Male doctor and your wife
Mandy

United States

#490 Jul 9, 2012
Thank you Joshua for being an informed male. I cannot understand why anyone thinks the exam is sexual. I enjoy sex & definately do not enjoy the examination, but I have it done yearly as it did detect precancerous cells on my cervix before. I don't know how they think the exam wouldn't be sexual if a woman is doing the exam since a female doctor does the same as a man. I still think they just like to think of their wife being intimate with another woman & this is the only way it would happen.
MPM

Waynesville, NC

#491 Jul 9, 2012
Joshua Meador wrote:
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Have you ever gone to one of your wife's gyno appointments?... The patient is instructed to get undressed and into a gown before the doctor comes into the room... It's not some strip tease for the doctor to enjoy.... I really don't understand why you think the exam is so sexual.... I can tell by the look on my wife's face and her overall attitude that she is very uncomfortable with the whole situation... It's nothing enjoyable by any means... Correct me if I'm wrong, but weren't you the one saying in an earlier post that there was no need for a vaginal exam, and that it proves nothing? FYI, had it not been for one of these exams, my wife's cervical cancer would have gone undetected....
You really need to get over your issues dude.. There is nothing wrong with a male gyno....
I agree with you that most women are not aroused by gynecological examinations. Many of them see it as a medical examination. But that doesn't make male gynecologists right. A man cannot stay pure in his thoughts when he sees a woman's private parts. Male gyneoclogists should have never been hired in the first place. Belk's, a department store will only hire female bra fitters. They only allow female policemen to strip a woman to search drugs on her. It is strange that medical profession is different. Doctors are not God.

Hopefully, male gynecologists will reduce dramatically. About 80% to 90% of ob/gyn residents are female now.

My dad used to see nothing wrong with a male gyneoclogist until I brought some things to his attention. We are brainwashed that it is okay for the medical industry to do pretty much everything.

See some excellent insights a husband made about how he feels about modesty in medical settings at http://patientmodesty.com/modestycomments.asp... .
Mandy

United States

#492 Jul 9, 2012
I would just like to ask how you feel about someone examining your child? You do realize that there are a lot of pedophiles out there now. How do you know that your child's doctor isn't having impure thoughts when they examine your child? As you know by news reports there are women who are doing this too. Please stop saying all men get turned on. You cannot know what every man thinks or feels. I can say for my husband he would not get turned on by some fat nasty woman's vagina.
John

Louisville, KY

#493 Jul 9, 2012
Mandy wrote:
All doctors are not allowed to treat any family members so I do not think one would get a tampon out of his daughter. Plus I have never heard of one getting stuck in someone. I do not think the exam is sexual. The only reason I brought up a lesbian doctor was to try & make a point. I would not care if my female doctor was a lesbian. I do not care what someone's sexual preference is. I go to the doctor to be treated or examined for whatever is wrong with me. I just think this whole discussion is stupid. The men keep saying that all men have lustful thoughts about women. Then they must walk around with a hard on all the time or keep their eyes closed. How are they any better than a doctor? Sounds to me like they want to be a doctor, but couldn't pass college to become one.
Once again, this thread is male doctor and YOUR WIFE. I would assume your husband doesn't really care if you go to a male doctor for nude exams. If you don't care and your husband doesn't care than bravo for you. No worries. Why do you even care about this thread then? You're good to go, move along now. This thread really isn't how you feel about it. If your husband was upset and bothered by you taking your clothes off to have the nude areas of your body examined and penetrated by a man then you'd have choices to make. "I have no issues going to a male doctor", would then be "I have no issues but this upsets my husband very much." You'd have to decide if you being examined by a man was so important you'd just keep going to him anyway. If he doesn't care than this is no issue in this area. Are you trying to convince men who wouldn't want their wives examined by men that it really shouldn't bother them? If your husband doesn't care then I sure don't, that's between you and him.
John

Louisville, KY

#494 Jul 9, 2012
Mandy wrote:
I don't think any teen girl would want her father to see her vagina & any decent father would not want to look at his daughter's vagina. Again I have never heard of a tampon getting stuck anyway. I don't think a doctor should treat any member of his family for anything as then they might get in the habit a writing prescriptions for them that they really don't need. I never said anything about a male bra fitter. I have never had anyone measure me as I know how to use a tape measure myself & can figure that out, thank you very much. You do not know what goes on with this exam. The majority of it involves a speculum, which is a little painful, at least to me. A nurse is there in the room the whole time & watches to see what is done. I just don't see anything sexual about it. The whole thing might take a minute, which if that's all it takes for you to have sex, then I feel sorry for your wife.
Your comment just shows you don't understand how a husband feels. "A nurse is in the room" So what? There could be 20 nurses in the room, it makes zero difference. "It's not sexual." SO WHAT? I'm glad it isn't sexaul, I wouldn't want my wife to enjoy it. I know she doesn't. I makes zero difference. Just a man seeing my wife nude and touching her is an offense. Nothing could change that, nurses, polite doctors, sterile environment, medical degrees. It doesn't matter. Just the fact that you had to say: "A nurse is always there." as if that makes it ok shows you have zero idea of what it is like for someone you love to be nude and be viewed, touched and penetrated by another man.
Mandy

