people with frozen paint balls, and throw young children in a vehicle and take off with them, that is not a harmless game. What is the matter with you people? Maybe someone should do this to their children and then these parents can tell these chilrens parents it is a harmless game and to get over it. I bet it would be different if it was their child. There were some students on this coaches football team involved in this mess and now they have to worry everyday wether any of this will come back on them or not also. And that is not fair to these students either. I personally think everyone of the students that were chased and hurt and tramatized in this mess should be compinsated for what they have and are going through. And everyone that did it to them should get the book thrown at them, and they should pay out the nose for what they did to these children. Maybe that will teach them not to mess with young children and teach the parents that it is not just a harmless game and ok for their children to do this. That is my personal opinion.
Still picking up my jaw wrote:
I'm still in shock. Recently a young kid in Galva was tramatized and bullied by some students who were driving around with their football coach in a van. These kids chased down this student, shot him with frozen paint balls, shoved him forcebly into the vehicle and did other tramatizing things that will scar him for a long time to come. With all the media attention regarding bullies, hazing, etc., you would think that this would be considered deplorable. No, not in this town. I hear that the parents of the boys involved considered it a little harmless game. They made statements that the players " do this every year" and that the victim needs to "get over it." I'm sorry but, what the heck was this coach thinking? How can we even get angry with the students when they had an adult with them who was driving the vehicle, advocating this type of behavior and considered it a homecoming ritual! If my son had found himself in a situation where he had harmed, embarressed, belittled, hazed or bullied another student, I would have been very upset and disappointed with him. But to know that another adult who the young students trusted and looked up to as their coach, would lead them into and go along with this type of behavior would infuriate me to no limit. He (the coach) made a huge mistake and got these boys into a huge embarressing mess that has hurt and devastated one of their peers. How horrible to have this happen in such a small wholesome community. Lets not forget, the parents of the bullies are not mad at this coach for getting their sons into this... they are actually supporting this guy. It would be too embarressing I guess for them to make their sons be accountable for what they have done, learn from the mistakes that have been made, and finally make things right for all that are involved. As for this coach who provoked, mislead and took advantage of young students who trusted him... he needs to quit coaching and stay away from children. How embarressing for the town of Galva.
Former galva resident

Wasilla, AK

#3 Sep 15, 2009
I was a resident of galva up until 07 and i am not suprised that this has happened.... I am more suprised that they didnt get caught sooner..Yes these things have been goin on for years and for each year thatgoes by that nothing happens about what these kids do the worse the games get the next year.... And to no suprise that there was a coach involved... But its no big deal because the coach is friends with all the players parents and that make it ok... But the kids who got chased down and shot with paintballs get no justice.. Lets just tell our kids aslong as you have money and are friends with everyone its ok to do things like this and not get into trouble.... The juvenilles that were involved should be suspended from sports for the rest of the year and the coach should never be aloud to get a coaching job again... What does this really show high school kids that its ok to just go on with life bullying people just to get what u want or to even get alil laughter..... I will really consider where I want to raise children in the future.. I feel for those kids and I think that the offenders need alil more than a slap on the wrist... Why so they can do it again next year when homecoming comes around again.....
another concerned parent

Park Forest, IL

#4 Sep 15, 2009
All of the good and respectable parents in this wonderful town of Galva need to stick together. We need to teach our children that this is not acceptable behavior. I am ashamed at what has happened. I'm affraid to let my son out of the house without me. I do not want him to go through what happened to this other kid in town. Our kids have so much to worry about in life, they shouldn't have to worry about being safe around their peers, coaches and school events. Where are the apologies from the coach and the boys that were involved in these hateful crimes? We need to stick together as a community to state that we will not allow this nor will we ignore it. At some point you have to just say that a mistake has been made and these are the interventions that we have put in place to see that it doen't happen again to anyone else. There were other kids involved and they also need to come forward. I have heard that they are afraid to because they have seen that nobody has done anything about this or taken it too seriously. They are afraid of retaliation. Parents...we have to do the right thing. We have to set an example. We are not a bunch of animals here. We take care of out small community and we have class and integrity. The right thing has to be done. How are our children going to learn if everyone sticks their head in the sand? How can people move on and any healing begin if nobody wants to take any accountability? Quit walking around the pink elephant people.
WTF

