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Gossip.....for those who call themselves Christians

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“Knowledge Changes Perception”

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#1 Aug 28, 2010
Gossip
Proverbs 20:19

Gossip defined; A person who habitually reveals personal or sensational facts. Rumor or report of an intimate nature.
(Webster’s Dictionary)

There are around 127 passages about gossip in the Bible. Here are a few questions to keep in mind while reading this study.

1. When is gossip, gossip?
2. Is gossip only when we malign someone else?
3. Is false testimony about ourselves gossip?
4. Does it make any difference who we are talking about, or what we are talking about?
5. When is it okay to talk about someone else?
6. How about in the use of an example in ministry?
7. Can we do it without names?
8. What are our motives?
9. Is our heart true or vindictive and self satisfying?
10. What is the purpose of bringing up a name or a situation if it’s not glorifying to God?
11. How does gossip affect our walk with the Lord?

In Genesis 37:2-36; 39:1-20 we read an incredible event about a young boy by the name of Joseph. Joseph was the youngest son of Israel, a Hebrew shepherd boy sold into slavery by his brothers, who were motivated by jealousy, to the Ishmaelites. In turn the Ishmaelites sold Joseph to Potiphar, a captain of the guard for Pharaoh. After observing that Joseph had been given great success by the Lord, Potiphar made Joseph his personal attendant, putting Joseph in charge of Potiphar’s entire household and everything he owned. Because of Joseph, the Lord blessed everything Potiphar had, in the house and in the field. Potiphar trusted Joseph so much that he did not concern himself with anything except the food he ate.

We read that Joseph was well-built and handsome, catching the eye of Potiphar’s wife. I’m thinking Mrs. Potiphar was probably very attractive and very spoiled, getting anything she wanted when she wanted it, and it seems this day she wanted Joseph. Mrs. Potiphar approached Joseph about going to bed with her, but Joseph refused her advances by explaining it would be a sin against God if he were to fall to this temptation. But this didn’t stop Mrs. Potiphar, she kept on with her advances day after day and Joseph kept rejecting her day after day.

One day Joseph entered the house to attend to his duties, when he noticed that there were no other servants in the house, there was just Mrs. Potiphar and himself.(Gen 39:11) Mrs. Potiphar grabbed Joseph by the cloak saying,“come to bed with me!” Joseph pulled away leaving his cloak in her hands as he ran out of the house. As soon as Mrs. Potiphar realized she had Joseph’s cloak in her hand she screamed for her household servants to come in the house and she told them,(vs 14)“This Hebrew has been brought to us to make sport of us! He came in here to sleep with me, but I screamed. When he heard me scream for help, he left his cloak beside me and ran out of the house.”(Gen 39:14-15) Mrs. Potiphar had to make sure to let her servants know what to say to support her story (since they were not actually there when it happened). Can you imagine the gossip being spread throughout the household servants, being well rooted by a vindictive woman?

“Knowledge Changes Perception”

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#2 Aug 28, 2010
When Mrs. Potiphar told Mr. Potiphar what had happened (by the way her story changed from making sport of us in vs 14 to making sport of me in vs 17, its all about her) his anger burned toward Joseph so badly that he had Joseph thrown into the King’s prison.(Gen 39:11-20)(This can bring understanding to the phrase,“No fury like a woman scorned”!)

Mrs. Potiphar devised a malicious lie fueled by anger, jealousy, bitterness, and resentment because of rejection. She didn’t get what she wanted so she made up a lie, spreading it throughout her household servants (gossip) so her lie could be confirmed, even though none were there when it happened, they only had gossip to rely on. Because of this chain of events Mrs. Potiphar set out to use the most powerful and damaging weapon of all--the tongue--to destroy Joseph's unblemished reputation and character, especially to Potiphar. As expected, Potiphar became outraged, so much so that he had Joseph, his personal and trusted attendant, thrown in prison.

