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Can someone tell me if Gallia Co Sheriff's office will...

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dad01

Lucasville, OH

#1 Feb 19, 2013
Will the sheriffs office enforce a court ordered child visitation schedule if the custodial parent keeps making bs excuses as to why i cannot see my child? Btw I always have paid my support and take care of my child financially. My ex is not following the schedule....Thanks
Same situation

Pickerington, OH

#2 Feb 19, 2013
dad01 wrote:
Will the sheriffs office enforce a court ordered child visitation schedule if the custodial parent keeps making bs excuses as to why i cannot see my child? Btw I always have paid my support and take care of my child financially. My ex is not following the schedule....Thanks
No they will not! They will advise you to get a lawyer and take her back to court, at best they may try to speak with her but that is it!
When you take her back to court she will make up bs stories and the judge will slap her hand and yours and exclaim that you both need to get along for the child, he will then give you make up visitation. This will go on until she feels confident enough to start the same shat over again! Leading to more lawyer expenses and court costs then in retaliation she will make anonymous calls to children services with bogus stories which they will come to your home to harass you even though they as well know its all bullshit but they still have to file the report. Ultimately you will lose unless she slips up but don't let her play the sympathy card stay two steps ahead of her!... Trust me I know!
Every situation is different but some "parents" are just pure selfish and evil !
Same situation

Pickerington, OH

#3 Feb 19, 2013
Record every situation and get a private investigator to observe pick up/drop visitations! It's expensive but worth it! You need a third party to give the judge an "unbiased" "legitimate" evidence and you can't have family or friend to document because they will throw it out! Tape record all conversations, keep receipts with dates and times and ORGANIZE it all and keep a detailed journal!
dad01

Lucasville, OH

#4 Feb 19, 2013
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No they will not! They will advise you to get a lawyer and take her back to court, at best they may try to speak with her but that is it!
When you take her back to court she will make up bs stories and the judge will slap her hand and yours and exclaim that you both need to get along for the child, he will then give you make up visitation. This will go on until she feels confident enough to start the same shat over again! Leading to more lawyer expenses and court costs then in retaliation she will make anonymous calls to children services with bogus stories which they will come to your home to harass you even though they as well know its all bullshit but they still have to file the report. Ultimately you will lose unless she slips up but don't let her play the sympathy card stay two steps ahead of her!... Trust me I know!
Every situation is different but some "parents" are just pure selfish and evil !
Thanks you that was very informative. I had a feeling that they would not help. Its just not fair to have to shell out money for someone elses stupidity and selvishness...
dad01

Lucasville, OH

#5 Feb 19, 2013
wow. who would have thought that the other parent of your child could be so vendictive. It has been nothing but a mess. Nothing is being followed, except on my end. Just like this year i was supposed to claim her on my taxes..well that didnt happen. Some people are unfit to be parents. I wouldnt trade my child for anything but boy did i mess up! Thanks for the advice. If u think of anything else let me know.
Same situation

Pickerington, OH

#6 Feb 19, 2013
....she will be at drop off pick up location after she finds out your taking her back to court and run her keys down your vehicle but even though you record it with electronics she will leave you will call police for justice and they will break down a scenario for you and give you a choice..." I'm gonna call your ex and ask her if she keyed your vehicle. She will tell me no but then she is going to say you assaulted her and we will come and arrest you for assault charges." They won't review your video proof because you could have photo shopped it or anything and unless you have a witness that knows not you or your ex you don't have a leg to stand on" .... Yeah! I've already been down that road and learned the hard way! My son is bitter and confused even after 14 yrs and the same shit continues. He thinks I am a piece of shit dad because that's what his mother tells him!
It's a sad sick situation that I will regret for the rest of my life( putting my son through that hell because I made a mistake of having a child with a woman like that!) good luck to your child. I pray the best for him/her.
not all r vindictive