Greensburg, KY

#498 Jul 9, 2012
Of course my husband is aroused by me. He wouldn't have married me otherwise. I can be in old sweat pants & a baggy shirt & my husband thinks I am sexy. Doesn't mean every man would or does find me attrative. I don't care what other men think about me. I get that you don't want your wife seen by a male doctor. I just don't see it being classified as rape.
MPM

Waynesville, NC

#499 Jul 9, 2012
Mandy wrote:
Of course my husband is aroused by me. He wouldn't have married me otherwise. I can be in old sweat pants & a baggy shirt & my husband thinks I am sexy. Doesn't mean every man would or does find me attrative. I don't care what other men think about me. I get that you don't want your wife seen by a male doctor. I just don't see it being classified as rape.
It is very obvious you see nothing wrong with male gynecologists. I would like to ask you several personal questions.

1.) How would you feel if your husband was a gynecologist and saw many naked women everyday in his job?

2.) How old are you? I am in my early 30s. I thought that male gynecologists were inappropriate since I was about 10 years old. I was taught that I could not undress in front of my dad anymore after a certain age. I grew up knowing that women and men had separate restrooms and dressing rooms. Then when I learned more about sex, I turned against male gynecologists even more.

3.) Do you think male gynecologists are really asexual? If so, how come are so many of them married with children?
James

Phoenix, AZ

#500 Jul 9, 2012
Funny women don't mind seeing male gyn's, yet they won't see male
mammographers. That is why there are no male mammographers, no
male nurses in L&D and no male nurses in post-op gyn floors.

The numbers of female residents in obgyn is steadily increasing, in fact
the numbers are now equal and will be surpassed soon by female residents.
Mandy

United States

#501 Jul 10, 2012
I wouldn't care if my husband was a gyno at all. If that was his calling in life, then so be it. I am also in my early 30's & I just don't see anything wrong with it. I realize not everyone feels comfortable with a male doctor & I think if you aren't then you should see a female. I don't think they are asexual, but it is a job. The exam to me isn't anything like sex or none I've had anyway. I think its more weird that a woman would want to spend her days looking at a bunch of vagina's, but again that's my opinion. I know I don't want to see another woman naked.
Mandy

United States

#505 Jul 10, 2012
As a matter a fact I did ask my husband about this when I saw this thread. He laughed & said it was the stupidest thing he ever heard of. He likes my doctor. Obviously some women have no problem looking at vagina's all day as they go into this field. I wouldn't, but that's just me. I've seen women gyno's & one delivered my baby. She was great as were all the nurses. While I was screaming in pain, I could have cared less who saw what. I doubt any doctor comes home with an odor on their hands from the job. They do wear gloves. If that were true, how would a husband feel about his wife coming home with that smell on her?
Anon

Mastic Beach, NY

#506 Jul 10, 2012
stupid stupid wrote:
<quoted text>man I've heard it all i bet your over controlling and very jealous person. Most male obgyns are professional your thinking women doctors could be lesbians touching your wife
STUPID
The original poster was asking if anyone else felt uncomfortable with their wife/significant other being seen by a male OB/GYN. How would he being uncomfortable automatically mean he was controlling? He is not saying that he is telling his wife she can't see a male doctor, only that it bothers him somewhat.

Skimming through a few of the replies on here this thread has come a long ways from where it started. In response to what I think is a simple and very warranted question:

YES I felt somewhat uncomfortable when I learned that my girlfriend was being seen by a male doctor.

Would I try to let this stop her from seeing the best possible doctor for her needs? ABSOLUTELY NOT!!

It seems that many of the posters are on here automatically assume anyone that says they don't feel 100% comfortable with this are controlling jealous freaks.
That ALMOST irritates me more than the ones that actually are the controlling freaks posting on here.

I love my girlfriend very much, and of course want her to be healthy over all else.
I also would be lying if I said the thought of another man being down there had 0 effect on me.

I find it difficult to believe that any man can say with 100% honesty that the thought of another man being down there poking around (professionally or not) doesn't have the slightest effect.
Perhaps it more or less comes down to how long you've been with your wife/girlfriend, as well as your own age that determines your reaction to this.

