Top 9 Signs Your Spouse Is Cheating

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NoOne

Haubstadt, IN

#1 Mar 8, 2012
Top 9 Signs Your Spouse Is Cheating

You have a sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach, something is not right but you can't quite figure out what that feeling is about. Your spouse has become distant, he/she is working late on a regular basis or, maybe your spouse has moved out of the house with no explanation. You suspect there may be someone else but every time you bring it up with your spouse, he/she denies the possibility. All the signs are there but you don't have any proof. So, pay attention to the signs and your instinct but, be careful and don’t confuse signs with proof.

1. "I Love You But I'm Not In Love With You."

If you hear these words, a big warning bell should go off. This is one of the most consistent things a cheating spouse will say. Your spouse may have a deep, loving bond with you but, intense feelings of passion can override the bond with you and cause your spouse to lose sight of his/her true feelings. The cheating spouse will develop what I call hormone - induced amnesia. The surging hormones and passion they feel in their new relationship can cause some very skewed thinking.

2. "We are just friends."

This is also another very predictable statement that will come from a cheating spouse. If your spouse is spending more and more time with this new “friend” then there is probably more to it than mere friendship. Your spouse may feel they have a lot in common with this person, that this person understands them and things they are going through. Whatever the reasons for the friendship, it’s a big warning sign and one you should take seriously.

3. A sudden need for privacy.

If things the two of you used to share openly suddenly become private pay attention cause something is probably up. He/she may start password protecting computer activity. Cell phone and credit card bills may be hidden. If you ask why or attempt to find out information that used to be common knowledge between the two of you, you will be accused of snooping or trying to control your spouse. Big warning sign!

4. "I need some space to figure out my feelings."

Men and women who are involved with someone else will request more space, time alone or away from the family. They may say it is due to confusion over their feelings or stress at work. This can be a sign that there is someone else and the spouse is trying to figure out ways to have more freedom.

5. Regular work habits change.

Working late, going to work at odd hours or, putting in more time than is normal on work related issues can be indications that a spouse is cheating.

6. Spending a large amount of time on the computer.

In today’s world, with modern technology, a person looking for an affair doesn’t even have to leave their home. The ease of internet chat rooms, online dating sites and secret email accounts has caused an alarming increase in emotional affairs.

If your spouse is online more than usual, hanging out in chat rooms and visiting pornographic websites then you have reason to be alarmed.

7. Secretive phone calls and more time spent on the phone.

Emotional affairs occur primarily via the phone, especially cell phones. If you find your spouse hanging up suddenly when you enter the room or erasing the history on the cell phone and becoming defensive when asked about it, then you might want to check your phone records.

8. Behavior that just doesn't add up.

Not being where he/she was expected to be. Missing time they can't explain. Money that isn't accounted for. Receipts for things you don't have. Missing clothing. Clothing that does not belong to your family. Being caught in little lies about the details of the day.
annalynn

Chardon, OH

#2 Mar 8, 2012
NoOne wrote:
Top 9 Signs Your Spouse Is Cheating

You have a sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach, something is not right but you can't quite figure out what that feeling is about. Your spouse has become distant, he/she is working late on a regular basis or, maybe your spouse has moved out of the house with no explanation. You suspect there may be someone else but every time you bring it up with your spouse, he/she denies the possibility. All the signs are there but you don't have any proof. So, pay attention to the signs and your instinct but, be careful and don’t confuse signs with proof.

1. "I Love You But I'm Not In Love With You."

If you hear these words, a big warning bell should go off. This is one of the most consistent things a cheating spouse will say. Your spouse may have a deep, loving bond with you but, intense feelings of passion can override the bond with you and cause your spouse to lose sight of his/her true feelings. The cheating spouse will develop what I call hormone - induced amnesia. The surging hormones and passion they feel in their new relationship can cause some very skewed thinking.

2. "We are just friends."

This is also another very predictable statement that will come from a cheating spouse. If your spouse is spending more and more time with this new “friend” then there is probably more to it than mere friendship. Your spouse may feel they have a lot in common with this person, that this person understands them and things they are going through. Whatever the reasons for the friendship, it’s a big warning sign and one you should take seriously.

3. A sudden need for privacy.

If things the two of you used to share openly suddenly become private pay attention cause something is probably up. He/she may start password protecting computer activity. Cell phone and credit card bills may be hidden. If you ask why or attempt to find out information that used to be common knowledge between the two of you, you will be accused of snooping or trying to control your spouse. Big warning sign!

4. "I need some space to figure out my feelings."

