i think my husband is addicted to por...

i think my husband is addicted to porn...

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sad girl

United States

#1 Sep 3, 2012
My husband has been hiding porn and the fact that he watches it for years. Lately it seems to be worse..and he gets very angry if i want to talk about it. It makes me feel very bad about myself because he hardly wants sex with me anymore(once a month maybe) i don't think Im that bad looking and myself could find a date with no problem. Should i give up on our relationship?
naughtytickler

Puxico, MO

#3 Sep 3, 2012
give up on the loser that does'nt appreciate a wonderful girl like you and try me out instead
naughtytickler

United States

#4 Sep 3, 2012
Oh and don't be sad the problem isn't u its him
wow

Park Hills, MO

#5 Sep 3, 2012
naughtytickler wrote:
give up on the loser that does'nt appreciate a wonderful girl like you and try me out instead
I've seen you put your email on this website looking to hook up several times and now this. Do you realize how desperate you look?
me just saying

Brookland, AR

#6 Sep 3, 2012
as long as it is not gay porn...
naughtytickler

Puxico, MO

#7 Sep 3, 2012
wow wrote:
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I've seen you put your email on this website looking to hook up several times and now this. Do you realize how desperate you look?
I guess u would know everything I do since your on here more than anyone else and sticking your nose in everyone's business.Don't worry about me I'm not on here to hurt anyone just look pathetic lol
lol

United States

#8 Sep 3, 2012
Yeah, throw your marriage away because your husband likes to watch porn. Good luck finding a guy that doesn't watch it.
rebel

Brookfield, CT

#9 Sep 3, 2012
hes addicted to porn, u tell ur life story to random strangers and ask for advice, this is obviously the best place to find relationship advice. if u know u can find a date and are asking complete strangers if u should end it, then it already sounds like ur mind is made up. y dont u talk to him about ur relationship instead of porn. he prolly doesnt wanna have sex with u bc u bitch at him all the time about stuff and u go behind his back to talk on topix about ur relationship.
Creeper

United States

#10 Sep 3, 2012
naughtytickler wrote:
<quoted text> Don't worry about me I'm not on here to hurt anyone just look pathetic lol
Mission accomplished!
wow

Park Hills, MO

#12 Sep 3, 2012
naughtytickler wrote:
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I guess u would know everything I do since your on here more than anyone else and sticking your nose in everyone's business.Don't worry about me I'm not on here to hurt anyone just look pathetic lol
I never said that you were pathetic but since you mention it...
Hope it helps

Brookfield, CT

#13 Sep 3, 2012
Just don't give up on him. Marriage is hard work and a lot of people give up because they think that they can't fix it but it can be fixed. My husband and I have been through some hard stuff and I thought it was going to end but we kept working on it. It took a lot of hard work and a lot of heartfelt talks but we eventuall worked it out. One thing that helped me was looking at myself and how I was dealing with my husband. I realized that I was meaner to him than to people that I didn't even like. Once I finally started making it a point to be nicer and put my anger aside it started getting better. It took some time for him to believe that I was making a change but he did eventually and now things are better than ever. I know that it seems backwards to tell you to change how you act towards him when he seems to be the one with the problem but if you are constantly on him and being mean he is not going to want to change...and we all know that people don't change unless they want to. Once things start getting to a place where you feel that he is starting to listen to you again and you try to talk to him be sure to tell him that you love him and that you aren't judging him but that you feel that there need to be boundaries. For me, I don't care if my hubby watches it every now and again but if I am in the mood and he chooses it over me then there will be problems. Decide what works for you and have a clear idea of what you want in your mind before you talk to him so that you don't go off on a tangent. Hope that helps!
bulitt

United States

#14 Sep 3, 2012
If his vice is porn, maybe try an act like a porn star, and surprise him with some lovin, like a good bj, or entice him with your backside. Just something more than what you guys are use too.
please read

Saint Louis, MO

#15 Sep 4, 2012
Do you hear what your saying he has a porn ADDICTION. Thats the key word. addiction, some people are born with an addiction gene. They can become addicted to anything that gives them a high or addredalen rush. Drug addiction is not the only addiction there is. Addiction is a behavior that is not healthy but they can not seem to stop , it controlls them. It can be addiction to food , gambleing,acohol,drugs and sex or porn.The addict knows his/her addiction is wronge and will try hidding it and deny it. There is help seek out info about it. take some time to educate your self about porn addiction and how to confront him about it in a way he will listen and you dont end up fighting. see a thyapist that specializes in this type of addiction. addiction is a sickness, no one wakes up and say's I want to be an addict. You would not want him to leave you if you were sick. This behavior isnt cause of you, or that hes not attracted to you or doesnt love you.An addiction is a form of a mental illness. It will always be in him, addicts can change one addiction for another. He needs professional help, try helping him. I know you love him or you would already left. PLEASE listen a sick person cant help the sick.You are mental and physically beating you need counciling for your self to help you deal with this so you can better understand and you can help him. There are group meetings that you can attend with other women dealing with these same problems. Your not along and these meetings can be more helpful then you could ever imagine.There are medication that will help him and meetings for support.Don't give up on the man you love, he needs you, together you can make it and be stronger and happier......good luck...heres a hug from some one who knows what your going thru and know the emotion hell in dealing with an addict. just remember it's a diases not a choice.With addicts they dont want to admit it, its embarrasing and there afraid...be strong please seek professional help be fore any more fights, you wouldn't leave if it was cancer, so give it the same fight.
bulitt

