State releases list of top deadbeat parents

The list is out for the state's list of the 25 biggest deadbeat parents. Together they owe almost $2 million in child support. Full Story
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albuquerque

Albuquerque, NM

#1 Mar 25, 2009
I think Joe Rodarte died last month. he was a disabled vietnam vet, if its the same guy.
I wonder

Columbia, MD

#2 Mar 26, 2009
I'm curious. How do they track of women who are taking advantage of child support system and actually not using child support money for kids? I know a woman who doesn't take care of her daughter so grandparents are caring for her groceries, schools, clothes etc. Mother keeps the money and use it for herself not for her child. I know some men are losers and should get punished for not paying child support but some mothers who don't use money for her child should be punished also. I am a woman and believe men and women should be treated EQUALLY. Some women are using kids to take as much as money possible for wrong purposes. I've met a woman who had 5 kids from all different dads with no job but driving benz and going shopping all the time! CRAZY! Why is it only one way?

“30 something mom of three”

Since: Jul 08

Albuquerque

#4 Mar 26, 2009
The state does not care how the custodial parent spends the money. They are only concerned with the fact that the money is paid... at least that's what we were told by CSED a couple of years ago. My husband was concerned that the money he pays to his ex was not being used to support his daughter. We were basically told its none of our buisness what the mom did with the money. The state only cares that the money is paid.
wrong

Albuquerque, NM

#5 Mar 26, 2009
I know of one woman that was on welfare for 20 years. She had her ex husbands child support direct deposited to each childs bank account and claimed she didn't get child support, so she drew welfare.She had a rather nice lifestyle.There is a lot of dead beat mothers out there that work the system and need to be investigated.It becomes alimony and not child support, but thats the states fault for not following thru
and doing their job.
another victim

Memphis, TN

#6 Mar 26, 2009
my real dad was a dead beat father... or sperm donor... he even went as far as forging my signature, my sisters signature and my moms signature so he could steal our savings bonds - his broker helped him too!!
peace

Albuquerque, NM

#7 Mar 26, 2009
It is sooo sad that parents don't and won't take care of their kids. I am raising one of my granddaughters' and the dad has 4 other children and they all live with grandparents, and he does nothing for these kids but he gets pissed off when they don't call him or don't want anything to do with him, he's the DAD!!! big deal.!!!
another victim

Memphis, TN

#8 Mar 26, 2009
my mother is taking care of my sisters kids, while she spends her time drinking all day all night, then she wonders why her children hate her - she has a son and a daughter... it's a typical story
Eltorro

Albuquerque, NM

#9 Mar 26, 2009
Having the law work the same for both men and women would be very nice, however; in this state it's all about who has custody. If the man has custody and the woman fails to pay then not a lot is done about it. On the other hand if the woman has custody and the man fails to pay there are court dates and garnishments going on. It's the old NM double standard.

I had to pay $400 a month child support and $600 a month interim divison of income (alimony) until the divorce was setteled. It was to the ex's benefit to drag the divorce out as long as possible and she did. After the divorce I had to pay $650 a month in child support. The ex took me to court once because I filed taxes on the alimony and showed a lot of money going her way, she never claimed that money and I reported her. She now has to pay all that tax money back at 15% plus penalty and late fees.

In the end she is paying much more than I paid her and that makes me feel pretty good. All that happened because she was an angry cheating spouse (she left me for her boyfriend) and she deserves what's happening to her now because she was such a terrible b-i-t-c-h for over six years.
King Jeremy the Wicked

Albuquerque, NM

#10 Mar 26, 2009
diddymama wrote:
The state does not care how the custodial parent spends the money. They are only concerned with the fact that the money is paid... at least that's what we were told by CSED a couple of years ago. My husband was concerned that the money he pays to his ex was not being used to support his daughter. We were basically told its none of our buisness what the mom did with the money. The state only cares that the money is paid.
This is just another example of how the government won't follow up to make sure the kids are being properly taken care of. If they can't keep track of this, how in the hell can they oversee anything else.

