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Sickened Parent

Cookeville, TN

#1 Mar 28, 2012
Why is it that is seems that the legal system is set in place to more protect the CRIMINAL than it is the VICTIM??
My 4 year old told me her grandfather's girlfriend (who is almost 10 years younger than me) had "put her finger in her"
This girlfriends name is SHELLY SCANTLAND.
I went through the proper channels, took her to the ER, talked to police, they sent us to the Child Advocacy center, and when interviewing her, My daughter really wouldnt talk much. So it left it to the physical exam, which the detective told me that it would be next to impossible to prove that it occured being that this particular part of the body heals so quickly. The results were inconclusive, saying they could not tell if it did or did not happen. So it left it down to her admiting to molesting my child, which of course she denied.
So now, this is as far as I can go with it.
How may 4 year olds know to tell someone "dont stick your finger in there, that hurts"?
Any advice out there on what I can do next, LEGALLy?? PLease help!
And no since she told me she has not and will never be back around this person again!
Is there any advice on how I would be able to prove, beyond a shadow of a doubt that it did or did not happen. Personally in my mind, i have no doubts, because I do not know how a four year old could come out with this, especially a 4 year old who is only allowed to watch PBS,
Sad

Gainesboro, TN

#2 Mar 28, 2012
Sickened Parent wrote:
Why is it that is seems that the legal system is set in place to more protect the CRIMINAL than it is the VICTIM??
My 4 year old told me her grandfather's girlfriend (who is almost 10 years younger than me) had "put her finger in her"
This girlfriends name is SHELLY SCANTLAND.
I went through the proper channels, took her to the ER, talked to police, they sent us to the Child Advocacy center, and when interviewing her, My daughter really wouldnt talk much. So it left it to the physical exam, which the detective told me that it would be next to impossible to prove that it occured being that this particular part of the body heals so quickly. The results were inconclusive, saying they could not tell if it did or did not happen. So it left it down to her admiting to molesting my child, which of course she denied.
So now, this is as far as I can go with it.
How may 4 year olds know to tell someone "dont stick your finger in there, that hurts"?
Any advice out there on what I can do next, LEGALLy?? PLease help!
And no since she told me she has not and will never be back around this person again!
Is there any advice on how I would be able to prove, beyond a shadow of a doubt that it did or did not happen. Personally in my mind, i have no doubts, because I do not know how a four year old could come out with this, especially a 4 year old who is only allowed to watch PBS,
Im not saying your daughter is lying, but I have known Shelly since she was a little girl and I know she would not do anything like that... My daughter is a couple yrs younger than shelly (shes 19 now) The girls hung together when they where younger and my daughter never told me anything like that. I ask you was there anyone else in the house that could of done that ??? Could it have happened some where else?? small kids can get things confused about where and what happened.... Take your daughter to a specialist and let them talk to her. Im not saying nothing happened to her but before you get on here and accuse someone of something like this, please have paper work to back it up...Also did she go to her grandfathers home alot and have you ask the grandfather anything about this???
Sickened Parent

Cookeville, TN

#3 Mar 28, 2012
She straight up said SHELLY did. I believe her. And yes i talked to the grandfather, she HAS been to a specialist, they agree that a 4 yr old doesnt get "confused" or "make up" a story like this, but since the exam came up INCONCLUSIVE, there is not enough proof to prosecute. The detective thinks it happened too. And she goes no where else but there and home.
starr684

Hohenwald, TN

#4 Mar 28, 2012
i agree that age does not know anything about that unless it was done. they dont say things like that unless they see or have it done to tehem so if nothing can be done do not i repeat do not let any of those people near her ever. i am suprised that the law being as critical as they are has not done anything good luck
Mommy

Livingston, TN

#5 Mar 28, 2012
Four year olds definitely do not make things like that up! BUT if someone else did something and they are afraid of that person they could say it was someone else, just because they feel safe with that person. I hope you find out what happened to you little girl!
Sickened Parent

Cookeville, TN

#6 Mar 28, 2012
The think about it was there was NO hesitation, straight up said her name. So yeah I personally believe it was her, and trust me after telling the grandfather what had occured, he chose to believe the girlfriend so he is out of her life too.
Well

Gainesboro, TN

#7 Mar 28, 2012
Mommy wrote:
Four year olds definitely do not make things like that up! BUT if someone else did something and they are afraid of that person they could say it was someone else, just because they feel safe with that person. I hope you find out what happened to you little girl!
And 4 yr. olds can also be brainwashed by the one parent or another into saying things happened when it did not.... I have seen this happpen first hand. that is why the police would not press charges unless they had medical evedience.
I know you

