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pos

Lawrenceburg, KY

#1 Nov 9, 2012
I have a few inlaws that I want to accept and love and YES I have tried very hard and they will not stop the drama and constantly saying horrible,mean and hurtful things about others. They are inconsiderate and selfish. They think only of themselves and don't care who they hurt. I know I will get a lot of negative comments. However I promise you that you have no idea unless you have the same problem! They thrive on keeping the family torn apart.Just wondering if anyone else has this problem!
RuKidding

Frankfort, KY

#2 Nov 9, 2012
Everybody that has inlaws has that problem. That's what inlaws do! 90 percent of divorces are caused by inlaws!
Saying

Tucker, GA

#3 Nov 9, 2012
I would be willing to bet the "drama" has gone both ways. In any drama, there is generally not an innocent party, only the ones who wont step up and take responsibility for their own actions that have caused stress in the family. This has to come from both sides, not just one person! I would also assume since you refer to them as in-laws, you treat them as such and not like part of your family. Maybe that's where some of the animosity comes from. What families fail to realize is that when they treat their "in-laws" badly or like less of the family, it reflects badly on them as well.
pos

Lawrenceburg, KY

#4 Nov 9, 2012
To Saying----I loved them dearly at one time and treated them so! Do I care as much now? NO! I don't have the time right now,but when I do,I will give you a few exampels! Whether you want to believe it or not,there are some people who put 100% into trying to make a family run smooth. Do I wish it was different? YES! I want love,kindness,understanding and all good things in my family. You are right when you say there are two sides to every situation. However when you have done all you can do to fix things for years and are at your wits end and things still happen, What can you do then? IDK what else to do! Let me ask you a question! Have you ever known anyone that you love and want to get along with,but cannot because if they cannot control every situation,they take a temper tantrum and go off? It's not just with me.Other family members have been affected also.Even kids!I know they do not deserve it! Kids are innocent,especially when they are little guys.
Monkey Business

Frankfort, KY

#5 Nov 9, 2012
I think it's all POS !! I agree with RuKidding... we don't know the whole story in this case. What would you think the other party would say about you keeping this going ?? Maybe you are the selfish one. And innocent kids ?? What would you know about that ? Drop it before you get your feelings hurt AGAIN !
pos

Lawrenceburg, KY

#6 Nov 9, 2012
My feelings aren't hurt at all and think whatever you want. I was just wanting some advice from someone that had experienced this. I'm not on here to argue with you or anyone else. Who are you to act like you know anything about me? I know what I know and God knows and thats all that's important. Have a great day guys! Not here to feed you crap just to keep you going!You know absolutely nothing about my situation and I will not say anymore!
Monkey Business

Frankfort, KY

#7 Nov 9, 2012
Yay !! Maybe then the drama will stop.
i do

Lawrenceburg, KY

#8 Nov 9, 2012
pos wrote:
I have a few inlaws that I want to accept and love and YES I have tried very hard and they will not stop the drama and constantly saying horrible,mean and hurtful things about others. They are inconsiderate and selfish. They think only of themselves and don't care who they hurt. I know I will get a lot of negative comments. However I promise you that you have no idea unless you have the same problem! They thrive on keeping the family torn apart.Just wondering if anyone else has this problem!
I,too have had an issue like this in the past but no longer.My advice to you would be to just put distance between you and the ones you or others cannot get along with.Family or not,this is the best advice i can offer.It worked for me.Good luck!
sheri

United States

#9 Nov 9, 2012
Best thing to do is live away from both sets of inlaws and see them 1-2 a year, if that....it will be pleasent everytime you see them. My divorce was based main on my inlaw and friends at work.
pos

Lawrenceburg, KY

#10 Nov 9, 2012
sheri wrote:
Best thing to do is live away from both sets of inlaws and see them 1-2 a year, if that....it will be pleasent everytime you see them. My divorce was based main on my inlaw and friends at work.
Thank you Sheri for a senseable comment. This mostly has to do with daughter and son in laws.I'm sorry you have had so much problems from inlaws.You know what I am talking about.It can really be bad!As you know,it can tear families apart.
BILLY

