Elsa Oliver grappled with abuse, bipolar disorder
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Since: Feb 10
#1 Jan 12, 2014
Elsa Oliver, the mother of a Fitchburg boy whom has not been seen since September, has for years suffered physical and emotional abuse in addition to coping with bipolar disorder.
From public records and interviews with friends and relatives, the history of the 28-year-old mother of three is one of ups and downs as she grappled with maintaining close relationships and trying to provide for her children.
"She had a great heart," said her husband, Jose Oliver, of New Britain, Conn. The couple have not seen each other since early 2012, when Ms. Oliver left the family's Worcester apartment with her children while Mr. Oliver was out of the house.
Jeremiah Oliver, 5, was last seen Sept. 14 by family members. He was not known to be missing until Dec. 13, when Reingold Elementary School officials flagged concerns of abuse in the home.
Three people have been fired from the Department of Children and Families after officials say they failed to follow through in monitoring Ms. Oliver and her family.
Ms. Oliver was sent last month to the Worcester Recovery Center and Hospital for a mental and physical health evaluation, which has not been held. Once the evaluation is complete, she will face charges of assault with a dangerous weapon (a belt), two counts of reckless endangerment of a child and two counts of being an accessory after the fact of a felony (assault and battery with a dangerous weapon).
She is being held on $100,000 cash bail pending the mental evaluation and a contempt-of-court ruling in Fitchburg Juvenile Court for not producing her son.
Ms. Oliver told her sister that she did not know where the boy was, Mr. Oliver said.
"As far as her immediate family we are thankful for all the support both the negative and positive feedback that comes with the need of finding Jeremiah... We will continue to fight for all of what's right without anyone knowing our every move," her sister, Diana, wrote on Facebook.
Ms. Oliver's other two children are in the care of DCF. Mr. Oliver, who was arrested in Connecticut in late December on heroin charges, is seeking custody.
Ms. Oliver's boyfriend, Alberto Sierra, is being held at the Worcester County Jail and House of Correction on two counts of assault and battery with a dangerous weapon (a knife), and two counts of assault and battery on a child causing bodily injury.
He allegedly physically abused Ms. Oliver in front of the children, according to court documents.
Mr. Sierra's is scheduled to return to court Jan. 24.
Jennie Santana, of Fitchburg, who has known Ms. Oliver for nearly a decade said that while it seemed her friend had a level head on her shoulders, she had problems with her relationships.
"She used to fight all the time with family members" including her sisters and mother, she said. Ms. Santana also recalled Ms. Oliver getting in physical fights with her husband but said "she wasn't a bad person."
"Elsa was a good person, a good mom," she said. "When I knew her, her kids were always attended to."
Since: Feb 10
#2 Jan 12, 2014
Ms. Santana said that a year after leaving an unhealthy relationship with Mr. Oliver, she picked up a much more abusive one, in which the children also became the victims.
"When she met Albert, that was it," she said. "Elsa's not there anymore."
On a mild April afternoon in 2007, Ms. Oliver called the police during an argument with her husband.
"Jose grabbed her arm, threw her to ground and attempted to take the phone away so she could not call the police," wrote the responding New Britain, Conn., police officer.
During the scuffle, Ms. Oliver apparently threw her phone — still ringing — outside of their first-floor apartment. When Mr. Oliver went out the front door to get it, she made it there first by climbing through a window.
Police arrived soon after.
Mr. Oliver, who has claimed he "never hit" his wife, was sentenced to probation.
He was required to continue seeking treatment for substance abuse; to not harm, threaten, or harass his wife; and to continue with mental health treatment.
Mr. Oliver was also ordered to participate in a a "targeted intervention program" geared for repeat domestic violence offenders, in which he had to attend a 90-minute meeting each week for six months.
Jeremiah Oliver was born the following year.
In 2006, Ms. Oliver alleged, her husband hit her in front of the couple's older son. Mr. Oliver denies all such reports.
According to an affidavit signed in March 2012, Ms. Oliver lived in a battered women's shelter in 2005. Her daughter, now 7, was an infant at that time.
Mr. Oliver said he met his wife in about 2003 through a "free chatline" in Providence. Nearly 13 years older, he said she was beautiful and a caring person.
"She had a great heart," he said at his brother's kitchen table in Worcester last week.
On Oct. 18, 2004, about two months after their older son was born, the couple were married, according to public records.
By that time, they had moved to New Britain, Conn.
Mr. Oliver confirmed that DCF has been involved in the family's life for years, stretching back to before they moved to Worcester in 2012.
"I've always hoped that. Being both mommy and daddy would get easier but I guess some days are easy and some aren't," Ms. Oliver wrote on Facebook in July 2012.
Ms. Oliver, a music lover, was raised in a deaf household in Providence and is the oldest of five daughters, the youngest of whom is still a teenager.
Mr. Oliver said his wife collected disability for bipolar disorder, depression and anxiety.
While Mr. Oliver said she did not display signs of bipolar disorder, such as drastic changes in mood, energy and activity level, he said that she had trouble with her self-esteem and would have anxiety attacks if she was around a lot of people.
#3 Jan 12, 2014
In short these people are animals.
Since: Feb 10
#4 Jan 12, 2014
And breeding like rabbits. Unfortunately, many in the Hispanic community adhere to the belief that numbers in offspring, determines ones wealth. Note; I said many, not all.
#5 Jan 12, 2014
I don't get it. The so called 'DAD' wears a different nice jacket every day with a scarff and diamond ear rings and he's on disability.
#6 Jan 12, 2014
Just great! Now experts are saying she's bi-polar, tri-polar she has down syndrome so bad she might have left, right and up syndrome too. Nobody is willing to say the truth...... she's a dirt bag drug addict who gets high and abuses kids.
#7 Jan 12, 2014
It's all about looking good when your a dealer! And who cares if you don't see or support your children, as long as he's got new clothes and a fresh fade at all times....everything is good.
#8 Jan 12, 2014
There are so many things involved that can't be explained. When the press tries to talk to the family all they get is we're 'Puerto Ricans'. UMMMM ok no Puerto Rico is an island south of Miami.
Since: Feb 10
#9 Jan 12, 2014
She has 3 Facebook pages under 3 different names with one particular "gangster" friend on all 3......
This creep needs to step up too. Lynch, I'm thinking you and Jose should message him.
#10 Jan 12, 2014
I like this selfie. She has an apartment, a decent rack and most important.
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