Are black men allergic to fatherhood?
Well

Evansville, IN

#21 Apr 26, 2013
Most black men who were married to the mama do not abandon them.

Now the rest of the women...crapshoot with the majority marrying women they respect for whatever reason enough to have kids in wedlock...and if he doesn't pay a dime in support...don't expect him to have an emotional connection.
Iagree

Evansville, IN

#22 Apr 26, 2013
Northern Belle Lady wrote:
Studies show that a man's connection to his children depends on his connection to the mother.
I believe that. So many of the losers I know or know of, who did not take care of their children, claim its because of the child's mother. However, if these idiots were only looking to screw they should have wore protection.
Shira

Evansville, IN

#23 Apr 26, 2013
I think because society has normalized single parenting and men feel that because they don't love the mother in that way, it's ok to bail. Most men and women (not all bc birth control can fail) who conceive oow were/are in some aspects deficient common sense wise. If a woman gets pregnant while unmarried, if the man doesn't propose, it is probably not going to end well.
Real fault

New Albany, IN

#24 Apr 26, 2013
It's the women's fault they don't have daddys for their babies. They need to keep those legs closed till they know the man that's gonna be the father for real. That goes for all women any race.
For real

Evansville, IN

#25 Apr 26, 2013
Women need to hold better standards about the quality of raw dic they allow in their pu**y and need to hold out for the flucking ring. Period!!! End thread.
YouKnowWhat

Evansville, IN

#26 Apr 26, 2013
The mothers run men off by using the police and courts against them. No matter how much you may want to be in your child's life, nobody want's to be under the threat of the police being called whenever you don't kiss the mothers ass. And also the feminist movement and welfare played a part in it.
Patriot

Evansville, IN

#27 Apr 26, 2013
Coco Honeypuff wrote:
Sorry I can't relate. My father was a hard working BM that took care of his. He raised his sons my brothers to do the same and they have. After our fathers' demise they are still taking care of business.
I guess its all in how a person is raised and if those parents led by example as well.
Ding, ding, ding we have a winner. You are 100% correct. It isn't the color of the skin or even economic status. It boils down to how one is raised. Our children learn from what we teach them and the example we set for them. Fathers that abandon and have nothing to do with their children, raise children to do the same thing.

What is sad is that laws have been made to make parents to at least be financially responsible for their children. And we know how well that is working out.
Patriot

Evansville, IN

#28 Apr 26, 2013
There are many great comments under this thread. People are getting it. Personal responsibility. Ladies just a suggestion, wait until you are a little older to have your children. Get your education and a career first. Find a guy that is head over heels for you. Quit jumping in bed with any guy that comes along.

Guys your ding dong isn't your brain. Wrap it up and quit being so disrespectful to women. Ho or hoe isn't a cute nickname. Think how you would feel if someone called your mother or daughter that.
Ashbash

Evansville, IN

#29 Apr 26, 2013
I think its because they just don't want to, They meaning ALL MEN OF ALL RACES, lets not forget there are white men, asian men, indian men, middle eastern men who are NOT active in their children's lives. Stop trying to throw BLACK men under the bus. Its not just black men.



bignlovely

Evansville, IN

#30 Apr 26, 2013
Tiger wrote:
Ok My theory is because many just don't feel any connection with the children. Why? I'm not sure but I believe many brothers just weren't cut out to be fathers. If they had it their way they would go through life smashing kids without ever procreating but that's nearly impossible as we can see. Thoughts?
then why not get a vasectomy or use condoms each and every time they have sex or just not have sex?

no one is "born" to be a parent. all good parents make a conscious effort to work at it how does one go to bed every night unsure if their kids is safe, has clothes, has food and is doing well in general? i just don't get it.
please

Evansville, IN

#31 Apr 26, 2013
Ms Naturalhair32 wrote:
Because black women don't hold black men responsible anymore. Back in the day you had to get married, and get a job to support the woman and child. Now black women are like whatever I get welfare.So in essense its democrats fault for extending welfare all these years. When it wasn't suppose to last this long. Just for the great depression.So basically welfare has replaced the man in the family.
the social stigma of having kid without being married is what got people together, not BW.
Really