Kewanee, IL

#5 Sep 17, 2009
What is this coachs name????
Sensible Parent

Peoria, IL

#6 Sep 17, 2009
I think comments are being made on gossip and hearsay. No one knows for sure what happened exactly except those involved. This coach is a great guy who volunteers his time to coach when many will not. This is a typical case of people blowing things out of proprotion when they should just mind their own business.
Sick of these Parents

Des Moines, IA

#7 Sep 17, 2009
ROFLMAO you are too funny sensible parent. There is adults and children that witnessed the whole thing. Do you really have kids? How would you feel if this happened to one of your children? Maybe you should read everything before you post something so stupid. It has been stated right in these posts that there is witnesses to all of this. And if you are a true sensible parent like you say you are, then how come you are not as furious as the rest of us? It just kills me how some people are so ignorant to things like this until it happens to them, and then they come running and want everyone and their brother to come to their battle and help them. I would love to find out the names of all of these people that are saying all of this crap because if anything was to ever happen to their families, I would be able to sit back some day and say "remember on Friday Sept. 11th 2009 when that happened and you said this and that?" And just sit back and watch their world crumble because no one wants to sit and help them do the right thing. Maybe some people should really think of that. What if it was your kids or your relatives kids? Would you be saying this stupid crap? Or would you be doing what others are and saying it is not right and something needs to be done?
Sad in Galva

Princeton, IL

#8 Sep 17, 2009
Sensible Parent wrote:
I think comments are being made on gossip and hearsay. No one knows for sure what happened exactly except those involved. This coach is a great guy who volunteers his time to coach when many will not. This is a typical case of people blowing things out of proprotion when they should just mind their own business.
You know I wasn't going to respond to this one, but then it hit me...most pedophiles will go out of their way to vounteer and be around children, for example. Maybe he likes football, and maybe he is nice to talk to in conversation, but that doesn't mean that he is stable enough to be around children. Obviously he is no role model. So please don't sit there and pretend that because he seems nice and volunteers his time that he some how gets a free ticket back to go. He embarressed and made a fool of himself. I'm sure he has regrets, but he should own up to them. How stable can you be as an adult when your out riding around with a bunch of young kids pulling malicious pranks. Something just doesn't feel right about that to me. And I'm sorry if the kids like him, but we as adults need to make decisions for the greater good and for the protection of our children. The coach needs to be relieved of his privledge to coach these kids. I'm sorry.
Noted

Park Forest, IL

#9 Sep 17, 2009
WTF wrote:
What is this coachs name????
Marty Stodgel
Get the facts please

United States

#10 Sep 18, 2009
Sad in Galva wrote:
<quoted text>You know I wasn't going to respond to this one, but then it hit me...most pedophiles will go out of their way to vounteer and be around children, for example. Maybe he likes football, and maybe he is nice to talk to in conversation, but that doesn't mean that he is stable enough to be around children. Obviously he is no role model. So please don't sit there and pretend that because he seems nice and volunteers his time that he some how gets a free ticket back to go. He embarressed and made a fool of himself. I'm sure he has regrets, but he should own up to them. How stable can you be as an adult when your out riding around with a bunch of young kids pulling malicious pranks. Something just doesn't feel right about that to me. And I'm sorry if the kids like him, but we as adults need to make decisions for the greater good and for the protection of our children. The coach needs to be relieved of his privledge to coach these kids. I'm sorry.
Many serial killers have computers, so you are a serial killer, Sad in Galva. That is apparently the same rationale you use. I cannot believe that you can jump to accusing someone of being a pedophile based on the absolute lack of factual information being perpetuated. You are a classless person to anonymously accuse this coach of that. What he did is poor judgement. What you are doing by attacking him anonymously is inexcusable. Amazing how tough everyone is on the internet!
Get the facts please

