Teen Pregnancy in Frankfort

“Never stop learning.”

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#21 Oct 15, 2009
Wondering wrote:
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Nice how it's always about the girls! How about teaching boys to take care of their own needs and not cause some girl to have to bear the burden of their lack of self control?
Great point, Wondering. I always wondered why the girls were always held accountable while the boys, at least most of the boys were not. It's a true double standard.
I told my kids, one boy and one girl and both grown, that they can't have the present if they don't wrap it first.
Girls can't get pregnant if they don't 'do it', and boys won't be daddies if they don't either.
I've tried to teach my kids about the facts of life and it isn't just about sex, it is the RESPONSIBILITY that goes along with it, the best I can. So far, so good. Thank God.
xdgnsjftgnzfn

Eddyville, KY

#22 Oct 15, 2009
to me it's scary that teens are gettin pregnant at such young ages
twenty one

Frankfort, KY

#23 Oct 16, 2009
BRSxX wrote:
I think it's ridiculous that so many teen girls are getting pregnant now, its like they think being pregnant makes their boyfriend love them more, or they'll be so cool after having a kid. It's getting pretty sad. Half of the teens that are having babies in frankfort, put their babies off to their parent's so they can still party or do whatever they please.
I don't thinka t any point when I was 16 planning on getting pregnant. I did though! I have three children now and I am only 21. I love my children to death. Wouldn't trade ANYthing for them. I did graduate high school! I am making something of myself. I can say if I should have thought about things before I did them but I didn't and they were the results in the situation. I chose to take the risks and I WILL take care of them! To be honest with you I don't believe in abortion! It's wrong. You take the chance to get pregnant if you don't protect yourself and if you do so be it. Put the child up for adoption theres always someone looking for that person! anyway thats on another note! I have been married for 4 years almost and with my hubby for 5 and a half. He loves our children. He takes care of them financially, mentally, emotionally, and everything else! I can't say we don't struggle but its life.. To think when i am 38 my youngest child will be 18. Thats a positive in my eyes to not saying i can't wait until then because i am not! Being a teen mother is hard but most girls are determined to survive and take care of their child!
Tammy Sandifer

Shelbyville, KY

#24 Oct 16, 2009
Gina C wrote:
Teens getting pregnant bothers me, but not as much as the real possibility of them getting a STD that can't be cured. Some STD's are deadly.
Has anybody wondered WHY these girls want to get pregnant or have sex at an early age? There has to be an underlying cause. Could it be they are looking for love and acceptance from someone or anyone and they feel the only way to find it is to have their own child? Could it be that they were taught that it was okay? Could it be that the morals of our country have so eroded that 'everything goes'?
A lot of these girls get jobs and try to support their kids. They have a hard struggle to do so. Sometimes, if they are lucky, their parents help them out.
These girls choose to have their babies instead of having an abortion, I admire them for the bravery it takes to do that. I hope they know that they are going to have a very hard time taking care of their child.
One last note: Don't the people in this town know that you can go to the health department and get free condoms? Don't the girls know they can go to the health department for low cost/free exams and birth control pills? If they don't, someone needs to educate them.
Girls are not getting pregnant by themselves, why are the boys being left out of the topic? The boys get to continue playing sports in school and any other activity they want in school, the girls are no longer allowed to play sports, be a cheerleader, or even get that college scholarship in some cases. The boys never get hardship over getting the girl pregnant. You will not get any exam or birth control if you are under age without a parents consent. My teenage son and his teenage girlfriend (who still goes to school) have given me a beautiful grandson and I'm glad to be alive and enjoy my grandson no matter of his parents age. Theres alot of children out there that have no one to care for them, thats where the self-rightous christians should be spending their time worrying about
Dr BananaRama

Nicholasville, KY

#25 Oct 16, 2009
use your arms not ur vagina !
Wondering

Louisville, KY

#26 Oct 16, 2009
Dr BananaRama wrote:
use your arms not ur vagina !
How about more boys spending time with Rosie Palm instead of having sex?