Robards, KY

#33 Apr 27, 2013
bignlovely wrote:
<quoted text>
then why not get a vasectomy or use condoms each and every time they have sex or just not have sex?
no one is "born" to be a parent. all good parents make a conscious effort to work at it how does one go to bed every night unsure if their kids is safe, has clothes, has food and is doing well in general? i just don't get it.
Exactly, they think the few little dollars they may provide for a pair of shoes every now and then is doing something. Famous words " I buy my son nothing but Jordans and name brand clothes." Okay, your Jordans cost a hundred or more and a toddlers cost maybe forty dollars. Doing this a few times a year makes you a dad!? Just pityful!!! Also, there are alot of males who didn't have the best parents but wanted more for themselves and their children. It's about YOU as a person. Some are raised with the best of everything and are worthless. You are who you are and you make your decisions. Blaming being pityful on something from when you were a child is just a cop out and another pityful thing to make THEM the victim!!
Starchild3782

Evansville, IN

#34 Apr 27, 2013
I don't think they are any easy answers to why men abandon their children. I've seen it first hand with my own brother: has 3 baby mamas, never married to any of them, approaching 40, lacks stability.

He and I were raised by my father, who never collected welfare, or unemployment a day in his life. I think my father was a good example of a good provider.

I think at the end of the day: People will make decisions - good and bad - that will effect their offspring.
Fabo

Evansville, IN

#35 Apr 27, 2013
I feel like a lot of BM and people in general are too self centered. There is no sense of community. Being a parent comes with too many sacrifices. Some men only like to show up for the fun stuff. They don't want to deal with the struggles. There are too many unplanned births. It's not rocket science to know that planning a birth with a man who's committed to you will result in a stable father. Rather than having sex with someone and the oops we're pregnant. Men need to wrap it up if they don't want to be fathers.

Since: Oct 10

Chardon, OH

#36 Apr 27, 2013
Psschhh wrote:
I don't believe this a bait thread to anger people like a poster above suggested. I rather see a thread like this than all the other bullshit threads on this site. Deadbeats come in all colors and there's plenty of deadbeat mothers too. This is a serious issue to address.
It is a serious issue. The way it is presented, it is definitely a bullshit thread. 90% of the threads on this site are bullshit threads.

Since: Oct 10

Chardon, OH

#37 Apr 27, 2013
Jeff wrote:
<quoted text>Your the only one pissed off, talk about a miserable existence. For the most part, others seem to be agreeing.
Yeah a lot of people are agreeing because there's never been a shortage of simplemindedness. I'm not pissed off at all. Threads like this don't affect my life. I'll give my opinion where I feel the need. Just as the idiot who posted this and the idiots who agree are giving their opinions. I will continue to sleep well at night. Life goes on regardless of what bunch of idiots think. My opinion nor yours is going to stop black people, white people, or any other ethnicity from having deadbeat fathers. That's what you fail to realize.

Since: Oct 10

Chardon, OH

#38 Apr 27, 2013
AfricanSunrise wrote:
I think the great Kola Boof said if best. Black men put no value on the Black womb, Procreating with Black women gives them no skin priveleges; however, procreating with a white woman does; however, it doesn't quite explain why they leave those children too.
I don't understand your skin privilege statement. Whether a black man procreates with a black woman or a white woman, he is still black. He will continue to have to deal with all the negative connotations that come with it. Society's views of us do not change based on who we lay down with.

Since: Oct 10

Chardon, OH

#39 Apr 27, 2013
Northern Belle Lady wrote:
Studies show that a man's connection to his children depends on his connection to the mother.

High # of OOW births mean that he probably never lived with his kids and probably won't stay with the mother.

High OOW births also mean that more low quality men that wouldn't be good fathers get to procreate anyway. These low quality men also seem to produce more children, leaving more kids with deadbeat dads.

The cycle continues because men who didn't have a good father growing up don't have a model of what a father is supposed to be.
I really respect your response. Great points made here.
truthbtold

Burlington, KY

#40 Apr 27, 2013
Really wrote:
No, it's not black men it's the n**g*s who are so pityful that they can't do for theirselves, let alone a child. They have no desire to do anything other than what they have always done. Which is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. A man is going to do what a man was made to do. Which is provide and protect!!! If you can't do that then you are not a man!! So that leaves them to be n**g*s, slugs, anything other than useful. It is very sad I will say.
spoken like a true inbred redneck racist...stay classy bigot
shay

United States

#41 Apr 27, 2013
I think that they don't know how to be responsible. But not all men r like that. Just majority of the population.

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