Joseph’s spotless reputation and character was stolen by gossip (the gossip of Mrs. Potiphar and her servants). Now, not only were they (Mrs. Potiphar and the other servants) gossips but they were thieves as well. Joseph had some decisions to make, was he going to be faithful and obedient to God or was he going to become angry and vindictive doing the very thing that had been done to him. Joseph chose obedience in honoring God and, because of that, God’s favor went with Joseph and stayed upon him; even in prison, gaining the favor of the prison warden.(Gen 39:21-23)

When we gossip, or even participate in gossip, we are actively and voluntarily engaging in a destructive purpose, character assassination and theft. Basically, gossip is a destructive need for personal gratification, making one’s self feel good about one’s self by destroying the character and reputation of another.

You see “misery loves company.” Some people cannot stand the thought of someone else succeeding, whether spiritually, physically, or financially; so they search for reasons to accuse and discredit the person, ministry, business, etc. to make themselves feel better about who they are.

Do not spread false reports.(Exod 23:1) The Pharisees were continually chasing Jesus around in hopes of trapping Him with His own words.(Matt 22:15-22; Mark 3:1-6) There are many Christians who spend valuable time searching for something to discredit another person or ministry with just because they don’t agree with how they minister or conduct their business.

“Knowledge Changes Perception”

Since: Apr 10

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#3 Aug 28, 2010
There are plenty of ministries that seem to be spiritual whipping boys because of disagreements with how they handle themselves while doing ministry. Let’s do a hypothetical. What if you were walking down a busy street and came upon a crowd listening to and watching a man. You push your way through the crowd to the point where you can view and hear what is going on. You realize that this man is ministering to a blind man and you get there just in time to see the minister spit on the eyes of the blind man and say,“Do you see anything?” The blind man looks up and says,“I see people; they look like trees walking around.” Once more the man puts his hands on the blind man’s eyes. This time his eyes are opened, and his sight restored, seeing everything clearly.
The questions to be asked are:“What would our first reaction be?” and, secondly,“How would we handle what we’ve just witnessed?” Honestly, there would be a lot of skepticism on my part, allowing my human rationality and thoughts to run amuck.(And believe me there would be plenty of thoughts I would have to gather and take captive.) I’d be eager to tell someone about the kook down the street scamming people into thinking he could heal using unconventional tactics, theatrics, and large crowds. Would we be satisfied with leaving it in God’s hands? Or would we be like James and John, more than willing to call fire down upon the Samaritans who would not receive Jesus?(Luke 9:51-56) Would we have to tell all our friends and relatives, ejecting our own commentary and opinion every time the story is told? Jesus went through this same ridicule. In fact, Mark 8:22-26 records the healing of the blind man with spit and the laying on of hands. In most every instance recorded, it was the religious who were most offended; spreading gossip to discredit Jesus because they didn’t agree with what he was doing, the way He was doing it, or when He was doing it. Jesus did not fit within the constraints of their tiny religious box. How many of us would be on that same bandwagon, criticizing and ridiculing, if Jesus were to appear today doing the same things He did throughout His ministry?
Yes, I know the pat answer is that we are not Jesus, and that’s correct, but Jesus did say in John 14:12-13 that if anyone has faith in Him, we will do what he has been doing. Jesus goes a step further by saying we can do even greater things than what He did. Which tells me that we can use spit to heal the blind, tell a person with a withered hand to stretch it out before the crowd to be healed, and order the demons to submit and they must. Criticism, ridicule and gossip is to be expected from nonbelievers, but it is the believers who attack other Christians (and end up gossiping) because of their lack of understanding or possibly faith. This is the perseverance the Bible tells us to battle through.
One day we will all kneel before the throne of judgment. We will be judged upon our theatrics as well as the way we handle the gifts God has given us. Remember whoever has been given much, much will be demanded (Luke 12:48); rest assured we will also be judged upon every careless and critical word we speak, attacks we make, and critical gossip.(Matt 12:36-37) It doesn’t matter if the criticism is against a man of God or a fraud, we as believers should be above such heathenistic behavior.

