Exasperated single mom wants her son ...

Exasperated single mom wants her son to sleep in his own bed --...

There are 151 comments on the Chicago Tribune story from Apr 7, 2008, titled Exasperated single mom wants her son to sleep in his own bed --.... In it, Chicago Tribune reports that:

D ear Amy: I am a single mom raising a 21/2-year-old son. My son refuses to sleep in his bed through the night.

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Another mom

Milwaukee, WI

#1 Apr 8, 2008
Easter baskets. As Amy said "it is harmless (and fun)" Why do you want to stop someone else's tradition? I even know of the grandparents who fill baskets for their grandkids. It's just a way to show love through something tangible.
Broccoli EAT ME

Dixon, IL

#2 Apr 8, 2008
19 hunting for Easter eggs? Of course, if they are full of cash, I'll go hunt for them, and I'm 31! Ugh... seriously, and parents wonder why their kids aren't independent. Cut the cord already Moms!
Anon

Benton Harbor, MI

#4 Apr 8, 2008
I'm 25, out of college, have my own home, am married and still hunt for Easter eggs at my parents. They hide them for myself, my 20 year old brother, my husband, and my brother's girlfriend. My parents think it's hilarious because we're all very competitive. I imagine it will come to an end with the first grandchildren.

If LW3 thinks it's burdensome to hide eggs or give Easter baskets, that's fine. If my parents and others enjoy it, they should do it.

“Merry Holidays!”

Since: Mar 08

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#5 Apr 8, 2008
I don't think it has anything to do with independence. You still get these people Christmas/Hannakuh presents, right?

We used to have an adult version of an Easter egg hunt -- it was a beer hunt. It was a blast.
Bigblueirisheyes

Forest Park, IL

#6 Apr 8, 2008
LW1- All 2 1/2 yr old kids need one on one together time with Mom! We call it snuggle time. Even my 11 yr old enjoys it. Being a single working mom, 2 1/2 yr olds want is a juggle and difficult. However, If you child is a snuggler, then have your time with him snuggling after his evening bath. After 20 minutes of snuggle on the couch watching TV, walk him into his bedroom and tuck him in with two favorite stuffed toys and tell him he needs to stay in here all night to be a big boy and that you will have more snuggle time the next night. Continue this and you will strengthened the bond and he will sleep thru the night all the time. It works for me!
Sue

Arlington Heights, IL

#7 Apr 8, 2008
Amy's advice is good to LW1 and another thing to try is to get a sticker chart and put a sticker on it for each night he sleeps in his own bed without getting up. Once he gets a predetermined number of stickers he should get a small price (take him to the dollar store and let him pick something out). I know a few parents who have tried this and it works well. A consistent bedtime routine helps too, and no matter how many times she has to do it and even if he cries, she has to continue to take him back to bed and leave. She might also try putting a gate in the door or closing the door and putting a childproof knob on it if he can climb over the gate.
Sarah

Cleveland, OH

#8 Apr 8, 2008
I moved out of my parents home this past year, and adopted an abandoned Easter bunny shortly after Easter last year.

This year, my mom said that she was no longer going to hide an Easter basket for me...but she hide one for the rabbit! It was full of his favorite foods--romaine lettuce, carrots, pineapple, and a fresh bag of timothy hay. I couldn't ask for a better surprise!
Rational

Waymart, PA

#10 Apr 8, 2008
Broccoli EAT ME wrote:
19 hunting for Easter eggs? Of course, if they are full of cash, I'll go hunt for them, and I'm 31! Ugh... seriously, and parents wonder why their kids aren't independent. Cut the cord already Moms!
Awe, come on BEM, its a fun thing. It doesnt mean they are not independent. Its an activity, and quite honestly its as much for the parents as it is for their kids. I can imagine its difficult in some regards watching your babies grow up and not doing those things with them anymore. So some parents do that. Mine did, it was hillarious, they used to hide eggs with clues in them and you had to find your own eggs following each clue until you found your prize. It was a blast.

