STD's and dating in Fort Scott

STD's and dating in Fort Scott

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honestlyconfusse d

United States

#1 Sep 7, 2012
As a person who was unlucky enough to end up with an std, what would Brit the best course of action to start dating again?
I know it should be simple be up-front and honest about it right? Well that has been my approach but you wouldn't believe some of the attitude and flat out rude actions people make.
After looking at the reported numbers and talking with my doctor and his assessment of actual people with the same std it should be easy to find someone who is also in the same boat or Sib I thought.
I guess my real issue is how many people have no true idea of any of the symptoms or restrictions of any specific std. Now I'm not saying getting one is no big deal but before anyone should be able to judge me they need some education on the topic not just the standard stereotype answer of oh my god you're dirty you have herpes.
so to any of these people all I have to say is "GET SOME FACTS THEN COME BACK AND SEE ME" otherwise keep your uneducated opinion to yourself.
Well I feel better now you may continue with your day.
horacio

Fort Scott, KS

#2 Sep 7, 2012
is your name Randi? i bet it is huh?
will do

United States

#3 Sep 7, 2012
That is why you should be careful with whom you choose to sleep with. Not all that glitters is gold.
honestlyconfusse d

United States

#4 Sep 7, 2012
horacio wrote:
is your name Randi? i bet it is huh?
not even close try again..
honestlyconfusse d

United States

#5 Sep 7, 2012
will do wrote:
That is why you should be careful with whom you choose to sleep with. Not all that glitters is gold.
kinda hard to be careful when you get it from your spouse
Whatnext

Fort Scott, KS

#6 Sep 8, 2012
honestlyconfussed wrote:
<quoted text>kinda hard to be careful when you get it from your spouse
You poor kid". What a skunk!
Benedict Arnold

United States

#7 Sep 10, 2012
honestlyconfussed wrote:
<quoted text>kinda hard to be careful when you get it from your spouse
Been there done that!!!! Talk about betrayal.. You are not alone!! People dont realize that sometimes when rmarriages fall apart, it's possible that there is way more going on than what they are telling others.. This is something that will haunt you for the rest of your life. I don't wish it on anyone. It makes you feel dirty, like you are damaged goods. Just know, there are good people out there that won't judge you for someone else's idiot behavior! Keep your chin up & just be honest. If they bail on you then they weren't worth your time in the first place!!
honestyconffused

United States

#8 Sep 10, 2012
To BA keeping my chin up isn't a problem I have come to terms with the whole herpes and the rest of my life thing. My issue is with people who instantly judge me or blow me off ad a person like just being around me puts them at risk of some life ending plague.
In my opinion people need a little more education before they dismiss someone. In all actuality herpes isn't that big of a deal in day to day life just when it comes to dating.
A bit of education for the holier-than-thou crowd
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1. If you had chicken pox as a child then you have a strainer of the herpes virus. Don't believe me look it up.
2. Cold sores as most people call them are herpes simplex type 1. Again look it up. Type 1 is usually peal but can be spread to other parts of the body.
3. Genital herpes is herpes simplex type 2. It is usually genital but also can be spews to other parts of the body.
so to dismiss someone with herpes would require you to dismiss a very large part of civilization. Like I said in my original post get some facts before you judge.
Be Creative

Fort Scott, KS

#9 Sep 10, 2012
I just read that outbreaks can be triggered by things such as colds and influenza, eczema, emotional and physical stress, gastric upset, fatigue or injury, by menstruation and maybe even bright sunlight. You probably already know -- Just thought I'd mention it.