“Knowledge Changes Perception”

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#4 Aug 28, 2010
God uses many types of people in many types of ministries. Let me explain: a ministry is not always an organization, or a group; ministry, often times, is one on one, doing God’s will wherever and whenever, even if those around you don’t agree with what you are doing. Petra has a song with the lyrics,“I’d rather be a fool in the eyes of man rather then a fool in the eyes of God.” When we start attacking (spreading gossip) over frivolous things it is time we examine our heart, our motives. Are our motives self-seeking or are they glorifying to God? Many times we think we have to help God expose the false teachers and doctrines: if that is God’s plan for someone, be obedient, and seek God’s guidance; but if it is us trying to help God without His asking or us drawing attention to ourselves, we have sinned. We need to repent and spend some serious time seeking God’s true will for our lives.
God is very diverse in His ways of reaching people, known only to Him. So, when we indulge in gossip, God has no part in it, it’s all self satisfaction indulging a jealous spirit. The truth is, gossip greatly hinders the Kingdom of God. We have reasons as numerous as gossip itself why we need to gossip, but the fact is we need to be ashamed of ourselves and repent of such wicked motives, God will deal with those we don’t agree with, the same way God will deal with us for what we are doing. A trustworthy saying is: If we would keep our porch clean, we wouldn’t have time to clean anyone else’s porch?
The Pharisees, Sadducees, and the religious leaders were angry and vindictive people, willing to stop at nothing to discredit Jesus, while elevating themselves up to be important, knowledgeable, and dignified. We still have plenty of Pharisees, Sadducees, and religious leaders today, spreading their gossip fueled by the thought of discrediting and damaging someone in hopes of drawing attention to themselves. Is behavior like this glorifying to God?
Gossip indicates an unclean heart (Matt 15:10-20) and out of the heart comes evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false testimony, and slander. A bitter pill to swallow is accepting the fact that we are to bless those who give false testimony and slander our reputation.(Romans 12:14)(Giving false testimony and slandering is persecution.)
Put yourself in Joseph’s place, would you want to bless Potiphar or his wife? It doesn't say that Joseph blessed them but the Lord did give Joseph favor while in prison.(Gen 39:21) I wouldn’t think God would reward Joseph if he would resort to gossip or doing the very thing that had been done to him. Joseph remained righteous before God.(Gen 40-41:16--Joseph did not take credit for what God would do through him.)
If we spread rumors (gossip) about ourselves, it is no different than spreading rumors about someone else. It is still a lie (Prov 6:16-19), something that is destructive toward someone else, and the likelihood is that the damage will be far reaching. We build ourselves up, thinking we are something great, when in fact we are just deceiving ourselves and others--blowing smoke.(Gal 6:3) We need to test our own actions, our motives. Are our motives for selfish gain, or are they to build and strengthen our walk, unifying the body of Christ?
Paul addresses what he sees as the root problem of gossip, it is being idle, creating a void in our lives in need of filling. Paul points out plainly,“they are busybodies” plain and simple, busybodies.(2 Thes 3:11- 13) You see Paul is not worried about offending anyone, he speaks the truth for the sole reason of building up the body, helping them to be better, more productive believers. Paul goes on to say,“Such people we command and urge in the Lord Jesus Christ to settle down and earn the bread they eat.”(vs 12) This applies to men and women alike, be productive wherever you are, either at home or at work. It is a command not a suggestion.

“Knowledge Changes Perception”

Since: Apr 10

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#6 Aug 28, 2010
Question: "What does the Bible say about gossip?"

Answer: The Hebrew word translated “gossip” in the Old Testament is defined as “one who reveals secrets, one who goes about as a talebearer or scandal-monger.” A gossiper is a person who has privileged information about people and proceeds to reveal that information to those who have no business knowing it. Gossip is distinguished from sharing information in two ways:

1. Intent. Gossipers often have the goal of building themselves up by making others look bad and exalting themselves as some kind of repositories of knowledge.

2. The type of information shared. Gossipers speak of the faults and failings of others, or reveal potentially embarrassing or shameful details regarding the lives of others without their knowledge or approval. Even if they mean no harm, it is still gossip.

In the book of Romans, Paul reveals the sinful nature and lawlessness of mankind, stating how God poured out His wrath on those who rejected His laws. Because they had turned away from God's instruction and guidance, He gave them over to their sinful natures. The list of sins includes gossips and slanderers (Romans 1:29b-32). We see from this passage how serious the sin of gossip is and that it characterizes those who are under God’s wrath.