Men and women who are involved with someone else will request more space, time alone or away from the family. They may say it is due to confusion over their feelings or stress at work. This can be a sign that there is someone else and the spouse is trying to figure out ways to have more freedom.

5. Regular work habits change.

Working late, going to work at odd hours or, putting in more time than is normal on work related issues can be indications that a spouse is cheating.

6. Spending a large amount of time on the computer.

In today’s world, with modern technology, a person looking for an affair doesn’t even have to leave their home. The ease of internet chat rooms, online dating sites and secret email accounts has caused an alarming increase in emotional affairs.

If your spouse is online more than usual, hanging out in chat rooms and visiting pornographic websites then you have reason to be alarmed.

7. Secretive phone calls and more time spent on the phone.

Emotional affairs occur primarily via the phone, especially cell phones. If you find your spouse hanging up suddenly when you enter the room or erasing the history on the cell phone and becoming defensive when asked about it, then you might want to check your phone records.

8. Behavior that just doesn't add up.

Not being where he/she was expected to be. Missing time they can't explain. Money that isn't accounted for. Receipts for things you don't have. Missing clothing. Clothing that does not belong to your family. Being caught in little lies about the details of the day.
Why have you found this about your spouse.. Why would you take all of your time to post this
NoOne

Haubstadt, IN

#3 Mar 8, 2012
Not mine
but it's ringing a bell for some
Cut and pasting takes 5 secs
annalynn wrote:
<quoted text>Why have you found this about your spouse.. Why would you take all of your time to post this
me

Bowie, MD

#4 Mar 8, 2012
If she comes home and goes straight to shower is a good area for concern to as she is probably washing the man juice out
tweety

Haubstadt, IN

#5 Mar 8, 2012
You forgot these

The following behaviors may indicate that a spouse is in love with someone else, but does not see a way to get out of his or her marriage.

Seems annoyed, frustrated, or unhappy

Quick to display anger, hostility, criticism, and perhaps abuse

Lack of interest in sex or affection

Less intimacy, sharing, talking, and disclosures

May be difficult to start fight with partner, because he or she does not care

Spouse or partner does his or her own thing and becomes indifferent to doing things together

Frequent time out of the house and away from home

May miss or cancel events with you
Little regard for your feelings, wants and concerns

You may feel like you are being avoided, ignored, or dismissed
Will avoid having sex – just goes through motions or lack of interest
Does not respond to “I love you” or other forms of affection

Sudden need for privacy, space, autonomy, or freedom

May fight more over money

Little interest in things around the house

Develops active life outside of home and relationship

Spends a lot of time on the computer, phone, or text messaging

Unavailable, unpredictable, and hard to get a hold of

Sudden change or concern with appearance, interests and hobbies

Forgets anniversaries, birthdays, and special occasions
NoOne

Haubstadt, IN

#6 Mar 8, 2012
I see I did
Thanks for the addons
tweety wrote:
You forgot these

The following behaviors may indicate that a spouse is in love with someone else, but does not see a way to get out of his or her marriage.

Seems annoyed, frustrated, or unhappy

Quick to display anger, hostility, criticism, and perhaps abuse

Lack of interest in sex or affection

Less intimacy, sharing, talking, and disclosures

May be difficult to start fight with partner, because he or she does not care

Spouse or partner does his or her own thing and becomes indifferent to doing things together

Frequent time out of the house and away from home

May miss or cancel events with you
Little regard for your feelings, wants and concerns

You may feel like you are being avoided, ignored, or dismissed
Will avoid having sex – just goes through motions or lack of interest
Does not respond to “I love you” or other forms of affection

Sudden need for privacy, space, autonomy, or freedom

May fight more over money

Little interest in things around the house

Develops active life outside of home and relationship

Spends a lot of time on the computer, phone, or text messaging

Unavailable, unpredictable, and hard to get a hold of

Sudden change or concern with appearance, interests and hobbies

Forgets anniversaries, birthdays, and special occasions
dot

Chardon, OH

#7 Mar 8, 2012
tweety wrote:
You forgot these

The following behaviors may indicate that a spouse is in love with someone else, but does not see a way to get out of his or her marriage.