United States

#11 Sep 18, 2009
Sick of these Parents wrote:
ROFLMAO you are too funny sensible parent. There is adults and children that witnessed the whole thing. Do you really have kids? How would you feel if this happened to one of your children? Maybe you should read everything before you post something so stupid. It has been stated right in these posts that there is witnesses to all of this. And if you are a true sensible parent like you say you are, then how come you are not as furious as the rest of us? It just kills me how some people are so ignorant to things like this until it happens to them, and then they come running and want everyone and their brother to come to their battle and help them. I would love to find out the names of all of these people that are saying all of this crap because if anything was to ever happen to their families, I would be able to sit back some day and say "remember on Friday Sept. 11th 2009 when that happened and you said this and that?" And just sit back and watch their world crumble because no one wants to sit and help them do the right thing. Maybe some people should really think of that. What if it was your kids or your relatives kids? Would you be saying this stupid crap? Or would you be doing what others are and saying it is not right and something needs to be done?
If I was one of the parents that was allegedly involved, I would not be spending time on an anonymous internet site. I would be pushing the issue in the court system. Not whining online. If you want to do something about it, do it. Don't b****h and moan. That won't help your child.
Sad in Galva

Park Forest, IL

#12 Sep 18, 2009
Get the facts please wrote:
<quoted text>
Many serial killers have computers, so you are a serial killer, Sad in Galva. That is apparently the same rationale you use. I cannot believe that you can jump to accusing someone of being a pedophile based on the absolute lack of factual information being perpetuated. You are a classless person to anonymously accuse this coach of that. What he did is poor judgement. What you are doing by attacking him anonymously is inexcusable. Amazing how tough everyone is on the internet!
No, No. That is not at all what I was getting at and I do not want that statement to be taken that way. What I was trying to say is that we can not discount the facts because he seems to be "liked by the community" and he "volunteers many hours of his time" and he is soooooo "nice", etc. What I was trying to get at is that a lot of people appear nice. A lot of people do things that we don't always understand. For example obese people like to eat at all you can eat buffets, diabetics seem to love sweets, race car drivers seem to like fast cars, etc. etc. etc. Just because diabetics like chocolate doesn't mean it is good for them, just because obese people like to over eat doesn't mean it's good for them, just because a racecare driver likes to drive fast cars doesn't mean he can do it on the highway.What I was trying to say is that just because he seems nice doesn't mean he does't have impule control issues, a poor emotional maturity, and total lack of basic common sense. He had a momentary loss of complete sanity and made a fool of himself. He is just too unstable to be around young kids. I'm sorry. I never meant to convey that type of message. He is not a pedophile folks...I was just trying to make a point. Sorry.
kow the facts

Britton, MI

#13 Sep 30, 2009
He was not a coach at the school. He coach youth leagues! He has no part or is paid at the school. He just took his son out!
Still picking up my jaw wrote:
I'm still in shock. Recently a young kid in Galva was tramatized and bullied by some students who were driving around with their football coach in a van. These kids chased down this student, shot him with frozen paint balls, shoved him forcebly into the vehicle and did other tramatizing things that will scar him for a long time to come. With all the media attention regarding bullies, hazing, etc., you would think that this would be considered deplorable. No, not in this town. I hear that the parents of the boys involved considered it a little harmless game. They made statements that the players " do this every year" and that the victim needs to "get over it." I'm sorry but, what the heck was this coach thinking? How can we even get angry with the students when they had an adult with them who was driving the vehicle, advocating this type of behavior and considered it a homecoming ritual! If my son had found himself in a situation where he had harmed, embarressed, belittled, hazed or bullied another student, I would have been very upset and disappointed with him. But to know that another adult who the young students trusted and looked up to as their coach, would lead them into and go along with this type of behavior would infuriate me to no limit. He (the coach) made a huge mistake and got these boys into a huge embarressing mess that has hurt and devastated one of their peers. How horrible to have this happen in such a small wholesome community. Lets not forget, the parents of the bullies are not mad at this coach for getting their sons into this... they are actually supporting this guy. It would be too embarressing I guess for them to make their sons be accountable for what they have done, learn from the mistakes that have been made, and finally make things right for all that are involved. As for this coach who provoked, mislead and took advantage of young students who trusted him... he needs to quit coaching and stay away from children. How embarressing for the town of Galva.
why defend the bad

Des Moines, IA

#14 Oct 1, 2009
what does it matter this so call coach has opened a new trend to the innocent kids that he has allowed to be hurt and tormented frankly he should be made to pay the piper
galva has no shame