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#27 Oct 16, 2009
Tammy Sandifer wrote:
<quoted text>Girls are not getting pregnant by themselves, why are the boys being left out of the topic? The boys get to continue playing sports in school and any other activity they want in school, the girls are no longer allowed to play sports, be a cheerleader, or even get that college scholarship in some cases. The boys never get hardship over getting the girl pregnant. You will not get any exam or birth control if you are under age without a parents consent. My teenage son and his teenage girlfriend (who still goes to school) have given me a beautiful grandson and I'm glad to be alive and enjoy my grandson no matter of his parents age. Theres alot of children out there that have no one to care for them, thats where the self-rightous christians should be spending their time worrying about
If you had read a later post of mine, you would have seen that I think boys are just as much at fault as the girls. It is a double standard that has been perpetrated for centuries.

Everybody makes mistakes, it's the mistakes that happen over and over again that bother me. The males involved in the situation of teen pregnancy should be held accountable, and it seems from your post that your son is doing the best he can.

The only thing we can do is teach our kids the facts of life, including responsibility, which it seems you have, and hope and pray that they remember and do the right thing.

I don't know about the girls being barred from extracurricular activities. If they are healthy and there is no danger to their child, what is the problem? I know a lot of parents would not want to see a pregnant girl cheering on the squad and such, but I can not understand not 'allowing' the girl to do so. Everyone already knows she's pregnant, why take steps to keep it secret? It's not like VD, it will eventually show, ya know?

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#29 Oct 18, 2009
monica wrote:
iMMA TEEN M0M, AND i D0NT THiNK iTS A PR0BLEM .! AGE D0ESNT MATTER iT JUST DEPENDS 0N H0W G00D 0F A M0M Y0U ARE. AND HAH WE NEED PRAYERS ? HUNNY GET 0VER Y0URSELF Y0UR N0T PERFECT N0 0NE iS !
Dear, we all need prayers. It doesn't matter if it is a teen mother or a mother in her 20's. If you've ever had to live through colic, potty training, the teen years with your kids, you'd know all of us need prayer if for nothing more than to just get us through the hard times with our kids.

I take all the prayers I can get.
Wondering

Louisville, KY

#30 Oct 19, 2009
monica wrote:
iMMA TEEN M0M, AND i D0NT THiNK iTS A PR0BLEM .! AGE D0ESNT MATTER iT JUST DEPENDS 0N H0W G00D 0F A M0M Y0U ARE. AND HAH WE NEED PRAYERS ? HUNNY GET 0VER Y0URSELF Y0UR N0T PERFECT N0 0NE iS !
Teen pregnancy traps girls in poverty and ignorance. Even the best Mom can't make food, shelter, and clothing out of thin air. Teen mothers do the best they can, but with no education they have few decent job opportunities. That means they will always struggle to support their children and they will often have to depend on state support and/or family charity to make ends meet. And since the mothers don't have the chance to grow beyond their poverty and hand-to-mouth existence, how are they supposed to teach their children about the possiblities for a better life?

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#31 Oct 19, 2009
I deeply admire the teen girls who get pregnant, have their child, finish school and go on to college. They are trying to make a better life for themselves and their children.

I had my kids at 26 and 27 and it was still hard. I had a great support group with my husband and family, but let's face it no one else is "Mommy".
twenty one

Frankfort, KY

#32 Oct 19, 2009
Gina C wrote:
I deeply admire the teen girls who get pregnant, have their child, finish school and go on to college. They are trying to make a better life for themselves and their children.
I had my kids at 26 and 27 and it was still hard. I had a great support group with my husband and family, but let's face it no one else is "Mommy".
i couldnt agree with you more gina.
My name has been mommy since i was 16. but i am there to take care of them and i dont get assistance from the state as in an earlier comment by someone else. i am a stay at home mother for the mom of three. My hubby is a hard worker but he loves his job soo much he dont want me working til theyre in school. but overall i totally agree

“Never stop learning.”

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#33 Oct 19, 2009
twenty one, I think it's great that you get to stay home with your little ones. They can be so much fun and they can learn so much from you.
I can still remember being able to be a stay at home mom for a few years. It got to the point, the 'why' stage, when I wanted to change my name to a word they weren't allowed to say.
Enjoy these years, and remember, there is no shame in getting help when you need it. My kids were on WIC until they were 5. Hubby didn't like it, but it helped us use the money to pay bills. And when I had my little ones, insurance was the 20/80 kind. You payed 20% and your insurance paid 80%, that is once you met your deductible of $3,000. But we made it and had fun doing it.
Tammy Sandifer