United States

#7 Feb 19, 2013
I'm sure some women r horrible but it's not ALL women that act like that!! I wish the father of my kids would be that attentive n I have tried every way to get him to be!!! Even telling him he don't have to pay the child support n letting him claim a kid every year to pay it. Which wouldn't matter he isn't going to pay it anyway. Then he only sees the kids when it is literally at his convenience n might see them a weekend every other month. On a good month maybe once. Never ever calls them or takes them to do anything n still has the nerve to run around n try telling people that I keep the kids away from him. This way in his mind he has a legit excuse for whatever whore of the week he's trying to convince that he's a good man lol. I don't care what he does in his personal life but in my opinion the kids should always come first no matter what!!! Our baby was sick n I mean extremely sick n he didn't come to the hospital saying because he was sick n then only called one time n checked up to see how he was!! But yet never fails I'm the bitch regardless all because I do bitch n raise hell when he hurts them or let's them down. I'm tired of lying for him to the kids n making excuses for him never calling n rarely being there!! So see its not always the woman!! And for any woman that treats a good dad like shit I would love to see them deal with what I do!! Then they would really be bitching lol, with a legit excuse!!! It's simply sad for any kid that has to be put in any adult situation n the parents should try as hard as they can to get along FOR the kids!! I hate my exs guts with a passion n at one time I thought I would never feel that way, but regardless I have never said anything bad bout the man to the kids n never would. Long as they think they have a good dad I'm happy I just wish he would actually play the part a lil better!!!
Truth

Gallipolis, OH

#8 Feb 19, 2013
Gallia's law enforcement is a freaking joke!!!!
Same situation

Pickerington, OH

#10 Feb 20, 2013
That was actually Chillicothe police dept that I was referring to! And lawyers told me he spoke the truth! It's the whole govt judicial system! It sucks!
fyi

Point Pleasant, WV

#11 Feb 23, 2013
if you were to contact the news media, i,m sure you,d get a response to your problem .,as now days that,s all law enforcement cares about making the news, just saying.
yoda

United States

#12 Feb 23, 2013
Its not a criminal matter. The police are not empowered to get involved. Police enforce laws, not visitation orders. Even if they wanted to, there's nothing they can do. Why do people have such a hard time understanding that? You might as well call the game warden or the coast guard.
Hmm

Jackson, OH

#13 Feb 25, 2013
Dad01, hate to say this but there must be a reason she is so vindictive. I really doubt that it came out of nowhere. Are you treating the child well and caring for it properly, or are you dumping him/her off with your mommy and daddy and not spending your allotted time with the child yourself? I see this a lot where I work-the dad whines and begs for more time only because the graaandparents want to see the kids more. So dad gets more time onlu to dump the kids off with his mommy and he goes and does his manchild hobbies, and never really spends much time at all with his own kid. Meanwhile Grandma is playing mommy to his child...And that isn't right. The mother has to give up precious time with her child for you, the father,to spend time with it, and if she is seeing you waste that time, that is not going to go over well. Also were you abusive to her? Did you cheat? If you treat her like crap you will get crap in return. I would LOVE to hear all this story.
Hmm

Jackson, OH

#14 Feb 25, 2013
In addition- if you ARE that guy that dumps your kid off with your mama any time you get the chance, make sure your family treats your ex nice, and keeps her informed of your child's activies, well being, etc, and all of this will go much more smoothly for you. If you turn the tables on the ex and are kind and helpful with her, and you stop WASTING your time with your child and start spending it wisely, I am sure she will stop with the vindictiveness. Unless she is just truly messed up (which is not likely), in which case nothing much will work for you. If you really are a good dad then great for you, I just highly doubt it or the ex wouldn't be giving you problems.
And YES I am a little bitter having dealt with this crap from idiot parents all too often,LOL!
Amber

United States

#15 Feb 25, 2013
Pretty sad people automatically awesome how he parents his child. I know first hand how these women are, and it's a control thing. My husband goes through it with his ex everytime it's his visitation time. So I'm really not surprised that he's going through this.
Example: my husband and I moved from gallia to Toledo. His ex lives in Columbus. The court order for visitation states we meet half way between Columbus and gallia, which is chillicothe. So rather than her working something out with us, she demanded we drive to Chillicothe to pick up the child Bc "thats what the court order is" .... There was no way we were driving past where the child lives, spending 8 hours in the car in one day.
These type women make me sick.