Seems annoyed, frustrated, or unhappy

Quick to display anger, hostility, criticism, and perhaps abuse

Lack of interest in sex or affection

Less intimacy, sharing, talking, and disclosures

May be difficult to start fight with partner, because he or she does not care

Spouse or partner does his or her own thing and becomes indifferent to doing things together

Frequent time out of the house and away from home

May miss or cancel events with you
Little regard for your feelings, wants and concerns

You may feel like you are being avoided, ignored, or dismissed
Will avoid having sex – just goes through motions or lack of interest
Does not respond to “I love you” or other forms of affection

Sudden need for privacy, space, autonomy, or freedom

May fight more over money

Little interest in things around the house

Develops active life outside of home and relationship

Spends a lot of time on the computer, phone, or text messaging

Unavailable, unpredictable, and hard to get a hold of

Sudden change or concern with appearance, interests and hobbies

Forgets anniversaries, birthdays, and special occasions
Maybe you should get some balls and leave your significant other if he or shr is cheating on you or doesnt aknowlege special occasions. There are a lot of fis in the sea.
idk

Haubstadt, IN

#8 Mar 8, 2012
Ouch read the other site

I'm pretty sure it's a OPEN
WIDE OPEN
Marriage

Siiiiiiiiick
haha

Haubstadt, IN

#9 Mar 8, 2012
U got to b kidding
It's VERY ONE SIDED

Only one of them rule that union!!
mom

Haubstadt, IN

#10 Mar 8, 2012
The above is true I looked into my gf who I exclusively dated 3 years all over adult sites On the web

Took 5 mins
123456789

Haubstadt, IN

#11 Mar 8, 2012
who is this specifically talking about? We wanta know?
haha wrote:
U got to b kidding
It's VERY ONE SIDED

Only one of them rule that union!!
NoOne

Haubstadt, IN

#12 Mar 8, 2012
Who: Is already known
No need to point them out again
It's spreading like fire what's up with them.

Enlighting others just with facts can b rewarding n it's own way
123456789 wrote:
<quoted text>who is this specifically talking about? We wanta know?
Q

Haubstadt, IN

#14 Mar 8, 2012
Kind of easy to see once u read or know the signs
NoOne wrote:
Top 9 Signs Your Spouse Is Cheating

You have a sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach, something is not right but you can't quite figure out what that feeling is about. Your spouse has become distant, he/she is working late on a regular basis or, maybe your spouse has moved out of the house with no explanation. You suspect there may be someone else but every time you bring it up with your spouse, he/she denies the possibility. All the signs are there but you don't have any proof. So, pay attention to the signs and your instinct but, be careful and don’t confuse signs with proof.

1. "I Love You But I'm Not In Love With You."

If you hear these words, a big warning bell should go off. This is one of the most consistent things a cheating spouse will say. Your spouse may have a deep, loving bond with you but, intense feelings of passion can override the bond with you and cause your spouse to lose sight of his/her true feelings. The cheating spouse will develop what I call hormone - induced amnesia. The surging hormones and passion they feel in their new relationship can cause some very skewed thinking.

2. "We are just friends."

This is also another very predictable statement that will come from a cheating spouse. If your spouse is spending more and more time with this new “friend” then there is probably more to it than mere friendship. Your spouse may feel they have a lot in common with this person, that this person understands them and things they are going through. Whatever the reasons for the friendship, it’s a big warning sign and one you should take seriously.

3. A sudden need for privacy.

If things the two of you used to share openly suddenly become private pay attention cause something is probably up. He/she may start password protecting computer activity. Cell phone and credit card bills may be hidden. If you ask why or attempt to find out information that used to be common knowledge between the two of you, you will be accused of snooping or trying to control your spouse. Big warning sign!

4. "I need some space to figure out my feelings."

Men and women who are involved with someone else will request more space, time alone or away from the family. They may say it is due to confusion over their feelings or stress at work. This can be a sign that there is someone else and the spouse is trying to figure out ways to have more freedom.

5. Regular work habits change.

Working late, going to work at odd hours or, putting in more time than is normal on work related issues can be indications that a spouse is cheating.

6. Spending a large amount of time on the computer.

In today’s world, with modern technology, a person looking for an affair doesn’t even have to leave their home. The ease of internet chat rooms, online dating sites and secret email accounts has caused an alarming increase in emotional affairs.

If your spouse is online more than usual, hanging out in chat rooms and visiting pornographic websites then you have reason to be alarmed.

7. Secretive phone calls and more time spent on the phone.

Emotional affairs occur primarily via the phone, especially cell phones. If you find your spouse hanging up suddenly when you enter the room or erasing the history on the cell phone and becoming defensive when asked about it, then you might want to check your phone records.

8. Behavior that just doesn't add up.

Not being where he/she was expected to be. Missing time they can't explain. Money that isn't accounted for. Receipts for things you don't have. Missing clothing. Clothing that does not belong to your family. Being caught in little lies about the details of the day.

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