I'm 25, so you could say I'm still near the height of my testosterone fueled mental state as far as viewing other males as competition and wanting to protect my woman from potential threats, etc etc...
If It was later in life for me and (at least from a chemical point of view) was less watchful for "potential threats" perhaps the thought of another man touching my girlfriend/wife down there would have less of an impact, or none at all as some claim to have.

The second point I'll bring up is that I've only been with my girlfriend for a few months and we are still in that extremely passionate stage where we cant keep our hands off of each other when we're around each other. I view her as my goddess and love every inch of her. I'm aware that over time the love you have for your s.o generally transforms from a primal desire to be as close as humanly possible with them, to a strong bond of trust and support (still with the sexuality of course) just a lesser degree that when you started. Perhaps if I was further along in my relationship with her I again would be less concerned with the gender of her doctor.

Are these feelings irrational? Yes I think so, as many have stated on here the majority of these doctors are professionals who see thousands of women throughout their career. The chance of your girl being seen by one of the perverts is extremely low, and as long as she feels comfortable with the doctor (male or female) and feels she is getting the care she needs then that's that.

To sum it up, yes I think it's normal for some guys to feel somewhat uncomfortable with their girl being seen by a male OB/GYN, but the more important thing is,
you should want the best care possible for her and be able to get over whatever negative feelings you have about the situation.

Just wanted to throw in my 2 cents on the subject. Good luck to everyone!
Mandy

United States

#507 Jul 10, 2012
To Anon, I think you stated your point very well. You weren't judgemental & I do get that it makes some men uncomfortable. I have a problem with people saying its like having sex or being raped. My husband doesn't have a problem with it & never did, but maybe its because he had been married before & went through the birth of a child with his ex who also had a male doctor. Good luck to you & your girlfriend.
Well

Elizabethtown, KY

#508 Jul 10, 2012
You act like the Dr puts KY Jelly on his fingers and goes in and out in a arousing way. Once the jelly goes on and the finger is inserted it comes back out 2 seconds later and it's over. No in and out, in and out. Someone is watching to many gyno porn videos!
You men sound like you have some real jealousy issues going on. Good luck in your marriages with that
MPM

Waynesville, NC

#509 Jul 10, 2012
Mandy wrote:
I wouldn't care if my husband was a gyno at all. If that was his calling in life, then so be it. I am also in my early 30's & I just don't see anything wrong with it. I realize not everyone feels comfortable with a male doctor & I think if you aren't then you should see a female. I don't think they are asexual, but it is a job. The exam to me isn't anything like sex or none I've had anyway. I think its more weird that a woman would want to spend her days looking at a bunch of vagina's, but again that's my opinion. I know I don't want to see another woman naked.
The truth is a male gynecologist sees so many attractive women naked. It is awful that he compares them to his wife. It is a dream job for many male gynecologists. The wife should be the only woman a man sees naked after puberty.

It doesn't excite me at all to see another woman naked. I am sure that if you talked to most normal women that you will find that they find nothing exciting about seeing other women naked either. That is why only women should be gynecologists. Men are excited when they see women naked. Can you explain why so many men enjoy looking at playboy? Most normal women don't care about seeing pictures of those women in Playboy.
MPM

Waynesville, NC

#510 Jul 10, 2012
Anon wrote:
<quoted text>
The original poster was asking if anyone else felt uncomfortable with their wife/significant other being seen by a male OB/GYN. How would he being uncomfortable automatically mean he was controlling? He is not saying that he is telling his wife she can't see a male doctor, only that it bothers him somewhat.
Skimming through a few of the replies on here this thread has come a long ways from where it started. In response to what I think is a simple and very warranted question:
YES I felt somewhat uncomfortable when I learned that my girlfriend was being seen by a male doctor.
Would I try to let this stop her from seeing the best possible doctor for her needs? ABSOLUTELY NOT!!
It seems that many of the posters are on here automatically assume anyone that says they don't feel 100% comfortable with this are controlling jealous freaks.
That ALMOST irritates me more than the ones that actually are the controlling freaks posting on here.
I love my girlfriend very much, and of course want her to be healthy over all else.
I also would be lying if I said the thought of another man being down there had 0 effect on me.
I find it difficult to believe that any man can say with 100% honesty that the thought of another man being down there poking around (professionally or not) doesn't have the slightest effect.
Perhaps it more or less comes down to how long you've been with your wife/girlfriend, as well as your own age that determines your reaction to this.
I'm 25, so you could say I'm still near the height of my testosterone fueled mental state as far as viewing other males as competition and wanting to protect my woman from potential threats, etc etc...
If It was later in life for me and (at least from a chemical point of view) was less watchful for "potential threats" perhaps the thought of another man touching my girlfriend/wife down there would have less of an impact, or none at all as some claim to have.
The second point I'll bring up is that I've only been with my girlfriend for a few months and we are still in that extremely passionate stage where we cant keep our hands off of each other when we're around each other. I view her as my goddess and love every inch of her. I'm aware that over time the love you have for your s.o generally transforms from a primal desire to be as close as humanly possible with them, to a strong bond of trust and support (still with the sexuality of course) just a lesser degree that when you started. Perhaps if I was further along in my relationship with her I again would be less concerned with the gender of her doctor.
Are these feelings irrational? Yes I think so, as many have stated on here the majority of these doctors are professionals who see thousands of women throughout their career. The chance of your girl being seen by one of the perverts is extremely low, and as long as she feels comfortable with the doctor (male or female) and feels she is getting the care she needs then that's that.
To sum it up, yes I think it's normal for some guys to feel somewhat uncomfortable with their girl being seen by a male OB/GYN, but the more important thing is,
you should want the best care possible for her and be able to get over whatever negative feelings you have about the situation.
Just wanted to throw in my 2 cents on the subject. Good luck to everyone!
There are so many excellent female gynecologists. Your feelings are valid. You should ask your girlfriend to only see a female gynecologist. Your girlfriend is at risk of being abused by a male doctor. Look at how this article encourages women to not go to a female gynecologist and to switch to a female gynecologist to protect themselves at http://sexualmisconductbydoctors.com/femaleti... .
James