I have a very similar problem but my ex lives in Mississippi. I got the same answer from those people as well. I as a father and as a person that pays child support on time every month for years on end should know that the monies sent are being used to support the kids.
King Jeremy the Wicked

Albuquerque, NM

#11 Mar 26, 2009
Eltorro wrote:
Having the law work the same for both men and women would be very nice, however; in this state it's all about who has custody. If the man has custody and the woman fails to pay then not a lot is done about it. On the other hand if the woman has custody and the man fails to pay there are court dates and garnishments going on. It's the old NM double standard.
I had to pay $400 a month child support and $600 a month interim divison of income (alimony) until the divorce was setteled. It was to the ex's benefit to drag the divorce out as long as possible and she did. After the divorce I had to pay $650 a month in child support. The ex took me to court once because I filed taxes on the alimony and showed a lot of money going her way, she never claimed that money and I reported her. She now has to pay all that tax money back at 15% plus penalty and late fees.
In the end she is paying much more than I paid her and that makes me feel pretty good. All that happened because she was an angry cheating spouse (she left me for her boyfriend) and she deserves what's happening to her now because she was such a terrible b-i-t-c-h for over six years.
I agree with this. How many women are on that list?

“Old Sailors Never Die.”

Since: Aug 08

Land of The Brave

#12 Mar 26, 2009
Eltorro wrote:
Having the law work the same for both men and women would be very nice, however; in this state it's all about who has custody. If the man has custody and the woman fails to pay then not a lot is done about it. On the other hand if the woman has custody and the man fails to pay there are court dates and garnishments going on. It's the old NM double standard.
I had to pay $400 a month child support and $600 a month interim divison of income (alimony) until the divorce was setteled. It was to the ex's benefit to drag the divorce out as long as possible and she did. After the divorce I had to pay $650 a month in child support. The ex took me to court once because I filed taxes on the alimony and showed a lot of money going her way, she never claimed that money and I reported her. She now has to pay all that tax money back at 15% plus penalty and late fees.
In the end she is paying much more than I paid her and that makes me feel pretty good. All that happened because she was an angry cheating spouse (she left me for her boyfriend) and she deserves what's happening to her now because she was such a terrible b-i-t-c-h for over six years.
How true. The old "double standard" is alive and well in this state. My first wife took off and left me with two sons to raise, one almost two and the other only 8 months old. You think I got any child support? Yeah, riiiight.

Even though this was over 30 years ago, and women were not as prominent in the workforce as they are in todays two income households, the standards remain the same. If I had left her instead I would have been forced to pay child support. While I would have done so gladly, and help in their raising any way I could, that is not the point here. The point is that the "deadbeat dads" they are talking about here may not be so deadbeat after all.
open

Albuquerque, NM

#13 Mar 26, 2009
Thank you all! Not that I needed it but you reinforced my decision not to have children. Over fifty now and have never regretted it. I wish more people would realize that having children doesn't create an automatic path to happiness. Oh, and the list did contain at least one woman from what I saw on TV.
D SANCHEZ

Los Alamos, NM

#14 Mar 26, 2009
I can see why there is so many dead beats in this state, I have been trying to get back child support for my daughter for about 5 years now and I am no closer to getting anything then when i started this endeavor. The state prolonged it for about 4 years, so I went to a private attorney thinking that would be the answer, but he does not seem to have interest in doing his job, even though he has been paid.
Francine

Albuquerque, NM

#15 Mar 26, 2009
The State does nothing to get these guys to pay. My ex owes me about 30,000. I signed an order to show cause in January. I still have not heard anything about a court date. He just doesn't show up to court, there is never a bench warrant placed. When they get out of jail for other crimes, they are given their driver license back. If it was suspended before they went into jail in the hopes they will find a job. But never do, I really feel sorry for those girls that really need the help. I have a great job and I am remarried. So it's not that much of a burden, but it would help with sports, clothes and the actives the kids like to do. I just wanted to let you know the state does not do much to find these guys.
Anyone Home

Albuquerque, NM

#16 Mar 26, 2009
peace wrote:
It is sooo sad that parents don't and won't take care of their kids. I am raising one of my granddaughters' and the dad has 4 other children and they all live with grandparents, and he does nothing for these kids but he gets **** off when they don't call him or don't want anything to do with him, he's the DAD!!! big deal.!!!
It is a sad state of affairs that this is becoming so widespread. No responsibility! A common thread in today's society.
Farmer

Moriarty, NM

#17 Mar 26, 2009
Hey have I been there! State had me down for $999 thou could not get any credit. Sent all legal info to state was up to date 2 were now over 18 not continuing education. Did they care NOT. Took 6 Years for State to finally get this off all credit reports. And theres dozens of others. So hopefully these guys really owe and are not just glithes. If so the State isn`t computer literiate.
Its all a Joke

Edgewood, NM

#18 Mar 26, 2009
Wow, Im actually suprised this state has a dead beat parents list.