Since: Dec 12

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#16 Feb 25, 2013
She was following a court order and your upset because she did not break it? IT'S A COURT ORDER!!! Now granted you all should go back to court and have it fixed if she now lives in Columbus but still you hear yourself? Had she broke it no matter how simple it made things for you a judge will frown upon doing so rather than simply going back to court to have it fixed.
hmm

Jackson, OH

#17 Feb 25, 2013
Thank you Miss know It all-very good information.

Since: Dec 12

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#18 Feb 25, 2013
I know right? All it shows is how selfish she is. She's wanting everything her way and complaining because the ex won't violate a court order. Don't you know you can get in trouble for doing so? Granted most women do act crazy sometimes but I agree with hmm no woman is going to act like that just because. There has to be a reason if not many reasons and it's not always the women a lot of dads are dead beats. Either way it is all still bad for the children when the parents can't get along. It effects their life way more than yours! Want to call yourselves real parents quit being selfish and put your kids wants, needs, and happiness above your own!
Amber

United States

#19 Feb 25, 2013
You're so simple minded.
So you're trying to tell me that it
Makes sense to drive past where the child lives in columbus, to meet in Chillicothe... When we are coming from Toledo? How is it fair for the child to be in a car for 8 hours when it could be half the time,???
That may be your way of thinking,,, but our attorney sees it different and happens to say the judge will frown upon her actions, because she isn't thinking about the child. He says when we go back to court to change these guidelines, she will look bad because it's something that could have been settled out of court. But I don't need to clarify shit to u, clearly you're one of the control freak women I was talking about.

Since: Dec 12

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#20 Feb 25, 2013
No honey actually I am not. It is a court order and I don't care what your lawyer tells you because your basically paying him to tell you what you want to hear. I guess your incapable of reading because I said soon as she moved you should have went back to court and had it changed! However your brain wants to process it though! A court order is still a court order which by the way is illegal if broken and can result in punishment. So a woman gets court ordered per say to give the father so many holidays a year with the kid and the woman breaks it and the father takes her back to court then who would technically be in trouble? The woman for breaking the order? Or she could say oh no it was at my connivence? Your just trying to use something at your connivence and blame the ex saying she's just being difficult and she may be I don't know but I'm not the one getting upset because for once the woman is doing what she was told to do. Most women do violate the orders and after however many times of doing so get in trouble. Obviously if you and your husband disagree with the meeting spot then you need to take her back to court and have it changed. I would say the only reason it hasn't been yet would be because he has to foot the bill and you don't want to come off the money you would rather her just comply with your wants and needs to save money!
hmm

Jackson, OH

#21 Feb 25, 2013
I am not saying it makes sense to drive south of Chilli or whatever; however you have a CO, and it would have served you well to have had the CO modified prior to making such a move. The judge may frown upon her unwillingness to coparent in a more amenable fashion, but I feel he may also find that arrangements should have been made with the court prior to the move.
I stand by my statement that most women don't act like hags for no reason. Something the ex is doing is prompting this behavior. As Miss know it all said, it should be all about the child's best interest-not the parents. Both sides need to stop with childish behavior and work on co-parenting, because unless you get back together you gotta do this for a long time, better start now or you will spend a fortune in legal fees and you will never have a pot to pee in and your poor children will be scarred because mom and dad couldn't act like adults. And the court is going to tell you what to do until your child is 18-do you really want that?? I know I wouldn't.
If your ex really is crazy or whatever, record and document everything. Otherwise let your child be where it wants to be if it's old enough to decide (which is probably with it's mother, sorry to say), move out of your mommy's house if you live there, and stop wasting money on white trash toys and get a college fund for that poor kid and some savings for yourself. Be a good example and don't retaliate towards your ex in a vindictive way. Don't dump your kid on everyone, don't speak bad of its mother, even if she treats you like dirt. Seriously. This won't hurt anyone unless the mom is some kind of psycho or drug addict and the child would be better off somewhere else-inthat case, get your ass in gear and get a REAL attorney, stop whining and start documenting and recording, and make a good life for your child. But I would say most likelu she is being provoked by you or your parents or family in some way. That is the story about 80% of the time ufortunately!!
I NEVER post on here but this subject just gets my dander up!

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