United States

#16 Sep 4, 2012
please read wrote:
Do you hear what your saying he has a porn ADDICTION. Thats the key word. addiction, some people are born with an addiction gene. They can become addicted to anything that gives them a high or addredalen rush. Drug addiction is not the only addiction there is. Addiction is a behavior that is not healthy but they can not seem to stop , it controlls them. It can be addiction to food , gambleing,acohol,drugs and sex or porn.The addict knows his/her addiction is wronge and will try hidding it and deny it. There is help seek out info about it. take some time to educate your self about porn addiction and how to confront him about it in a way he will listen and you dont end up fighting. see a thyapist that specializes in this type of addiction. addiction is a sickness, no one wakes up and say's I want to be an addict. You would not want him to leave you if you were sick. This behavior isnt cause of you, or that hes not attracted to you or doesnt love you.An addiction is a form of a mental illness. It will always be in him, addicts can change one addiction for another. He needs professional help, try helping him. I know you love him or you would already left. PLEASE listen a sick person cant help the sick.You are mental and physically beating you need counciling for your self to help you deal with this so you can better understand and you can help him. There are group meetings that you can attend with other women dealing with these same problems. Your not along and these meetings can be more helpful then you could ever imagine.There are medication that will help him and meetings for support.Don't give up on the man you love, he needs you, together you can make it and be stronger and happier......good luck...heres a hug from some one who knows what your going thru and know the emotion hell in dealing with an addict. just remember it's a diases not a choice.With addicts they dont want to admit it, its embarrasing and there afraid...be strong please seek professional help be fore any more fights, you wouldn't leave if it was cancer, so give it the same fight.
I got to say your very compassionate, but good god man, take an English course at MAC. Your grammar is horrible. Every sentence had an error (misspelling, compound sentence, ect.). Sound advice, poor deliverance.
me just saying

Brookland, AR

#17 Sep 4, 2012
bulitt wrote:
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I got to say your very compassionate, but good god man, take an English course at MAC. Your grammar is horrible. Every sentence had an error (misspelling, compound sentence, ect.). Sound advice, poor deliverance.
What is your excuse for grammar errors?
please read

Saint Louis, MO

#18 Sep 4, 2012
To the idiot, "bulitt" This is not a English Class, maybe you should sign up for a class or two yourself.Who cares, someone is asking for advice not for someone to write a novel.
like porn

United States

#19 Sep 5, 2012
like almost every straight man alive i also enjoy a good skin flick. it has nothing to do with how good my wife is in bed or how she looks. its just fun to pop in a porn and watch it. we dont expect you to be the women on there but it would be nice for you to watch it with us who knows you may get turned on also then who knows what will happen but i bet it you enjoy it. but please dont expect us to be like the men on there either.
bulitt

United States

#21 Sep 6, 2012
Don't jump off topic to attack me. The point was, to give valid advice, at least appear educated. And I have no errors in my blogs, "trailer queen", thank you, and have a good day.
side spankk
#23 Sep 7, 2012
like porn wrote:
like almost every straight man alive i also enjoy a good skin flick. it has nothing to do with how good my wife is in bed or how she looks. its just fun to pop in a porn and watch it. we dont expect you to be the women on there but it would be nice for you to watch it with us who knows you may get turned on also then who knows what will happen but i bet it you enjoy it. but please dont expect us to be like the men on there either.
men r visual creatures, they can't help it! I agree w/ u....she needs to join him in his "porn-capaids" dont b shy...=) here is ur chance to show him wut yur workn' with! Take wut u need from yur man! Make him begg for it...then b 4 u know it..u hav his total attention all on u! yur missions accomplished!=) blow his mind gurl! Give him sumthin hes not gunna fergit....
please read

Saint Louis, MO

#24 Sep 7, 2012
Who said I was educated...lol I would rather seem uneducated in my writting but have common sense. Want to see drama queen, look in the mirror. Well I don't have to ask where you live..It's apparent you live in a trailer park. What do they call you there, "peaches".cause it sounds like you your gay . Thats ok... but maybe your on the wrong blog. Boy you must be bored and have no life.

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