Frankfort, KY

#11 Nov 9, 2012
Hell. there is no way to avoid em. I've tried to because mine were all liars & they thought I was an idiot & not see all the "wink winks" & guesters . Inlaws can be good but most rather play the role. I didn't understand why a parent would lie for their adult child and help them be a cheat but after 18 years, I've figured it out why. my mother inlaw was in love with her own son & had her ownself admitted to a pshycic ward to get over her feelings that she never did. She moved him to louisville, only to run up there ever other day. She caused her son to give up his child after she made him move his lover out because mamma was paying all the bills & wouldn't let her 26 year old son have a girlfriend. She prevented her son from working & paid every single bill he has. why would I expect a crazy @ss like this to care about her own daughter.
Content 02

Frankfort, KY

#12 Nov 9, 2012
i do wrote:
<quoted text> I,too have had an issue like this in the past but no longer.My advice to you would be to just put distance between you and the ones you or others cannot get along with.Family or not,this is the best advice i can offer.It worked for me.Good luck!
Good advice, I tried for 22 years to have a relationship with my in-laws. I finally gave up,I had to removed myself from them and do not see them anymore. My husband visits and calls them,but together,we choose not to have them over,in order to have peace. Good luck!
wow

Lawrenceburg, KY

#13 Nov 10, 2012
Monkey Business wrote:
I think it's all POS !! I agree with RuKidding... we don't know the whole story in this case. What would you think the other party would say about you keeping this going ?? Maybe you are the selfish one. And innocent kids ?? What would you know about that ? Drop it before you get your feelings hurt AGAIN !
Wow,Did this person strike a nerve? They ask a simple question. Are you an unwanted in law ? You and saying sound the same.You don't have to be a big bi$%h just because you can.Maybe this is your true self and you just lash out at everyone! Sounds like maybe you are someone that has had trouble being an in law! Maybe you are not accepted and if not,it is very obivious why! You jumped into attack mode because of it!Get a grip! LOL
Saying

Tucker, GA

#14 Nov 10, 2012
wow wrote:
<quoted text> Wow,Did this person strike a nerve? They ask a simple question. Are you an unwanted in law ? You and saying sound the same.You don't have to be a big bi$%h just because you can.Maybe this is your true self and you just lash out at everyone! Sounds like maybe you are someone that has had trouble being an in law! Maybe you are not accepted and if not,it is very obivious why! You jumped into attack mode because of it!Get a grip! LOL
No doubt!!!! Geez, that person must think this threadbis about them. Maybe it is, maybe it isn't. You can't change another person, you can only change yourself. Like I've said before, I'm sure all involved have said hurtful things to each other that merit apologies. But, you can't force an apology nor can you force someone to change. I dont know which person on this thread wrote it... but I agree that you should allow yourself distance. I currently have problems with some members of my husbands and forgetting they exist for a while is the best thing one can do! But, in the meantime you need to remember you are both your spouse's family so be mindful of what you say to him/her and hope they are at least that respectful too. How you feel about your in laws shouldn't mess up your marriage.
exactly

United States

#15 Nov 10, 2012
RuKidding wrote:
Everybody that has inlaws has that problem. That's what inlaws do! 90 percent of divorces are caused by inlaws!
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Exactly, most inlaws are the Devil. Also, nine times out of ten its the bitchy mother in law starting all the drama because she can't let her baby boy grow up and be a man.
exactly

United States

#16 Nov 10, 2012
Monkey Business wrote:
I think it's all POS !! I agree with RuKidding... we don't know the whole story in this case. What would you think the other party would say about you keeping this going ?? Maybe you are the selfish one. And innocent kids ?? What would you know about that ? Drop it before you get your feelings hurt AGAIN !
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Dude, you sound like a TOTAL nut job psycho. Are you feeling guilty? Maybe thinking the post is about you? Lol if not, you're a couple French fries short of a happy meal because you are taking this post awfully personal.....
Bottom line, if you truly love and respect your child then you will love and respect the person your child chose to spend the rest of their life with AND you should respect the mother of your grandkids no matter what. No grandkids wants to hear jealous Granny talking crappy about their mom!!!! Heartless bitchhhhhhhhhh.