Another group who were (and still are today) known for indulging in gossip is widows. Paul cautions widows against entertaining the habit of gossip and of being idle. These women are described as “gossips and busybodies, saying things they ought not to”(1 Timothy 5:12-13). Because women tend to spend a lot of time in each other's homes and work closely with other women, they hear and observe situations which can become distorted, especially when repeated over and over. Paul states that widows get into the habit of going from home to home, looking for something to occupy their idleness. Idle hands are the devil's workshop, and God cautions against allowing idleness to enter our lives.“A gossip betrays a confidence; so avoid a man [or woman] who talks too much”(Proverbs 20:19).

Women are certainly not the only ones who have been found guilty of gossip. Anyone can engage in gossip simply by repeating something heard in confidence. The book of Proverbs has a long list of verses that cover the dangers of gossip and the potential hurt that results from it.“A man who lacks judgment derides his neighbor, but a man of understanding holds his tongue. A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy man keeps a secret”(Proverbs 11:12-13).

The Bible tells us that “a perverse man stirs up dissension, and a gossip separates close friends”(Proverbs 16:28). Many a friendship has been ruined over a misunderstanding that started with gossip. Those who engage in this behavior do nothing but stir up trouble and cause anger, bitterness, and pain among friends. Sadly, some people thrive on this and look for opportunities to destroy others. And when such people are confronted, they deny the allegations and answer with excuses and rationalizations. Rather than admit wrongdoing, they blame someone else or attempt to minimize the seriousness of the sin.“A fool's mouth is his undoing, and his lips are a snare to his soul. The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to a man's inmost parts”(Proverbs 18:7-8).

Those who guard their tongues keep themselves from calamity (Proverbs 21:23). So we must guard our tongues and refrain from the sinful act of gossip. If we surrender our natural desires to the Lord, He will help us to remain righteous. May we all follow the Bible’s teaching on gossip by keeping our mouths shut unless it is necessary and appropriate to speak.

“Knowledge Changes Perception”

Since: Apr 10

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#7 Aug 28, 2010
Taken from the HOLY BIBLE: NEW INTERNATIONAL VERSION (C) 1978 by the New
York Bible Society, used by permission of Zondervan Bible Publishers.

LEV 19:16 "'Do not go about spreading slander among your people. "'Do not
do anything that endangers your neighbor's life. I am the LORD.

PSA 34:13 keep your tongue from evil and your lips from speaking lies.

101:5 Whoever slanders his neighbor in secret, him will I put to silence;
whoever has haughty eyes and a proud heart, him will I not endure.

PRO 6:19 a false witness who pours out lies and a man who stirs up
dissension among brothers.

10:18 He who conceals his hatred has lying lips, and whoever spreads
slander is a fool.

11:9 With his mouth the godless destroys his neighbor, but through
knowledge the righteous escape.

13 A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy man keeps a secret.

16:28 A perverse man stirs up dissension, and a gossip separates close
friends.

17:9 He who covers over an offense promotes love, but whoever repeats the
matter separates close friends.

18:8 The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to a
man's inmost parts.

20:19 A gossip betrays a confidence; so avoid a man who talks too much.

26:20 Without wood a fire goes out; without gossip a quarrel dies down.

ECC 10:11 If a snake bites before it is charmed, there is no profit for
the charmer.

MAT 12:36 But I tell you that men will have to give account on the day of
judgment for every careless word they have spoken.

EPH 4:29 Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only
what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it
may benefit those who listen.

31 Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along
with every form of malice.

2TH 3:11 We hear that some among you are idle. They are not busy; they are
busybodies.

1TI 3:11 In the same way, their wives are to be women worthy of respect,
not malicious talkers but temperate and trustworthy in everything.

5:13 Besides, they get into the habit of being idle and going about from
house to house. And not only do they become idlers, but also gossips and
busybodies, saying things they ought not to.

TIT 2:3 Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they
live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is
good.

3:1 Remind the people to be subject to rulers and authorities, to be
obedient, to be ready to do whatever is good,

2 to slander no one, to be peaceable and considerate, and to show true
humility toward all men.

JAM 4:11 Brothers, do not slander one another. Anyone who speaks against
his brother or judges him speaks against the law and judges it. When you
judge the law, you are not keeping it, but sitting in judgment on it.

1PE 2:1 Therefore, rid yourselves of all malice and all deceit, hypocrisy,
envy, and slander of every kind.