Gainesboro, TN

#8 Mar 28, 2012
Sounds to me like you do not like Shelly and you dont want them together. So you are doing anything you can to split them up.. they have been together for a while and you have always been jealous of her. Why stoop this low to use your child??? Sounds to me like you need to be investagated by DCS.
Ashamed

Gainesboro, TN

#9 Mar 28, 2012
Why are you putting this on topix. All you have is hearsay. Are you aware that you can get sued over accusing someone of something when all you have is hearsay Do you not think the police would have charged her if they had evidence..this is wrong if it did happen. but it is also wrong for you to put this out here this is a personal thing. Would your Daughter want you to be telling the world about this if she were older. think about it...
outlaw

Columbia, SC

#10 Mar 28, 2012
I know you wrote:
Sounds to me like you do not like Shelly and you dont want them together. So you are doing anything you can to split them up.. they have been together for a while and you have always been jealous of her. Why stoop this low to use your child??? Sounds to me like you need to be investagated by DCS.
Sounds like granddad is the pedophile and mom is abusive.
Sickened Parent

Cookeville, TN

#11 Mar 29, 2012
Jealous of her? LMFAO right!And how do I sound abusive? I am asking for ADVICE. And I am happily married was long before she came into the picture. I could care less if they were together. I would NEVEr use my child like that, because I know what it feels like to be her. I am trying to get JUSTICE for her. Like any mother would if it happened to their child. And just because there was not enough evidence to charge her did not mean it did not happen. A four year old does not know about those types of thinkgs uless something happened

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#12 Mar 29, 2012
I know you wrote:
Sounds to me like you do not like Shelly and you dont want them together. So you are doing anything you can to split them up.. they have been together for a while and you have always been jealous of her. Why stoop this low to use your child??? Sounds to me like you need to be investagated by DCS.
I know her to, and I know Shelly, she so totally is not, or does not have anything to be jealous of. Her daughter told me the same thing. And DCS would not investegate a mother for trying to pursue justice for her child. You must be some of shelly's family. Oh and why would she be jealous? She doesnt want to be with some one old enough to be her dad, or like shelly old enough be her grandpa. thats sick on both parts his and hers

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#13 Mar 29, 2012
And she has been with her Husband going on close to 10 years, way longer than shelly been with her bf

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#14 Mar 29, 2012
Ashamed wrote:
Why are you putting this on topix. All you have is hearsay. Are you aware that you can get sued over accusing someone of something when all you have is hearsay Do you not think the police would have charged her if they had evidence..this is wrong if it did happen. but it is also wrong for you to put this out here this is a personal thing. Would your Daughter want you to be telling the world about this if she were older. think about it...
It is not slander if the statements are not false she said her daughter told her that. Her daughter did bevause i have heard her daughter say it. That is not slander slander is false statements
dude

Cookeville, TN

#15 Mar 29, 2012
What the crap...are yall making this child tell everyone under the sun about it? If a child tells it over and over again, seems to me they are telling it to satisfy the person that keeps probing the conversation. For the love of God, let it rest so that the child can forget about it (if it did happen) or before she is scarred for life, thinking she was molested!

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#16 Mar 29, 2012
She told me on her own.
dude

Cookeville, TN

#17 Mar 29, 2012
probably because she has been asked 1000 times. Its hard for me to think a 4 yo would just walk up and say blah blah blah, unless she has had the 3rd degree over it. JUST MY OPINION!
town drunk

Pauline, SC

#18 Mar 29, 2012
Sickened Parent wrote:
Jealous of her? LMFAO right!And how do I sound abusive? I am asking for ADVICE. And I am happily married was long before she came into the picture. I could care less if they were together. I would NEVEr use my child like that, because I know what it feels like to be her. I am trying to get JUSTICE for her. Like any mother would if it happened to their child. And just because there was not enough evidence to charge her did not mean it did not happen. A four year old does not know about those types of thinkgs uless something happened
this is one HELL of a place to ask for ADVICE if you want ADVICE go talk to a lawyer'i've heard some off the wall reason to get on here,looking for AVDICE this take the cake

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#19 Mar 29, 2012
dude wrote:
probably because she has been asked 1000 times. Its hard for me to think a 4 yo would just walk up and say blah blah blah, unless she has had the 3rd degree over it. JUST MY OPINION!
Wouldnt u question ur child if they had told u they were molested?? WhT kind of parent would she be if she didnt

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#21 Mar 30, 2012
So my advise being a parent would be to cut the bitch's hands off but then again I am a parent and it seems the only logical thing to do if the legal system doesn't work. After all aren't we suppose to protect our children?

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