(Oh, and yes, I own my own car, home, have a professional job etc.....)
Hoppy Easter

United States

#11 Apr 8, 2008
I am one of those parents who still provides baskets to my adult children and grandson as well as my son-in-law and my son's significant other. There is nothing of significant monetary value but who among us couldn't use a new Slinky or some Silly Putty or your favorite Easter candy????
Maruska

Chicago, IL

#12 Apr 8, 2008
When my older siblings had left the house and my younger brother and I were older teenagers, we turned the tradition around and hid the eggs for our parents and grandmother for several years. You can be a lot more creative and tricky hiding eggs for adults than you can for little kidsÂ… :-)
Well

Elgin, IL

#13 Apr 8, 2008
Wow, Amy's advice to the single mom with the 2 1/2 year old seems sensible. Now what was the advice to the recent letter where the 13 year old girl "needed" to sleep with her single father even though she had her own nice room? Maybe it was Abby mail.
Broccoli EAT ME

Dixon, IL

#14 Apr 8, 2008
Rational wrote:
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Awe, come on BEM, its a fun thing. It doesnt mean they are not independent. Its an activity, and quite honestly its as much for the parents as it is for their kids. I can imagine its difficult in some regards watching your babies grow up and not doing those things with them anymore. So some parents do that. Mine did, it was hillarious, they used to hide eggs with clues in them and you had to find your own eggs following each clue until you found your prize. It was a blast.
(Oh, and yes, I own my own car, home, have a professional job etc.....)
Guess it's just not my thing...
EEE

Hinsdale, IL

#15 Apr 8, 2008
Well wrote:
Wow, Amy's advice to the single mom with the 2 1/2 year old seems sensible....
I'm pretty sure she got that advice directly from SuperNanny.

(SuperNanny RULES!)
EEE

Hinsdale, IL

#16 Apr 8, 2008
Rational wrote:
...some parents do that. Mine did, it was hillarious, they used to hide eggs with clues in them and you had to find your own eggs following each clue until you found your prize. It was a blast....
After my brother & sister & I were out of high school and before the grandkids started showing up, we had "Drunk Easter Egg Hunt"

And it wasn't the Easter Eggs who were drunk!

*EEE blinks back tears of nostalgia...* Good times.
curt garlow

Hammond, IN

#18 Apr 8, 2008
You put him in bed and make sure he stays there. How ridiculous, be the parent! No bonuses, it's bedtime period!
Dienne

United States

#19 Apr 8, 2008
curt garlow wrote:
You put him in bed and make sure he stays there. How ridiculous, be the parent! No bonuses, it's bedtime period!
How, exactly, to you "make sure he stays there"? Beat him? What, specifically, do you do if he gets up?
Well

Elgin, IL

#20 Apr 8, 2008
curt garlow wrote:
You put him in bed and make sure he stays there. How ridiculous, be the parent! No bonuses, it's bedtime period!
You sound like fun!

Do you employ the full 5 Point restraint kit? The one that fastens to bed or gurney rails? Restrains arms and legs along with a torso strap for chest or knees? Are they locking or non locking, leather or polyurethane?

Just wondering.
Dienne

United States

#22 Apr 8, 2008
Well wrote:
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You sound like fun!
Do you employ the full 5 Point restraint kit? The one that fastens to bed or gurney rails? Restrains arms and legs along with a torso strap for chest or knees? Are they locking or non locking, leather or polyurethane?
Just wondering.
Just how do you know so much about restraints?

Just wondering. ;-)
EEE

Hinsdale, IL

#23 Apr 8, 2008
Well wrote:
<quoted text>
You sound like fun!
Do you employ the full 5 Point restraint kit? The one that fastens to bed or gurney rails? Restrains arms and legs along with a torso strap for chest or knees? Are they locking or non locking, leather or polyurethane?
Just wondering.
Fun for the whole family!
pde

Portage, IN

#24 Apr 8, 2008
Dienne wrote:
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How, exactly, to you "make sure he stays there"? Beat him? What, specifically, do you do if he gets up?
The Supernanny "stay in bed" routine does work, although it's hell every once in a while.(Not necessarily even the first night--but that time every couple of months when the kid needs to test your resolve.)

Basically, first time explain to the kid that he needs to stay in bed, second time, remind him that it's time to be in bed, third time plus pick up and place the kid in bed or escort the kid to bed with as little interaction as possible under the circumstances.

It's not a magic cure, but it seems to get us a couple of weeks of good nights before we have to go through the process again.

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