3:10 For, "Whoever would love life and see good days must keep his tongue
from evil and his lips from deceitful speech.

“Knowledge Changes Perception”

Since: Apr 10

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#8 Aug 28, 2010
Doing the Devil's Work for Him

You've heard the phrase,'Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me." It's not true ---- like a poisonous snake gossip can kill you!



We live in a notoriously violent society! Under the influence of Satan, people hurt, maim and kill fellow humans with impunity.

What about you? Do you inflict injury upon your neighbors? Could you be guilty of murder?

"How unthinkable!" you may answer. "Never!" Yet millions of seemingly harmless people hurt end even kill their neighbors every day. Their instrument of violence is not steely switchblade nor a silver "Saturday-night special" (an American term for a cheap handgun). It's the tongue!

"The hypocrite with his mouth destroys his neighbor," says Bible verse Proverbs 11:9. Whether the gossip is premeditated or accidental, murder is murder. And when you're dead, you're dead.

Yes, words ---- in the form of gossip ---- can hurt you and other people. But gossip can be stopped! Let's learn how to prevent this deadly crime. First, what is gossip? Many people don't know. Many do know, but pretend they don't. Many know, but don't care ---- they go right on anyway, murdering others with their words. So let's define this instrument of death.

What is gossip

Gossip accuses people. It charges others with wrong. People love to talk about the alleged actions of others. Does the following sound familiar?
"Did you hear what he did?"
"No ---- tell me!"
"Well, just between you and me, he..." and on and on it goes.

Listen to what God says about gossiping accusers: "An ungodly man digs up evil, and it is on his lips like a burning fire (Bible verse Proverbs 16:27). What happens to the victim of accusations? These accusers ---- this lynch mob of tongues ---- charge him, convict him and condemn him to death! Accusation is deadly gossip.

Gossip slanders neighbor. It destroys a person's character or personal reputation. But beware! He who lives by the sword of slander shall die by the sword of slander. Almighty God says, "Whoever secretly slanders his neighbor, him I will destroy" (Bible verse Psalm 101:5).

Gossip talks indiscreetly. People who say just anything that comes into their minds spread gossip. They do not engage their minds before they engage their tongues. They do not evaluate what they are about to say or its effect on others. "A serpent may bite when it is not charmed; the babbler is no different" (Bible verse Ecclesiastes 10:11).

In short, gossip is any communication that hurts people. "The words of a talebearer [a gossiper!] are as wounds, and they go down into the innermost parts of the belly" (Bible verse Proverbs 18:8), King James Version.)

What is the source?

Now you know what gossip is, but do you know where it comes from? Whether you realize it or not, when you gossip you are involved in an encounter with the realm of evil spirits ---- an encounter with the longest and the vilest tongue in the universe ---- that of Satan the serpent!

Satan started gossip. Jesus Christ said, "He was a murderer from the beginning" (John 8:44). Satan probably used gossip to assassinate God in the eyes of one third of the angels, causing them to rebel (Bible verse Revelation 12:4). Jesus also revealed that Satan is a lying slanderer: "For he is a liar and the father of it" (Bible verse John 8:4).

Satan accuses both God and humans today through unsuspecting people. He is called the "accuser of our brethren" ---- of God's begotten children in His Church (Bible verse Revelation 12:10).

Listen as Jude describes the gossiping nature of Satan and his demons ---- and people who follow Satan's way: "Likewise also these dreamers defile the flesh, reject authority, and speak evil of dignitaries... But these speak evil of whatever they know naturally, like brute beasts, in these things they corrupt themselves" (Bible verses Jude 8-10).

Yes, Satan is the source of gossip. Do not allow Satan to whisper in your ear.