My stepdaughters father is a deadbeat. When my wife called the state, the same agency that would take a percentage out of my stepdaughters checks when her father made a few payments told my wife there was nothing they could do for her. My wife informed them that my daughter refuses to go over there was gonna abide by her wishes. the state told her we had to make her go because it was court ordered. we informed them that it was also court ordered that he pay my daughter child support, they just stated they couldnt help us there.

Due to the fact that this POS has not financilly cared for his daughter in anyway, and i have I am looking into filing a civil suit against him to try and get what he owes MY daughter.

albuquerque

Albuquerque, NM

#19 Mar 26, 2009
wow - i'm a sinlge mom of two (10 and 14) and have sole custody of both my children for this very reason: i didn't want to keep dealing with their POS fathers. It wasn't worth the possibilit of a few hundred $ a month to have to chase them down, take them to court, get someone to garnish their wages, etc, etc, etc.

Its not easy at all - we go without a lot. But the difficulty is well worth the peace of mind knowing they HAVE NO RIGHTS. In fact, I purchased my daughter from her father through the court system. He owed the state for the medicaid reimbursement for her birth ($800) and I paid it off in exchange for him relinquishing his parental rights permanently.

I'm not one to bitch and gripe and cry "poor me" because I have kids to support. I work for today's income and go to school for tomorrow's security. I'll be god-da**ed if i'll cry because some useless man hasn't ponied up. These deadbeats LIKE the attention they get from women (and theor families) begging them to be responsible. F*** that!

Since: Dec 08

Location hidden

#20 Mar 26, 2009
diddymama wrote:
The state does not care how the custodial parent spends the money. They are only concerned with the fact that the money is paid... at least that's what we were told by CSED a couple of years ago. My husband was concerned that the money he pays to his ex was not being used to support his daughter. We were basically told its none of our buisness what the mom did with the money. The state only cares that the money is paid.
This is probably why those dads refuse to make payments, they know their ex is using the money for herself and not to support the kids.

The law needs to change, in fact rather then the money going directly to the ex it should go to a trustee who oversee's the spending of it making sure it all goes to support the kids.

I am not saying I favor dead beat dads but I can see their point here, or at the very least the few who put the money into a special account for the kids knowing the ex won't take care lf them.

Those that just don't care about their kids are another story and they deserve whatever happens to them.

That said remember many divorce courts favor the ex-wife at the expense of the husband even if he makes little or no money, most will go to her. That is unfair also, make it more even, if she earned more then him he pays less, if he earned more he pays more, but why take all he earns and make him suffer if she kicked him out for someone else?

And as others have said, where are the watchdogs making sure the ex spends it on the kids?
tiki

Albuquerque, NM

#21 Mar 26, 2009
Same story same sh*t. Lots of different opinions. Bottom line is this state sucks when it comes to enforcement as well as all the lazy case workers and this does include the ppl who work at the call center. I don't care one bit about my kids... so much that I work 1 full time job and 2 part-time. I have teenagers who need me now more than ever esp in todays society, but I do have to do what I have to do when it comes to caring for my kids- I feel like I am abusing my kids cause I am not around much- 1/2 day a week. I miss my kids and they miss me but they do understand that they have a DEADBEAT SPERM DONOR!!! And this state is so stupid as well as the state of Arkansas. He keeps putting a change of address in and he is still living at the same place. He has got both states running around in circles chasing their tails.It is kind of amusing that he is actually smart enough to figure out how to hide from his responsiblity. As the saying goes "STUPID IS AS STUPID DOES" My kids will never see another dime of their mere $40 each per week he wont even pay that. Yes I work hard and no I don't want a hand out from the state they are a f***en joke as well as these DEADBEATS!! Do away with child support division taxes can go elsewhere I am sure, put these losers in jail (no bench warrants are issued it is just said to blow sunshine up someones a55)

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