Glendale, AZ

#511 Jul 10, 2012
If all you women don't mind seeing male gyn physicians then start asking for
male mammographers. Ask for male nurses to be in L&D, and male nurses
in post op gyn to be fair.

Now, 95 percent of all nurses are female, 92 percent cna's and 96 percent
medical assistants are female as well. Men generally don't have many options
in this regard, despite the fact that female nurses love looking at our genitals.

If you don't think they do then you are wrong.They have created websites
about it. Female nurses are being reprimanded in record numbers for boundary
violations,( sexual relationships with their patients) and ( taking money and or
gifts).

Male patients are not safe from male healthcare providers either. Many are gay,
thus men are at risk the most. There are many lesbian healthcare providers too
so they too are checking their female patients out as well.
James

Glendale, AZ

#512 Jul 10, 2012
So with all I have said perhaps all you women should be the ones worrying
about who is checking out your men when they need healthcare. You all would
be surprised.
Mandy

United States

#513 Jul 11, 2012
A man looking at Playboy is very different than a Pap Smear. I can't see what would excite a man about that. Plus when a man gets excited, its pretty easy to tell. I've never seen my doctor sporting wood. I don't know why its okay for men to be taken care of by female nurses & no one cares. They are professionals.
ENLIGHTENED HUSBAND

Norwich, UK

#514 Jul 11, 2012
I have the intelligence, perception and depth of character to have learnt, through life and life experiences, that women are in-fact 'wired differently'. I also know that most men hate it when their woman goes to a male gynaecologist for an examination, I've often overheard men talking about it, doing their very best to shrug off the way they actually feel inside with a kind of machoistic and sheep following respect for the medical institution. Don't get me wrong here, I do appreciate it when a doctor saves a life, but let's face the facts; he gets paid a HUGE sum of money per year to do that. There are more modest people that save lives, some of them voluntary, let's turn to the caring neighbour who checks on the old lady to see how she is, lifting her spirits, extending her life through feel good factor, does she get a huge wage too? No, of course not! The fact that the medical profession pays so well actually attracts the WRONG type of person to the profession. Genuinely caring people aren't usually interested in 'status','power' or 'money'. I believe that men are attracted to gynaecology for money and power over women, exactly the WRONG type of character for such a sensitive profession, after all... these male gynaecologists, who require 'sensitivity' for their roles, slate us for being 'over sensitive!'. Genuine characters? I THINK NOT! Move aside you power crazed perverts! When I hear a gyno say they are 'professionally desensitized', that is such a joke! I know a man whose marriage ended due to his wife's male gyno, do you know what he done? He used his money, went to med school, graduated, and guess what? He still got turned on by attractive women's vaginas! He stayed in the medical profession for a while but had to quit as he felt like such a hypocrite!(all true). STOP defending perverts! You would make a good brief/solicitor for an obviously guilty paedophile!
ENLIGHTENED HUSBAND

Norwich, UK

#515 Jul 11, 2012
Mandy wrote:
A man looking at Playboy is very different than a Pap Smear. I can't see what would excite a man about that. Plus when a man gets excited, its pretty easy to tell. I've never seen my doctor sporting wood. I don't know why its okay for men to be taken care of by female nurses & no one cares. They are professionals.
Hi Mandy, would you care how your husband felt?

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