Des Moines, IA

#15 Oct 2, 2009
galva used to be such a good little town to live in and raise your children the school system was one of the best but because there are such inverted people living in galva some are afraid that if they stick up for their children and do the right thing they will be less popular and less liked the heck with the children. that is poor parenting these kids who were violated need everyones support and guidance to get them to understand what is right from wrong, how can the parents of the victim explain the difference when the ones who assaulted are bragging and laughing about it. everyone whom was involved in this act need to good citizen of galva and make an apology to this child and any one else involved because they certainly wont get one from this so called coach.
read the galva news

Des Moines, IA

#16 Oct 10, 2009
for those of you that did not believe the story of this JFL coach from galva that was driving the van homecoming night sept 11 that assaulted the 11 yr old read the galva news this week their is a small article in regards to this matter MARTY Stodgel is being charged with Contributing to the Delinquency of a minor. he was wrong by allowing these idiot kids assault this boy as i understand it, it just wasnt shaving cream it was paint guns, paint dobbers, air softguns he ended up having a scan of his neck and head and xray of knee so those of you who think this is funny god bless you and hopefully this wont happen to someone you know.
Id like to see these dumb asses including the coach pick on somebody their own age so the can also feel the pain.
Justice in Galva

Des Moines, IA

#17 Nov 12, 2009
for those of you that calm to be good parents and citizens of galva get on the henry county court house web site under stodgel marty and you will find out this man finally decided to plead guilty to the charges of Contributing to the Delinquency of a minor. justice has prevailed.this 11yr old child can close this chapter and learn by it, by realzing you dont have to a goood or so call 'popular' parent or student by tormenting children that are looking up to you for advise and guidance. Stodgel doesnt have the ability to hang out with adults that are responsible so the next best thing is school age children who dont fight back. Does that make you a well liked citizen of Galva? Volunteer or no volunteer he should stay away from underage children and get a real life.

“I WILL GET THE TRUTH”

Since: Nov 09

EVERYWHERE !!!

#18 Nov 14, 2009
if a kid is bullyed they deservd it
stupid

Des Moines, IA

#19 Nov 20, 2009
who="--Hitman-"]if a kid is bullyed they deservd it[]you obviously were bullyed one too many times in your life to think so stupidly
galvakid

Davenport, IA

#20 Nov 16, 2010
Still picking up my jaw wrote:
I'm still in shock. Recently a young kid in Galva was tramatized and bullied by some students who were driving around with their football coach in a van. These kids chased down this student, shot him with frozen paint balls, shoved him forcebly into the vehicle and did other tramatizing things that will scar him for a long time to come. With all the media attention regarding bullies, hazing, etc., you would think that this would be considered deplorable. No, not in this town. I hear that the parents of the boys involved considered it a little harmless game. They made statements that the players " do this every year" and that the victim needs to "get over it." I'm sorry but, what the heck was this coach thinking? How can we even get angry with the students when they had an adult with them who was driving the vehicle, advocating this type of behavior and considered it a homecoming ritual! If my son had found himself in a situation where he had harmed, embarressed, belittled, hazed or bullied another student, I would have been very upset and disappointed with him. But to know that another adult who the young students trusted and looked up to as their coach, would lead them into and go along with this type of behavior would infuriate me to no limit. He (the coach) made a huge mistake and got these boys into a huge embarressing mess that has hurt and devastated one of their peers. How horrible to have this happen in such a small wholesome community. Lets not forget, the parents of the bullies are not mad at this coach for getting their sons into this... they are actually supporting this guy. It would be too embarressing I guess for them to make their sons be accountable for what they have done, learn from the mistakes that have been made, and finally make things right for all that are involved. As for this coach who provoked, mislead and took advantage of young students who trusted him... he needs to quit coaching and stay away from children. How embarressing for the town of Galva.
okay, i think you need to get your story straight. these kids weren't on the football team. the adult in the car wasn't a football coach. and they weren't frozen paintballs. it was a joke that went too far, and no harm was done. the little kids that they hit were absolute brats who proabably deserved to be decked with a frozen paintball anyways. they have done their fair share of destroying the town of galva. so thanks for trying to tell everyone what happened in our town. but youre actually wrong.

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