Shelbyville, KY

#34 Oct 21, 2009
Why does it bother you at all that a teenager gets pregnant? Why does someone elses misakes as you say bother you. And as far as my comment on the girls not being allowed to cheer or play sports, I was talking about after they have had their baby/ it was said that it wasn't fair to the child that the mother wouldn't be home with him, my feeling is the father could watch him. But no matter, I still don't understand why it should bother you that someone else makes a mistake other than to give you something to talk about
Gina C wrote:
<quoted text>
If you had read a later post of mine, you would have seen that I think boys are just as much at fault as the girls. It is a double standard that has been perpetrated for centuries.
Everybody makes mistakes, it's the mistakes that happen over and over again that bother me. The males involved in the situation of teen pregnancy should be held accountable, and it seems from your post that your son is doing the best he can.
The only thing we can do is teach our kids the facts of life, including responsibility, which it seems you have, and hope and pray that they remember and do the right thing.
I don't know about the girls being barred from extracurricular activities. If they are healthy and there is no danger to their child, what is the problem? I know a lot of parents would not want to see a pregnant girl cheering on the squad and such, but I can not understand not 'allowing' the girl to do so. Everyone already knows she's pregnant, why take steps to keep it secret? It's not like VD, it will eventually show, ya know?
Wondering

Louisville, KY

#35 Oct 22, 2009
Tammy Sandifer wrote:
Why does it bother you at all that a teenager gets pregnant? Why does someone elses misakes as you say bother you. And as far as my comment on the girls not being allowed to cheer or play sports, I was talking about after they have had their baby/ it was said that it wasn't fair to the child that the mother wouldn't be home with him, my feeling is the father could watch him. But no matter, I still don't understand why it should bother you that someone else makes a mistake other than to give you something to talk about <quoted text>
It bothers us because we as a society have to deal with these mistakes. Babies born to teen mothers have more health problems (due to lack of prenatal care), are more likely to end up in poverty, and have less of a chance of graduating from high school. They are also more likely to become teen parents themselves, perpetuating the cycle.

It's better for everyone if teenages don't get pregnant, do finish high school, and do finish college or a trade school so they can become independent, self-supporting members of society.
Tammy Sandifer

Shelbyville, KY

#36 Oct 22, 2009
Then get off the computer and do something about it instead of putting these young mothers down and labeling them as failures because they just happened to get pregnant. Your so called society is the reason why these young parents fail, because you look down on them and make it hard for the young to get anywhere in the world. The reason why people end up in poverty is do to lack of education and your society not giving a care about human life. When we all start helping to take care of each other and stop being selfish people that just set back on their ass and complain about a child being born because it may take something away from their high and mighty lifestyle then maybe these teen pregnancies will slow down. But it will always be around thats part of life. And I can promise you that you are not having to deal with my grandson, whos mother is in high school and going to college in the fall on a scholarship and works, whos father works 40 hours a week and whos granny gives a damn about his well being and pays taxes so your society can get off its high and mighty and start giving your time to people that need you. thats what we are here for
Wondering wrote:
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It bothers us because we as a society have to deal with these mistakes. Babies born to teen mothers have more health problems (due to lack of prenatal care), are more likely to end up in poverty, and have less of a chance of graduating from high school. They are also more likely to become teen parents themselves, perpetuating the cycle.
It's better for everyone if teenages don't get pregnant, do finish high school, and do finish college or a trade school so they can become independent, self-supporting members of society.
Rclark

United States

#37 Oct 22, 2009
Im 17 and im 9 months pregnant. Im finishing highschool and going to college. My boyfriend is still with me. I got pregnant on birthcontrol. Sometimes it happens its not like we do it on purpose but in the end we all end up loving our child and want to do the best things for them. So even though we might be young we can be just as good of a mother as anyone else is 16 or 35.
Wondering

Louisville, KY

#38 Oct 22, 2009
Tammy Sandifer wrote:
Then get off the computer and do something about it instead of putting these young mothers down and labeling them as failures because they just happened to get pregnant. Your so called society is the reason why these young parents fail, because you look down on them and make it hard for the young to get anywhere in the world. The reason why people end up in poverty is do to lack of education and your society not giving a care about human life. When we all start helping to take care of each other and stop being selfish people that just set back on their ass and complain about a child being born because it may take something away from their high and mighty lifestyle then maybe these teen pregnancies will slow down. But it will always be around thats part of life. And I can promise you that you are not having to deal with my grandson, whos mother is in high school and going to college in the fall on a scholarship and works, whos father works 40 hours a week and whos granny gives a damn about his well being and pays taxes so your society can get off its high and mighty and start giving your time to people that need you. thats what we are here for <quoted text>
Get off your high horse and go re-read what I wrote. I didn't put anyone down. I stated facts which are easily confirmed. You asked why the problem bothered people. The facts I cited answer your question.