May I suggest a game of “Twister Darts” as an alternative to penile penetration? Ask your date to insert the Trojan Twister intimate massager (which you bought especially for her) into her Vajayjay and then see if she can squeeze her butt cheeks together tight enough to send it flying across the room as a projectile to hit specific targets. Think of the possibilities! It could be fun for both of you & help maintain a positive attitude about a serious problem.
Do Not Approve

Fort Scott, KS

#10 Sep 10, 2012
I appreciate that you're trying to put a positive spin on a negative situation, but I simply cannot approve of your approach. What you suggest is not practical and may even be dangerous. Damaged property, muscle strains, and a visit to the doctor are the most likely outcomes, certainly not a more meaningful relationship.
honestlyconfusse d

United States

#11 Sep 10, 2012
There truly is no way to put a positive spin on the situation although BC's comment was at least comical in a twisted way.
I do however like the first part of the comment there was some thought and time put into reading some facts before simply blurting out something stupid or rude.
Pardon Me

Fort Scott, KS

#12 Sep 10, 2012
I think you'll find that people around here do not have empathy for your situation. They will condemn you and ridicule you but will offer nothing to help guide you. Topix is the wrong site to seek a sincere discussion.

My advice is to search the web for dating sites & forums that deal with your condition. Google it, or use Bing, or even "Herpes Support Groups" on Wikipedia. Pardon me for spoofing you. I hoped you'd get a laugh out of it.
honestlyconfusse d

United States

#13 Sep 11, 2012
Well pardon me as for herpes rating sites I have done that and unless I feel like moving hundreds of miles away it is no good when there are only 3 or 4 matches within a realistic range. Now if herpes was the only thing in common between two people I would think a meaningful relationship would most likely not happen.
this post wasn't about me looking for support or sympathy it was intended for people to understand the situation with some facts before passing judgement
Pardon Me

Fort Scott, KS

#14 Sep 11, 2012
I didn’t say sympathy, which implies pity & sorrow. I used the word “Empathy” which means the ability to understand & share the feelings of others. I've been told there's a whole lotta people with STD histories in this town, and facts aren't very popular around here.
honestlyconfusse d

United States

#15 Sep 11, 2012
The way I see things the national average of people with herpes either type 1 or type 2 is 1 in 4 and with the people I have been communicating with all claim not to have herpes which is fine but the numbers dont add up. For clarification of my numbers in the past couple months it is about 30 people I have tried to start some sort of relationship with. And with a 1 in 4 average what are the odds of me getting 0 for 30 would seem someone isnt being honest.
now if anyone thunks Fort Scott us to small of a town to have a large percentage of people with herpes think again. With the small population look how many people go from relationship to relationship it is basicly a melting pot. One doctor I have spoken with puts the number around 85% in the 20-30 age group. I happen to be a little older than that Sib maybe I need to start looking fir a younger partner.
Pardon Me

Fort Scott, KS

#16 Sep 11, 2012
As a teenager in Ft Scott many many years ago it was common knowledge to go out of town to have your fun (and hopefully minimize the gossip). With social media today it should be easier to hook up out of town, but social media also makes the gossip travel faster & farther. Rule #1, IMO, is to cross Ft Scott off your list.
Ahmaybe

Wichita, KS

#17 Sep 11, 2012
At least, you inform them. I don't blame them for passing but they should, as another suggested, show empathy, understanding. I would surely encourage my son or grandson to pass on something like that. Doesn't that sometimes pass to the children when they are born?
honestlyconfusse d

United States

#18 Sep 11, 2012
Ahmaybe wrote:
At least, you inform them. I don't blame them for passing but they should, as another suggested, show empathy, understanding. I would surely encourage my son or grandson to pass on something like that. Doesn't that sometimes pass to the children when they are born?
it can be passed during birth but if a eomzn is showing signs of a active break out she will have to have a c section. As fir the risk to infants it can cause blindness if their eyes are exposed to the virus and in some cases death unfortunately. Which is why most doctors highly recommend not having a natural child birth. As fir the empathy I do understand them choosing not to be involved with me my problem is with the way they completely disregaurd me
andrew miles

West Chicago, IL

#19 Sep 11, 2012
It not that big of a deal realy, I got it from joel farmer, billy keith, john wayne evans and big cliff butler when we used to gang bang each other. I acutally gave it to some grils in ft scott to.
coon the rapist

Fort Scott, KS

#20 Sep 12, 2012
ya me and my brother have bi three ways on each others bikes and spank each others bare ass's. why do you think i got a wisp i choked on his man meat.

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