“Knowledge Changes Perception”

Since: Apr 10

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#9 Aug 28, 2010
Gossip addicts
People gossip for many ---- all of them wrong ---- reasons. For example, people of low self-esteem tend to gossip. They do not respect themselves, so they gossip about others and pull them down. This allows their own egos to rise on the ruins of others'. The gossiper experiences a temporary illusions of worth, but quickly descends even lower than before. He or she then yearns to gossip again, aching to experience another high. But down he or she goes again.
And another gossip addict is born! Some people are addicted to gossip just as much as some others are addicted to drugs.
Frustration produces gossipers, too. You can't have everything you want. Perhaps you are dissatisfied with your situation in life. You hunger and thirst for satisfaction. So what do you do? Well, some people eat, eat, eat, desperately desiring to devour their frustrations away. Others talk, talk, talk and devour their neighbors away. After gossiping they feel better ---- for a little while. Then reality hits them again and the addictive cycle of frustration and gossip starts all over again.
Idleness breeds gossip. People who are idle with their hands tend to be active with their tongues. Paul comments: "And besides they learn to be idle, wandering about from house to house, and not only idle but also gossips and busybodies, saying things which they ought not" (Bible verse I Timothy 5:13).
No one wants to be a gossip addict, destroying those around. Can the addiction be cured? Can gossip be stopped? Yes ---- here's how!

“Knowledge Changes Perception”

Since: Apr 10

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#10 Aug 28, 2010
The cure for gossip
First, realize how much God hates gossip. Gossip-related sins appear three times on God's "hit list" of the six most abominable things He hates: "A lying tongue... a false witness who speaks lies, and one who sows discord among brethren" (Bible verses Proverbs 6:17-19).
God hates to see His children hurting one another. Yet He sees some of us day in and day out destroying one another with gossip. He wants a cease-fire of the tongues. God wants you to have the same attitude He has against gossip. So the first step toward stopping gossip is to hate it, because it hurts people. Once you come to hate gossip, then...
Repent of gossip. Perhaps you don't think about this as often as you should, but gossip is sin. Almighty God thunders in His Ninth Commandment, "You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor" (Bible verse Exodus 20:16). A main thrust of this commandment focuses on the harm done to one's neighbor by the types of accusation and slander that make up gossip.
James explains: "Do not speak evil of one another, brethren. He who speaks evil of a brother and judges his brother, speaks evil of the law and judges the law. But if you judge the law, you are not a doer of the law but a judge" (Bible verse James 4:11). Gossiping is bearing false witness, and that brings the death penalty (Bible verse Romans 6:23). So realize that gossip is sin. Repent and determine never to gossip again.
Realize the source. As we saw earlier, Satan originated gossip. No Christian wants to be an instrument of the devil. Yet when you gossip you are being used by Satan. He not only started gossip, he now perpetuates it through humans (Bible verse Ephesians 2:2).
The next time you are tempted to gossip, think about the source and bite your tongue.
Don't listen. Not only should you repent of gossiping, you should stop listening to gossip. Don't fool yourself. Just as it takes two to tango, it takes two to gossip ---- one to talk and one to listen. Gossip would stop instantly if everyone would stop listening. It's no fun gossiping to yourself!
Listen to John's instruction: "If anyone comes to you and does not bring this doctrine, do not receive him into your house nor greet him; for he who greets him shares in his evil deeds" (Bible verses II John 10-11).
Just listening to gossip makes you an accomplice. If anyone comes to you with gossip, do not listen. As gently and tactfully as possible, tell the person that the subject matter does not concern you and you'd rather not discuss it. Be as firm as necessary. The person will quickly get the message ---- and the gossiping will stop.
Detect gossip. To stop gossip, you must recognize it. But how? God has provided you with a gossip-detection system. Let's take a look at that system, described in Bible verse Philippians 4:8. The first criteria for proper communication is that it be true. You should not listen to or say anything that is not true. In fact, you or the person telling you should be able to prove that it is true. "Prove all things; hold fast that which is good" (Bible verse I Thessalonians 5:21, KJV). If it can't be proven, it shouldn't be listened to or spoken of.

“Knowledge Changes Perception”

