Ive heard it all

Marble Falls, TX

#21 Dec 11, 2012
Not saying that at all but as his friend you know whether you think you can help ease his burdens or if he will just add his to yours along with the blame.

“once was blind”

Since: Jul 10

now I see

#22 Dec 11, 2012
Ive heard it all wrote:
Not saying that at all but as his friend you know whether you think you can help ease his burdens or if he will just add his to yours along with the blame.
The answer to that is in the degree that you love someone. Surely you do not believe that people can not change..
HELP ME

Lockhart, TX

#23 Dec 11, 2012
Well I think that people can change, regardless of there past and even more so if they know that someone cares and wants the best for them.
Runner

United States

#24 Dec 11, 2012
I was a runner when single. Every time a woman would start to have feelings I would run like hell. Sex is great, just don't wrap your emotions in it. Take it for what it is. It took me a long time before I was ready to get married. I finally did and have lasted 10 years now. What finally got me was MY desire to settle down. NOT someone else's desire for me to settle down. You are not going to change anyone. The person you see right now is who that person is. Along with a dark side you may not have seen yet. Just don't think you will "fix" or "change" anyone. You will only foster resentment. If you truely love that person, be yourself, ALL of yourself. Darkside and all. If he is still around after that, build on it. Love is a strong word. Don't say it until you mean it with all of your soul. With that one word comes the the commitment, responsibility,trust and vulnerability of a relationship. That's why I never said it just to not hurt someone's feelings. If you say it, you have to commit to it.
Ive heard it all

Longview, TX

#25 Dec 11, 2012
I think everyone an change but they have to want to change to better themselves not to live up to who you want them to be. And if you change for them then you should take another look at youself and make sure you are in a good place in your life or you are going to fail both you and them.

“once was blind”

Since: Jul 10

now I see

#26 Dec 11, 2012
Ive heard it all wrote:
I think everyone an change but they have to want to change to better themselves not to live up to who you want them to be. And if you change for them then you should take another look at youself and make sure you are in a good place in your life or you are going to fail both you and them.
Very true. I have character flaws. I have spiritual principals that are dear to me, and that I fall short on, quite often. I do however have a process that I use that helps me to change and to grow. It works, but lately I have failed to put it into practice a lot. I am not proud of my recent actions. I have tried to change for other people in the past, but it is only when I have messed up or caused myself enough grief that I become willing to do different.

“My mind....”

Since: Jul 09

was a terrible thing to waste

#27 Dec 11, 2012
the insight wrote:
<quoted text>

I have character flaws.

Not me.

I'm squeaky clean..... SQUEAKY CLEAN I TELL YA!!!

“once was blind”

Since: Jul 10

now I see

#28 Dec 11, 2012
OMYDAM wrote:
<quoted text>Not me.

I'm squeaky clean..... SQUEAKY CLEAN I TELL YA!!!
You are righteous brutha, just the way you are. But I think you have a smudge or two.

“My mind....”

Since: Jul 09

was a terrible thing to waste

#29 Dec 11, 2012
the insight wrote:
<quoted text>
You are righteous brutha, just the way you are. But I think you have a smudge or two.
Underwear stains don't count.
bk s hole

United States

#30 Dec 11, 2012
Is his name arl?
bk s hole

United States

#31 Dec 11, 2012
HELP ME wrote:
Well I'm sure that he does I'm sure he knows how sexy I think he is but it's more then just that I could sleep with him regardless but it's more then just that I really care about this. I think about him all the time I worry about him and want the best for him no matter what, I just don't know what to do about this.
ok is his name ray?
bk s hole

United States

#32 Dec 11, 2012
His name Anthony ray?????
HELP ME

United States

#33 Dec 12, 2012
No his name is not ray
Ive heard it all

San Juan, TX

#34 Dec 12, 2012
I think maybe you should be more sure of your feelngs before you jump into this relationship. I say this because you are asking too many other peoples opinions.
nieghbor

Plano, TX

#35 Dec 13, 2012
Is he a cop?
Help me

United States

#36 Dec 13, 2012
No he's not a cop!!!!!! And I ask about this because I'm sure other people have been where I am and I just want to know how they handled it.
just saying

Austin, TX

#37 Dec 13, 2012
If he is blaming his ex for his problems...honey he is playing you! Go talk to the ex and get the real story. Drugs????Run!!!!! I promise you can't help him...what do you think happened to his marriage?

“once was blind”

Since: Jul 10

now I see

#38 Dec 13, 2012
just saying wrote:
If he is blaming his ex for his problems...honey he is playing you! Go talk to the ex and get the real story. Drugs????Run!!!!! I promise you can't help him...what do you think happened to his marriage?
I didn't start the thread, don't know who did. I only commented because it reminded me of a song lol. But I don't remember reading 'help me' saying anything about any if that.????
guest

West Helena, AR

#39 Dec 13, 2012
Damn how old are ya??? Sixteen i would guess, just wait and grow up it will all come to you and you won't have to get on topix and ask what to do. Just live and learn.
Help me

United States

#41 Dec 14, 2012
No I'm not 16, actually I'm old enough to know that your a real jerk what do u care If I ask others how they look at or would Handel this. But thank u for the ones that did have something nice to say and I do agree with the making sure about my feelings and seeing that I can't change him that he has to be the one to do that

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