A majority of children of teen mothers do not get proper prenatal care. A majority of teen mothers do not finish high school. Children born to teen mothers are much more likely to become teen parents. Go and look it up.

I am sure that there are wonderful teen moms who finish high school and graduate college, but they are seriously in the minority.
Tammy Sandifer

Shelbyville, KY

#39 Oct 22, 2009
ha ha read what i wrote, start doing something about the mistakes that interfere with your life and stop hiding behind a computer and a secret name because your ashamed to let people know that your just one of those sad people that just set back and whine about statistics.Become a productive member of society yourself and start doing something. There are many children born to single young parents that have become GREAT members of society /our President ring a bell Tammy Sandifer Frankfort, KY
Wondering wrote:
<quoted text>
Get off your high horse and go re-read what I wrote. I didn't put anyone down. I stated facts which are easily confirmed. You asked why the problem bothered people. The facts I cited answer your question.
A majority of children of teen mothers do not get proper prenatal care. A majority of teen mothers do not finish high school. Children born to teen mothers are much more likely to become teen parents. Go and look it up.
I am sure that there are wonderful teen moms who finish high school and graduate college, but they are seriously in the minority.
Wondering

Louisville, KY

#40 Oct 22, 2009
Tammy Sandifer wrote:
ha ha read what i wrote, start doing something about the mistakes that interfere with your life and stop hiding behind a computer and a secret name because your ashamed to let people know that your just one of those sad people that just set back and whine about statistics.Become a productive member of society yourself and start doing something. There are many children born to single young parents that have become GREAT members of society /our President ring a bell Tammy Sandifer Frankfort, KY<quoted text>
Because I disagree with your position you choose to attack me instead of the issue. You assume that because I know how to use a computer that I am somehow not a productive member of society. Guess again.

Teenagers are far better off if they do not get pregnant in high school. There is no disputing that fact. Right now all we are saying is "Don't have sex." and that is clearly not doing the trick. So teach the girls how to avoid getting pregnant and teach the boys how to avoid getting a girl pregnant. Make sure they know what ALL their options are. Make sure they know what they gain by avoiding teen pregnancy. Make sure they know what they give up by getting pregnant so young.
INTELLIGENT BLACK WOMAN

Frankfort, KY

#41 Oct 22, 2009
Tammy Sandifer wrote:
Then get off the computer and do something about it instead of putting these young mothers down and labeling them as failures because they just happened to get pregnant. Your so called society is the reason why these young parents fail, because you look down on them and make it hard for the young to get anywhere in the world. The reason why people end up in poverty is do to lack of education and your society not giving a care about human life. When we all start helping to take care of each other and stop being selfish people that just set back on their ass and complain about a child being born because it may take something away from their high and mighty lifestyle then maybe these teen pregnancies will slow down. But it will always be around thats part of life. And I can promise you that you are not having to deal with my grandson, whos mother is in high school and going to college in the fall on a scholarship and works, whos father works 40 hours a week and whos granny gives a damn about his well being and pays taxes so your society can get off its high and mighty and start giving your time to people that need you. thats what we are here for <quoted text>
I agree with both of you two on this issue in a sense. However, your statement that people end up in poverty due to a lack of education is simply not true at all. I have met several being living at or below the level of subsistence who have a college degree or several college degrees. Your statement is merely a stereotype. In this day, anyone can fall victim to poverty. Not just uneducated people. If your stereotype is true, then what Wondering stated should make sense, too. They stated that children of teenage mothers are more LIKELY to end up in poverty. When kind of substantiates what they are saying. If you believe that people end up in poverty due to a lack of education, then Wondering's argument here is correct. They also said that children of teenage mothers have less of a chance at graduating from high school, which would leave them being uneducated. Congratulations to the both of you. I guess both of you are correct.

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