Since: Apr 10

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#11 Aug 28, 2010
But what if it is true? Should you get involved? Not unless it's noble. The information should not in any way tarnish the character, name or reputation of another person. Any hint of disrespect should set off an alarm in your mind that shouts "Gossip!" Paul goes even further by declaring that the information must be just. This means you should not discuss or listen to discussions about the sins of others. "For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God," says Bible verse Romans 3:23. "He who covers a transgression seeks love, but he who repeats a matter separates the best of friends" (Bible verse Proverbs 17:9).
Another important part of our gossip detection system is purity. The words must be pure. In our sick society, blasphemy and profanity almost have become proper etiquette. "Their throat is an open tomb... whose mouth is full of cursing and bitterness" (Bible verses Proverbs 3:13-14).
God does not want His people listening to or spreading dirty words or stories. Keep your ears and mouth pure. Accept only lovely things into your mind ---- things that effect you and others in a positive, uplifting way. Make sure the words you speak and hear are of good report. Bad news bombards us constantly. Human nature seems to thrive on bad news. "For their heart devises violence, and their lips talk of troublemaking" (Bible verse Proverbs 24:2). Paul tells us to avoid bad reports.
Use the gossip detectors of truth, honor, righteousness, purity, loveliness and good reports to stop gossip.
Speak to edify. In the same Bible verse 8 of Philippians 4, Paul says that we should speak words of virtue. Virtuous words are words of excellence and value, words that produce good fruits, that build up the speaker, listener and everyone else.
Speak words of praise ---- words that praise the great works of God. Talk about His great creation in all of his wonderful glory. Talk about God's Work on earth today ---- the Work that's spreading the good news of the Kingdom of God. Speak words of praise about the good in other people. Encourage others to do their best. Comfort other people when they are discouraged.
In short, use your tongue to bring life ---- not death!
Now you know what gossip is. You know its source. You even know why you gossip. More importantly you know how to stop gossip. So work to stop this heinous crime!

“Knowledge Changes Perception”

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#12 Aug 28, 2010
Shall I go on?????

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#13 Aug 29, 2010
All of us are interested in people, so we sometimes say good, up-building things about others, which is fine if what we say is true and does not cause harm. Sometimes, though, the talk turns to gossip…which is "idle talk, not always true, about other people and their affairs." And more often then not, gossip becomes slander… "a false report meant to do harm to the good name and reputation of another." This happens when we probe into personal, private affairs, or when we raise questions about motives or cast doubts or plant suspicions about others. This type of gossip is most often malicious, often jaded and exaggerated, not always true and can injure a person severely. It most often comes from a place of ignorance. The Bible says A LOT about this type of gossip, because it can do SO much damage.

Of gossipers in Jesus' day it says… "13 At the same time they also learn to be unoccupied, gadding about to the houses; yes, not only unoccupied, but also gossipers and meddlers in other people's affairs, talking of things they ought not. "(1 Timothy 5:13)

(Proverbs 6:16-19)says: 16 There are six things that God does hate; yes, seven are things detestable to his soul: 17 lofty eyes, a false tongue, and hands that are shedding innocent blood, 18 a heart fabricating hurtful schemes, feet that are in a hurry to run to badness, 19 a false witness that launches forth lies, and anyone sending forth contentions among brothers.

At (1 Peter 4:15) it puts gossip in the same category as thievery and murder: "15 However, let none of YOU suffer as a murderer or a thief or an evildoer or as a busybody in other people's matters. "

A person who purposely hurts others is displaying a bad heart :
(Matthew 12:33-34)… For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks...

And God sees it all (Jeremiah 17:9-10) God is "….searching the heart, examining the kidneys, even to give to each one according to his ways, according to the fruitage of his dealings..."

Good council against gossip is given at :

(Proverbs 26:20-26) "20 Where there is no wood the fire goes out, and where there is no slanderer contention grows still. 21 As charcoal for the embers and wood for the fire, so is a contentious man for causing a quarrel to glow. 22 The words of a slanderer are like things to be swallowed greedily, which do go down into the innermost parts of the belly. 23 As a silver glazing overlaid upon a fragment of earthenware are fervent lips along with a bad heart. 24 With his lips the hater makes himself unrecognizable, but inside of him he puts deception. 25 Although he makes his voice gracious, do not believe in him, for there are seven detestable things in his heart. 26 Hatred is covered over by deceit...."

(Proverbs 16:27-28) 27 A good-for-nothing man is digging up what is bad, and upon his lips there is, as it were, a scorching fire. 28 A man of intrigues keeps sending forth contention, and a slanderer is separating those familiar with one another.

(Psalm 64:2-4)...May you conceal me from the confidential talk of evildoers, From the tumult of practicers of hurtfulness, 3 Who have sharpened their tongue just like a sword, Who have aimed their arrow, bitter speech, 4 To shoot from concealed places at someone blameless...