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#17 Nov 10, 2012
pos wrote:
I have a few inlaws that I want to accept and love and YES I have tried very hard and they will not stop the drama and constantly saying horrible,mean and hurtful things about others. They are inconsiderate and selfish. They think only of themselves and don't care who they hurt. I know I will get a lot of negative comments. However I promise you that you have no idea unless you have the same problem! They thrive on keeping the family torn apart.Just wondering if anyone else has this problem!
Hun, I think everybody has got problems with their in-laws. I was married to my husband all together for 13 years. Separated for 7 of them years.I was all kinds of ho's and sluts by his family. But my husband came down with lung cancer and passed away October 2011. It has been a little over a yer and trust me, They are now my ex-inlaws and right today I'm still dealing with their bullsh*t. I have 2 kids and they don't have nothing to do with them...But they are worried about what I'm doing. Good luck to you.
FeelYa

United States

#18 Nov 10, 2012
Wow_R U SERIOUS wrote:
<quoted text> Hun, I think everybody has got problems with their in-laws. I was married to my husband all together for 13 years. Separated for 7 of them years.I was all kinds of ho's and sluts by his family. But my husband came down with lung cancer and passed away October 2011. It has been a little over a yer and trust me, They are now my ex-inlaws and right today I'm still dealing with their bullsh*t. I have 2 kids and they don't have nothing to do with them...But they are worried about what I'm doing. Good luck to you.
I feel you. My mom has been hounded by her in laws for years. My dad was shot and killed in 1990 by a "friend" of his and TO THIS DAY all of my aunts, uncles, and grandma on my dad's side hate my mom and somehow blame her he got killed. He lived a rough lifestyle, definitely not her fault. All she ever did was love him and put up with his wild, drinking, partying, pot smoking ways and instead of loving her for that, they hate her and hate me because I stand beside my mom. I should add, they hated my mom WAY before my dad got killed...him getting killed just gave them another excise to hate her more. Silly me, I thought after YEARS my aunt had dropped her grudge so I added her on my Facebook only to have her start stuff with me because I changed my profile picture to a picture of myself. Suddenly she was telling me I'm just like my mom and she thought I was different...wth? She even had the nerve to message my husband and tell him he doesn't know the real me. Hell, SHE doesn't even know the real me since I never grew up around her and barely knew her since I was young when my dad was killed. They bullied my mom for years and she never took up for herself. Well, I wasn't about to let that happen to me too. I told my aunt where she could go and I've since cut off ALL contact with those trashy sleazebags. I do not consider myself to be one of them. Some people will never let go of a grudge, even if there was no reason for it to begin with...sad but true. If they can't except you, cut them out of your life. Who needs troublemakers? Not me.
oh my

United States

#19 Nov 11, 2012
Monkey Business wrote:
I think it's all POS !! I agree with RuKidding... we don't know the whole story in this case. What would you think the other party would say about you keeping this going ?? Maybe you are the selfish one. And innocent kids ?? What would you know about that ? Drop it before you get your feelings hurt AGAIN !
Wow, is all I can say about this. Did you ever stop and think that if you are this defensive over a post that probably wasn't aimed at you, that YOU may be the problem. How many times do you get into it with your family members? Is it always their fault? Maybe you do needs some new meds? Seriously don't live your life mad, angry and hurt. Swallow that pride and see that you may be the one in the wrong this time.
pos

Lawrenceburg, KY

#20 Nov 12, 2012
Thank you (oh my)! Honestly I don't know who these people are with all the negative comments back at me,because I was just looking for a little advice. Thanks to everyone that gave good advice.I should have known better than to post something on topix! I have noticed that everyone gets attacked on here,so I think I will stop,because I really don't like people trying to hurt people.If I want to be hurt,I have plenty of family to do that for me and believe me,they are good at it!

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