(2 Thessalonians 3:11) 11 For we hear certain ones are walking disorderly among YOU… meddling with what does not concern them.

Gossip is truly hateful and truly UNChristian. Instead of hurting others with gossip, Christians are told to LOVE others, as Jesus loved them. This is not a suggestion; it's a command.

(1 Peter 4:8) 8 Above all things, have intense love for one another, because love covers a multitude of sins.

(Matthew 19:19)...You must love your neighbor as yourself."

“Knowledge Changes Perception”

Since: Apr 10

In The Know

#14 Aug 29, 2010
(1 John 4:20) 20 If anyone makes the statement: "I love God," and yet is hating his brother, he is a liar. For he who does not love his brother, whom he has seen, cannot be loving God, whom he has not seen...

(Matthew 7:1-5) 7 "Stop judging that YOU may not be judged; 2 for with what judgment YOU are judging, YOU will be judged; and with the measure that YOU are measuring out, they will measure out to YOU. 3 Why, then, do you look at the straw in your brother's eye, but do not consider the rafter in your own eye? 4 Or how can you say to your brother,'Allow me to extract the straw from your eye'; when, look! a rafter is in your own eye? 5 Hypocrite! First extract the rafter from your own eye, and then you will see clearly how to extract the straw from your brother's eye.

(Proverbs 17:17) 17 A true companion is loving all the time, and is a brother that is born for when there is distress.

(1 Thessalonians 4:11) 11 … make it YOUR aim to live quietly and to mind YOUR own business..

The scriptures tell us to think before we speak, since our words can be a powerful source of good AND bad.

(PROVERBS 10:19) "In the abundance of words there does not fail to be transgression, but the one keeping his lips in check is acting discreetly."

(James 3:5) 5 So, too, the tongue is a little member and yet makes great brags. Look! How little a fire it takes to set so great a woodland on fire!

And even LISTENING to gossip can be dangerous.

(Proverbs 17:4) 4 The evildoer is paying attention to the lip of hurtfulness. A falsifier is giving ear to the tongue causing adversities.

Remember too, that if someone will speak WITH you, they'll speak AGAINST you….meaning if someone will share hateful words about another person with you, you can be pretty sure they'll talk against YOU, with another.

“JESUS SAVES”

Since: Mar 10

wynne

#15 Aug 29, 2010
For someone who believes the Bible is just a bunch of stories and doesn't call them selves a Christian you sure do post a lot of scripture. Did we have a breakthrough that you didn't tell me about.

“I wish I was black”

Since: Feb 10

Location hidden

#16 Aug 29, 2010
^^^^ are you alright? LOL^^^^
Shes_Country

United States

#17 Aug 29, 2010
I really loved reading this!! Good job!!
Dobetter

United States

#18 Aug 29, 2010
What happen to # 5 ? it waasn't that bad .

“Knowledge Changes Perception”

Since: Apr 10

In The Know

#19 Aug 30, 2010
saved 2000 wrote:
For someone who believes the Bible is just a bunch of stories and doesn't call them selves a Christian you sure do post a lot of scripture. Did we have a breakthrough that you didn't tell me about.
You missed my point. I have said before that I have read the Bible. I believe in many of the concepts that Jesus represented. It sickens me to no end how so many "Bible Belt" "Christian" people choose to live their lives in complete opposition to what their own "Word" tells them too. I already have had someone say that they didn't believe gossipping was as bad as other sins. It's not a suggestion people....this is how Christians are supposed to live their life. Anything else is hypocritical.

“JESUS SAVES”

Since: Mar 10

wynne

#20 Aug 30, 2010
Selene Beau Pre wrote:
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You missed my point. I have said before that I have read the Bible. I believe in many of the concepts that Jesus represented. It sickens me to no end how so many "Bible Belt" "Christian" people choose to live their lives in complete opposition to what their own "Word" tells them too. I already have had someone say that they didn't believe gossipping was as bad as other sins. It's not a suggestion people....this is how Christians are supposed to live their life. Anything else is hypocritical.
Yeah your coming around, almost there.
Queenie

United States

#22 Aug 30, 2010
There is a sin unto death and sin that is not unto death , talking about people is not as bad as breaking a commandment .

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